Name Three Good Things About Yourself

[Valerie Villars]

I was listening to public radio yesterday and the host was talking about how people have been conditioned not to think well of themselves. Most will readily name all the faults they have, but have to be coerced into naming any good qualities they have. So, the exercise was; Name three things good about yourself.

Please do. I think it would be a worthy exercise in acknowledging positive things about ourselves without feeling like we are bragging.

Just name them with no justification or explanation. I think it would be interesting to read and very cathartic.

I am:

Brave

Strong

Compassionate

[dynamo]

1) good listener
2) "working" leader ("Team, let's do this", as opposed to "Team, do this")
3) humanitarian

[shadowstalker]

Patient
Good listener
Loving

[wnlight]

I am
intelligent,
caring, and
strong willed but can listen

I was a mathematician and computer software contractor for years and had to present myself in the best light. My only concern was that I might begin to believe half the personal good things that I claimed. :-)

[Bruno]

I am
kind
patient
and brave

[Daughter of Time]

I am:

Fair

Loyal

Understanding

[Bill Ryan]

I'd like to offer this, if I may, maybe from a slightly different viewpoint. :)


I rescue all living things if I can, whether large or extremely tiny.
I drive extremely carefully. (In Ecuador, I have to!)
I take very good care of myself physically. I feel I owe that to a lot of people out there.
:)

[Noelle]

Courageous
Empathetic (even for some on the dark side)
Kind

[Mike]

I think I'm okay. I'm beginning to like myself a little more as I get older..

- I'm very patient (might be my best quality)
- I do actually listen to people now. I'm pretty good at it. It's a skill I'm proud of. I wasn't always like that.
- I'm pretty good while under pressure.

Good thread, Val!

[Chanie]

I am...

Kind

Stoic

Practical

A teacher once told my class that if she were in a lifeboat in the middle of the ocean, she’d want me in her lifeboat.

[WhiteFeather]

Patient
Humble
Teachable

[Mark (Star Mariner)]

Faithful
Determined
Conscientious

[Bill Ryan]

Now, if we had just a little bit of clever software, we could match these all up and start a dating agency. :)

:focus:

[Michelle Marie]

LOL :bigsmile: Funny, Bill!

1) Sensitive/empathic/caring
2) Accepting
3) Builder (of creative work meant to help humanity)

MM

[EthanSmith]

Kind
Strong
Healthy

[Valerie Villars]

Ya'll are too funny and amazingly wonderful. Keep them coming. :sun:

[A Voice from the Mountains]

Three good things:

1) I'm alive.
2) I'm healthy.
3) I have a hot cup of coffee.

Feeling good about it too. :)

[Arak]

Intelligent
Inspiring
Resilient

[Sunny-side-up]

Had to use your first example Bill

I rescue all living things if I can, whether large or extremely tiny.

I'm fully awair I have short commings and not as good as I really won't to be.

I step in and look out for the weak underdogs.

I think we here are all to one level or another the examples so far

[Orph]

I don't cuss unless cussed at first.
I'm potty trained. (I always put the toilet seat down).
I'm a good example to children. (I always hear parents tell their kids: "Please, don't grow up and be like him").

[Michi]

This reminds me about a great story I read many years ago. It goes like this:


The Good List - Author Unknown

One day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name.
Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about Each of their classmates and write it down. It took the remainder of the class period to finish the assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.
That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual.
On Monday, she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. "Really?" she heard whispered. "I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!" and, "I didn't know others liked me so much," were most of the comments.
No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on ...
Several years later, one of the students was killed in Viet Nam and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so mature.
The church was packed with his friends. One by one, those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin. The teacher was the last one to bless the coffin. As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her. "Were you Mark's math teacher?" he asked. She nodded: "yes." Then he said: "Mark talked about you a lot."
After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher.
"We want to show you something," his father said, taking a wallet out Of his pocket "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it."
Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of Notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him.
“Thank you so much for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark treasured it."
All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, "I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home."
Chuck's wife said, "Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album."
"I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary"
Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out Her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. "I carry this with me at all times," Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: "I think we all saved our lists"
That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends who would never see him again.
The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be.
So please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are special and important. Tell them, before it is too late.

