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dynamo
30th June 2018, 11:51
June 29th, 2018
By Wes Annac (https://karmayogadaily.com/)
Guest writer for Wake Up World (https://wakeup-world.com/2018/06/29/embrace-the-shadow-self-your-dark-side-misses-you/)


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What should you do when you experience a spiritual awakening in which you realize reality is an illusion, everything is connected, and you’re slowly evolving on a mental, physical, and spiritual level? It’s lot to take in, and what you do afterward (https://karmayogadaily.com/2017/08/22/awakening-action/) is crucial.


You have a few options; some that will take you higher and some that will stall your spiritual growth indefinitely. You can, for example, start behaving in a way you assume is more “enlightened”. You can try to be positive every second of every day in hopes that your forced good mood keeps you in harmony.


You can go straight to social media, proclaiming to the world that you’re #woke and telling everyone to just stay positive (despite the very real hardships people go through every day). This will work for a while. You’ll feel like a #woke warrior with a high vibe and an unshakable spirit. If something goes wrong, you’ll tell yourself to just think positive; that it will all work out if you avoid negativity and refuse to get upset, and don’t think about what upsets you or bums you out. Just be positive.

But constant positivity only goes so far.

Before too long, something will feel amiss. Your curious mind, which led you to awaken in the first place, will continue questioning things. This will include your newfound philosophy. You’ll continue to deeply examine life and the “you” living it until you discover an inherent flaw in your previously infallible belief in positivity; for most of us, that flaw is that despite our incessant love and positivity, we still feel sad. We still get angry. We still get weak and succumb to the world’s temptations. That dark side of us we thought we transcended is still intact, and it begs for our attention.
This is where self-honesty becomes important. If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll explore those negative feelings and consider that they have a role to play in your life. If you’re not, you’ll think you’ve simply failed to be positive for a few moments and push yourself right back onto that self-destructive path.


Don’t stop being positive.

I don’t recommend giving up on positivity altogether, because it’s good for you. It’s healthy to look at the positive and the negative. Personally, if I didn’t see both sides, I’d either be in denial or miserable and depressed.
To focus only on positivity is to bury your head in the sand regarding the problems in the world and in yourself. You’ll feel good, but you’ll be blissfully unaware of these issues that desperately need your attention. This is the opposite of being awake. But if you focus only on the bad and decide that positivity in any form is naïve, your world will turn dark quick.
“If you’re trying to stay high then you’re bound to stay low.” – Matisyahu (1)
Give yourself permission to be positive, optimistic, and hopeful. But don’t ignore the world’s problems or abandon your dark side for the sake of staying emotionally high.
You have a choice when you first “wake up”. You can tell the world how awake you are and insist we all stay positive; or, with meditation and introspection, you can silently contemplate your shortcomings and the role your dark side can play in catalyzing spiritual growth. I know the latter option doesn’t sound too fun. The concept of endless happiness and bliss is much more appetizing. In chasing endless happiness, however, you avoid a fundamental aspect of the evolution of mind, body, and soul: the shadow self.


What is the shadow self?

Let’s learn a little about this part of ourselves we fight to ensure never reaches the surface.
According to Mateo Sol at Loner Wolf (https://lonerwolf.com/), Carl Jung created this now well-known archetype to describe a fragment of our unconscious comprised of all that negativity we repress because we think it’s bad for us.
Soul work, Mateo writes, inevitably makes us aware of the darker aspects of our psyche.
“If you’re truly honest about self-exploration during your soulwork journey, you will come across many aspects and traits about yourself that you will find difficult – if not completely disturbing – to accept.” (2)
Carl Jung, he writes, was led by reading spiritual scriptures to create the “Archetypes model”.
“In the domain of psychology, renowned psychologist Carl Jung devoted a lot of thought to this problem of the ‘Shadow Self’, being deeply invested in the research of ancient esoteric knowledge and spiritual scriptures to not only treat the mind of man, but his soul as well.
“In response to his serious preoccupation Jung created the Archetypes model, a concept wherein he believed our unconscious minds are fragmented or structured into different ‘selves’ in an attempt to organize how we experience different things in life. Two of Jung’s major Archetypes are The Persona and The Shadow Self.” (3)
Mateo describes the persona and the shadow self:
“… The Persona, according to Jung, defines what we would like to be and how we wish to be seen by the world. The word ‘persona’ is derived from a Latin word that literally means ‘mask’, however in this instance the word can be applied metaphorically, representing all of the different social masks that we wear among different groups of people and situations.
“On the other hand, the Shadow Self is an archetype that forms part of the unconscious mind and is composed of repressed ideas, instincts, impulses, weaknesses, desires, perversions and embarrassing fears.
“This archetype is often described as the darker side of the psyche, representing wildness, chaos and the unknown. Jung believed that these latent dispositions are present in all of us, in many instances forming a strong source of creative energy.” (4)
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The mask is here to stay.

