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rgray222
18th August 2025, 01:16
It seems like a very long time since Avalon has hosted a thread on addiction, and especially alcohol addiction. I came across this article today and had the feeling that some people may need to see this information at this time.

I think you will find this well-written and thoughtful article helpful. Dylan Charles has also written an article titled 20 common things people realize when they quit drinking. (https://www.wakingtimes.com/20-common-things-people-realize-quit-drinking-alcohol/) I wish I had access to these articles years ago when I finally quit drinking. If you or someone you care about is suffering from any form of substance addiction which is causing a physical and psychological dependence, please feel free to share these articles.

If anyone has knowledge about any books, articles or any methods that have a proven track record to help people quit please feel free to share.

This article was written by Dylan Charles the editor of Waking Times (https://www.wakingtimes.com/) and the host of the podcast Battered Souls. His personal journey is deeply inspired by shamanic plant medicines and the arts of Kung Fu, Qi Gong and Yoga. After seven years of living in Costa Rica, he now lives in the Blue Ridge Mountains, where he enjoys serving, training, and spending time with family.

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Since 2011, no other topic at Waking Times has garnered as many collective page views as our articles on the physical, social, and spiritual perils of alcohol, which I find quite telling.

Perhaps people are sick of hangovers, or of losing control of themselves and doing dumb things they regret? Or maybe people have just wisened up to the fact that alcohol consumption is broadly toxic to the body, mind and spirit, creating unnecessary challenges in life?

Or, perhaps because of all of these reasons, alcohol is simply losing its cool.

I penned an article entitled 20 Common Things People Realize When They Quit Drinking Alcohol (https://www.wakingtimes.com/20-common-things-people-realize-quit-drinking-alcohol/), which has been viewed almost 420,000 times. At the time, I myself was wanting an alcohol free life, but was sill stuck in the old addiction and cultural programming, which had me under the influence of the notion that life without alcohol just couldn’t possibly be any fun.

And isn’t that what alcohol is supposed to be all about… fun?

That’s a lie, and odd isn’t it that something so ubiquitous in our world, something so universally depended on, and so accepted as necessary to daily life, is also so widely recognized to be the most self-destructive, and socially dangerous substance in our world.

As I write this today I am nearing 2 years of sobriety from alcohol, and life just keeps getting better. I wrote this post to give inspiration and encouragement for any spiritual seekers out there who are challenged to let go of social and emotional dependency on alcohol. It’s a subject which comes up quite often in my coaching practice, and I always advise my clients to get this poison out of the way so that they can get a clear picture of what is holding them back and driving them to self-sabotage.

Here are some of things I’ve learned in these past years by letting go of my addiction to alcohol. If any of this resonates with you, and if you’re seeking clarity and independence from alcohol or anything else slowing you down, book a FREE 15-minute call (https://bit.ly/2XM2xFY) with me and I’ll put all of my attention on any problems or challenges you are presently facing.


There is a reason we drink, but we don’t know what that reason is until we stop drinking.
Alcohol consumption in any quantity is spiritual decay. There’s really no middle ground here.
It takes time to recover from the spiritual, mental, and emotional effects of drinking. It will be at least a full year before your clarity fully returns.
It’s nearly impossible to overcome serious challenges with alcohol in your life. It’s just too confusing and chaotic to see the truth.
People who do drink will often tell you how great it is that you don’t drink. Why, what are they really saying? They’re saying that they wish they had sufficient self-control to give it up, but they don’t.
Drinking definitely causes anxiety, and it takes a long period of sobriety for your nervous system to recalibrate and the anxiety to leave.
Not drinking in social situations requires a very deep commitment to yourself, but your soul is waiting for you to step up.
It requires tremendous courage to face the emotional reality of life without the crutch of booze.
You see clearly the effects that your drinking has had on the people you love.
You notice how unattractive people are when they are drunk.
You can clearly sense a shift in those close to you when they drink. You can sense subtle changes in their personality and mood.
You get to a point where sobriety means everything to you, and it becomes a prized and treasured possession worth defending.
You cannot control other people’s decision to drink. All you can do is set an example.
The right people will notice the changes in you, and they will comment. When they do it will give you fuel to keep going.
Children really notice what happens to people when they drink, and they really appreciate it when their parents abstain.
You’ll be more present for the moments and experiences in life that really matter.
Not drinking is broadly viewed as a noble and righteous way to live, but so few do it? Why? Because most are too weak, and since alcohol kills strength, it’s a self-defeating cycle.
Drinking is akin to letting your inner child take control of your life and run it into the ground.
You save a ton of money.
You’ll look better, feel better, sleep better, think better, and appreciate life a lot more.
The drama in your life drops significantly, and things that used to bother you are non-factors.
You get off the dopamine roller coaster and after time begin to return to a baseline of easiness and confidence. Things don’t affect you as strongly, and you bounce back much more quickly after an emotional challenge.
It is a challenge to find new friends and new relationships when you don’t drink, because so many people depend on alcohol for social connection. But they are out there.
You are less agitated, less, rushed, less critical, and less afraid of the world.
Life becomes extraordinarily less dramatic.
The main emotions that drive alcoholism are guilt, shame, abandonment, rejection, frustration, anger, and resentment.
It truly is one day at a time. There is no need for promises to yourself, because they don’t work. Just focus on today.
Waking up the morning without alcohol induced anxiety is a true blessing and absolutely priceless.
Cravings for alcohol originate from problems that you are unable or unwilling to resolve. In other words, you’ll crave booze more when you’re faced with something that requires the best in you. When you learn to overcome challenges without booze the cravings and desire for booze disappear.
It’s likely that you’ll want to replace alcohol with something else like cannabis or sweets. This is the same emotional condition driving you to self-medicate, which is what you’re really seeking to understand.
Your emotional intelligence increases dramatically.
Your less likely to catastrophize, and less likely to indulge in self-pity.
Your much less affected by other people’s moods, helping to end co-dependency.
You’ll need much less validation and approval from others.
You often wake up and after a minute realize that your sober with no hangover and it just feels like a genuine blessing. Each and every time.
Before you became addicted to alcohol you became addicted to set of negative emotional patterns. You won’t be able to understand this without considerable time sober, but when you do, every area of your life will drastically improve, and you’ll finally experience the fullness of your personal power.
Overcoming the original emotional addiction that drove you to drinking will require more courage than anything else you’ve experienced.
Your higher self is in control more often than your lower self.
The pleasure just isn’t worth the pain.

