Is the idea of having a happy life a difficult concept ?

[thepainterdoug]

How many get up everyday and feel you are happy? That life is happy?

And if you do, do you feel something is wrong, something a miss, that you must not be in proper "reality"?

Is the idea of a happy life something to be achieved, something to be earned, wished for , and not something to simply have or be given?

Who gets up everyday happy?

[Michel Leclerc]

Dear Doug – this is a very private matter, but because you are asking, I’ll reply – truthfully – publicly.

It really depends on what you or I call "getting up". But if we stretch the getting up thing to the extent of let us say a full day, I can tell you in all sincerity that I feel happy many times during the getting-up experience, and that I feel there is absolutely nothing wrong with it or rather I do not ever feel that there is anything wrong with it many times as well during the full-day getting-up experience, and that realising that this feeling happy happens repeatedly many times, and many times repeatedly during the whole stretch of time getting up is actually the reason why I do not want to stop getting up happy until the moment has come to go to bed.

The result of which is that I generally go to bed happy.

(Admittedly there are unhappy moments interspersed with the happy ones. But the fact that there are unhappy moments does not make me unhappy.)

[Casey Claar]

Who gets up everyday happy?

It is perhaps the greatest signpost of my life.

I near always wake up happy. On the sunny side of the bed, as it were.

Another trademark of the life, though, is that I have always required a lot of sleep, 9 hours minimally and it is not a challenge to go for 12, even every day for extended periods. I have an active and rich Inner life. So long as I remain connected to it, meaning have the time and state of mind to absorb and integrate the Inner before stepping into the outer, I am incredibly happy. I do require those Inner/additional frequencies, though, without them there would be little for me save slow misery.

On the other side of this equation. is keeping the mind and physical body open, malleable, clean and cleared. For the most part it has always felt good to be in my body [ although I must admit I was not always all the way in it ], it has for the most part always felt light. The past decade or more there is myalgic-type pain, notably in the shoulders and neck from extended overuse injuries incurred in younger years. I have to work with this now, constantly be working on it and I am not always so patient with myself with this. Pain can make one more apt to be grumpy. So this has to be worked on/with, too. We are masters, indeed, but we are very much still learning how to live in a physical body.

What about you, Doug?

What brings out this question today?


Casey

[ExomatrixTV]

Being happy to me is always relative ... being really grateful and feeling genuine appreciation helps me more than worrying that am not able to be happy anymore (due to mourning/deep sorrow).


every day I can easily count my blessings >>> and not all are materialistic (which helps me in a psychological manner a great deal).

cheers,
John 🦜🦋🌳

[Delight]

How many get up everyday and feel you are happy? That life is happy?

And if you do, do you feel something is wrong, something a miss, that you must not be in proper "reality"?

Is the idea of a happy life something to be achieved, something to be earned, wished for , and not something to simply have or be given?

Who gets up everyday happy?

How are you seeing this subject Doug?

For me, it was impossible to be happy when I believed the narrative. Now I am learning how to be OK with a simple change in belief. This is all individual. I may be happy but I cannot make others happy. I may be happy but cannot look to others to make me happy.

I do NOT like what I see around. Happy is realizing that I only must be in this plane (of hellishness) temporarily and that what I do matters while I am here and what I give out will come back to me. NDEs make for great education in how to BE HAPPY.

[Satori]

I am generally happy and maintain a positive attitude and outlook. However, I am also concerned about the direction in which important matters and issues are going. I’m feeling uncertain and pensive about the outcomes of local, regional, national and global issues, such as are often raised in many threads and posts on this Forum, that effect us all.

[thepainterdoug]

thanks everyone so far. I suppose I asked this because although I wake everyday grateful and content, Im not necessarily happy.
Now Im also not depressed so no worries. Im kind of in a wonder of it all .

I often feel I know too much. Ever ask anyone what building 7 is ? , or mk ultra, or childtraffiking etc and they say, no what ya talkin about? Seems to me its easier to be happy when unaware.

watching people march in lock step with masks makes me feel, though there really isnt anything harming me by them wearing a mask, that their blind compliance, without care for logic is a sign of things to come and I feel unhappy

im actually glad to see the answers so far. I only hope all are happy. but I often feel being happy is akin to being lucky, and that being lucky is not for everyone.
Im blessed with great health, and for that I am grateful and more

just some thoughts

and do you feel you deserve to be happy?

[RunningDeer]

My professional years afforded me the opportunity to travel the US and abroad, participate in healing, self-actualization, empowerment and experiential seminars, outward bound challenges, and martial arts training, form and fighting competitions.

And now? I discovered the secret…less is more. I wake up happy every day because I walked away from the clock world. I’m happy living a quiet life. l’m still filled with as much gratitude as that first day in June, 2004.