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In my opinion, the persona is unavoidable to an extent. We all wear a mask. We all have this side of us tied to the ego that doesn’t want to be embarrassed or humiliated and just wants to fit in. The world could certainly use more authentic people, but I don’t think we can or should remove the mask entirely. The problems come when we latch onto the mask and forget about the shadow self or the unconscious altogether.
One way we become reattached to the persona after a spiritual awakening is by insisting on being positive and refusing to see the negative. We decide one day to never take off the mask and let our hurt show. In this way, an awakening can unfortunately lead to the opposite of what was intended.


Instead of exploring our unconscious, which is our link with the other side, we abandon it. By adopting false positivity, we cling to the persona and push the shadow self ever deeper until it’s forced to erupt just to get our attention.


Spiritual bypassing.

This suppression is known as “spiritual bypassing (https://wakeup-world.com/2017/08/16/spiritual-bypassing-we-need-to-hurt-in-order-to-heal/)” or using spirituality as a reason not to explore your subconscious because of the demons that lurk deep below. Confronting these demons is the chief purpose of a spiritual awakening, and the fact that it’s often used not to do this is a little ironic.
Jordan Bates at High Existence describes spiritual bypassing, citing psychotherapist Robert Augustus Masters:
“In the early 1980s, psychologist John Welwood coined the term ‘spiritual bypassing’ to refer to the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid confronting uncomfortable feelings, unresolved wounds, and fundamental emotional and psychological needs.
“According to integral psychotherapist Robert Augustus Masters, spiritual bypassing causes us to withdraw from ourselves and others, to hide behind a kind of spiritual veil of metaphysical beliefs and practices. He says (http://realitysandwich.com/74388/spiritual_bypassing/) it ‘not only distances us from our pain and difficult personal issues, but also from our own authentic spirituality, stranding us in a metaphysical limbo, a zone of exaggerated gentleness, niceness, and superficiality.” (5)
The purpose of this “exaggerated niceness (https://wakeup-world.com/2015/06/18/being-too-nice-can-contribute-to-depression/)” is to separate ourselves from those negative feelings that will eventually come to the surface anyway. Tragically, some people genuinely believe that to let these feelings in is to stray from their path. They try their hardest not to acknowledge anything negative.
This constant positivity keeps you in the shallow end of the mind, stopping you from diving deeper, finding the monsters at the bottom, and kicking their asses (metaphorically, of course). When you finally acknowledge them, everything changes.


Spirituality: not for the faint of heart.

Since I like to cite spiritual teachers in my writings, let’s hear from a few about the harshness encountered on the spiritual path and why we should be open to it. It turns out there’s no shortage of guidance on the inevitability of struggle and the ways in which it can help you become a better “you”.
According to Bernadette Roberts, this journey is not for the faint of heart.
“This is not a journey for those who expect love and bliss; rather, it is for the hardy who have been tried in fire and have come to rest in the tough, immoveable trust in ‘that’ which lies beyond the known, beyond the self, beyond union, and even beyond love and trust itself.” (6)
One challenge, she writes, is the dissipation of the ego and subsequent descent of the “cloud of unknowing”.
“In experience, the onset of this process [of God-realization] is the descent of the cloud of unknowing, which, because his former light has gone out and left him in darkness, the contemplative initially interprets as the divine gone into hiding.
“In modern terms, the descent of the cloud is actually the falling away of the ego-center, which leaves us looking into a dark hole, a void or empty space in ourselves. Without the veil of the ego-center, we do not recognize the divine; it is not as we thought it should be. …
“From here on we must feel our way in the dark, and the special eye that allows us to see in the dark opens up at this time.” (7)
St. John of the Cross affirms that the spiritual path contains plenty of “darknesses and trials”.
“The darknesses and trials, spiritual and temporal, that fortunate souls ordinarily encounter on their way to the high state of perfection are so numerous and profound that human science cannot understand them adequately; nor does experience of them equip one to explain them.
“He who suffers them will know what this experience is like, but he will find himself unable to describe it.” (8)
Brother Lawrence encourages introspection after an awakening.
“When we enter upon the spiritual life, we should consider and examine to the bottom what we are.
“And then we should find ourselves… subject to all kinds of misery and numberless accidents, which trouble us and cause perpetual vicissitudes in our health, in our humors, in our internal and external dispositions; in fine, persons whom God would humble by many pains and labors, as well within as without.
“After this we should not wonder that troubles, temptations, oppositions, and contradictions happen to us from men. We ought, on the contrary, to submit ourselves to them, and bear them as long as God pleases, as things highly advantageous to us.” (9)
Your demons become your allies when you embrace and work to heal them. You no longer worry that the universe is punishing you and instead take responsibility for your role in your struggles. When you ignore and avoid them, they grow and grow until they become your most formidable opponents.
They’re easier to deal with if you confront them early on when they have less power over you, but their power grows if you continuously ignore them. They slowly take over, demanding you do what would’ve been far easier in the beginning.


Conclusion.