In order to solidify my sobriety and reprogram my mind to love an alcohol free life, I’ve often found it inspiring to listen to the stories of celebrities and interesting people who’ve conquered this demon in their lives. I’ve attached a great inspirational video on this below.

My hope is that if you’re struggling with alcohol, or if you’ve realized that drinking does not serve your highest self, then this post gives you the motivation you need to conquer your fear and put your own life and happiness above everything else. If I can be a part of your journey, book a free 15-minute call with me HERE to discover how my personal coaching may be valuable to you.

Peace and Power,

_Dylan Charles

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Source: https://www.wakingtimes.com/39-powerful-insights-ive-gained-from-abstaining-from-alcohol-for-2-years/

RunningDeer
18th August 2025, 02:19
Dopamine Expert: Doing This Once A Day Fixes Your Dopamine!
What Alcohol Is Doing To Your Brain!






January 2, 2025
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9.3M subscribers
2,775,147 views

Dr. Anna Lembke is Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine and chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. She is the author of bestselling books such as, ‘Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence’.

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00:00 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=0s) Intro
03:44 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=224s) Why Does Dopamine Matter?
04:08 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=248s) What Is Dopamine?
05:35 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=335s) How Understanding Dopamine Can Improve Your Life
06:09 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=369s) Biggest Misconceptions About Dopamine
07:30 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=450s) Everyday Activities That Impact Dopamine
09:36 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=576s) Dopamine and Its Relationship to Pleasure and Pain
18:26 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=1106s) Why Do Our Brains Overshoot?
20:31 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=1231s) How Our Brains Are Wired for Addiction
25:22 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=1522s) Finding Ways to Deal With Pain
31:51 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=1911s) Stories of Addiction
34:52 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=2092s) How Many People Have Addiction Disorders?
40:14 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=2414s) Hiding Away From Friends and Family
41:21 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=2481s) Distinguishing Between Good and Bad Behaviors
45:50 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=2750s) How Addiction Makes You Feel
47:50 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=2870s) Is Work an Addiction?
54:18 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=3258s) What Activities Provide the Biggest Dopamine Hits?
58:59 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=3539s) Can We Inject or Drink Dopamine?
01:01:00 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=3660s) Why We Must Do Hard Things
01:02:37 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=3757s) Can You Get an Exercise Comedown?
01:04:19 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=3859s) How to Optimize for a Better Life
01:05:17 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=3917s) How Should We Be Living?
01:09:29 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=4169s) Being Comfortable With the Uncomfortable
01:10:34 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=4234s) Causes of Anxiety Throughout Life
01:12:43 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=4363s) Living in a World Where It's Easy to Outrun Pain
01:13:09 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=4389s) Where Are You Now in Your Grieving Journey?
01:14:43 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=4483s) Youngest Child Seen With Addictions
01:15:37 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=4537s) Youngest Age When Addiction Can Have an Effect
01:16:50 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=4610s) Youngest Patient With Addiction
01:18:40 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=4720s) Has Society Gone Soft?
01:21:05 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=4865s) Victimhood and Responsibility
01:25:02 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=5102s) How to Help Someone Overcome a Victimhood Mentality
01:28:36 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=5316s) Connection Between Responsibility and Self-Esteem
01:30:13 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=5413s) Importance of Our Self-Narrative
01:37:24 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=5844s) Ads
01:38:22 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=5902s) How Helping a Loved One Too Much Can Hurt Them
01:44:49 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=6289s) Overcoming Pornography Addiction
01:48:35 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=6515s) Harms of Watching Porn
01:51:04 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=6664s) Is Dopamine Responsible for Sugar Cravings?
01:53:05 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=6785s) Turning Addictions Around
01:58:25 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=7105s) Why We Bounce Back to Cravings After Relapsing
02:02:49 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=7369s) Effects of Early Exposure to Addictive Substances on Children
02:04:43 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=7483s) Final Thoughts on Overcoming Addiction
02:05:39 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=7539s) Closing Remarks
02:07:38 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA&t=7658s) What Information Changed Your Life?