That’s not to say that I don’t experience ups and downs. It’s mostly because of world events. And I worry about family and friends. A couple of friends came for a visit and one said to the other that as soon as she enters my place she feels the calm. (words to that effect)

My place IS magical. It was meant for me. I’ve shared before that it was time to move on with my life. Without thought, I opened the local flyer and a rental place jumped out at me. I called and within minutes I was out the door. That weekend the cupboards were filled, the closets organized and the pictures and curtains hung.

27 year later it’s still a magical place. Everyday is different and yet it may look the same to outsiders. The inner world is where it’s at. My small world is bigger than the one out there, so I’m less effected.


My landlady’s husband made this for my 25th year.

https://i.imgur.com/GKHTWuN.jpg

[Casey Claar]

and do you feel you deserve to be happy?

I feel that it is a natural state. And to not feel it means there is something in the way of feeling it.

Whatever that thing is, is inside, not outside of ourself.

We are only ever experiencing ourself.

I do know what you mean about seeing others seemingly in a very different mental state than ourself. If we are meant to help them, though, the reality will arrange for this on its own. We don't have to keep forcing it into our own face ( through the tubes and wires ). <-- this really is not good at all. There is nothing we can do for anyone, even ourselves if we let ourself get brought down. You know? Instead, we have to be the best of who we are that we can be. Mentally, emotionally, physically, - focus on lighting ourselves up. <-- this is where I have always felt attention is best placed. There is plenty that will trickle in to this through daily life. Having a home frequency to focus upon helps us not come undone with all this.

It certainly is a challenge at present, isn't it?


Casey

[RunningDeer]

Here’s one of the reasons we should get up happy to face the day.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OzcnneNIOtl

Edit. I’m doing this on an Ipad and I’m having trouble. Stand by. Sorry folks. The video says it’s unavailable.

Now that makes me unhappy. The irony.

Let’s try this one

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZIFOZMPbdY

Another fail.

It appears YouTube does not want anyone posting on this Forum.

Mods: please delete this post if you can. Geez.




Satori, sometimes I’ll add the title in the YouTube search bar and often other subscribers have posted it.


This is the reason.
https://i.imgur.com/nsRfa4t.jpg

[Johnnycomelately]

and do you feel you deserve to be happy?

I feel that it is a natural state. And to not feel it means there is something in the way of feeling it.

Whatever that thing is, is inside, not outside of ourself.

We are only ever experiencing ourself.

I do know what you mean about seeing others seemingly in a very different mental state than ourself. If we are meant to help them, though, the reality will arrange for this on its own. We don't have to keep forcing it into our own face ( through the tubes and wires ). <-- this really is not good at all. There is nothing we can do for anyone, even ourselves if we let ourself get brought down. You know? Instead, we have to be the best of who we are that we can be. Mentally, emotionally, physically, - focus on lighting ourselves up. <-- this is where I have always felt attention is best placed. There is plenty that will trickle in to this through daily life. Having a home frequency to focus upon helps us not come undone with all this.

It certainly is a challenge at present, isn't it?


Casey

Casey, I like your expression “home frequency”. It perfectly describes the mental place I go to seeking evenness and rightness, when my thoughts go wrong/dark. To me, it’s a real communication, a change in what I am communicating with.

Also, not a surprise but it is nice to learn that you understand, and avoid, the “helper complex”.

[Johnnycomelately]

Now Im also not depressed so no worries. Im kind of in a wonder of it all .



Hey Doug, that sounds like denial. But some good news! Science, FINALLY, doesn’t know what causes depression! Heehee, haha, woo hoo! 👻🤪♥️


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZhgvr2rbwE

[cannawizard]

Who gets up everyday happy?

/shrug

i'm seasonal personally speaking, one minute a raging storm,.. and the next minute "stillness"~

"some days waking up happy.. some days waking up wanting to destroy everything in sight.. then some days just between 'states' of sorts --here but not, am but isn't-- Lol~

:Avalon:
cheers

[Eagle Eye]

When my question "why are we here, for what purpose ?" was answered and many similar questions about this reality, then happiness wasn't the word in this life. I am mostly grateful, content in some cases, satisfied in some matters, but I only can hope for happiness in far future, in this reality to be happy you have to create an illusion of reality, far from truth, but that will lead to a dangerous path.

