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    Default Thirteen Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

    Good and bad habits are developed over time, developing good habits takes a lifetime, maybe even a few lifetimes!

    Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.


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    1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
    Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

    2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power
    They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

    3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change
    Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

    4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
    You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

    5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
    Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

    6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
    They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

    7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past
    Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

    8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
    Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

    9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
    Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

    10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure
    Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

    11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time
    Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

    12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything
    Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

    13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
    Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.

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    Default Re: Thirteen Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

    Very balanced summery rgray222.

    And for once, this is a list that doesn't covertly promote service to self

    Only, maybe the "set them up for success in life" part, but in theory, this could mean anything, like setting up a community center to help the needy.
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    On the surface, in the mind's eye of the emotionally controlled and driven, in the un-clear, in the unenlightened --- sociopaths and the mentally strong people tend to look the same.

    Sociopaths appear to have it together but they lack emotional drive constraints that would have shifted and pushed them about..in ways that would have limited their intellectual reach and in that, no emotions creating and completing thoughts for them...and none of those conditions driving them off course. But they do retain the deeper self centered animalism.... less higher emotions of love, more instinctual fears and procreation drives. Thus their violence toward others and sexual drive orientation tendencies.

    The mentally strong live in a world where the emotions and the attachments exist, but they have done the internal work required to clear the emotional premise in thoughts that would shift them off course. They don't suffer from emotional self blanking, like those who try to emulate the sociopathic route to success. They work from a standpoint of emotional clarity and inner work completed.

    That is a huge and fundamental difference between the two. Each state has a form of clarity. A form of clarity that can look the same to the eye that has not the requisite clarity itself.

    The sociopath understands that the earth is overcrowded with people who emotionalize to the point that their intellectual self is stunted, and the emotions cloud attempts at reason, and that the emotional can be driven or herded/directed via manipulation in that area. To leverage those herd like aspects, to get what they want from the world.

    The mentally strong understand themselves and retain emotionalism, but they have worked through their emotional origins to the point that they understand those emotions and those emotions do not drive their thoughts. Their viewpoint on what the world is like (as a situation), is not at all that different than that of the sociopath. Their capacity to work through things, even very ugly ones, is not at all that different than that of the sociopath. Importantly, critically...the inner directive, the act involved and the final aim and results, can be and generally is entirely different than that of the sociopath.


    For example the ability to understand, to discern why Machiavelli, Nietzsche and Ayn Rand belong on the sociopath side of the equation. Even though that line is so unclear, in some ways and some analysis of components of their positions and thoughts. It is the overall direction that they go, as a final motion and act, in their very thoughts. To recognize the depth of service to self in their 'clarity'. That they may possess intellectual brilliance in some areas and moments, but not in their aspects of humanity and connection to it. In this thread here:

    https://projectavalon.net/forum4/show...668-iconoclast

    Why all three are figureheads and worshiped in some way, by the depth of blind sociopathy... the inhumanity that drives the current peaks of the republican and conservative...capitalistic minds of the west. The financiers, the military, the corporate, the government, the legislators, the academia, the black ops. How good people get lost in that mindset that is projected, not having the clarity of self to discern this all important difference. The sociopathy posing as humane clarity, that dominates those all critical areas of modern society.

    In all those branches of society and system, the sociopaths and the strong people of mental clarity mix with one another, as each has what it takes to reach that level of involvement. Another way to explain it is the mix of good and bad in the same spot, like the story of laurel canyon (one of a hundred ways to describe this phenomenon). That story is repeated in all of the 'hot spots' of human change and interaction in the layers that drive humanity's directions. The strong and the sociopathic gather in one given spot (hundreds of spots) as it is 'the place' where things happen.


    The trick is to not confuse a sociopath with an mentally strong person. To not conflate one with the other, when looking at a person, group, or given complex situation. To learn, to teach the self to look deeper.

    In order to that, one must work on the self, to become that mentally strong person themselves. Not via emulation,as that is just over stressing of the self without the fundamental internal self work (self clearing) being done. When the more clarified self is in place, then the complex situation that was there before, can then then clear itself,as the person looking at it is in a new mental state that allows for understanding the prior unclear and confusing situation. in a general sense, anything that is misunderstood, or not clear and seems complex and dense, difficult societal and cultural phenomena, like too many cattle being of the human race and motion, is generally a case of the self not being clear enough to begin discriminating the origins.

    If one wants and answer... one, as a vessel, must also be clear enough in mind and self to discern the data and the answer. Most importantly, intellectual development is fundamentally disturbed, shifted and stunted by overt emotionalism. That ...is a fundamental on how the body, as a carrier of intellect--works.

    The enlightened and awake... and the sociopaths... are engaged in battle, all over the world, in these given places and ways, as we speak.
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    Another example of people coming into clarity, is all the bizarro seeming threads that are started by people (on this forum and other forums), their new pet hobby horse of the moment, that is tied to their emergent awareness... as this emergent awareness travels through them, as they work and walk down the road of their own opening. enlightenment and opening of the self.

    It comes in stages. Most importantly, to understand that there is no termination point in it, that the human body can reach. If one is incarnated in a body, then it is life as a road to be traveled. If you are in a body, then it is a stage, part of the road, no final conclusions beyond that of the moment, only a constant hiccup of changing of states.

