http://projectavalon.net/forum4/ en Wed, 22 May 2013 23:14:23 GMT vBulletin 30 http://projectavalon.net/forum4/images/misc/rss.png http://projectavalon.net/forum4/ http://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?59279-Asking-prayers-for-my-sister&goto=newpost Sun, 19 May 2013 20:53:03 GMT I'd like to ask for prayers & healing energy for my sister. She has severe depression and things doesn't look too good right now. The situation is also heavy on my family as we are concerned for her. Any positive thoughts at the capacity you feel suitable would be most welcome.

Thank you. ]]> Healing Demeisen http://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?59279-Asking-prayers-for-my-sister http://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?58694-Why-Happiness-Is-So-Hard-To-Find&goto=newpost Sun, 28 Apr 2013 23:21:42 GMT *Why Happiness Is So Hard To Find* Posted on April 26, 2013 The problem is that people are going about it the wrong way: they are working on an... Why Happiness Is So Hard To Find
Posted on April 26, 2013

The problem is that people are going about it the wrong way: they are working on an incorrect model, to use scientific phraseology.

Most people think that happiness is derived from possessions or surroundings. If I had more of this or that… Or if I was in that certain place, or with those certain people… If he/she would only marry me… I would really be happy. That’s the common perception, heavily reinforced by abusive commercial advertising that tries to promulgate this illusion, solely for the purpose of selling people goods.

In fact some ads are so cruel and twisted that they promote the idea that without the right car (or perfume, or whatever) you are a nobody; no member of the opposite sex would even give you the time of day, never mind allow themselves to love you. Sneering women, with pretend smirks, and the puzzled, exasperated men who are depicted in typical TV advertisements create a picture of a world in which only the unemotional cynic can survive and be “happy”.

Left unanswered is the question which is obvious to me: who would want to even meet—never mind have a relationship with—a woman who would throw your car keys down the drain before walking away without pity?

As for the glamorous environments that the media throw at us, an alien landing from Mars would pretty quickly form the impression that only the top people live in the best spaces and places; those who dwell in modest or lowly homes are—almost by definition—the riff-raff and scum of the human race.

Yet the obsession our culture has with wealth leads absolutely nowhere. Repeated studies have established beyond doubt that once basic needs for food and shelter have been met, wealth and possessions have no influence whatever on the attainment of happiness.

This glaring anomaly is visible to us all and yet no-one pays attention. Is it not clear that the rich and famous are as miserable as the rest of us, in roughly the same proportion? If wealth had any contribution towards happiness, surely the wealthy would be far happier than the rest of us?

Money and goods has nothing to do with contentment. The happiest people I have ever lived with are the indigent population of the Indian subcontinent. Wherever you turn, there are sincere smiling faces and joyful mannerisms. Yet some of these people have barely enough to eat and would consider the smallest burger to be a feast of a lifetime.

They are happy without possessions; why can’t you be?

So What Is Happiness?

Happiness is not about having; it’s really about achievement. If you want to feel really happy, have a worthwhile destination and make steady progress towards it. Happiness is not even about getting to the desired place, it’s about moving meaningfully towards it.

In the words of His Holiness The Dalai Lama, “Happiness is the journey, not the destination.” This is really the only definition that makes any sense, if you check it against your mental maps. There is just one refinement I would make and that turns this pithy aphorism into a [mathematics] of happiness:

Happiness is winning in the direction you want to go. I say winning advisedly, because if there are no obstacles, it’s no fun. But if the obstacles are insurmountable, it’s no fun either. We need a Goldilocks level of challenge that’s j-u-s-t right!

And you know what’s exciting about this? We can choose our level of challenge; we can work with what suits us. A life without problems would be very boring, actually (the idle rich are a study in unhappiness and ennui). So it’s engaging to have to solve constructs which stand in our way. But all the way along, there has to be an end in view which is meaningful to us.

So we need both a destination and the skills to navigate our path and get there, step by step. With both in place, life is a wonderful thrill.

In the meantime, extend your happiness quotient (HQ) by being more contented with what you have got so far. Nothing in the doctrine of acceptance means that you must to abandon progress or ambition; just don’t stress so much about what you don’t have and be more grateful for what you DO have.

Do You Have A Destination In Mind?

It’s remarkable how few people I have encountered, who really know what they want out of life. But beyond the basic needs of food, shelter and companionship, we must lead a higher life than that of our biological animals selves. We need a sense of purpose. Just to survive, as animals do, is not enough to fill the human psyche with any degree of self-worth or excitement.

Per my refined definition of happiness, we must have a destination in mind for our life’s effort, in order to experience full-value emotions. Without somewhere to aim, we are not likely to find our days fulfilling or even tolerable, never mind thrilling.

