Let's All Confess to a Time When We Lost Our Cool

[Cottage Rose]

I love you, Gypsy Woman. Let's be friends again.

Please don't feel bad anymore - it has happened to us all.

It is my wish that everyone who participates in this tread:

(1) Welcome Gypsy Woman back to Avalonia
(2) Share a personal story of when you lost your cool


Here's my story:

Once when I resided in Corporate America, I tossed a beverage in a co-workers face and ruined her beautiful new silk blouse. The cat fight was over a promotion. After I was selected, she proceeded to spread vicious gossip suggesting a nefarious reason for the choice. I was suspended for two days after the incident. (Two day paid vacation. hehehe) Anyway, sorry about your blouse, Sharon.

Now, let's stay friendly and on topic.

Thanks,
Cottage Rose

(Sorry, this is late Gypsy Woman. I couldn't find the link to start a thread)

[crosby]

Welcome back Gypsy Woman........here's my story: at my previous job (as a partial hospital secretary), i was pulled in by my cfo and asked why i hadn't done the billing faster. i tried to explain that i had always done the billing the same way; she proceeded to tell me that i was full of s&^t and that if i didn't get the lead out, i was out. i then told her: "your arrogance isn't appropriate to your talents". she didn't like that and i was fired 4 days later. i stand by it. her arrogance wasn't and still isn't appropriate to her talents. she was fired not long after me. so, what goes around always come back around.
warmest regards, corson

[Scout]

Welcome back Gypsy Woman!

I am not one to lose my cool, especially in a professional setting, but there was a time when a very high profile client (who incidentally did not like to pay his bills), was verbally harassing me on the phone over payment. After taking his abuse for 20 minutes with the conversation going no where, I finally told him that it was not my responsibility to make sure he paid his bills on time, it was his, and I promptly hung up on him.

Sometimes you just reach a breaking point. In the end it is all just water under the bridge

Scout

[Icecold]

LOL. Good story Rose.

GW, I sent you a PM and as usual you are selectively uncommunicative.

Welcome back GW. I have mentioned that I like your new profile pic?



Here is a story from my childhood....

I used to have a three wheeler bike my gandfather made for me. He painted it up all royal blue. I really liked that bike.

My family had recently moved to a new suburb. I decided to go for a ride to the top of my street to see what was what.

I arrived at the top of the hill, got off my bike to look around, a good view from the top of the hill.

As I'm looking into the distance, three boys approach me. Well I thought, "ok time to make some new friends".

That didn't happen. The three boys surrounded me and began saying unfriendly things that I didn't like. Then they told me that they were going to take my bike, and proceed to do just that. Poor boys.

Well, they did not know what hit them. One down crying, one tangled up in a rose bush screaming for mum and you know, I was then a fast runner, but I could not catch the last guy. I jumped back on my bike and pedalled down the hill thinking, where did that come from?

Years later, two of those boys became police officers

I did tangle with one of them again years later with the same result....for him.

Cheers,

Ice

[Cottage Rose]

Posted by Icecold (here)
That didn't happen. The three boys surrounded me and began saying unfriendly things that I didn't like. Then they told me that they were going to take my bike, and proceed to do just that. Poor boys.

Well, they did not know what hit them. One down crying, one tangled up in a rose bush screaming for mum and you know, I was then a fast runner, but I could not catch the last guy. I jumped back on my bike and pedalled down the hill thinking, where did that come from?

Years later, two of those boys became police officers

I did tangle with one of them again years later with the same result....for him.

Cheers,

Ice

Hi Ice:

There is no way for me to adequately describe how much the energy and wisdom you bring to this forum has meant to me, my friend.

Rose

[Icecold]

Thanks Rose.

You are a beautiful soul.

I love the people here.

Its more of a home to me than home.

Blessings,

Ice

[Buchanan561]

Welllllllll Looks like I am just.........little miss goodie two shoes. I have never lost my cool.

That's a little of a lie I suppose. I Do occasionally loose it with my 40 year old mentally challenged son. I just break down and go to my room and cry. I yell at him and then just seconds later the 'reading of him' sets in and I find myself in shame.

