thepainterdoug
13th April 2019, 16:54
Hey all, I had a tough weekend with a good friend arguing in public back and forth. It seems because I have always voted on a left of center side, an Obama voter twice, but now support Trump in a manner of sorts, that my friend feels I have betrayed him and cannot seem to tolerate my views on this.
anyone going thru similar? Im posting the letter as it was sent to him, names removed. questions welcome
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Hey
I hope you and family have a good and peaceful weekend.
For us to remain good friends, we will always need to communicate. What are we if we don't, or feel we cant ? A true friendship would be a lie, if lies need be told to hold it up.
I am still unsettled about some things .
I don't want an encompassing indictment on my self, my morals or my character for any position I may take politically. Im am caring of all people, always was, always will be. There is no way if asked, are you for or against Trump, that one answer can explain the complexity of that question. So today we are walking around judging each other as a complete package on this issue. This is so wrong and so off base. I will not be held nor hold anyone to these ridiculous ideals. This is fanaticism.
You left dinner dejected and dismayed saying, I'm really disappointed in you Doug.
You said it several times.
How did I disappoint you? Did I do something to you? Do I owe you something Im not aware of ? It seemed to me you need me to be an Allie to your position. And that its a betrayal of me, of all people, that I don't share your views
Again, i didn't vote for Trump , thought all choice were bad choices and didn't vote . But the reality is, he is now the President, and in not all , but on many issues , he's doing a good job. That is my opinion which Im entitled to have . I am not the only person to share this view, many people at least 3/4 of people I know and speak to feel this way and agree. Are they all terrible people?
Im sure members of your own family, as well as other people you meet in day to day life, feel Trump is doing a good job as well. And anyhow, he's our President, good or bad.
Let me be clear. I am sensitive to the illegal people here as a human beings as a feeling person for all. But we are a Country of laws, and they were not forced to come here. They took a chance, but a chance ,and I don't blame them. And so I would be the last person to call them out, not support them, not take care of them. Some people, hateful people would say, get the **** out of here and call the authorities. That would never be me and to think anyone, much less my friends would believe that about me would be quite inaccurate and unsettling .
In fact the entire condition illustrates that there is no hard fast rule that works. We need the cheap labor, to make the kind of free market world we created work. And so its kind of a gray area endorsement to not holding the law to the letter to make our thing work as it does. But thats because the system itself is one of hypocrisy . Not just Trump. So there are many shades and views on this.
But this is one of a thousand issues that a President has to decide on, and his base, the people that voted for him want action of some sort taken. Many of these people are good and compassionate people as well.
Neither one of us has an answer or a handle on this problem. If you do, write an op ed and publish it. Possibly it will resonate, and some day can become law.
If the immigration laws need to be changed, lets change them. But how?
Tell me? You tell me how to change the law to make it fair for all who want to come here? Thats why I was happy to hear Trump call out Mexico for their part in causing a need for their people to flee. Well, we could discuss this for ever.
How easily things can get conflated, mis interpreted when we get our heels dug in. My capital letters in my email, wasn't yelling at you. They were just designed to stand out as I took your statement point by point. I should have changed the color instead .
I know you don't disagree with everything Trump is doing or has done. And you as well should know, I don't agree with everything he is doing .
But the level of hatred you carry in you about this guy is quite unsettling for me and quite unhealthy for you.
Its seems very personal, and well thats fine ,your entitled to feel as you do.
But you need to accept that I and others don't feel that. And that is not a betrayal or dismissal of you or you concerns and values.
And the media wants this guy out and is stirring up the pot as best they can to get him out. And the more they do that, the more I want him right where he is. And those reasons are my reasons, that Im entitled to have. And should you want to know them, just ask me.
This is a process, and so sorry to interrupt your weekend. But if I start censoring myself, holding back my feelings and all, our friendship will wilt and die a slow death in short time .
and for what? Trump?
we met the enemy, and he is us
anyone going thru similar? Im posting the letter as it was sent to him, names removed. questions welcome
////
Hey
I hope you and family have a good and peaceful weekend.
For us to remain good friends, we will always need to communicate. What are we if we don't, or feel we cant ? A true friendship would be a lie, if lies need be told to hold it up.
I am still unsettled about some things .
I don't want an encompassing indictment on my self, my morals or my character for any position I may take politically. Im am caring of all people, always was, always will be. There is no way if asked, are you for or against Trump, that one answer can explain the complexity of that question. So today we are walking around judging each other as a complete package on this issue. This is so wrong and so off base. I will not be held nor hold anyone to these ridiculous ideals. This is fanaticism.
You left dinner dejected and dismayed saying, I'm really disappointed in you Doug.
You said it several times.
How did I disappoint you? Did I do something to you? Do I owe you something Im not aware of ? It seemed to me you need me to be an Allie to your position. And that its a betrayal of me, of all people, that I don't share your views
Again, i didn't vote for Trump , thought all choice were bad choices and didn't vote . But the reality is, he is now the President, and in not all , but on many issues , he's doing a good job. That is my opinion which Im entitled to have . I am not the only person to share this view, many people at least 3/4 of people I know and speak to feel this way and agree. Are they all terrible people?
Im sure members of your own family, as well as other people you meet in day to day life, feel Trump is doing a good job as well. And anyhow, he's our President, good or bad.
Let me be clear. I am sensitive to the illegal people here as a human beings as a feeling person for all. But we are a Country of laws, and they were not forced to come here. They took a chance, but a chance ,and I don't blame them. And so I would be the last person to call them out, not support them, not take care of them. Some people, hateful people would say, get the **** out of here and call the authorities. That would never be me and to think anyone, much less my friends would believe that about me would be quite inaccurate and unsettling .
In fact the entire condition illustrates that there is no hard fast rule that works. We need the cheap labor, to make the kind of free market world we created work. And so its kind of a gray area endorsement to not holding the law to the letter to make our thing work as it does. But thats because the system itself is one of hypocrisy . Not just Trump. So there are many shades and views on this.
But this is one of a thousand issues that a President has to decide on, and his base, the people that voted for him want action of some sort taken. Many of these people are good and compassionate people as well.
Neither one of us has an answer or a handle on this problem. If you do, write an op ed and publish it. Possibly it will resonate, and some day can become law.
If the immigration laws need to be changed, lets change them. But how?
Tell me? You tell me how to change the law to make it fair for all who want to come here? Thats why I was happy to hear Trump call out Mexico for their part in causing a need for their people to flee. Well, we could discuss this for ever.
How easily things can get conflated, mis interpreted when we get our heels dug in. My capital letters in my email, wasn't yelling at you. They were just designed to stand out as I took your statement point by point. I should have changed the color instead .
I know you don't disagree with everything Trump is doing or has done. And you as well should know, I don't agree with everything he is doing .
But the level of hatred you carry in you about this guy is quite unsettling for me and quite unhealthy for you.
Its seems very personal, and well thats fine ,your entitled to feel as you do.
But you need to accept that I and others don't feel that. And that is not a betrayal or dismissal of you or you concerns and values.
And the media wants this guy out and is stirring up the pot as best they can to get him out. And the more they do that, the more I want him right where he is. And those reasons are my reasons, that Im entitled to have. And should you want to know them, just ask me.
This is a process, and so sorry to interrupt your weekend. But if I start censoring myself, holding back my feelings and all, our friendship will wilt and die a slow death in short time .
and for what? Trump?
we met the enemy, and he is us