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Originally Posted by Antaletriangle
I don't mean to appear self righteous but i have applied level 600 several times to individuals who i've taken in when i had my house-some actually respected my efforts in housing and feeding them for free and a couple took the time and effort to trash my house after i had spent time on refurbishing it,new yacht varnished floors etc etc.
This occurred over several years with different folk.
What i am trying to say is i agree to the paragraph that you posted and i also feel it's wise to understand that when two people are concerned there's sometimes an alternative view from the subjects.
i.e. the Old guy on the street corner maybe looking at you with either opportunist eyes or with compassionate eyes,sometimes how the subject is viewed can mean nothing at all if the subject (old guy) has alternative agendas or feelings because it's always a two way street.
You may also be viewed by the old chap as either a victim or a victor in life.
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How do you help someone without hurting them? How do you help someone without them hurting you? The answer is to not look up to anyone...or look down on anyone. Don't help people...and don't harm them. Treat everyone alike. Live and let live. Don't pre-judge. When you 'help' someone...there is the implication that you are superior and they are inferior. They may hate you for this. They may attempt to steal from you or harm you to get more out of you because they think you are a sucker or because they hate you. There are obviously exceptions to these crude rules. Giving someone a job may be one exception. Then you give them an oportunity to regain their sense of self-worth or 'pride of earnership'. Work = Worth. We are supposedly trying to 'help' the Iraqi people. How many Iraqis and Americans(and others) have died so far...or have been horribly injured? How much money has been wasted on this crusade? I once asked a Native American shaman what the U.S. should do to assist his people. The answer was 'leave us the f*** alone!'