Inner child healing

[atmagaia]

Hello my friends my new video to heal relax and sleep hope u like give us a like and comment in our video will help our job a lot!!!! Namaste and good week to everyone

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9782F6D1KNI

[Denise/Dizi]

That is a very sweet gesture, to help others heal their inner self..

This may seem out of place, but I have to say, I cannot understand why so many individuals have issues with carrying "Baggage" and hardships through life. One would think I had the best of childhood, the best of my adult life, but this couldn't be further from the truth, I worked at it intently WITHOUT THERAPY... In fact, I was raped, molested, grew up with an alcoholic single mother who was very poor and neglectful, and worst of all, extremely abusive... I moved out at 17 and never looked back... I learned a lot from all of that... And given a chance changed that life immediately as soon as I was able. But that means taking full responsibility for myself and my life.

Having said all of that, music helped take me away from grief... It gave me energy that I could dictate... I moved past the trauma by telling myself that my body is merely the vessel for my soul, and while someone can victimize that, they can't harm my soul unless I allowed it, that was THEIR baggage to carry, no question about it, and let that go, as one should...

I didn't go to therapist to talk about "How that made me feel", or "Who I should Blame"... I grew up learning from the hardships what NOT to do as an adult and when I had children myself...

Those who victimize don't carry guilt so why even try to believe they do? You are your responsibility, not them...

I know many individuals are harmed throughout life... This is a large world, but what I see as a trend is a perpetuation of victimhood... And it saddens me.

While some effort should be spent recognizing those things that harmed us, I believe more should be spent on making sure that isn't the future of the individual instead... The more you go to therapy to talk about the trauma, the less you spend making sure you change that...

I hope your video helps others... But time spend on the negative, takes time away from living the positive in my opinion. It's baggage one CHOOSES to carry in my opinion.

I cannot tell you how many times I hear people talkig about their parents and how they wronged their children... Versus telling the patient how to move past it and learn from it.. Which in my opinion causes more harm than good... Tools for the future, versus rehashing the past over and over, and placing blame on others who never did take accountability for their actions is a ridiculous method... It leads to permanent victim hood... Few abusers care they were the bad guy...

I suppose what I am trying to say is if you were victimized as a youth, know that this is THEIR baggage to carry... When you recognize they refuse to carry this baggage, do not pick it back up for yourself due to a lack of closure, your closure will come when you set it down and never pick it back up again. Learn from it, and move along to a better life...

YOU DESERVE THAT...


Remove this is you see fit, I just see so many self help healing things online, I just can't help but think that "Healing" is only good right after the tragedy, holding onto it, is like I said, willingly carrying it with you for another purpose... It doesn't define you... Unless you let it.

[Heart to heart]

Beautifully said Denise. Your wisdom is in your words.
Let “bygones be bygones” is a saying I remember well, and look forward to creating a worthy life for yourself through personal responsibility without the blame game.
Keep shining, we are all stars in the making 🌟🌟🌟

[thepainterdoug]

Denise

thanks for your sharing. Although our childhoods and upbringing were quite different, I too have never had or spoken to a therapist while growing up . I felt that was what my friends were for. I did my best to weather the tough times keeping faith in myself . I have no negative feelings about anyone who had seeked out a therapist. Whatever worked is fine by me

[Denise/Dizi]

I just want to apologize if I took the thread off its intention.. To help others... I speak openly about my past as it is the story of so many... For me, I found strength in these terrible hurdles... So I don't seek sympathy in any way... So many individuals are victimized in life... And when I was legally old enough to put a stop to it and better control my own environment, I did just that. There was no therapy needed, I changed my own environment, and my life... If or when I saw environments that were similar, I avoided them...

I teach my grandchildren strength in responsibility for oneself... And how to know that what someone else does, doesn't degrade you unless you let it... They're still young, but I believe letting people know life's responsibilities really start with oneself, and well being, s you aren't going to change those who prey. (In any way, including bullying, etc...)... And giving tools and encouragement to place blame where it belongs, as it is a healthy thing...

Maybe someone will read this someday and see that it's true, and get some part of their own well being back.