He cannot incorporate new things into his mind or memory banks. I have to give him instructions as to very minor rules of the house but....he cannot assimilate the information into his being and it just falls between the cracks.

He will look at me with tears in his eyes and say.....what did I do...what did I do over and over as he has no comprehension of what just transpired. His action and then my reaction and why.

He is 6'3 and 250 pounds. And the mind of perhaps a 5 year old. He was normal until puberty and then it just went. No one knows why. So he lives with me and I have to learn how to clean up after him without judgment. Thanks

and Gypsy Woman. You are human just like the rest of us. I usually do not post as I can make enemies that way. But in the end I always have to speak up and identify something when I see something that I feel is wrong.

I find no fault in you as I find no fault in any others who are on this forum. We are all living in the same ?nightmare? waiting to wake up and find it all gone. My best to you as you heal from all the noise around here. Emma

[Lord Sidious]

Posted by Icecold (here)
Thanks Rose.

You are a beautiful soul.

I love the people here.

Its more of a home to me than home.

Blessings,

Ice

We have some absolute gems here, I would agree.

[jorr lundstrom]

Yeah, welcome again GW. If you want to read my PM:s to my friends, just give me a hint, so you dont have to sneak into

their mailboxes. It can be quite embaressing to get caught with that you know.

People in my country have an idea that Gypsies cant divide between mine and others belongings.

I too do like your new avatar, did you meet an angry cat or............. LOL

[Icecold]

Your story really touched me Emm.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts lady.

Blessings to you and your son.

I know these soul lessons will lift you both to a new level in your journey.

Kindness,

Ice

[Belle]

Wasn't sure if I should tell this one. But here goes.

I was never one to just get angry. I would "red out". It's like I'd reach a point in my anger that everything around me would disappear behind a wall of red. And then I'd let go with all the venom within, saying anything just to hurt. I have this thing about knowing people's weaknesses and in my anger I would shred them apart with my words.

I was eighteen and still living at home and an argument with my parents started (oh yeah, like that's never happened to anyone else). Well, I did my thing and went after my Dad, and he just stood there not saying a word...no reaction whatsoever. So I said ever more hurtful things, just trying to get a rise out of him, until there was nothing left. My Mom was near tears just saying his name. He looked at her and said, "She needed to get that out. I'll never let her know how much she hurt me."

He loved me enough to give me what I needed at the time with no concern for himself. I couldn't take the words back. I couldn't make up for the hurt I caused him. I wish he was still alive so I could tell him how much that changed my life.

Every time I start losing it, I think of my Dad, take a step back and breathe. I never want to cause that kind of hurt again.

Okay, now someone tell a funny one. Please.

[Cottage Rose]

Posted by Belle (here)

I was never one to just get angry. I would "red out". It's like I'd reach a point in my anger that everything around me would disappear behind a wall of red. And then I'd let go with all the venom within, saying anything just to hurt. I have this thing about knowing people's weaknesses and in my anger I would shred them apart with my words.

Dear Belle:

I have let the venom fly many a time. Once that point is reached......

I don't recall ever encountering a situation like the one you had with your dad. Turned the other cheek, did he? That would provide a memorable lesson.

Thank you so much for revealing that story.

Cottage Rose

[Belle]

I just came back to edit my post (okay, I admit it, I wanted to delete it), and I want to thank you for your response. That was the last time I ever got that angry and have mellowed out more and more as I have aged, gracefully I might add.

I wanted to share that as I was typing that I kept getting shivers where my whole body would shake; never had that happen before. It kept up until I finally posted. I think it was something I had to say. Sorry if it brought everyone down. I keep trying to think of something funny, but I got nothing.

[Ol' Roy]

Good Evening Cottage Rose,

One little story. I used to work in auto manufacturing. I was in quality control. One time, we were inspecting cars, and a group leader from another area came into our area and tried to start bossing us around. Also getting in our way. I told him to get out of our area. He puffed up and turned red and told me he was going to take me to HR. He had little-big man sydrome. I stood my ground though. My own group leader stood up for me. He told him not to be in our area. My GL laughed about it afterward! HoHo

By the way, I've been meaning to tell you, what a lovely cottage you have. Ah! To Be in NATURE!