The plain truth is that you can’t run from the “negative” things that form the individual and collective shadow self. Nor can you run from the struggles on your path. You’re a spiritual being, but you’re also human. Your dark side is a natural part of the human experience, and struggle is a natural part of life.
Suppressing or ignoring them is not.
You can get to the heart of this ‘beast’ within you by letting it surface and figuring out what (besides the fact that it’s natural) caused it to form. Then, positivity will arise naturally when the moment calls for it; as will anger, sadness, disappointment, and all those other feelings we don’t prefer. The difference will be that instead of pushing them back down, you’ll feel them, learn their lessons, and let them go. This is evolution.
Let the process flow naturally instead of clouding it with forced positivity, and you’ll enjoy true, authentic happiness and spiritual growth.

Sources:


“Matisyahu – King Without a Crown Lyrics”, Lyrics Mode (http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/m/matisyahu/king_without_a_crown.html).
Mateo Sol, “Shadow Self: Embracing Your Inner Darkness”, Loner Wolf (https://lonerwolf.com/shadow-self/).
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Jordan Bates, “10 ‘Spiritual’ Things People Do That Are Total Bull****”, High Existence (http://highexistence.com/10-spiritual-bypassing-things-people-total-bull****).
Berandette Roberts, The Experience of No-Self. A Contemplative Journey. Boston and London: Shamballa, 1985, 13.
Bernadette Roberts, “The Path to No-Self” in Stephan Bodian, ed. Timeless Visions, Healing Voices. Freedom, CA: Crossing Press, 1991, 131.
Kieran Kavanaugh and Otilio Rodriguez, trans. Complete Works of St. John of the Cross. Washington: Institute of Carmelite Studies, 1973, 69-70.
Brother Lawrence, The Practice of the Presence of God. Mount Vernon, NY: Peter Pauper Press, 1963, 22.

Recommended articles by Wes Annac:


Respect Nature – Don’t Bite The Hand That Feeds (https://wakeup-world.com/2016/10/06/respect-nature-dont-bite-the-hand-that-feeds/)
Love Rebels, Unite! (https://wakeup-world.com/2016/05/28/love-rebels-unite/)
Mushroom Magic: The Psychological and Spiritual Benefits of Psilocybin (https://wakeup-world.com/2016/12/17/mushroom-magic-the-psychological-and-spiritual-benefits-of-psilocybin/)
Can Cannabis Enhance Our Spirituality? (https://wakeup-world.com/2016/02/20/can-cannabis-enhance-our-spirituality/)
Karma Yoga: Enlightenment Through Service to Others (https://wakeup-world.com/2018/03/27/karma-yoga-enlightenment-through-service-to-others/)
5 Obstacles on the Spiritual Path (https://wakeup-world.com/2015/09/12/5-obstacles-on-the-spiritual-path/)
5 Attachments to Release on the Path of Enlightenment (https://wakeup-world.com/2015/06/25/5-attachments-to-release-on-the-path-of-enlightenment/)
Music: The Language of Spirit (https://wakeup-world.com/2018/01/22/music-the-language-of-spirit/)
Out-Of-Body Experiences: Is It Really Possible to Leave the Body? (https://wakeup-world.com/2017/01/14/out-of-body-experiences-is-it-really-possible-to-leave-the-body/)
Higher Consciousness and the Power of “No-Mind” (https://wakeup-world.com/2016/12/05/higher-consciousness-and-the-power-of-no-mind/)

About the author:
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Wes Annac: I’m a twenty-something writer and blogger with an interest in spirituality, revolution, music and the transformative creative force known as love. I run karmayogadaily.com (https://karmayogadaily.com), a daily news blog dedicated to igniting a revolution of love by raising social and spiritual awareness.

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Mercedes
30th June 2018, 13:53
In the evolution of our soul, how can we differentiate between our very own dark and the dark of those who lurk in our minds to makes us be and do for their own purpose?

Ernie Nemeth
30th June 2018, 14:26
That is the point - there is no one else...you think and act as you believe you are. That is the great benefit of the shadow - it is the gift of you to you. It is not the thing to despise but the error that creates the space to despise. All the characteristics that you wish weren't you are relegated to this thing, the shadow - and all the areas that you wish were you too.

You are All that. If you believe you are not then you cast a shadow. Children of Light throw no shadow. They dispel the dark because that is all it is - a spell cast by magnificent beings unaware of their own magnitude.

Mercedes
30th June 2018, 14:37
Thank you Ernie Nemeth, and by strange synchronicity I found this in my mail:

https://www.weareinfinite.love/blog/we-are-the-remedy


It's by George Kavassilas

DNA
30th June 2018, 14:56
I've often thought the approach to enlightenment most of the time was/is fraught with unrealistic wishful/positive thinking used to mask one's less attractive character traits. I'm of the opinion most of our core traits are not things we can enlighten away.

I'm of the opinion it is far better to spend a little time introspectively understanding who you are, and by that I mean understanding what is you and what is planted in you through upbringing and brainwashing.