RunningDeer
18th August 2025, 02:23
@56 minutes (https://youtu.be/R6xbXOp7wDA?si=q0FhLuLcK7DDrwNV&t=3362) - Steven Bartlett (in the above post (https://projectavalon.net/forum4/@56 minutes - Steven Bartlett show a picture of the brain and the impact from cocaine, alcohol and heroin. He was going to leave a link in the description section. I didn’t see one or missed it so I’ll add a few others. (post above)Dopamine in drug abuse and addiction. Note: these brain images aren’t dopamine related but are relevant to the topic.)) shows a picture of the brain and the impact from cocaine, alcohol and heroin. He was going to leave a link in the description section. I didn’t see one or missed it so I’ll add a few others.


Dopamine in drug abuse and addiction.

https://i.imgur.com/n0xN6w8.png


Note: these brain images aren’t dopamine related but are relevant to the topic.
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https://i.imgur.com/buSeNye.png

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RunningDeer
18th August 2025, 02:25
https://i.imgur.com/iAECADL.gif
Dr. Anna Lembke is the guest in the post (https://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?130198-39-Powerful-Insights-I--ve-Gained-from-Abstaining-from-Alcohol-for-2-Years&p=1681325#post1681325) above.


Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence
Dr. Anna Lembke, 2023

https://i.imgur.com/Q2N1BMY.png

Summary (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1524746746/ref=sw_img_1?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1)
4.5/5 (9,894 ratings)

INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES and LOS ANGELES TIMES BESTSELLER
“Brilliant . . . riveting, scary, cogent, and cleverly argued.”
~ Beth Macy, author of Dopesick





This book is about pleasure. It’s also about pain. Most important, it’s about how to find the delicate balance between the two, and why now more than ever finding balance is essential. We’re living in a time of unprecedented access to high-reward, high-dopamine stimuli: drugs, food, news, gambling, shopping, gaming, texting, sexting, Facebooking, Instagramming, YouTubing, tweeting . . . The increased numbers, variety, and potency is staggering. The smartphone is the modern-day hypodermic needle, delivering digital dopamine 24/7 for a wired generation. As such we’ve all become vulnerable to compulsive overconsumption.

In Dopamine Nation, Dr. Anna Lembke, psychiatrist and author, explores the exciting new scientific discoveries that explain why the relentless pursuit of pleasure leads to pain . . . and what to do about it. Condensing complex neuroscience into easy-to-understand metaphors, Lembke illustrates how finding contentment and connectedness means keeping dopamine in check. The lived experiences of her patients are the gripping fabric of her narrative. Their riveting stories of suffering and redemption give us all hope for managing our consumption and transforming our lives. In essence, Dopamine Nation shows that the secret to finding balance is combining the science of desire with the wisdom of recovery.

Merkaba360
18th August 2025, 13:07
Well, if i had any interesting people in my vicinity/life, i might not need the device dopamine. lol

Awakening for ~26 years and never had any true friend unplugged. A few were partially, but not long term friends anyway or on the other side of the planet. I found out that it was to experience being a guide/teacher/initiator/ancient wisdom keeper (or whatever) without having an audience or anybody to give a damn. That might change in the future i guess. Anyone have any idea how that kind of experience is supposed to benefit my soul?

honestly I've had enough of this never ending story. I could care less if I OD on dopamine. I could even see myself going mad from 100% normies surrounding me. Something like being born on a planet with only 5 year olds . lol

That alcohol brain is wild stuff. Looks far worse than alzheimer's, yikes. Is that an extreme example of 50 years of drinking 2 liters of whiskey a day or what? Would think one would be seriously mentally retarded with that shriveled up brain. yikes. Glad i stopped drinking.