    Then to understand that it is the self that is either the grease of internal change, or the frozen plug.
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    Quote Posted by Carmody (here)
    Another example of people coming into clarity, is all the bizarro seeming threads that are started by people (on this forum and other forums), their new pet hobby horse of the moment, that is tied to their emergent awareness... as this emergent awareness travels through them, as they work and walk down the road of their own opening. enlightenment and opening of the self.

    It comes in stages. Most importantly, to understand that there is no termination point in it, that the human body can reach. If one is incarnated in a body, then it is life as a road to be traveled. If you are in a body, then it is a stage, part of the road, no final conclusions beyond that of the moment, only a constant hiccup of changing of states.

    Then to understand that it is the self that is either the grease of internal change, or the frozen plug.
    Hi Carmody

    Read your two post and I am not sure what you are trying to say as it relates to "the don'ts of mentally strong people"
    A little clarity please
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    Funny how everyone is an expert. But experts have one big problem - they do not understand the intent behind the words posted by others. They have no intuitive sense of the direction of another's thoughts, limiting themselves to the words written. I like how these strong people are not better at love, integrity, intelligence, ability or compassion, empathy and all the other high level characteristics of an advanced human. But it sounds oh so left-brained right many will agree.
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    Quote Posted by rgray222 (here)
    Quote Posted by Carmody (here)
    Another example of people coming into clarity, is all the bizarro seeming threads that are started by people (on this forum and other forums), their new pet hobby horse of the moment, that is tied to their emergent awareness... as this emergent awareness travels through them, as they work and walk down the road of their own opening. enlightenment and opening of the self.

    It comes in stages. Most importantly, to understand that there is no termination point in it, that the human body can reach. If one is incarnated in a body, then it is life as a road to be traveled. If you are in a body, then it is a stage, part of the road, no final conclusions beyond that of the moment, only a constant hiccup of changing of states.

    Then to understand that it is the self that is either the grease of internal change, or the frozen plug.
    Hi Carmody

    Read your two post and I am not sure what you are trying to say as it relates to "the don'ts of mentally strong people"
    A little clarity please
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    To be 'mentally strong', in the self, but potential pitfalls, false paths of getting there. To be mentally strong but not forcing the self to go there, to move into it as a natural state of having embarked on a journey.
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    Quote Posted by Carmody (here)

    The enlightened and awake... and the sociopaths... are engaged in battle, all over the world, in these given places and ways, as we speak.
    And the winner are those that accumulated the most JOY. If I may add.

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    Quote Posted by rgray222 (here)
    Quote Posted by Carmody (here)
    Another example of people coming into clarity, is all the bizarro seeming threads that are started by people (on this forum and other forums), their new pet hobby horse of the moment, that is tied to their emergent awareness... as this emergent awareness travels through them, as they work and walk down the road of their own opening. enlightenment and opening of the self.

    It comes in stages. Most importantly, to understand that there is no termination point in it, that the human body can reach. If one is incarnated in a body, then it is life as a road to be traveled. If you are in a body, then it is a stage, part of the road, no final conclusions beyond that of the moment, only a constant hiccup of changing of states.

    Then to understand that it is the self that is either the grease of internal change, or the frozen plug.
    Hi Carmody

    Read your two post and I am not sure what you are trying to say as it relates to "the don'ts of mentally strong people"
    A little clarity please
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    It is related we just tend to put limits where there shouldn't be like we put limits and standards in the normal society. And that limit is clearly visible even in the so called alternative community. And that limits and standards are what the elites wants to instill on us.

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    An idea of mental strength as selfish as this will destroy humanity if it becomes the dominant selective process into the future. ( in my opinion )

    Humans are nothing if they are not a community. A community is mentally broader than even the strongest individual, and rightly so. Mental "weaknesses" are very fruitful states of mind too, and as part of a human community, they contribute plenty.
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    If anyone.......ANYONE.... manages to make it to the point of getting honest and real with themselves without hitting the reset button,
    or have failed miserably at accumulating ideas and baggage and material stuff that'll have to lose it's value anyway, they've done really well.
    I personally will greet them with their medal for courage.

    Compare relative strength with unlimited strength and see if you can find relative strength on the graph.
    Compare anyone at all, with anyone else at all, for any reason at all, and I've stopped listening.
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    Beware of contempt for weakness in the disguise of mental strength and perfection...

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    Default Re: Thirteen Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

    This is tied to the discussion at hand:

    The Neuroscientist Who Discovered He Was a Psychopath
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    Default Re: Thirteen Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

    Quote Posted by Carmody (here)
    Another example of people coming into clarity, is all the bizarro seeming threads that are started by people (on this forum and other forums), their new pet hobby horse of the moment, that is tied to their emergent awareness... as this emergent awareness travels through them, as they work and walk down the road of their own opening. enlightenment and opening of the self.

    It comes in stages. Most importantly, to understand that there is no termination point in it, that the human body can reach. If one is incarnated in a body, then it is life as a road to be traveled. If you are in a body, then it is a stage, part of the road, no final conclusions beyond that of the moment, only a constant hiccup of changing of states.

    Then to understand that it is the self that is either the grease of internal change, or the frozen plug.
    Great observation - never thought of it clearly like that but I do agree. In fact any of us who have posted anything "original", that is to say their own words and processing - rather than cut and paste, would be doing that then: perhaps also including you, me and heaps of other people on this forum.

    I know that I personally have found myself posting stuff and this very act has advanced my own views and understanding.
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