Excising and exorcising false paradigms takes not a little while but is surely worth it in my opinion.

Not taking your opinions for granted and truly examining them until you understand what is truly you and what is not you.



Good luck to all, a very worth while endeavor in my opinion. :sherlock:



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tja6_h4lT6A

turiya
30th June 2018, 15:32
Therein lies the false paradigm that lay as the basis in the belief of there being two evolutionary paths of consciousness - Service to Others (STO) vs Service to Self (SOS). There are not two separate paths. You can say there is only one path, or better yet - there is no path.

In other words, Service to Self (STS) is Service to Others (STO). No need for separation.

Ernie Nemeth
30th June 2018, 15:35
George is a good one.

Just wanted to emphasize the most important point that may have got lost in the narrative:

We create the space from where our enemies attack us - by ignorance and denial. We are creative beings; we always create. We either create consciously or we create unconsciously - depending on where our awareness is at...

Like DNA said with different words.

By the way, I was just having a talk with my shadow self this morning...I try and engage it at least once a day. It is starting to get antsy again and I have been warned to make good on my promise to integrate more of it into my daily life - or else. I am momentarily stuck because I do not remember what I promised it in exchange for a more satisfactory existence with less interference and trauma.

dynamo
30th June 2018, 15:50
Posted many times before, but a good analogy, IMO, is the image below.
Simply put:

https://i.pinimg.com/originals/c6/d7/c4/c6d7c418017590ec04e87a7002a592fa.jpg

DNA
30th June 2018, 16:03
When you find someone who is bossy, demeaning, overly critical and basically a sadist in so far as there interpersonal relationships with others are concerned, I find it helpful to know and realize that for every mean and nasty thing you see someone saying or doing to others realize that there is a voice inside their head doing 10X the damage to this person internally.
How we relate to others is a reflection of how relate and treat ourselves.

We are energetic beings and our energy can be stolen and taken through actions that lower our self esteem and cause us to devalue ourselves. Most of this behavior (in my opinion) is archon related and the more the archon is allowed to maintain control of the personality the more internal damage it does to the host person.

Turiya and Dynamo both made me think of this with their most recent posts.

Ernie Nemeth
30th June 2018, 16:27
DNA.

I see it as you can't see anything other than what you are. If you see archons, there is archon-sciousness in you. If you encounter bossy, nit-pickers there must be that inside you.

At work there are days when I am in the flow and I can charge 2 hours of labour for what suddenly only takes half an hour. Yet if I should get snagged up by a rusty bolt or incorrectly wired circuitry my focus collapses. I find my focus is hard and unyielding. If I were to soften the edges, to allow for inconsistencies, to roll with the punches as it were, I might find a more happy medium and an easier road, for example.

It is including the unwanted that creates harmony and grace.

DNA
30th June 2018, 17:03
DNA.

I see it as you can't see anything other than what you are. If you see archons, there is archon-sciousness in you.


There is absolutely archon consciousness inside of me. I know it's voice and I know it's favorite mechanism for draining energy from me. I've grappled with it and found it to be nearly an invincible foe. I've spent years living the life of a solitary monk with the sole purpose of identifying what voices from within are my own and which are not.

I've exercised great discipline in holding the archon at bay and using the energy it normally consumes to activate other senses that normally lie dormant. I finally decided to re-connect with human relationships and upon doing so I've found I can minimize the archon manifestation but there is no defeating it, ever. If you let up in the discipline necessary to hold it at bay it returns, but there is a certain satisfaction and peace in knowing the difference between yourself and this outside voice masquerading as your own.

We are all born with an archon attachment, I've seen it in every person I've ever met.

If you think you are living an archon free life due to your superior understanding it almost always means you have simply never taken the time to recognize the difference between it and yourself.

For the most part, the negative shadow consciousness talked about by Jung is in fact the archon attachment.

Ernie Nemeth
30th June 2018, 17:16
Yes, I remain heedful of the archon threads but find I cannot participate in them. It is too disruptive to me. And I understand the meaning, as above, that that which I resist has a place within me.

As an aside, some long gone member once sent me a blind link to a thread, the horus ra one I think, where I was exposed to a recounting of a child abuse scenario. I do not read such travesties and suffer them poorly. But it did trigger me and I had to do battle I was ill prepared for. Eventually I recovered...

GaelVictor
30th June 2018, 19:28
One of the biggest traps of the "new age" movement and people who want to
see only the "good" in themselves and others;

Forgetting to face the darkness and
dissolve the resulting blokkades in their psyche.

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The complete advice..

Zak247
30th June 2018, 22:40
The persona sounds like a version of Freud’s ego ideal. To illustrate, popular entertainment has turned the ego ideal of many modern men to want to be James Bond, which has caused many of them to get caught up in the me-too movement.

Stanley Kubrick to me was a master of informing us of these social ego ideals given to us by popular entertainment and social interaction. This is one reason many people castigate modern rap music( gangsta rap) that gives urban children the desire to be anti-social or to be proud of it.