[Valerie Villars]

Devplan, what a beautiful story. I remember being stunned when the man I love told me that a letter I had written him many years and many relationships ago, had been the nicest letter he had ever gotten. It was about why I loved him and it profoundly had a major impact on his life. He still has that letter. He saved it all these years.

To be more precise (as I just remembered) he said it was the most beautiful letter he had ever received.

[Daozen]

3 positive qualities from Ignatius J Reilly:

1) "Employers sense in me a denial of their values.' He rolled over onto his back. 'They fear me. I suspect that they can see that I am forced to function in a century I loathe. This was true even when I worked for the New Orleans Public Library.”

2) “I avoid that bleak first hour of the working day during which my still sluggish senses and body make every chore a penance. I find that in arriving later, the work which I do perform is of a much higher quality.”

3) “I recommend Batman especially, for he tends to transcend the abysmal society in which he's found himself. His morality is rather rigid, also. I rather respect Batman.”

https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/3049.John_Kennedy_Toole

[Valerie Villars]

You need to read "Managing Ignatius". If you don't have it, p.m. me your info and I will find some cheap, shabby copy via that monstrous organization called "amazon" to send. My treat.

[Celeste95]

I am intelligent.
I am compassionate.
I am open-minded.

[onawah]

I am courageous
I have a good sense of humor
I am sensitive

[Bluegreen]

I'm good with grammar
Punctuation not so much
I can spell anything
A-N-Y-T-H-I-N-G
See?
Izzat three?

[Patient]

patient (of course)
courageous
optimistic

[David Trd1]

Compassionate
Integrity
Curious

[Omni]

Irreproachable.
Dedicated.
Altruistic.

[Justplain]

I love my poor little body.

I love my family.

I love Mother Earth.

I love the Eternal + Infinite Great Spirit.

[Valerie Villars]

I see your personalities and they are tickling me. Thanks and keep them coming.

[Ol' Roy]

I love family and friends! (Some of which are on Avalon)

I love nature and try to take care of it as best I can!

I love my dogs!

[Wind]

Just some years ago it would have been really hard for me to describe any good parts about myself, now it is easier for me appreciate myself more.

I am

- A good listener
- A person of integrity
- Highly compassionate

[cecilmeyer]

The only beings I do not are flies and mosquitos....only because they cause so much suffering man and animal. although I take no joy in ending any beings life.

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I think I would rather have others tell me what good qualities I have because I have an biased opinion!

[starlight]

What a great exercise, Val! Sometimes the compliments that mean the most come from ourselves. :)

I am:

empathetic/understanding of everyone's extremely different journey in life
loving to any and all animals
curious- I never stop wanting to learn MORE

[AutumnW]

Fabulous good looks
Amazing personality
A very humble nature

[Daozen]

You need to read "Managing Ignatius". If you don't have it, p.m. me your info and I will find some cheap, shabby copy via that monstrous organization called "amazon" to send. My treat.

You would do that for me? Wonderful. I will buy 5 meals for the next 5 homeless people I see.

[Valerie Villars]

You need to read "Managing Ignatius". If you don't have it, p.m. me your info and I will find some cheap, shabby copy via that monstrous organization called "amazon" to send. My treat.

You would do that for me? Wonderful. I will buy 5 meals for the next 5 homeless people I see.

Oh my God. Of course I would. You just bought the biggest smile to my and the next five homeless people, ever.

It's really funny. A really good book.I know the whole scene. i came of age in the Quarter in the 70's. Ignatius is smiling in Heaven.

Well, I mean when he isn't being cynical about the age we live in. :sun:

[pyrangello]

I did a reverse here first. I asked my wife to name 3 about me? Her 3 describing me were sweet,caring,and lovable.