[amor]

Well, some of you seem to be in the "honeymoon of life and situational ignorance." Some live in areas which are the prime targets for crime and extermination by the overlords. Every source of information, Avalon included, presents the realities assailing our lives at every turn. Your governments are trying to murder you by every means possible, in disguise as well as openly. Most of us are presented with lives and a lack of resources which barely allow us to breathe and having to work with truly horrible almost humans. As age creeps up, friends and relatives die leaving us very alone, and with unavoidable accumulating injuries to our bodies, unsupported by fraudulent medical systems leaving us without help and suffering. What may have been a pleasant home which was manageable at one time now requires an army of expensive labor to maintain, both physically and financially unmanageable. The bankers, financial criminal thieves, using created inflation rob you even of the small resources acquired which force you to gradually relinquish everything you have until the state is required to bury you. Their answer to that one I understand is now of the Gates variety. They grind you up and use you as compost. When you awaken daily in pain from your injuries and can hardly get out of bed, you have the pleasure of thinking of all the people you have known, family and friends, and the tragedies and failures of their lives which at least they lived instead of merely existing to perform tasks and fix up the failures of others. You have been cursed with the ability to know all their secrets and keep them to yourself. For you, love is a one-sided proposition which you also keep to yourself. Such a life asks God or whatever exists for release. Happiness is a cup of coffee to make it through the next unpleasant task. Keep the door locked and the likes of Larry Fink, Blackrock, and his Agents who want to buy your home for nothing and in short time with inflation, you could not afford to buy it back. Keep the door locked and the world out. Truth.

[DNA]

Without discipline there is no happiness.
We are all born with a energy robbing parasite personified as the little devil on our shoulder.
The only kryptonite keeping the little devil at bay is discipline.
Retaining your source given energy is happiness.
Happiness is the maintenance of your energy levels.

[thepainterdoug]

hey Johnny C L, I actually watched that vid. Amazing he is not depressed finally learning his entire education was a waste and he ended up back at ground zero, no idea what causes depression. lol. so serotonin, a placebo effect perhaps?

running deer/ a wonderful story and happy for you. Less is certainly more and its great you found your sweet spot in life.

Amor/ a stirring and hard picture but a truthful one. Reality is what it is for each individual and denial is not an option for me. Its all an ebb and flow. Both happiness and sadness need to dance at different times and different rates.

I settle for contentment as we all live in impermanence. Just knowing all must end has to bring about anxiety of varying degrees.

you have a cat, a dog, you love them, and they must die. nothing lasts . i guess " being in the moment "is our best imperfect advice .

Eagle Eye, I agree we need to create an illusion, mainly cause it all IS an illusion we are in. lol

thanks again to all.

[Eagle Eye]

This life is mostly a struggle for those who are on the right path, normality for those unaware (yet to choose their path) and enjoyment for those who serve themselves by abusing others...until the Hour will come, unexpected and things will change forever.

[Vangelo]

You've got me thinking Doug ... what is happiness? I guess I would define it as general well being and contentment with your current state. That is in contrast to sadness which I guess is the opposite i.e. not being at all content with your current state nor a feeling of well being. These definitions beg the question of depth and degree i.e. how deeply do I feel my happiness or sadness?

To answer your question, I am similar to John i.e. grateful and therefore content with things as they are. In that regard, something 'not ideal' will happen or I will think a thought where I will acknowledge the reality of that negative thing, and then instantly identify the counter item that I am grateful for. There are many parts of my life and situations in the world where things could be significantly better, but all-and-all, I am good and feel blessed even though life indeed has its struggles.

[ExomatrixTV]

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if I can see/sense how many are not awake (do not confuse being awake with "wokism (https://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?115313-There-s-the-Woke-and-the-In-The-Know)") for me that means it is not hard to find a "purpose in life" ...

Finding your life's purpose is a great part of finding happiness using my unlimited creative potential on so many levels ... So I am really grateful having that ability and have a genuine appreciating that I have enough tools to make a difference ...

This "making a difference" is not always directly visible nor is it a "short term" project ... after making alternative media (including organizing conferences, writing articles, sharing my unfiltered comments, meeting people, doing interviews, giving lectures etc. etc. for over 30 years I have gotten enough feedback to know that some of them were "blue pill type people" that turned in to "red pilled" people because I had a unique approach in how I communicated.

It was not about "convincing" them ... but giving them (mental) tools to ask better questions challenging the status quo narratives ... I call it "planting seeds of considerations" that will grow and grow without me doing it ... I only planted the metaphorical seed in their minds that's all .. and everybody is unique when & how you deal with new insights that will lead to a new form of rebellion/resistance networking ... Not everybody is up to the task and that is okay ... better to do it with passion than forcing things.


So part of being happy has a great deal to do with feeling competent enough to use my unlimited creative potential.

How you see yourself in all of this is KEY how to move forward ... if you feel or see yourself as "incompetent" to make a difference is maybe the biggest obstacle to feel happiness ... you have to know what the long term goals/purposes are and how you get there without worrying too much about it. (waste of energy).

I can connect with my "future self" having deeper insights why things work and what does not ... This is one of my best allies ... having a "feedback loop" with my "higher self" that is already vindicated (https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/vindicate) multiple times and found peace in how it is done and why.

There is a (future) energy that knows if I am on the "right path" or not ... and give me hints/deeper sense what I can do that is beyond the predictable conditioning we all have to face 24/7 to be alive on this planet.