Relating to spirituality, these shadow personalities are illusions and are the impermanent self or selves Buddha refers to often. Here, by illusion, I mean temporary. They’re all social and psychological constructs

Here’s the problem…
When we forget spirituality is a science of cultivation, a science of transformation, and that most of the time it involves a period of time to succeed, we can get lost in the deception of our own ego or vanity. And also, that any kind of religious piety is for you, not God.

So an individual does his meditations, his prayers, goes to his religious services( maybe Yoga) as they should and they can tend to become self-righteous and think that they are better than others.

What they have done is basically repressed the shadow self and ego inspired personas and taken on a very well known persona of the self-righteous religionist. Such a one often can be worse than a gangster when all that shadow filters through the repression.

One way to alleviate this bad habit is through self-examination. See and acknowledge the deceptive shadows in yourself and devise intelligent ways to cultivate positive traits to counter or transmute them

But be careful
For remember what the teacher Jesus said, Give unto God what is God’s and give unto Caesar what is Caesars

boolacalaca
1st July 2018, 18:00
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If you haven't integrated your shadow
it comes out in ways you don't expect, dis-integrated.
It comes out as an autonomous spirit under no one's control.
You either have the shadow or it has you.
When the shadow is integrated, you are no longer
someone to whom things happen,
you become someone that makes things happen.

Zak247
1st July 2018, 23:21
One thing about the shadow self idea is that it’s probably not wise to distance oneself from their shadow self as if it’s some kind of distant entity apart form you.

The fact is this shadow self is YOU.

All the accumulated dross of negative personality, delusion, illusion, self-deception, that the Fallen world has socialized and psychologized and internalized with yourself.

You can’t kill it, or divorce yourself from it like you divorce a mate or lose a friend.

It can be transmuted, integrated, dissolved somewhat by hard work on oneself.

XelNaga
27th November 2018, 10:27
38404

If you haven't integrated your shadow
it comes out in ways you don't expect, dis-integrated.
It comes out as an autonomous spirit under no one's control.
You either have the shadow or it has you.
When the shadow is integrated, you are no longer
someone to whom things happen,
you become someone that makes things happen.

boolacalaca,

do you mean, the shadow will become something like a thought-form, working against us?

Johan (Keyholder)
27th November 2018, 12:03
Welcome XelNaga! I hope you'll enjoy your stay here.
This is a very interesting thread indeed.


What is your idea concerning "the 5th Obstacle on the Spiritual Path", as stated by Wes Annac, https://wakeup-world.com/2015/09/12/5-obstacles-on-the-spiritual-path/

"5. Loneliness (i.e. the absence of people to share our spirituality with)
Being a spiritual seeker can often be lonely, because some of us are the only ones in our area who embrace spirituality or the various concepts that come with it. This might be different for people in western states like California, where there are a lot of ‘conscious’ people with various beliefs, but a lot of spiritual seekers are alone in their knowledge, their awareness and the way they feel about life.

This can discourage us from making progress, because there are plenty of people around us who’ll talk about trivial, cultural things all day long. It never feels good for a spiritual seeker to take part in mundane discussion, because they’ve begun to tap in to the secrets of the universe and this quickly becomes their only interest.
Can you imagine having all these thoughts and feelings about enlightenment, UFOs, meditation, etc. burning deep within, but all anyone around you wants to talk about is the debt ceiling or everything wrong with the liberal or conservative parties? It can be maddening, and if we subject ourselves to too much nonspiritual influence, it can slowly take hold in our subconscious. Before we know it, our minds are once again on all those trivial things we wanted to get away from and we have to start the process of personal liberation back over again."


How do we act on this in the "best" way?

petra
27th November 2018, 17:46
DNA.

I see it as you can't see anything other than what you are. If you see archons, there is archon-sciousness in you. If you encounter bossy, nit-pickers there must be that inside you.

At work there are days when I am in the flow and I can charge 2 hours of labour for what suddenly only takes half an hour. Yet if I should get snagged up by a rusty bolt or incorrectly wired circuitry my focus collapses. I find my focus is hard and unyielding. If I were to soften the edges, to allow for inconsistencies, to roll with the punches as it were, I might find a more happy medium and an easier road, for example.

It is including the unwanted that creates harmony and grace.

"archon-sciousness"... ha ha, that's really funny

I often times feel like I'm two people. Sometimes maybe even three!

"you can't see anything other than what you are" is a beautiful way of putting it (I tie this into "Realms" of consciousness)

The thoughts in my head once said to me: "you can't help what you are", and I found that to be kind of reassuring, but it's equally possible that thought was intended to trick me. Maybe I CAN be anything I want to, after all. If I get to choose what to re-incarnate as, I'm coming back as a plant :P

XelNaga
27th November 2018, 18:07
Welcome XelNaga! I hope you'll enjoy your stay here.
This is a very interesting thread indeed.


