[Myra]

Originally Posted by Roemer

My son is diagnosed with PDD-NOS.
He's a very nice kid and he is doing great at school, he is as smart as the rest in his class,even abit above regular. But; he has a problem with other kids because he does not understand everything about socializing. He can be very stubbern and thinks that no one understands him. But when he is at home with my ex-wife there is, with 3 other kids in the house, not a real problem. When he is with me, there is no problem at all. Only at school. Because of his disorder he is behind emotially 2 years. So he cant keep up with everyone. A psychiatrist, we consulted, thinks thats the problem. I agree with that. A school where they are specialized in PDD-NOS and ADHD, he thinks ,will improve a lot of the situation. My ex wife, thinks he is better of surrounded by "normal" kids and dont want all the hassel because he has to go to a school 40 miles from home instead of two blocks away. But because of the problems with[Tristan is his name] my son, school wont keep him there unless he takes medication like ritalin or strattera. Look it up! everything you find about this is BAD NEWS. She still think this is the easiest way to solve the problem and really thinks a few pills a day will make him the ideal child he should be, even i mailed her all the information about this ****. She is not aware. She believes mainstream opinion is good and i am slightly crazy. Tried everything to get it out of her head without any results. I dont want my kid on drugs like ritalin because it is:AMFITAMINES YOU KNOW WE CALLED IT SPEED, when i was young[hmm they still do i think]. How in heavens name can that **** for a psychic healthy human being, lead you into the biggest social, health and finacial probems(you will die from it doctors say) but for my ten year old son, with a lot of social problems ,it will be the solution?
Because he is living with his mom she got the power to do this without my permission. And i think she makes THE BIGGEST MISTAKE IN THE WORLD!!!
It keeps me awake at night and i try to figger out how i could stop this, but the answers i come up with are not done because it will make things worse for Tristan. I dont know how to handle this. Thats why i wrote this here and hope to get usefull information, from people who know more than i do, about this situation.

He does sound overwhelmed going from one house to the other and being around so many other kids all the time basically with no rest. It sounds like maybe he needs some time by himself, to be himself (you know. riding a bike, drawing, coloring, whatever) but I know there's not a whole lot you can do about that.

It's difficult dealing with a stubborn ex-spouse. I would say to have him Home-Schooled if you are able. Where I live when they get High-School age they have an Independent Study School which has worked out well for my daughter.

I would never let my kid go on Pharmaceutical Drugs. I believe in Alternative Health Care. The problem is what are the laws where you live? If you refuse to put him on Drugs can they take your child away? I have been through some pretty intrusive situations with Child Protective Services in my day. Thank God my daughter is 18 now is all I can say.

Apparently schools can be too intrusive as well.

It would be great if you could find a good Doctor to give him a healthy alternative Diagnosis and that would be the end of that! It CAN be done.

Otherwise, try to find out what the laws are, see what could happen if you refuse to comply with the school's demands (and I suggest avoiding getting any Court involved, don't let him get caught up in "The System") and try to convince your ex-wife of the dangerous risk of Pharmaceutical Drugs. If you could convince her and get her on board with you that would be the best way.