Hi Humble Janitor,
Many times when a person explains their problem, they give the answer to their problem themselves.
You, as much as what you have said, are no exception.
There are several things which you have said that could explain why these things appear to be happening and make you feel frustrated.
Before I go into what you have said, we need to understand that we are all different, and sometimes people can be 'put off' by, or have preconceptions of those differences. It's important that we don't resent them for thinking like they do.
Once we are aware of that, half the problem is solved, even if we don't understand why.
Many people react differently under stress and you mentioned that your co-workers have no room for faliure. Does that mean they are being pressured by the company to be spot on every time? Does that create unnecessary stress?
You mention that you are partially deaf. Were you employed as a regular Joe or were you employed using the law of a 'special needs person'? I'm not sure how it is in the States, but in the UK and here in Brazil companies are obliged to hire a number of special needs people.
If this is your case, what do your co-workers think about it? Do they think you are being unfairly protected by the law?
If this is the case what do they think about your second job being a DJ?
If this is not the case, are you a well known DJ? Do they resent a certain celebrity staus that you might have?
You say that your friends are preocupied in their own lives. This shows a sign of the times and it's just as important that you become an 'ear' for them as much as it does for them to become an ear for you.
It could be good to ask them questions about their lives and allow them to let off steam too. That sometimes gives them the energy to allow you to let off steam also.
Don't forget, you yourself have changed in your life, putting in extra hours at college which will change your priorities to some degree. Also as you move from group to group (co-workers, friends, college etc.) you will be taking a little of the stress / sadness / happiness / humour with you from the last one.
Remember, the next person you meet is not the responsible for the last one you have just met.
It's clear that the DJ crowd will have respect for you, as you are all in the same environment to have a good time, and the person who will make that good time happen is you.
One of the best books I have ever read was written in 1929 by a chap called Napolean Hill. The book is called 'Think and Grow Rich'. This book is the daddy of all self help / awareness / how to be succesful books and is free on the internet as an e-book, just google 'think and grow rich free'.
Once you have read that book your life will take on another meaning. Beleive me. You will read it and before the last page, the penny will drop and you will scream "Eureka!".
Best regards,
Steve
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Originally Posted by Humble Janitor
I've been incredibly frustrated as of late, mainly with my job and the kind of people I'm encoutering. It seems as if people are trying to trip me up by scrutinizing every single aspect of my job. I really don't have anyone I can talk to about this and I seem to be attracting very negative energy from my co-workers. It doesn't help that they are very intense people (probably Reptilians?) that leave little or no room for failure. They criticize every aspect of my job. They refuse to believe me when I report that I've completed certain duties. They belittle and berate me when I try to discuss matters.
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