What is your idea concerning "the 5th Obstacle on the Spiritual Path", as stated by Wes Annac, https://wakeup-world.com/2015/09/12/5-obstacles-on-the-spiritual-path/

How do we act on this in the "best" way?

Brother Keyholder,

Not sure if you asked me, but I hope you don't mind my answer to this question.

I know exactly what is meant by that "spiritual loneliness", as I have, as many others I believe, personally felt that. It has been approximately 10 years since I started my spiritual journey, or as some might have, since my "awakening".

It was really hard for me, for the first couple of years. Every time when I learned something new, interesting or helpful, by my very nature I always wanted to share that knowledge with everyone. And in, lets say, 95% of time, I would be ridiculed, laughed at, made to feel like a fool/idiot, by people very dear to me to whom I only wished for the best. In time, it all started to make me feel just like they were thinking about me, like I'm an idiot or moron for being interested in things like that. Almost all my friends were focused only on couple of things: night clubs, easy girls, drugs/alcohol, and of course making money. My family is completely not interested in spirituality as well, which was even more painful, so to speak.

But later I've learned one of the most import lessons of that time: freewill! It is theirs freewill to live in blindness, it is theirs freewill to focus on meaningful things instead of our future and our true selves, our purpose in life etc. As much as I would like to share something with them, I realised that I will only do them harm when all I want is to be of service to them.

So the path became really lonely, and I started spending more time with myself then with other people, because our interests were far different. Now I have only a couple of friends who I spend time with, and don't mention anything of this kind of topics to my family and colleagues unless they ask something, or show some interest.

Our teacher and brother Buddha once said: "if you have no sincere friends to walk your spiritual path with, than it is best to walk it alone", or something similar to that :-)

And, just to add this: if material side of life is just a game, and spiritual side is our real life, then, who cares if you are alone or not, play it like any single-player game out there, and when it's game over and you switch off your console, your family and friends will be there, in real and important part of life, waiting for you to show them how many levels you have passed :-)

PS: sincere apologies for this rambling, mistakes (as English is not my native language), and for using "I" waaaay toooo much :-D

petra
27th November 2018, 18:57
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Our teacher and brother Buddha once said: "if you have no sincere friends to walk your spiritual path with, than it is best to walk it alone", or something similar to that :-)

And, just to add this: if material side of life is just a game, and spiritual side is our real life, then, who cares if you are alone or not, play it like any single-player game out there, and when it's game over and you switch off your console, your family and friends will be there, in real and important part of life, waiting for you to show them how many levels you have passed :-)

PS: sincere apologies for this rambling, mistakes (as English is not my native language), and for using "I" waaaay toooo much :-D

The whole posting is beautiful to me - this part especially

I remember thinking "The more truth that I tell, the more people think I am lying"

Jesus said not to cast pearls before swine, and although that's kind of offensive to pigs, I think I get the point. What might be a pearl to me, might be a self destruct button for someone else.

James
27th November 2018, 23:01
I know a few folks that ooze money in semi-predictable intervals to whatever cause seems to catch them at the right moment. And not because they're empathetic to the particular cause, but because they need to lose a little guilt. They feel burdened with their excesses and shave a little off the top to lighten the load so they can enjoy their upcoming trip to Costa Rica.

I'd hardly consider them "service to others," even though they're paying to feed 200 refugees in Uganda, or funding the charity that equips Mr. Harris with a new mobility scooter.

Maybe they're like the mother that needs to serve herself before she can serve her children, with guilt replacing maternal instinct as the mechanism?

I sponsored an event once and deeply undercut everyone else also having nearby events that evening, rendering them unable to compete - but - I gave 10% of my profits to a food bank, keeping a good chunk of what was left for myself. Was I serving myself, others, or both - and if both - where did the sliding scale rest at? 60% others and 40% self? Or something else?

Someone phone the arbitrator!

Andre
28th November 2018, 01:13
Therein lies the false paradigm that lay as the basis in the belief of there being two evolutionary paths of consciousness - Service to Others (STO) vs Service to Self (SOS). There are not two separate paths. You can say there is only one path, or better yet - there is no path. In other words, Service to Self (STS) is Service to Others (STO). No need for separation.

Unless I misunderstand the statement above, this philosophical viewpoint feels very similar to the old New Age notion that "we are all one" and strikes me as being yet another form of spiritual bypassing (as explained elsewhere in this thread). While it may be true that there is no STS or STO or much polarity in the higher realms, this is not the case in 3D which operates under very specific 3D laws where polarity of all kinds is very real and is all around us. Polarity in 3D cannot be treated as an "illusion". It is simply another form of denial to assert there is no STS or STO, good or evil, positive and negative, etc. If someone confronts me with a gun in an alley and that person is full of hatred, I cannot pretend there is no STS present in that situation. I have to acknowledge this person's mental state and do my best to extricate myself from the situation. While feeling that there is no STS present in that situation may calm me, it may also get me killed because I am in a state of denial! Learning to deal with these polarities in 3D is one of the reasons we incarnate here in the first place.

mindbend8r
28th November 2018, 08:46
I agree with your post, but the question would be how far do you take the darkness in you that you feel. To have the thoughts in you of the darkness and to acknowledge them and feel them is one thing but to act out on them is a different story. What if the darkness in you contemplates murdering someone to deal with it inside yourself and try to reconcile with yourself the truth that this is the dark side of you and face it and overcome it within yourself is one thing, but what if the darkness compels you to act out and it overcomes you. What if you enter the darkness and cant escape. You can become the darkness. So I think I can understand why people would be afraid to explore their dark side, cause if confronted maybe they don't know what they would do, so they fear it and maybe rightfully so....

