Hello everyone, this is my first thread so wanted to make it about something that is currently taking up a lot of my focus in order to open up a potential discussion about compassion and moving on from a relationship that just isn't working.
I will give a brief synopsis and spare you all the sappy details. Basically, for the past six months after ending a four year relationship with a girl I have strong feelings for, I have tried to find a way to gain some healing room while fostering the growth of a non-romantic friendship. That hasn't worked very well bc romantic emotions keep surfacing when we hang out blah blah blah. So now that we have both realized that we need space and we're committed to it, she winds up in the hospital due to all her recurring health problems.
So I've been kickin around all these questions. Do I postpone giving myself the space to heal and the solitude that I truly need in order to be compassionate to her circumstance, especially when she has no one else? Do I need to communicate to her that she needs to be okay with being alone? Do I have the right to tell her that she needs to be okay with being alone?
I feel like a lot of times we all may struggle between being compassionate to the needs of others but still find trouble in meeting our own personal needs. What is the balance between altruism and selfishness(not the negative egoic selfishness but the kind of focus that directs self growth)?
In an effort to make this thread not about me and my deal, I encourage dialogue about the root of these questions. What happens when we really need something for ourselves but we are being tugged in a different direction that may require our compassionate intervention? It could even go as far as What is the healthy balance between separation and oneness (while, of course, still aware of our innate oneness)?
Peace and Light