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    Are You A Safe Person? 8 Indicators

    Dr. Les Carter = DRC

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    Would others consider you trustworthy, reliable, and personable? In other words, are you a safe person? Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter breaks down the difference between unsafe people and safe people.

    Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 39 years he has conducted over 60,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.
    Eight Traits of an Unsafe Person:
    1. Unsafe people don't receive or digest input very well.
    2. Unsafe people can be highly defensive with strong barriers up.
    3. Unsafe people blame and accuse.
    4. Unsafe people aren't really inclined towards intimacy.
    5. Unsafe people operate with a tightly maintained agenda.
    6. Unsafe people are very slow to forgive, if they forgive at all.
    7. Unsafe people can't say “I'm sorry.” They can't say, “I was wrong.”
    8. Unsafe people use one-up, one-down communication.
    Eight Traits of a Safe Person:
    1. Safe people are approachable, especially in disagreements.
    2. Safe people want to learn from their mistakes.
    3. Safe people are transparent. (authenticity, i.e. internally and externally consistent)
    4. Safe people genuinely like to connect.
    5. Safe people affirm and encourage.
    6. Safe people have a generally agreeable manner.
    7. Safe people manage anger cleanly.
    8. Safe people are reliable. You can count on them.

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    Why Empaths Fall For Love Bombing
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    In all my days I have only felt safe around a handful of individuals. Those criteria of 'safe' people are exactly the types that are not safe. So I must assume that this is mostly a subjective stance at best. Yes the 'safe' people are easiest to be around. Yes 'safe' people will have your back as long as you tow the line. But, and this is a massive but, they are the first to turn on you for whatever reason they concoct because they themselves never feel safe and never trust anyone. It is in the nature of the 'safe' person to always question, to always look for anomalies, and to never let anyone get away with anything. that is the opposite of 'safe'.

    And while the unsafe person may have vested interests, that's okay because so do the 'safe' people. The difference is that the 'unsafe' person is known to have them and admits it while the 'safe' person denies they have such tendencies.

    So, in all my years I have had a handful of absolutely 'safe' friends and none of them were 'safe' people. Yet these same 'unsafe' people would have laid down their lives for me just as I would for them. In their presence I was completely safe.

    Go figure

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    How to deal with being held hostage at the THANKSGIVING table
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    she is so right.... thanks for posting this...

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    How Do Narcissists REACT When IGNORED
    11/25/19
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    ( Some new to me, useful info. I just had an experience with a narcissist's "flying monkey", a first for me. )

    "No matter the reason WHY you're ignoring a narcissist they are definitely going to notice and react to what you're doing.
    There's several different ways they choose to react and this is a list of those possibilities so you can KNOW what's coming!
    This will be ESPECIALLY helpful if you're contemplating no contact."

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    When You Unmask a Covert Narcissist, RUN, But Quietly! Counterfeit Relationship, Narcissism Expert
    May 30, 2016
    Ross Rosenberg
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3an9crV9feM

    "In this video, I explain the very complicated and dangerous undertaking of protecting yourself when you uncover/unmask a covert narcissist and the dysfunctional relationship they trick you into. Because of their manipulative nature and the fact that they are often respected and even adored by others, taking them on directly is big mistake.

    Ross Rosenberg's latest book, The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018) and his personal development, seminar, workshop and other services can be found at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com or www.HumanMagnetSyndrome.com.

    Ross Rosenberg’s work on codependency, narcissism, trauma, Self-Love Recovery™, and his "Codependency Cure™" has earned him international recognition. He owns Clinical Care Consultants, a multi-location Chicago suburb counseling center, and the Self-Love Recovery Institute. He has traveled to 30 states and twice to Europe to present his workshops. Ross's first book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome" sold over 50K copies and is published in French, Spanish and soon in Czech. His latest Human Magnet Syndrome book, a complete re-write of the first, is available on February 1st. Ross’s 7 million video views/68,000 subscribers YouTube platform has established him as global phenomenon.

    Ross owns Clinical Care Consultants, a counseling center located in Arlington Heights and Inverness IL. .

    Ross's articles at http://goo.gl/XEVxgE "



    I can see why Rosenberg says covert narcissists are the worst kind, and they are dangerous.
    I think there can be real demonic possession involved.
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    Knowing Narcissism. Crucial Information about Narcissistic Personality Disorder
    Ross Rosenberg
    Jul 8, 2015

    ( Excellent explanation of how narcissism comes about and how it operates--therapeutic for the victim of the narcissist who is still angry and hurt.
    Also, the difference between healthy and unhealthy narcissism.
    Empaths are typically most vulnerable to narcissists, and prone to be overly compassionate, which can get us into trouble, but I think it helps to understand the narcissist's dilemma while also keeping boundaries intact, and I found this sensitive description of the narcissists' inner worlds to be illuminating.
    Lingering nger and fear aren't pleasant feelings for a narcissist's victim, but understanding can help to dissipate those feelings, as well as enlighten one as to how to recognize and avoid narcissists or even help them, if that is possible.
    So much info about narcissists is expressed in such a ridiculing and even hostile manner--it's good to have a sense of humor about such a serious subject and not be naive, but also good to remember they are severely damaged and suffering beings, even if their masks make it so that's not immediately obvious, and that they are extremely difficult to help, if not impossible.)

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