I had some of those same questions dolphin and then I listened to Gregg Braden and all of a sudden it hit me. He really explains it well. Now, when I read, hear or see things, they all have a different meaning all together.
The people around you will change when you change. Its the law of attaction. it works that way !
this link will take you to one of Greggs audio files online. The Divine Matrix
if you have 5 hours to spend, its worth every minute.
http://www.youtube.com/results?searc...e+matrix&uni=1