Now it's my turn

Charitable for those needing a hand up
Champion. For all living creatures of the earth
Passionate. For all the beauty this world has to offer

[snoman]

Now, if we had just a little bit of clever software, we could match these all up and start a dating agency. :)

:focus:

my ass
my bank balance
my playfulness :)

[ceetee9]

I'm good enough
I'm smart enough
And doggone it, people like me

Sorry, I couldn't resist. Stuart Smalley was the first thing that came to mind when I read this thread topic. ;)

[Valerie Villars]

I just loved poor little Stuart. :bigsmile::bigsmile::bigsmile::bigsmile::bigsmile::bigsmile::bigsmile::bigsmile::bigsmile:

[jagman]

I'm a protector of the weak.

I save lives.

I'm a great athlete.

[Valerie Villars]

Jagman, for some reason your post really touched me. Have a great day.

[Earth Angel]

oh wow this made me cry.......maybe because today is the 29th anniversary of my youngest brothers death....I saw the post here and thought 3 good things about myself.....god that's hard......yet if you asked me to do that for anyone else it would be so easy.....an important lesson we all need to learn, self love.....its what this planet needs more than anything, once we can love and embrace ourselves we will stop seeing the bad in others as this is all just a reflection of the things we hate about ourselves and I believe that is the answer to all our problems.....so I will try this .....

I am funny
I am quite psychic
I am very caring and loving (to a small group of people as fear keeps my circle small)



This reminds me about a great story I read many years ago. It goes like this:


The Good List - Author Unknown

One day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name.
Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about Each of their classmates and write it down. It took the remainder of the class period to finish the assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.
That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual.
On Monday, she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. "Really?" she heard whispered. "I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!" and, "I didn't know others liked me so much," were most of the comments.
No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on ...
Several years later, one of the students was killed in Viet Nam and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so mature.
The church was packed with his friends. One by one, those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin. The teacher was the last one to bless the coffin. As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her. "Were you Mark's math teacher?" he asked. She nodded: "yes." Then he said: "Mark talked about you a lot."
After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher.
"We want to show you something," his father said, taking a wallet out Of his pocket "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it."
Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of Notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him.
“Thank you so much for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark treasured it."
All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, "I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home."
Chuck's wife said, "Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album."
"I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary"
Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out Her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. "I carry this with me at all times," Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: "I think we all saved our lists"
That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends who would never see him again.
The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be.
So please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are special and important. Tell them, before it is too late.

[Valerie Villars]

Earth Angel, I know how hard it is to lose someone you love. Peace.

[Ernie Nemeth]

Creative, master of improvisation, empathetic

[Cardinal]

Love this! especially the dating software suggestion.
I am

strong (emotionally)
a tactical thinker
available ;-)

[Valerie Villars]

I think many of us have a good sense of humor. :star: Keep em coming.

[what is a name?]

Ok Valerie can I make my wife the 'object of attention' and in doing so, what it brings out of me?

She is compassionate, which makes me more understanding

She is delicate, which makes me protective

She is Feminine, which makes me.....the list is too long but it always ends with a smile :happythumbsup:

[Valerie Villars]

Of course you can. It's about acknowledging positive qualities and err................positive other things. :thumbsup:

[Valerie Villars]

@Daozan I just reread "Managing Ignatius" which I ordered right after I made my offer to you and received yesterday. It's a great book and a very, very accurate depiction of the insanity of the Quarter back in the day. The insanity's still there, just the wild west aspect has taken a turn toward way too weird for weirdness sake instead of weird because people are being genuine kind of a thing.

I had loaned my copy to an ex restaurant manager who never returned it. Damn, I have a thing about books. They are on loan. Please return.

Anyway, the offer still stands. It's an outstanding read.

[MinImLi]

I'm ...
Giving, to a fault.
An empath.
Exceptionally loyal.

[Valerie Villars]

I'm ...
Giving, to a fault.
An empath.
Exceptionally loyal.

Welcome, MinImLi. :handshake:

[Olam]

I and I, am.