Oh sure, the occasional treat will show up and we can smile and feel glad. But we will not be in control of our own happiness quotient. To get to grips with feeling good and to stake a claim in the happiness domain, consider the following…

This is my suggestion for a progress formula:

Set a short-term goal towards something you really would like to achieve.
What steps would help you achieve that?
Then sketch in some more steps that would be satisfying and would signify some progress.
Next, decide what long-term goal you would like to establish?
What realistic steps towards that goal could you take, starting right now?
Plan and execute some of these actions.
What possible barriers do you foresee? (this is thinking ahead, reading the road, not being negative)
Visualize your solutions for these likely barriers.
What general slogan or attitude of mind will get you past any unforeseen barriers?
Speak this slogan out loud, until it feels good and solid. Say it to yourself on a daily basis.
The important point, of course, is just to get some movement. Watching television will never get you started on the dream of a college degree. But a visit to the library could do just that, then followed by looking for some way to create an income surplus, so you can start saving.

Don’t let failure slow you down.

That’s something that everyone can agree upon: you’ll NEVER go far without taking a crash or a tumble. It’s par for the course. It is not a reason to quit!

More of that in another blog, coming soon!

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http://www.foodforthemindandfirefort...-hard-to-find/ ]]> Healing dynamo http://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?58694-Why-Happiness-Is-So-Hard-To-Find http://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?58572-Emotional-Clearing&goto=newpost Thu, 25 Apr 2013 14:35:12 GMT A good read here on clearing emotions in this human experience we live. Wise words indeed. Thanks to a kind friend who has introduced this to me.... A good read here on clearing emotions in this human experience we live. Wise words indeed. Thanks to a kind friend who has introduced this to me. Lots of resonating info. Thought Id Share this with The Avalon Family.

Emotional Clearing: Chapter 7 By Sabrina Reber

We experience feelings yet we generate emotions. Feelings are passive; emotions are reactive. E-motions are “energy in motion.” Feelings are not created from the mind; they are core sensations in the body such as heartache from a wounded heart or nausea from sadness or grief. Emotions are feelings with a thought attached. As soon as we feel a feeling and allow the negative mind chatter to take over we have activated our emotions. Feelings and emotions usually go hand and hand and they simply want to be acknowledged, felt and expressed. All feelings and emotions that are fully experienced, in a healthy way, acknowledged for the information they are trying to provide and are fully released from our system will create more space within our being for our divine spirit to flow through us bringing greater peace into our lives.

Emotions are one of the most beautiful parts of a human being and they should not be denied, suppressed or judged. Many of us have given a great deal of our energy and power away to our emotions because we have not allowed ourselves to fully express them. We end up holding onto them for years giving them great power to control us. When we allow them to be expressed we allow them the freedom to be released. If we deny our emotions we end up fragmenting ourselves creating all kinds of alter egos that get stored in our energy body. We need to experience our emotions so we can understand them. Unfortunately, we have been taught to resist our emotions and to quickly disconnect and stuff them leading many of us to completely shut down our emotional body. As a child, we were told not to cry, not to raise our voice, don’t talk back, don’t get mad, be nice and be quiet. Although our parents meant well, it was very damaging to us as Spirits because we ended up storing all of our emotions in our energy body and we became very reactive, explosive, emotionally unbalanced adults. Many of us do not understand or know how to properly express our emotions in a healthy way. Drama, blame and over reactivity have become the norm, which always throws us out of alignment with our higher wisdom. When we are triggered by a situation each of us must learn to stand in our power, speak our truth from a place of integrity and ground our light. Choose not to react to the person in an unbalanced way. If you feel your emotional body taking over, simply walk away but make sure you process through your emotions and feelings later. When you have calmed down, observe the situation from a higher perspective. Ask yourself how are you feeling, what is your body saying to you? Where are you holding discomfort in your body? Where are your thoughts? Do you have thoughts and emotions that need to be addressed? Ask your thoughts, feelings and emotions questions. What are they trying to say to you? Avoid being reactive but address your pain. Negative feelings and emotions need to be released before we will truly be able to love and have compassion for ourselves and everyone else.

Our emotional health is what determines our state of being. Due to emotional distress, most of us have disconnected from our feeling self and pushed our negative emotions deep into the recesses of our being. In order to release our pain and achieve balance and good health it is necessary for us to bring our emotions to the surface so they can be fully experienced and felt. Denying how we feel brings self-destruction and disease within our system. Unexpressed and repressed emotions must come out. They will find a way of showing themselves so it is in our best interest to go ahead and deal with them when they arise so they don’t explode on others at inappropriate times. Angry explosions, yelling and crying for no reason, mood swings, depression, anxiety, stress, body aches and illness all have messages they are trying to reveal to us, if we would only listen. Past memories, emotional trauma and feelings need to be addressed, acknowledged and integrated before we can heal and bring ourselves into wholeness. If we are to fully awaken and ground our God self into our being we will need to liberate ourselves from the entanglement of our past. Full attention, acceptance, allowance and forgiveness are the most powerful ways for us to deal with our repressed emotions.

