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    Default I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    For reasons I won't go into, I was not close to my father as I grew up. Being a believer in reincarnation, I suspect we carried issues into this life that originated in previous lives.

    But I finally understood that it was foolish to sustain our separation, and so I reached out to him in his last years. And as a result, we became much closer. It felt good. After every visit, we hugged good-bye. The hugs were an expression of love.

    I guess there might be more work for us to do in the future, but we definitely made a lot of progress in his last few years.

    Here's my advice for you if your parents are old, and you have unresolved issues with them. Make an effort! Reach out to them with a loving energy.

    You will not regret it if you do this.

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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    .....And yet another example of heart-centered behavior! Kudos to you, as the efforts of you both are the part of "the solution" this planet has been waiting for in order to transform!
    ........where being the BLACK SHEEP, isn't the exception, it's the rule!

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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    yup, this is essential.
    "Just do it".
    And, a hug really doesn't hurt.

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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    Good for you Midnight. Sometimes doing what seems difficult can make things better in the big picture. Best regards.

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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    I agree with you.
    Fathers do have a problem...I am one, my dad was one!




    Tony

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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    So true Midnight,

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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    Great to hear your resolve. Love and Forgiveness. I once remember a prophet speaking highly of these 2 words.
    "The Cure to Cancer grows from right under our feet,
    but we are to ignorant to look below our nose"

    "Although I Live On This World, I Choose Not To Live In It"
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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    Thank you for sharing Midnight, me and my half-sister have become estranged, an issue yet to be resolved, your post struck me in my heart...
    Getting answers is easy... It's getting the truth that takes work.

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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    Too often people try to reconcile with family memebers because they want something from them, often this ends in more hurt feelings. I think its best to heal yourself emotionally first as much as you can then seek reconnect. When you can give them unconditional love they that will draw them in to find their own hearts.

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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    It's too late for me now. I couldn't have a relationship with both parents, but I tried to keep in touch. Time isn't always a "great healer."
    "There will be in the next generation or so a pharmacological method [FLOURIDE, ANTI-DEPRESANTS…] of making people love their servitude and producing dictatorship without tears… producing a kind of painless concentration camp for entire societies so that people will in fact have their liberties taken away from them but will rather enjoy it [AFTER 9/11]." - Aldous Huxley 1961 speech:"Contented with your servitude"

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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    Quote Posted by Paranormal (here)
    It's too late for me now.
    May you be proven wrong [in the greatest - still possible - way].
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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    Yes, we can meet & reconcile in the after-life. Both parents have died - dad in 1988 and Mom in 2003
    "There will be in the next generation or so a pharmacological method [FLOURIDE, ANTI-DEPRESANTS…] of making people love their servitude and producing dictatorship without tears… producing a kind of painless concentration camp for entire societies so that people will in fact have their liberties taken away from them but will rather enjoy it [AFTER 9/11]." - Aldous Huxley 1961 speech:"Contented with your servitude"

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    Default Re: I made a loving connection with my father before he died. I'm glad I did.

    "You do look, my son, in a moved sort,
    As if you were dismay'd: be cheerful, sir.
    Our revels now are ended. These our actors,
    As I foretold you, were all spirits and
    Are melted into air, into thin air:
    And, like the baseless fabric of this vision,
    The cloud-capp'd towers, the gorgeous palaces,
    The solemn temples, the great globe itself,
    Ye all which it inherit, shall dissolve
    And, like this insubstantial pageant faded,
    Leave not a rack behind. We are such stuff
    As dreams are made of, and our little life
    Is rounded with a sleep. Sir, I am vex'd;
    Bear with my weakness; my, brain is troubled:
    Be not disturb'd with my infirmity:
    If you be pleased, retire into my cell
    And there repose: a turn or two I'll walk,
    To still my beating mind."
    "We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time"
    - TS Eliot
    "By faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the 'word of God' ... so that the things which are seen were not made of the things which are visible"
    - a quantum interpretation, understanding 'spirit' (or consciousness) as the "things not visible" (or non-material) yet quintessentially fundamental to the "things which are seen"

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