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thepainterdoug
23rd January 2019, 18:35
I recently lost two people in my life, not real close but within my circle . One, a fellow hockey player , cop, who took his life, and a bartender working at my friends restaurant found dead in his car , foul play , possibly drug related. one 55 and the latter 40

Did these people wake up one day and know it was their last? I have many times , and again now ponder this since hearing the news.

Do we all take time to review where we are at today, this very day ?
Is your house in good order?

I ask myself , if it was my last day, would it be 50% as I would wish? 75- 80 % ??

just some thought for airing out

blessings all

doug

Mark
23rd January 2019, 18:42
There is no end, but there are certainly some things that I still want to do, to have in order before this particular experience of the eternal journey ends.

Sunny-side-up
23rd January 2019, 19:06
WoW big question.

Within myself yes I could pass easily.

But because of loved ones, wife, step daughter (she basically my daughter) her 3 year old and twins at 6 months.
well that is more than enough to keep me here for others.

As a servant to others, well there is never an end to that.

I have many, many things I wish I hadn't done but have come to terms them.
I know they can never be put right, but just lived with and never do again.

I'm free basically, many wonders yes, but I'm knowledgeable enough to know what is going on in this realm now.

I am at peace with my self.

Mike
23rd January 2019, 19:51
Hi Doug, sorry for your losses! i lost a couple people that were pretty close to me too relatively recently. i just got off the phone with a friend who was strangely cold and unsympathetic about those losses, but has recently had a cat die on him ..and he can't understand why the entire world isn't stopping to mourn with him. it's astounding. people are strange.

anyway, my house is far from in order. my Dad just had a birthday, and it awoke something in me - i finally realized that he's on the home stretch, and i better do something soon if i want the old man to be proud of me. that may sound silly to some, but at heart i'm still a young kid looking for Dad's approval.

i'd like to publish a book and see it on the bookshelf of a barnes and noble..the K's need to be bolstered - there is no one representing the K's. that would be good enough for me. i'd likely weep with joy. i wouldnt need much more than that

avid
23rd January 2019, 20:12
When my folks died 7 months apart, the paperwork was horrendous, despite a pretty good filing system my Mum instigated. So much stuff, many trips to charity shops, auction houses, caseloads of family history. I moved into their home, as my relationship ended, so I have inherited all the family history stuff as brother didn’t want it. Plus all my own stuff from my downsizing move. After 3 years still trying to unpack, get rid. I certainly don’t want my son to have to deal with my mountains of paperwork, even though I’m fairly organised.

My goal is to rationalise everything to just what I need, no hoarding. Bit of a worry as throwing out family pictures - the guilt, but have scanned best ones. My plan chest full of my design work - ah well...

Otherwise, I am ready to go. House finished. No debts. A new adventure....

RunningDeer
23rd January 2019, 20:44
Sorry for the loss of your buddies, Doug. https://i.imgur.com/Wfi0NBS.gif

When I see something needs changing I change it. My house is in order. It frees up my energy to strengthen innate skills that’ve atrophied. So my experience is the synchronicities continue to speed up. There’s a flow of information and confirmations. I stay open and follow the cues on efficient ways of doing things in my day to day. And I live a simple life.

I live each day as if it’s the last. My goal is when it’s time to close the door to this existence, my instincts and spontaneity will accelerate the new home address. I'll be present and focused.



Craig
23rd January 2019, 20:53
Looking at the state of the world currently, I am not too worried about the state of my house so to speak, if anything I feel like letting some white ants loose to speed up the process. I feel like what point there ever was is slowly drifting away, and unfortunately unlike a video game I can't throw down the controller and rage quit..

ErtheVessel
24th January 2019, 04:38
Something I either read or heard many years ago inspired me to be aware that in every single interaction I have with a loved one or a friend, it might be the last (at least in this life). Either for me of for the other person.

This has somehow stuck with me, and I've made a habit of feeling some kind of inner completion with every single mini good-bye that I experience on an ongoing and daily basis.

Even if things are somehow strained and unresolved with the other person, I still feel that I've been as complete as I can possibly be, given where each of us is on a psychological or spiritual level.

As far as having my "house in order," well, there are certainly a lot of "business" issues with regard to paperwork, etc. that would be pretty messy and annoying for anyone who had to close out my life, so to speak. Good reminder to put some effort there! :fie:

TrumanCash
24th January 2019, 05:04
If I've kicked the bucket I won't be hanging around for a minute wondering if my house was in order or if I had completed all the projects I started--I'll be making my getaway off this prison planet and far away from the Milky Way galaxy and them pesky bugs :alien: ! :crazy_pilot:

Seabreeze
24th January 2019, 07:51
Every night, about 1 Million people go sleep and dont wake up the next day anymore. Because it was their time to go. Every morning, when we wake up, we should be aware of this and that we are still alive and have another chance..to straighten out our live and make things better. Every morning we wake up - it is another gift - a blessing we are still here.

This is what Sadhguru says. I just did watch his video some time ago, but it got taken of youtube, so I could not post it here. I hope I did repeat his words correctly. I often have to think about this myself.

Ok, I found it again...not exactly the same video...but pretty much the one I did watch. Here it is :


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OxVKtACP1zQ

And to answer the questions - I guess I would not leave many traces..if I would vanish tonight and hopefully no mess either.....

thepainterdoug
24th January 2019, 10:44
thank you all for sharing your personal thoughts and feelings on this. the video posted here was calming and reassuring, nothing i didn't know, but" knowing "is never my issue, being reminded I know , or knowing that I know, is.

most of my stresses are due to my forgetting. we forget who we are, how long a road we have already traveled. and so things happen, little things that remind me, hey I already new or traveled that , I learned that twenty years ago reading OSHO, or studying Gurdjieff etc. But hey, I forgot it all, and need to wake up again.

and this is the process for me, learning and forgetting , awake and asleep.

Im trying now to do what many are doing, giving much of what I have, whats not needed , away. I take clothes and things to the car wash and give to the workers, to see the joy on their faces is so rewarding, and to think so many would just throw these things out.

as an artist, a painter, a composer, presently writing a Musical, I suppose Im pretty self absorbed and quite the loner. But when I bring myself out into the world, I never forget to be kind , compassionate and generous to all, to strangers be it some money, a cup of coffee, jump start their car, or just a big, I SEE YOU smile .

I too regret things and wish I had some people back in front of me to say, hey I was selfish, I was insensitive and Im sorry. But then again, I just told them

blessings friends, Avalon is a great place.