Here is the situation:
My daughter is badly bullied at school, in a very subtle manner: it is mostly verbal and sneaky bullying in her classroom.
As she is the youngest of the class and a good student despite learning disabilities due to dysphasia (others in her class are all dyslesic, which is much milder disability), therefore not agile with spoken and written words and not agile in speaking congruently fast enough, she is being badly bullied through regular nasty comments from most of the class (only 4-5 don't do it), comments that as she says "are not much by themselves, but it is the cumulation of them that is terrible mom, it is non stop, 5-10 comments a day". She is a tiny chubby (nothing when comparing to obese) and pretty but she thinks she does not worth much.
As the comments are fast and often in low tone, most teachers were not aware of it until my daughter snapped. Being a good student, the teachers were wondering what was wrong. She came back that day telling me she did not want to go back to school, that "even if I am eager to learn new stuff mom, I do not want it anymore" and she was crying. She told me that the worst is the rejection, being put alone all the time, not being able to make friends. And on and on - for example, a student came to speak to her while another one pulls that student out to stop her from speaking to my daughter saying she is ****ed up - and much more. It has been going on for 18 months and she was mostly hiding from me, not to worry me.
I forced her to go back to school the following day after she snapped because it was Christmas gift exchange (they had pulled names and ezch student was to make a gift to another one) and my daughter was the only one in the class not to receive anything. No need to tell you that when I called on the same day to tell them she could not stand the byllying anymore, they believed it.
The teachers are aware of the problem but hesitate to adress it directly.
I need ideas for teachers on how to handle such a situation.
I also need ideas for me, on an individual basis, on what to do to help my daughter. To tell the truth, I feel quite disempowered, I do not know what to do (of course I tell her how much I love her, but what else?)
Thank you all in advance for your gracious help.
ps: I did check the thread on Avalon on bullying but did not find much to help the teachers or the mom.
I do have the Blue eyes Brown eyes experiments videos and the Teen files: being the change 1-2-3 videos, thanks Avalon for this.
But I need more please, interventions have to be fast - there is suicidal ideas my daughter shared with me.