You are a beautiful person, both inside and out. Just wanted you to know. I always like reading your posts.

Take care,
Ol'Roy

[Icecold]

Posted by Belle (here)
I just came back to edit my post (okay, I admit it, I wanted to delete it), and I want to thank you for your response. That was the last time I ever got that angry and have mellowed out more and more as I have aged, gracefully I might add.

I wanted to share that as I was typing that I kept getting shivers where my whole body would shake; never had that happen before. It kept up until I finally posted. I think it was something I had to say. Sorry if it brought everyone down. I keep trying to think of something funny, but I got nothing.

Belle, those shivers were you connecting to the source.

Your angels were embracing you and telling you that they love you.

Beautiful.

Blessings,

Ice

[Cottage Rose]

Posted by Ol' Roy (here)
Good Evening Cottage Rose,

One little story. I used to work in auto manufacturing. I was in quality control. One time, we were inspecting cars, and a group leader from another area came into our area and tried to start bossing us around. Also getting in our way. I told him to get out of our area. He puffed up and turned red and told me he was going to take me to HR. He had little-big man sydrome. I stood my ground though. My own group leader stood up for me. He told him not to be in our area. My GL laughed about it afterward! HoHo

By the way, I've been meaning to tell you, what a lovely cottage you have. Ah! To Be in NATURE!

You are a beautiful person, both inside and out. Just wanted you to know. I always like reading your posts.

Take care,
Ol'Roy

Thank you so much, Ol'Roy. Yes, I have noticed the syndrome you speak of many times. Great story!

[Dennis Leahy]

OK, per Cottage Rose:
(1) Welcome Gypsy Woman back to Avalonia
(2) Share a personal story of when you lost your cool

I just could not wrap my brain around the Heather thread, and didn't follow along, so I don't really know what transpired there that caused the friction - nor do I want to dredge any of it up. Gypsy Woman: bright, articulate, passionate, funny, and a compatriot against the nefarious Controllers of the World. I'd feel confident standing next to you in battle. In my book, you were never really gone, but what the hell, welcome back!

I've probably literally posted 10,000 posts in various forums over the past years. The vast, vast majority of people I've met and interacted with online have been really great, and just a few were not-so-great. I have kept my cool with a number of goons, trolls, jerks, bullies, and a a few psychos. But the other day, right here, I popped my cork, lost my cool, and blasted someone who was acting like a bully and an 'agent'. So, even people known for keeping their cool and for peacemaking can and do lose their cool.

Dennis

[Mystique]

Welcome back GW, thought I would say "glad you are back!"

My youngest daughter is a verrry emotional and intense person - and it took her many years to work it out to get a hold of the reigns on her anger. Once, I was late picking her up from work - again, and when she got in the car she "let it fly." I tried the calm role modeling, keeping the tone down...but...she was getting nasty and ugly. I pulled over the car and told her to "GET OUT!" She was getting out, but looked like she was going to take a swing at me and we started slapping at each others' hands. As she got out she made a quick gesture and I threw my plastic water bottle at her. She slammed the door and I drove off. I was sooo p****d that I drove home. I left her on the hiway four miles from home. A police officer stopped by but she had a ride (she had called her friend to pick her up). Even though I felt I should feel guilty, I mean a cop did have to stop to check on her, she was so nasty I just didn't. Ok, a little...but not much. Later when I calmed down I felt ashamed, but she thought it was funny.

(I started off with a different story - but it was one where I didn't lose it - so I changed it.)

[Atticus]

Can't tell you any never done it

[Cottage Rose]

Posted by xibl122 (here)
OK, per Cottage Rose:
(1) Welcome Gypsy Woman back to Avalonia
(2) Share a personal story of when you lost your cool

I popped my cork, lost my cool, and blasted someone who was acting like a bully and an 'agent'. So, even people known for keeping their cool and for peacemaking can and do lose their cool.

Dennis

Yes, we certainly all know that is true.

Gypsy Woman, don't be so sad. Bring back your happy Avatar. We all miss it.

Thanks, Dennis!