Mike
24th February 2019, 16:42
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Flash
24th February 2019, 16:53
Therein lies the false paradigm that lay as the basis in the belief of there being two evolutionary paths of consciousness - Service to Others (STO) vs Service to Self (SOS). There are not two separate paths. You can say there is only one path, or better yet - there is no path. In other words, Service to Self (STS) is Service to Others (STO). No need for separation.

Unless I misunderstand the statement above, this philosophical viewpoint feels very similar to the old New Age notion that "we are all one" and strikes me as being yet another form of spiritual bypassing (as explained elsewhere in this thread). While it may be true that there is no STS or STO or much polarity in the higher realms, this is not the case in 3D which operates under very specific 3D laws where polarity of all kinds is very real and is all around us. Polarity in 3D cannot be treated as an "illusion". It is simply another form of denial to assert there is no STS or STO, good or evil, positive and negative, etc. If someone confronts me with a gun in an alley and that person is full of hatred, I cannot pretend there is no STS present in that situation. I have to acknowledge this person's mental state and do my best to extricate myself from the situation. While feeling that there is no STS present in that situation may calm me, it may also get me killed because I am in a state of denial! Learning to deal with these polarities in 3D is one of the reasons we incarnate here in the first place.

I see the ego, which is part of the shadow when left to itself, as a beautiful horse that one is riding. At first, the horse is nervous, goes in all directions, resist, throw his rider down to the ground, sometimes even injurs it by kicking it, and with time and practice, the real Self get the horse to obey to its commands. And the horse starts riding beautifully, with its rider (Self) controlling the path they are going forwards to.

While the horse is in its infancy of domestication, the Self has to be tougher and gentler at the same time, in order to tame the horse. Then the rider can start sharing desires and wishes with the horse, etc etc.

This means that the dark side of us cannot be put into action, but the resistance, the kicking, the nervousness, the hatred of the rider, etc. has to be put processed, understood, admitted (not repressed) and the pain going with it processed consciously too, into a frame that works without destroying anything. One cannot have great powers with any hatred still in their heart - as the higher up often do hatred in their heart coupled with powers - otherwise destruction and misery for the planet and all in/on it is insured.

Mike
24th February 2019, 17:04
"If you’re harmless you’re not virtuous - you're just harmless - you’re like a rabbit; a rabbit isn’t virtuous, it just can’t do anything except get eaten! That’s not virtuous. If you're a monster, and you don't act monstrously, then you're virtuous."
-Jordan Peterson

This quote by Peterson sums it up nicely for me.

So many people hide behind their virtue to avoid fearful or uncomfortable situations.

But true virtue involves engaging your inner monster (or "shadow"), acknowledging it in all it's horror, and having the strength of character to decide to be ethical despite it.

This concept of embracing the shadow is really a simple one, but has caused quite a bit of confusion. Embracing the shadow doesn't mean acting upon all our basest instincts, it simply means acknowledging them...not repressing or judging them. And then, after nodding to them, making a better decision.

I think we judge the human race a little too harshly sometimes. We wake up each day, walk outside, and things are generally ordered and pleasant. It's a miracle that things aren't totally anarchic! It's taken us thousands and thousands of years to get to this point, so don't take it for granted!

All people are capable of the absolute worst on any given day, and occasionally we'll get a Hitler or a Stalin or (fill in the blank). But for the most part, people keep their shadows in check. It's really quite remarkable.

We live in a relative world; nothing has meaning without it's opposite. That's what the shadow provides. This is my understanding anyway.

enfoldedblue
24th February 2019, 17:13
I wrote an article on this for Wake up World a few years ago

or some, what I am about to share might seem radical, ridiculous, or even crazy, and for others will appear self-evident. I feel compelled to actively put it out there because I feel in many respects it is a crucial key to shifting our reality; the more people who take it to heart, the better our collective outlook will be.

At an early stage in my journey I became aware of the fact that each human is in fact a fractal of the whole. Deep within the vastness of our being we each contain every essence, every type of energy from the most sublimely divine to the most wickedly depraved. Initially when this realisation came to me it was quite abstract and there was a distance between me and the idea. However, as I explored the deeper regions of my being I found myself coming face to face with aspects that showed me that this was not just some faraway concept, it was a hardcore reality.


