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    glad to hear you are going to be okay Jagman......and your boys know that you love them and you are trying your best so be proud of yourself for that......just keep loving them and know they love you ....many fathers lose touch completely with their children after a breakup so really be proud of yourself that you are working to stay in their lives in what ever way you can.

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    Quote Posted by jagman (here)
    . I'm so tired
    of disappointing them. I feel stronger today and I know everything going to be alright
    Again I just want to thank all of you. I feel much better.
    and as long as you hold your intent all will be well... even if you dont see your boys for a long long time. Your love will teach them the truth.
    You might want to consider writing them letters... to give to them now, fully age appropriate, but also letters to give to them when they are older and can discern them and hold them and read them for themselves to reveal to them your true heart and true thoughts.

    just an idea.




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    Jag,

    That is heavy heart breaking news. I'm so sorry. Hugging you and your sons.

    Praying for a healing change of heart for their mother that she may eventually share custody. Praying for a real connection to be maintained between you and your children, no matter what.

    Love, Sierra
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    So sorry to hear of your news. I feel your angst at losing your boys. Love will win out in the end. Your boys know you love them dearly. Break ups can be so devastating!! Hugs to you and your boys.

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    as someone that has been through what your going through twice. i can tell you that time and patience will prevail. i got tattoos to show my love for my daughters and i rang them and saw them at any moment i could "within reason of course". it is really important to let them see you with a smile on your face and a positive persona. a good relationship is still able to happen with your children if you put in the effort
    i know it would feel like your the only one putting in the effort especially if the other partner is not helping out.. but that just makes you fight that little more..
    children know who their fathers are and they know the love we have for them...
    pm me anytime buddy
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    Jagman, I am sending you bright light for your path ahead and peace beyond all comprehension for the days before you.
    We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.
    Plato

    Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
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    Quote Posted by jagman (here)
    Thank you all so much. I simply dont have the words to express how all of your comments made me feel. Im sorry I was so vague on the details.
    Somtimes certain truths, Are just to painfull to face. I've spent years of my life working towards a single goal. I wanted my sons to live with me,
    So we could be a family. My dream was shattered yesterday.

    My son josh was only 2 years old the day my wife told me to leave. He started crying. His aunt Cassie was holding him and he was reaching for me.
    He started screaming "daddy please dont go" He was begging me. That moment is burned into my soul. So now I have to tell my sons. I'm so tired
    of disappointing them. I feel stronger today and I know everything going to be alright
    Again I just want to thank all of you. I feel much better.
    You gave me the goose bumps there Jason. I know how you feel, I have been in your shoes before. Please share the load with me. Throw some on my back so we can carry it together.
    Reminds me of a song, if i may interject here. For you bro.

    "Although I Live On This World, I Choose Not To Live In It"
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    I will burn Palo Santo woods for you today.

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    You might be able to be more of a father if you don't reside under the same roof. See this as an opportunity and ask yourself "how can I give the most to my sons during this circumstance". Your spirit guides are with you. Take from it what you can, and know that you have the support of your many friends and family here at Avalon. I too have been in your shoes. It turned out in my favor, but in the end, no-body wins, only the children lose. make the difference by giving up the fight and giving them all that you can with what you have to work with. I am sending you and your children love and positive energy. Continue to carry the light. Do not let the courts take away your light.

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    Take care of yourself, Jagman. Sendin' it up for you. Bless.
    I'm so sorry about the late thank you Rahkyt. Your a good man and a trusted friend.

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    Feelin' your pain, Jag. Don't give up.

    EDIT: a lot of times I think people don't understand how hard it is for some fathers to be away from their children when the split happens with their mother. I guess we're supposed to be all hard-core. We have to be. But there is a heart inside that remembers their smell and sounds and has memories and wants so much to give and sacrifice for those little ones even when they can't.

    For all the parents who are away from their children, bless.
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    I don't know the feelings you are feeling, but I know it would tear at my heart.

    Someone mentioned making sure that your kids see a positive "face" and energy from you, and I think this is excellent advice. I suspect that what your ex is trying to do will backfire, and you're kids will all the more treasure your connection. Nonetheless, this will be hard, very hard, and I wish and hope the very best for you and your kids. Actually, I wish healing for your ex as well, because her hardened heart will only impede.

    Dennis


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    Many blessings, Jagman. I hope things are getting better now.

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    May the future bring positive energy and good news for you, jagman. Everything changes, and I believe things will change for the better in the near future.
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    Dear Jagman,
    Whatever you are confronting, think of the energy above you and let it lift you up and be part of the whole. You have our thoughts and good intentions.

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    Love to you Jagman... no other words suffice.

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