Posted by DNA
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In the words of Marsellus Wallace of Pulp Fiction, "The world is full of unrealistic motherf*ckers".
I see folks plagued by fairytale paralysis.
My uncle is a bit of a computer nerd. The guy wasn't god's gift to social interaction. And what's worse, he kept a stack of playboys with which he kind of drew upon for the realistic standard as far as women were concerned. What's worse, is that my uncle was a short pudgy fat guy with a crappy job.
My uncle bless his soul, he asked me in 1997 wha the problem was. He stated "I don't know what it is, I ask these women out (on social networking sites) and they look at my profile and they don't want anything to do with me". My uncle had a genius level IQ, but couldn't figuire out that he was being completely unrealistic in terms of looking for a potential mate.
He was asking out the most beautifull women who happened to be in their midtwenties. And he was 45. Just so unrealistic.
I explained to him how shallow he was being, and further, an analogy regarding how boxers need to know their wieght class and not try to enter into bouts where they are liable to get knocked out.
My uncle isn't so much a victim of the air brushed model thing (though the playboys could be argued contributed to his problem) my uncle was more a victim of believing the unrealistic story lines of movies where the short nerdy guy gets the hot girl every time. Kind of a fairy tale paralysis if you will.
I find quite a few folks are plagued by this as they scrap relationship after relationship because they haven't found their hit movie relationship yet.