:wink:

[Antagenet]

1. Charismatic Looks
2. Creative Genius
3. Open Heart

Sounds like an amazing combination, huh?
Well after 60 years of being envied, hated and punished for having "everything"
It's almost tempting to want to be ugly,stupid and weak.

so in answer to the other thread, is humanity worth saving
I'd say,
some yes. some no.

Gurdjieff got it right. those who work hard to develop a spiritual self live on,
the others utterly die and completely dissapear.

[Valerie Villars]

Antagenet, I'd say you have a fourth (way) good thing also......you live tax free. I'm down with that and for that one, I'd forsake the other three.

[Madeira]

1) Adventurer
2) Work well under pressure / danger
3) Charmer ( my wife says she's always been surprised how I never noticed, oh well...)

[Valerie Villars]

1) Adventurer
2) Work well under pressure / danger
3) Charmer ( my wife says she's always been surprised how I never noticed, oh well...)

And modest. :flower:

[Innocent Warrior]

Magical
Authentic
Conscientious

I read this to my friend

I rescue all living things if I can, whether large or extremely tiny.
and said “who does that remind you of?” and he said “yeah but I don’t envision him getting as stressed out about it as you do, like when you’re getting ants off caterpillars”. :blushing:

...delightful thread, Val. :flower:

[Valerie Villars]

Care is a good thing. I've been known to rescue earthworms who get "caught" on hot pavement.

[onevoice]

I am:
Compassionate
Peaceful
Diligent

Thanks for the great thread, Valerie.

[Valerie Villars]

My niece, who is 13, and two of her friends spent the night last night.

I was in the house doing chores as she and her two friends were talking. She said something. I asked her to repeat what she said.

She said "I think ya'll are the best generation."

I swear to God she said that. She's 13. I'm 56.

Here's to our generation. :cocktail:

[Mari]

Empathic
A very good listener
An ability to see all the many sides of a coin.....which can be a real pain!

And yes, Valerie, I too rescue little critters....my forte are snails who are foolishly crossing the pavement in front of me on wet days. My whole walking - to - work experience threatens to be taken up with scooping up all the little brats as I go along, but after the 10th snail or so, I just give it up as doomed exercise. There are so many of the damn things...!

[Valerie Villars]

:sun:
My whole walking - to - work experience threatens to be taken up with scooping up all the little brats as I go along,

:flower:

[Davidallany]

Three good things.
1. I can change opinions based on new information that invalidate older information.
2. I think about the future and reflect, like a lot.
3. I try as much as possible to find myself in others, including other creatures and things.

[Caliban]

My niece, who is 13, and two of her friends spent the night last night.

I was in the house doing chores as she and her two friends were talking. She said something. I asked her to repeat what she said.

She said "I think ya'll are the best generation."

I swear to God she said that. She's 13. I'm 56.

Here's to our generation. :cocktail:

I think we're the last generation, Valerie --- if you know what I mean.

[Valerie Villars]

My niece, who is 13, and two of her friends spent the night last night.

I was in the house doing chores as she and her two friends were talking. She said something. I asked her to repeat what she said.

She said "I think ya'll are the best generation."

I swear to God she said that. She's 13. I'm 56.

Here's to our generation. :cocktail:

I think we're the last generation, Valerie --- if you know what I mean.

Maybe. I don't know until I live it. I hope not. I really do love us humans. Really.

[Caliban]

My niece, who is 13, and two of her friends spent the night last night.

I was in the house doing chores as she and her two friends were talking. She said something. I asked her to repeat what she said.

She said "I think ya'll are the best generation."

I swear to God she said that. She's 13. I'm 56.

Here's to our generation. :cocktail:

I think we're the last generation, Valerie --- if you know what I mean.

Maybe. I don't know until I live it. I hope not. I really do love us humans. Really.

C'mon Val, metaphor babe ;)

I meant we're the last gen to grow up without all this stuff. We had a lot of dirt, crappy mattel toys and a hella imagination. That's what I meant...to mean.

[Valerie Villars]

My niece, who is 13, and two of her friends spent the night last night.