Transformation can only occur when we choose to process through our feelings and emotions. Blame, anger, resentment and hatred are sure-fire indicators that our emotions have not been fully integrated and released. Toxic emotions will only hurt us, not the people we are upset with. By harboring these intense feelings we will continue to attract people into our life who also have the same emotional problems and each of us will feed off of each others negative emotional energy. Like energy attracts like energy and our souls will continue to bring people to us who will reflect back to us our own inner state of emotional instability. When we decide to transmute our lower vibrational emotions we will no longer attract lower vibrating relationships into our life. We need to give ourselves permission to feel and express everything within our being. Once we have allowed ourselves to release a lot of our emotional blocks we will become less reactive and will be able to stay grounded and hold our center when we encounter a difficult situation or soul lesson. This will allow ourselves to bypass our emotional mode and step into the observer mode where we can determine the stimulus that kicks off our emotional responses so we can neutralize them. Usually, our knee jerk reactions are shining light on a childhood core belief or fear that is not based in truth. Our feelings and emotions are important and they are valid! We need to learn how to honor them so we can process through the pain but gain the wisdom our emotions are trying to give us.

As the Earth rises in vibration we are being forced to look at and heal our stuffed negative emotions and feelings. Being passive, complacent and in denial about our emotions and feelings will keep us stuck in the lower vibrations of duality. We must strive to become emotionally mature, truthful and conscious with ourselves about our inner workings / inner psychology so we can become a grounded and fully empowered being. Many people speak the right words, but inside their emotional body is a whole different reality. We may be able to mask or disguise our emotions, temporarily, but that does not mean they have disappeared. Whatever we are carrying within our emotional body is what we are creating in our lives. If we don’t learn how to acknowledge, feel and release our emotions, our emotions will run us.

The current chaos in our world is a reflection of our inner chaos. We will never have peace in this world until we have peace within ourselves. Our society has avoided truly connecting with their feelings and emotions for thousands of years. All emotional events that we have not dealt with are like magnetic images stuck in our energy field. Every time they get activated we have the opportunity to de-magnetize these stuck images if we allow ourselves to fully feel our emotions when they arise. Unfortunately, most of us resist this process and we become reactive responding from a place of pain instead of a place of love and compassion. We are stuffers and our baggage is full! We have done everything we can to avoid experiencing our pain. We take drugs, overindulge in alcohol and food, submerse ourselves in our work, become shopaholics, continually seek out doctors for pharmaceuticals and get fixated on other peoples problems in order to avoid our own. We project all of our “stuff” onto everyone else never taking responsibility for our own inner issues that need to be healed. As long as we are in denial of our negative emotions and feelings we will never be able to transmute and release them. The energy we have created for ourselves within our own energy field cannot be destroyed. Energy never dies! It stays with us until we decide to transform it into a higher vibrational energy. Many of us are in denial of our toxic energy and are psychologically lazy. However, the additional light flooding this planet is shaking up our emotional bodies and bringing our stuff to the surface to be healed and released. It is time to lighten our load! Take the time to reconnect with three events in your past where you were not able to truly express how you felt. Write a letter to yourself, the people involved or to the circumstance allowing yourself to get in touch with those suppressed feelings. Then burn it, rip it up or bury it setting your intention to release all toxic emotions. Re-examine your week. Where have you allowed yourself to stuff your emotions? Have you been dishonest with yourself in order to avoid hurting someone else’s feelings at the expense of your own? Where have you emotionally “over reacted” in the past year? Are you accustomed to not speaking your truth about how you really feel eventually allowing things to explode to such a point you have no control over your emotions? Set your intention to become aware of your emotions and feelings. When something arises and you are not able to compassionately express it to the other person involved, make the commitment to yourself to express it in privacy. Your emotions are important and they are valid. If you resist them they will persist. They will get stored in your energy body just waiting for the next opportunity for them to be released. Do not fear your emotions. Befriend them. When they arise ask them questions. Notice how you feel and ask them why they are here. Ask them what they have to teach you. We should not take our emotions out onto other people. If we are not careful, our emotions can create additional karma for us. We need to learn how to balance, express and release them in a positive way. Because they are reactive, they can affect our health, if we do not learn to deal with them through constructive means. It is best to feel our feelings, but control our emotions and reactive behaviors.

1. Go to your room, shut the door and scream! Screaming is a great way to release pent up energies. Set your intention to release everything that no longer serves you and scream into a pillow with all of your being.

2. Allow yourself to cry. Tears enable us to get in touch with our deepest feelings. Weeping arises from the heart and is a gift of grace from God.

3. Emotional wounds are stored in the tissues of the body and in your energy fields that surround your body. Exercise is a great way to move stuck energy. Yoga, walking, running, rebounding, dancing etc….helps keep your energy flowing and assists in removing emotional blocks held within the body.

4. Find a great energy healer! Energy work will greatly assist you in moving out all stuck energy that is ready to be released. There are many modalities to choose from. Pick one you resonate with: Reiki, Tai Chi, Cranial Sacral, EMC2, EMF Balancing, Rosen Method, Polarity Therapy, Rolfing, Acupuncture.

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