[Steven]

Hi Teresa. If I may, here is my humble thought.

Mind won't erase anything if Heart isn't feeling for it.

First of all, in a dark experience relationship. It has to come from your heart, not your mind. And to heal your heart you need to re-learn to appreciate/love/respect yourself first and before anything else in this dark experience. Making peace with things you have difficulties to forgive yourself. I know it is hard, but not impossible. Forget others for now and only begin with yourself first.

When you will feel that you have learn enough to appreciate/love/respect yourself with forgiveness, only then you will be efficient to do the same with others linked in the dark experience.

Thoughts inspired from the Heart are powerful. But the Heart has to be feeling for it. Heart is energy.

We often talk about thoughts/mind/spirit, but it is not complete without Heart.

Namaste, Steven