connection between your name and yourself

[Renne]

Hi, all

We've all read stuff about how your name can influence your mind, your path, your everything. When given the right name, everything in your life is just right, and a person with a wrong name always need to experience and suffer a lot to find its right path.

There are some people who have wrong names. And I think my case is quite extreme, so I want to share it here.

Every time when I was introduced with my name, I felt clumsy and didn't know how to behave. Cause when hearing the words "this is xxx", something would always cry from the deep "no, this isn't."

Having a wrong name make me understand perfectly how a name can do things to my life. I can feel myself possessed. It grows and strengthens like a cancer. I can feel every cell of my body filled up with grievance. Above all, my heart feels brutally offended.

I can feel its energy even stronger when I try to live on the right trajectory or to understand my real self. I always try to think of my real name but never succeeded. I like the story of Spirited Away. I find it resonates in me. Yubaba makes her worker hers by taking their names and giving their new names herself. Haku told Chihiro that she must remember her name, or she would be like himself, working for Yubaba forever, because he had forgotten his name and therefore his way home.

That's quite like me and my mother. She's the one who gave me the name, and she has this power over me that I can't surpass.

I don't know when I can find my real name. But now I'm 21, and given the situation here, there's a lot to live on......

[White Rabbit]

you are so right about having the wrong name.... I went as far as changing mine legally... but when someone calls me by that original name... eiwwwww I cringe and feel horrible. there is more to my story and I have more than one or two names...

[Renne]

Posted by White Rabbit (here)
you are so right about having the wrong name.... I went as far as changing mine legally... but when someone calls me by that original name... eiwwwww I cringe and feel horrible. there is more to my story and I have more than one or two names...

I have tried many names, too. But none is suitable so far, maybe I'm just so blind for trying.

[ulli]

Years ago I met the manager of the western hemisphere for Barclay's Bank.
His name was George Money....no kidding.

[Nyce555]

I used to hate my name when I was a kid. I just felt like it wasn't me, but as I got older it grew on me. I read in a book somewhere that on the "Other Side" we have our true names and when we incarnate on Earth the names that we are given are different from what we are used to being called. When we arrive here through birth, we might feel confused and not comfortable with the new name we have been given. When I heard this, it made so much sense to me. I remember being a kid and not likeing me name and I also didn't like the fact that I was a girl, but as time went on I embraced those things as this is who I am in this incarnation.

[Star1111]

Renne - how strange and wonderful that you started this thread. I thought it was just me!! I thought I was being a bit precious, but I have to say the name I was given (which actually was not the first thought my Mother had to call me ..... long story) feels SO VERY WRONG for me and always has. Like White Rabbit, I cringe when someone calls me by my name AND when I have to say my name I feel, well, embarrassed ! Its a very commen name, nothing unusual about it. Maybe that's it !! Anyway, its strange and wonderful because I was just thinking about this again very recently and thought maybe I should just change it, but then I thought "what's in a name, a rose by any other name would smell as sweet" but I certainly shouldn't have been called this name. The first one my Mother thought of was SO VERY RIGHT for me and I would have loved to have been called that and it would have suited me. She should not have been influenced and stuck to her guns. Still, we soldier on I guess. Good to know that I'm not alone in this.

[Andrew D Doyle]

I agree with this subject in context, I have googled my name and have found more than coincidence that we collectively share occupations and indeed hobbies...Andrew Doyle I firmly believe there is a science in DNA to all this as my parents said I was named by a nurse....and am the first Andrew in our lineage..

[nearing]

In the US, at least, it isn't too difficult to change ones name. There are lots lot paperwork and an FBI check that takes months to wait for and then you go in front of a judge who asks you why you want to change your name (they want to be sure it isn't because you committed a crime and are running). The judge may roll his eyes when he hears the emotional reason for wanting to but in the end he pounds his gavel and you have a new name!

Once you find your true name, just change it!

[Renne]

Star1111, I'm surprised, too, to find there are people just like me. I thought I should go quest this real name. But now Nyce555 has inspired me that I can calm down and embrace it. There's two way now, problem is, which one is the "just right" one???

[Star1111]

the right way........ is whatever feels right for you. I have a friend who felt the same way, she changed her name to Angel and she is happier now because of it I think. Each to their own.

[Renne]

Posted by Andrew D Doyle (here)
I agree with this subject in context, I have googled my name and have found more than coincidence that we collectively share occupations and indeed hobbies...Andrew Doyle I firmly believe there is a science in DNA to all this as my parents said I was named by a nurse....and am the first Andrew in our lineage..

Wow, THAT is really strange. Well, my name is kinda unique and ungooglable. Then I have the odd side of my character!

[ulli]

I also belong to the group of people who couldn't stand their given name.
Now I understand the deeper meaning behind it: to be uncomfortable with ANYTHING means we are provided with a spring board to create change.
The faster change occurs the faster we grow.
Then one day we discover the truth about the option between duality and oneness.
This brings entirely new territory of exploration.
At this point we can begin accept those aspects of ourselves that we previously rejected...
Whether it is in forgiving our parents, or ourselves.
We settle into a totally new kind of comfort zone...
ulli, humming the Beatles song "Let It Be" ....

[Caren]

Interesting thread - At our local children's hospital where I worked as a nurse we had a 'Doctor Nurse' - his name use to make the older kids laugh in disbelief. We also had on staff 'Doctor Hand' - an orthopedic
surgeon

[cacklingmuse]

my husband and I didn't name our son for 3 months after he was born...no name fit..we didn't want to name him after anybody we knew. then one morning we looked at eachother and said "benjamin"! he is such a benjamin, too!

[nearing]

Posted by Caren (here)
Interesting thread - At our local children's hospital where I worked as a nurse we had a 'Doctor Nurse' - his name use to make the older kids laugh in disbelief. We also had on staff 'Doctor Hand' - an orthopedic
surgeon

The world's most foremost expert on Osteoporosis is Dr. Bone at St. John Hospital in Detroit. LOL.

[Lord Sidious]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alfred_(name)
These are the names given to me by my parents.

[Caren]

Haha nearing.. I believe it.
We also had a Doctor Smiley on staff (not an uncommon name in these parts) but he wasn't a dentist.
However - a very fitting name for a Doctor whom worked with children

[Fred Steeves]

Mine's kind of backwards. I had my last name legally changed at 15 to my step dad's name who raised me, a really great guy. A couple of decades later though I came to realize that was a foolish youthful mistake. I resonate much more with the original last name, but once you get to a certain age and enough people know you by a certain name, including your wife sharing it, it's a bit late. Just think, ya'll could have known me as Fred D. Oh well, so it goes.

Cheers,
Fred

[ulli]

Freddy. D.? Freddiedoodah? Oops, sorry, I thought I was in chat.

[Fred Steeves]

Posted by ulli (here)
Freddy. D.? Freddiedoodah? Oops, sorry, I thought I was in chat.

Amazingly close ulli, except you're thinking of my twin brother Zippadee...

Cheers,
Fred