I was in the house doing chores as she and her two friends were talking. She said something. I asked her to repeat what she said.

She said "I think ya'll are the best generation."

I swear to God she said that. She's 13. I'm 56.

Here's to our generation. :cocktail:

I think we're the last generation, Valerie --- if you know what I mean.

Maybe. I don't know until I live it. I hope not. I really do love us humans. Really.

C'mon Val, metaphor babe ;)

I meant we're the last gen to grow up without all this stuff. We had a lot of dirt, crappy mattel toys and a hella imagination. That's what I meant...to mean.

And that's exactly what I told my niece, Caliban. Exactly what I said to her.

[conk]

3 things about me:

1. I always try to do the right thing.
2. I am not good at math.

[petra]

1. I'm against torture
2. I'm reliable
4. I'm not greedy
3. I'm funny too

[Valerie Villars]

Love you all. You're a funny crew. :flower:

[Valerie Villars]

Since this is my thread and I can say whatever I want, I will.

Rachel calling me Val in another thread, prompted this post.

I am absolutely tickled that almost everyone on this forum reverted to my nickname and just call me Val.

It's my thread and I can say what I want. Ya'll make me smile.

[Valerie Villars]

4) I am not insane.

5) I have good taste in music.

That's five for me.

[Valerie Villars]

I was asked very kindly by a member to change my avatar, as the other one I had, of Lady Godiva, had bad connotations for them. I found a fairly recent photo very quickly to upload. I may change it later, but for now this is what it is.

[Valerie Villars]

Did you know that public defenders in Louisiana, though mandated by federal law, are not considered government employees and therefore are not subject to having any government "perks" or even a 401K?

I just found this out this evening from a good friend, whose husband is a public defender.

However, anyone working for the District Attorney's office IS considered a government employee.

In other words, those who prosecute for the government get governmental perks and protection, but those who defend the poor and indigent, do not.

[Caliban]

Did you know that public defenders in Louisiana, though mandated by federal law, are not considered government employees and therefore are not subject to having any government "perks" or even a 401K?

I just found this out this evening from a good friend, whose husband is a public defender.

However, anyone working for the District Attorney's office IS considered a government employee.

In other words, those who prosecute for the government get governmental perks and protection, but those who defend the poor and indigent, do not.

Dismaying but why should that surprise you Val? Just goes to show you that "the people," especially the poor, are deemed outside the circle, and those that defend them only a notch or two above them. Remember the West Memphis 3 ? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/West_Memphis_Three


I just watched the Paradise Lost trilogy https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paradise_Lost:_The_Child_Murders_at_Robin_Hood_Hills What a heartbreaker that story was, though it did have a bitter-sweet ending. Eighteen years in prison with no evidence against them. Oh, they listened to Metallica. And wore black. And were trailer park kids from broken families. Jason Baldwin, the younger of that trio, was quite an amazing young man, as I learned. And he is now helping those in similar situations to himself -- http://proclaimjustice.org/about-us/ Very inspiring.

[Angels1981]

I am good at public speaking
I am very bold
I am an excellent photographer

~I needed to do this .

[Valerie Villars]

:welcome:

I think we all need to do that Angel.

[Rosemarie]

Hello Valerie. Just saw this old thread.
This will sound so old school. ( the first one )
1. I am a good mother. My children are growned up, but I really think one of my purpouse in life was to be a good mother, loving them and guiding them until they could go their own way and be good human beings. Now, from aside I continue nurturing them when needed
2. Problem solver/ proactive
3.-resilient

[Valerie Villars]

Thanks Rosemarie, you made me smile. :)

"Smile a little smile for me, Rosemarie". Beautiful name by the way.

[TelosianEmbrace]

1. I care. I just want everyone to be happy, to live in a world of peace, harmony, truth and abundance. I want this with all my heart.
2. I know. i know that the global transformation will happen, because I am here.
3. I believe. I believe in everyone. I know that I won't be able to help them all, but I do know that eventually they will all make it back Home.

Thanks, Valerie.