in the hearts of my friends
naste.de.lumina (14th July 2013)
That's a sweet answer, but it doesn't address your issue. Unless you you mean you want to be with your friends.
Your heart should know where you need to be, for whatever is next for you. Ask it before you fall asleep.
Until you get an answer, and you will.
You may spend time rehashing all the fearful components, but that will calm down if you persevere.
The fearful parts are all imaginary. But asking outside of yourself, you'll get more confirmation that they are real, than confirmation that they're not.
Fear aside, you can make your own choice. Don't let fear make it for you.
carnavas (13th August 2013), naste.de.lumina (14th July 2013)
Living in and traveling all over the US, this is a fantastic summation and a very insightful post... although I must confess I'm somewhat confused about the implied opportunity that the US offers to those who are financially motivated. The US is certainly not barren completely of financial opportunity, but the days of strolling into town with a shirt on your back, a couple pennies, and the necessary drive to become a millionaire (or even less ambitious) financially independent are nil and of an era long since gone.Posted by AriG (here)
Carnavas,Posted by carnavas (here)
İ really want to know your opinion
;t's been 13 years that my family has applied for usa.now they have responded and granted us visa and greed card but the question remains..
I think you summed it up with your Freudian slip. Not having ever lived in Iran, I cannot advise you regarding the differences, but I can tell you that the US is a false Republic, propped up by Oligarchy with a false economy. That is the big picture. On a micro level, you will find that this country is populated with primarily warm hearted and decent people. As in the case of all media reports, you only hear of the outliers, not the rule. Each state or region is almost a country in itself. You will find cultural, behavioral, social and economic differences based upon which state or region in which you choose to settle. For example, were you to choose coastal Louisiana, you would find a rich French heritage that permeates the culture. Head over to South Florida, and you will find a rich Latino/Cuban culture mixed with transplants from across the country and globe. Move over to the Carolinas and you will encounter the "old boys" network wherein old money and influence prevail with tones of English/Irish influence and head up to the Midwest and find no nonsense German/Scandinavian types with a no frills outlook and a crazy intense work ethic. LA? Ah, skip it. Its always 72 degrees there, the work ethic is absent as are the morals- it would violate your senses. Keep in mind that you have to get into the "heart" of the region to fully experience the culture. If you travel the major highways, the US looks like a boiler plate edition of the mini mall from hell.
Another big culture shock is that in the US, you are pretty much in a "sink or swim" environment. We have very few social protections and also being a Fascist nation, the corporations dictate your life and lifestyle. If you can assimilate into the corporate culture and play the game without losing your soul? You should do very well. Should you get sick, grow old, have a disability or be unable to meet your financial obligations? You could end up on the street. This is a disposable society and unfortunately, the corporate mindset has evolved to consider "human resources" part of the dispensable commodities.
You will also find that our culture has evolved to be uninformed, crude, crass, immoral, materialistic, etc. etc. It may contradict your values if you are of the Muslim faith.
If your only motivation is financial you might be happy here. If quality of life is your priority? Not so sure.
Hope this helps.
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carnavas (13th August 2013), naste.de.lumina (14th July 2013), risveglio (14th July 2013)
Thanks alot.fear is something to deal with. yeah I know in the end I'm alone to answer myself.but I just want different opinions and perspectives on living there so that I could have the biggest picture possiblePosted by markpierre (here)
That's a sweet answer, but it doesn't address your issue. Unless you you mean you want to be with your friends.
Your heart should know where you need to be, for whatever is next for you. Ask it before you fall asleep.
Until you get an answer, and you will.
You may spend time rehashing all the fearful components, but that will calm down if you persevere.
The fearful parts are all imaginary. But asking outside of yourself, you'll get more confirmation that they are real, than confirmation that they're not.
Fear aside, you can make your own choice. Don't let fear make it for you.
Thanks again my friends!
naste.de.lumina (14th July 2013)
not to be flippant but you could try flipping a coin! Heads you go Tails you stay.......when the coin comes up and says for example Heads (you go) and you feel great, you have your answer, if you feel like Maybe the best 2 out of 3 is the way to go, you still have your answer!! (stay)
My parents left Ireland to get married in Canada.....they had me and went back when I was 2......they spent the rest of their lives moving back and forth ....when I got married to a Canadian (having sworn I would NEVER do that to my kids...moving them back and forth all the time).....I ended up moving back to Ireland and my parents were still here in Canada......they were waiting to see if I would stay before they decided to come and live there again (missing their grandkids more than life itself) ......I had the idea that if we stayed my kids would grow up realize they had Canadian citizenship and move back to Canada so I thought I would preempt this move by moving back to Canada while they were still relatively young.......and of course when they got older they started talking about moving back to Ireland.....
One year when we were over on holidays for Christmas as my mother was crying and saying goodbye at the airport, she asked me 'Why are you doing this to us??" .......my auto response was ' Because you did this to your mother".........My point is, once you experience another country, unless you truly hate it, you will never be settled again......my parents are in their late 70s now and still talk about moving back to Ireland.
Its a tough decision especially with the possibility of war coming to your homeland......but its also very unsettling to leave the place you were raised in and love........Im probably not helping you here at all.....but wishing you the best either way!
carnavas (13th August 2013), naste.de.lumina (14th July 2013)