The more I explored my inner world the clearer it became that we implicitly contain every energetic expression. I realised that there was nothing that I could see in my outer world that was not in essence a part of me. Initially I was frightened by the understanding that I contained such dark and horrible pieces. Did this mean that I was evil? I didn’t want to be evil. Those guys out there are sociopaths, I am not a sociopath; I would never do those things, perpetrate those acts. On some level I feared that if I allowed myself to accept the dark aspects, I would become them. The only sane, good option it seemed was to leave them unclaimed; to reject them. However, as I explored these uncomfortable parts of myself it eventually occurred to me that it was actually possible to ‘own’ these parts without choosing to enact them. After all I am a sovereign being with the ability to decide what actions I deem worthy of expression. I could claim all my dark, ugly bits, bring them into conscious awareness, and still choose to operate from a space of love.

Casting Out The Dark

As young developing humans most of us learn to reject ‘undesirable’ aspects, to repress them in order to feel comfortable with our selves, and to ensure acceptance in our social group. We select what we are, and what we are not. In order to elucidate I will use the most basic example: I am light, I am not dark. However, if we are truly a reflection of the whole, then we should contain everything, even darkness. In rejecting and ‘disowning’ our dark parts we cast them out. But where do they go? I suspect this energy, cast out of our inner world, manifests in our external reality.

Rejected as part of the whole, thrown away from love, these elements seek to be re-integrated. They show up everywhere in our environment waiting for recognition. We perceive them as threats, and try to fight or ignore them. This doesn’t work; it only exacerbates the problem and reinforces the dualistic state caused by the self-imposed separation. If we recognize that external reality is a reflection of our inner state, it becomes clear that it is important that we take responsibility for our energy. In order stop adding to the problem we need to cease focusing so much on the outside and do some inner housekeeping. By healing our inner world, through acknowledgement of all that we truly are, we take responsibility for our energy and cease contributing to the darkness of our outer collective reality.

In order to illustrate my point I will use an analogy of a gardener. Imagine each of us is a gardener who has been gifted with the responsibility of managing every seed in existence. As this gardener we become aware that there are some seeds that develop into beautiful food and flowers. We value these seeds and carefully plant and nurture them. However, we also believe that some seeds grow into nasty weeds. Fearing the potential of these seeds we don’t want to be associated with them so, like most other gardeners in our world, we toss them away into the wind. ‘This is not me I want nothing to do with these seeds.’ These unclaimed, unmanaged seeds end up everywhere and thrive and threaten to dominate our environment. No one is willing to take responsibility for these plants. ‘No, I would never plant such a seed; this plant has nothing to do with me. It must just be the nature of reality.’

If instead we accepted responsibility for ‘owning’ the whole gamut of seeds, we could cease contributing to the communal problem. As a wise gardener we would not toss the potentially dangerous seeds away, we would do the opposite, aware of their power, we would keep them close by, where they could be kept in check and managed responsibly.

Continuing on with the gardening analogy, when we stop fearing the seeds that we allowed to get out of control through neglect and mismanagement, we might discover that judging them as weeds may have been rash decision triggered by fear and misunderstanding. If instead of pushing away the dark seeds, we chose to look at them more closely, we might discover that they have valuable qualities and attributes that we were previously unaware of. When tended and cultivated consciously, with understanding and awareness, we might find that their growth can actually have benefits for the whole.

“Like colours to an artist, there is no good or bad, the whole spectrum is available for expression. The darker colours are necessary to add depth, and when used appropriately, with awareness of the whole, are vital components of the emerging beauty.” ~ Jump Into the Blue.

Acknowledging The Wholeness

The more of us who assume responsibility of our own darkness, the less truant energy will be available to continue to animate the dark story that has been unfolding on this planet. Are we ready to stop being irresponsible gardeners dominated by unconsciously driven manifestations? Are we ready to stop placing the blame ‘out there’? Are we ready to own all that we truly are and stop denying our accountability? Are we ready to become custodians of our reality, acknowledging the wholeness of our being, so that we can consciously determine which elements we want to cultivate in our external reality? Rather than working to repress, fight, and deny some of what we are, let’s become mindful co-creators, nurturing and guiding a peaceful world based on love and beauty in full awareness of all that we are.

There are many approaches to begin exploring our inner world and integrating our shadow aspects. Carl Jung, a pioneer of shadow work, wrote much on the subject, and there are many great books and healers that teach strategies to facilitate the process. However, the most important attributes of initiating inner healing include being open, and willing to look at oneself as honestly as possible. A lot of my personal work takes place in meditation or in the bath. However, with certain challenging aspects I worked with a soul retrieval practitioner. She held space, and assisted me to connect with, and create an opening in my heart for some of my more stubborn, hidden, or sneaky parts.

The beauty of this work is that, not only does it contribute to healing our collective reality, it also creates powerful shifts on a personal level. When we face and integrate our fears and all our bits that we previously avoided, we find a new level of inner peace, solidity and wholeness.