So I feel blessed am able to live like that ... some of it can bring me happiness.

https://images.chesscomfiles.com/uploads/v1/user/27474914.f5b631e7.160x160o.f6c78faaf102@2x.png (https://whynotnews.eu)

cheers,
John Kuhles aka 'ExomatrixTV'
August 15, 2022 🦜🦋🌳

[thepainterdoug]

Vangelo. yes agreed on contentment. Happiness is fleeting for me, contentment is a more stable evaluation. its been years since my love moved on and got married, and I have never quite been the same. Not as happy I guess. But I am very content, which comes back around and knocks at the door of happiness. lol

Amor has a completely different view which I truly get. Amor is a deep and truthful person as I know her. Life is a real trial if you are deeply caring and concerned on a universal scale.
This is not to say that being happy is trite or self centered, but it does require a selective filter. A let's play pretend.
The first thing I often feel when I wake up is this **** storm we are collectively under in this government policy, marxist agenda cancelling, of the constitutional freedoms and laws that I have grown up with.
What will our children be left with that we let happen on our watch? I wake with that, and it doesn't make me happy.

[iota]

How many get up everyday and feel you are happy? That life is happy?

And if you do, do you feel something is wrong, something a miss, that you must not be in proper "reality"?

Is the idea of a happy life something to be achieved, something to be earned, wished for , and not something to simply have or be given?

Who gets up everyday happy?

i acutally used to

as in EVERY DAY

over a decade

then my son transitioned ...

our feelings don't "drop from the sky"

they are directly correlated to our thoughts

our thoughts (other than voice to skull technology) are OUR responsibility to "manage"

no one would allow their kids to run rampant on the highway

yet, think nothing of exerting ZERO effort to "manage" their thoughts

our thoughts happen to be powerful beyond measure

the fact that they DETERMINE our feelings, is just a teenie aspect of this power

so .. yea ..

thoughts are NOT accidental

and they lead to FEELINGS

which, therefore, are ALSO NOT accidental ...

nor that big of a mystery

big effort, maybe .. but NOT "big mystery"

:flower:

we're WAY WAY WAY WAY beyond crunch time here

our lives? DO have a wheel

and it is ALWAYS steered ..

either by us ... or others who are all too happy to relieve us of that responsibility ...

but the CHOICE? that was ALWAYS ... OURS

[Vangelo]

Doug, let me apologize for not returning to this thread and responding earlier.

Regarding...


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The first thing I often feel when I wake up is this **** storm we are collectively under in this government policy, marxist agenda cancelling, of the constitutional freedoms and laws that I have grown up with.
What will our children be left with that we let happen on our watch? I wake with that, and it doesn't make me happy.

I get it, I really do. This upsets and worries me as well. I too think of it everyday.

One of the things I should have added to my previous reply about what is happiness, is the idea of action and hopelessness. I have found that I get most upset and sad when I feel that I have no options i.e., when I believe there is nothing I can do to mitigate the thing that upsets me. That is when I feel hopeless and drop deeply.

Over the years I have found that my ability to effect change outside of me actually resides within me and only within me. By that I mean, I can change me. I cannot change the outside world or other people's thoughts. They have to change themselves. I can offer help, I can be the mentor and the model. I can lead by my actions and my words. But I can't force the other person to change. I can only offer new insights, a different way for them to see the world. They need to develop the courage to change. In other words, they have to do their own shadow work.

Yes, I see everything that is going on around us in terms of deep shadow work. To greatly over simplify it all, many folks want daddy to save them. They don't want the responsibility of their own sovereignty etc. (but I don't want to go down that path with this post).

So, what do I do to address this? I have become extremely mindful of opportunities to offer others a different way to see the world and empower themselves. My mission is to plant seeds. As many as possible and as often and frequently as I can. But I am careful, very careful, to not trigger them. The moment they are triggered, they shut down and reject everything. Instead, I drop little seeds that I think will help them to question their paradigm. That is all I want. I want them to ask questions about how they see the world.

I also speak in the first person. I rarely say the word 'you' or 'they' or 'them'. I describe my decisions, my point of view, and how it effects me. In that way, the person I am speaking to does not feel as threatened.

When I started to speak this way, I was amazed at how often I used the word 'you'. Speaking in the 1st person like this does 2 things. It makes my message less threatening to the person I am speaking too and it actually helps me internalize my thoughts and beliefs by facilitating my ownership of them.

[DeDukshyn]

(after reading only the OP) ... I find happiness is less a thing to be attained on its own, and more a thing that just occurs when you free your mind from stress and pain and ground yourself in the moment. I never focus on trying to be "happy" - because that is a nebulous, rather undefinable thing. And there's nothing wrong with being unhappy sometimes, but there is when you get addicted to it ... or addicted to happiness for that matter.

2 cents.