Posted by Bill Ryan
(here)
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Hi, All:
A quick note here. I've taken the last few days away from the forum, and have been working on other things. (Life goes on outside the Avalon Forum - as some but not all members may be aware!)
Regarding the subject of the thread, very few people understand how this works. Andy's 'poll' is naive. There are many more options.
For 6 months now we have been asking people to apply before joining the forum. We take the applications (and the process) very seriously, and a lot of applicants are denied. The new mods and I have worked carefully on the message we send them. (In Richard's day it was far more brutal.)
Sometimes we make a mistake, and when someone gets back to us with a genuine plea for acceptance and reconsideration, we all look at that person again.
Manny will not mind my mentioning that he applied three times (or was it four?). We've all learned a lot from Manny. And I say that seriously. I love the guy.
Sometimes we ask for more information, and the applicant writes more, answering our questions. And sometimes we just say "no thanks", in the nicest way we can. We take the job very seriously, and the mods spend much more time considering applications than you would ever believe. (New mods
Donna and
Karelia will confirm.)
The point is this. I would like everyone (especially you, Andy), to understand this.
- We look over everything we can find about the information someone provides.
- We look at their posts on other forums to see their style, their mindset, their values, and their attitude.
- We look at their blogs and websites.
- We look them up on the net (and you'd be surprised what we find sometimes).
- I check the 150,000 e-mails I've kept since 2006 to see if they've ever written to me before, and if so, what they said and why. (Ace will confirm this, yes?)
That's how proud of this community we are. That's how much we care. Believe me, if we did not do this, the environment would be like Godlike Productions.
So. Listen up.
Sometimes we make a mistake. The criterion is:
After a certain number of new member posts on the forum (maybe 10, maybe 100, maybe even 1000), we ask ourselves this question (and we can do this at any time):
If we'd known [... fill in this gap with anything you like ...] about this person when they first applied -- would we have invited them?
If the answer is No - then they are often uninvited. We're just correcting our error.
It's that simple. Nothing really to do with forum guidelines. It's to do with considering their application retrospectively.
Certainly nothing to do with nation-states or constitutions. This is not a public place. It's a private gathering, by invitation only. JFK's admirable rhetoric does not apply.
If you don't like this restaurant, just go and find another one. It's cool. If you hate the place (or its owner

), why did you come here anyway?
Moreover, if you look like you're going to wreck the joint when all we want to do is provide our guests with some wonderful nourishment, then we may throw you out. And we have the right to do that. Period.
And: it's not really about 'rules' that are broken. (Andy, we know that you have been really careful not to break any rules or breach any guidelines - it's interesting to watch!)
It's about whether, if we'd had the gift of precognition when you applied, would we have accepted you.
And we leave you with that question to ponder. It's really about intentions.
Not nearly so much about the words: words are just one of many clues about what the communicator's intentions really are. There are
many ways to read people.