The Art of Self-Acceptance!

[Darla Ken Pearce]

To love yourself means to accept yourself as you are and to come to terms with those aspects of yourself that you cannot change. It means to have self-respect, a positive self-image, and unconditional self-acceptance.

Needless to say, it does not mean being arrogant, conceited or thinking that you are better than anyone else. It means having a healthy regard for yourself knowing that you are a worthy human being.

It is important to remind ourselves that no one is perfect. We all have strengths and weaknesses and we certainly possess the resources to work on improving ourselves.

Each of us is unique and has specific talents and abilities to offer. We are all here, in the words of Walt Whitman, "to contribute a verse".

In order to appreciate yourself it is up to you to discover what makes you unique and to further develop those talents. We have a responsibility to ourselves to do so.

You cannot sit around and wait for approval from others. Work on accepting yourself. You are the only "you" that you have. It is in your best interests to be the best you can be.

Until you love yourself, you will not be able to love anyone else. You can only love another to the degree that you do yourself.

How do you love yourself?

You do so by investing in and working on your personal growth and development. You work on being the best you. You understand that you are human, but you acknowledge that you have the potential and spiritual capability to rise above whatever conditions and obstacles are put in your path.

When you love yourself you endeavor to take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. You take care to look and feel your best by nurturing your body, mind and spirit.

Conversely, if you don't love yourself enough, start taking care of your body, mind, and spirit. You will not only become more self-aware, you will generate feelings of worth and accomplishment.

Your Body

You take care of your body by eating well, exercising and getting plenty of rest. There are many wonderful books available that can help you learn what types of food and exercise are good for you and your particular body type.

Your Mind

Your mind needs nourishment and exercise too. Don't take it for granted. Stimulate it by learning about new and interesting things. Keeping your mind active helps prevent certain old age diseases such as Alzheimer's and dementia. Keeping the neural connections of your mind active helps maintain memory and brain functions at optimum levels.

Your Spirit

If you take care of your mind and body but neglect your spirit, you will lack balance and feel that something is missing in your life. Taking care of your spirit rejuvenates you, and helps you deal with the daily stresses and challenges of everyday life.

When you love yourself, you invest in your personal growth and development. You endeavor to be the best that you can be, and you strive to achieve your potential.

http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/loveyourself.html

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[sshenry]

Nicely put Darla, thank you :)

May I comment on one section?
to accept yourself as you are and to come to terms with those aspects of yourself that you cannot change.


I'm assuming that by this you are talking about things like gender, height, physical aspects of this manifest body that we don't really have control over, because when it comes to who we are, how we preceive those things around us, our choices etc., all of that can change given time and application. I can't count how many things about my "self" that I used to think were just things I had to accept, but that have changed over the years, and in relation to my own spiritual evolution...

[Darla Ken Pearce]

Yes, exactly right! Many things we perceive as handicaps, we actually chose prior to this incarnation and if we could just remember ~ all would come back to our memory of why this is so. It is said that on Earth today, there were about 250 templates to pick from and how we look is something chosen. It takes on a whole new vista once this is fully realized and explored as to why we have certain features. As far as physical form goes and we each chose one of those. Of great interest to us as we continue ascending is that we will have the ability to pick from many other forms.

Since there will be a great "healing" come over the Earth and all beings soon, it is at that time that we will be able to change any features we would like to change and we will realize many new powers and talents in creating.

If you can take a few moments to realize how youthful your spirit feels, how ageless, how young even though so much of our lives in 3D were filled with darkness, pain, suffering, and density, well, then you will know how ageless we have always been, had it not been for the patterns of aging that were placed into our DNA limiting us to only 2 strands of our full 12 strands.

This happened when TPTB altered, tinkered, and put this heavy burden upon us for several million years and longer. It is no longer true, however, as our third eye was able to open, we began to change and increases the strands and overcome these serious limitations. Further, did you realize and know that our bodies are completely renewed every five years, in that no cell is "aged" but begins anew, yet our old patterning and thoughts in this matrix told us otherwise and we actually believed it ~ aged and died? Imagine what limitations we believe were in place. Amazing!

Look closely at your own higher power and ask for things to be revealed to you. You are a Master Creator, you've just simply forgotten but it will all come back to you. Just ask for it, sweetie. Much love xoxoxoxox

[conk]

Most all of us are handicapped by negative feelings instilled in us from a very young age. "Fear, fear, fear", screams the church. "Trouble, trouble", says the government. "I'm not good enough", says the incorrect assumptions we make. "The rest of us are better than you, but you can be like us if....", says marketing and advertising. "You'll never amount to anything", says the ignorant parent.

Finding ways to rid our sub-mind of this poor mental mapping is a real chore! A life long process often. And yes, the next instant of our creation can be different! Believe, have faith and hope. The only obstacle to growth is doubt. Rid yourself of it. You ARE amazing. ;)

Edit: The software is screwing with my narrative.

[Darla Ken Pearce]

Sweetie, you are a breath of fresh air! Many thanks! xoxoxox

[Jeffrey]

This reminds me of a prayer that I enjoy...

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as a pathway to peace."

Thanks for starting an invigorating thread Darla.

[Jakinabox]

Thank you for this. Loving myself is something that I'm trying to work on but struggling with at the moment. It's very hard to let go and accept that I don't have to be/feel like this anymore and to rewrite those ingrained negative neural pathways. This is another nice reminder :)

[Heartsong]

Darla
Thank you for your posts. I always learn from them.

[Artemesia]

Wonderful post Darla. You are an amazing light here. Nice to see someone working with the awareness of the socio-political mess that Avalon has done so much to shed light on, and yet at the same time find a way to remind those of us in the social circles of this kind of awareness to focus on the really 'easy' ways to do the lightwork we all seek, as we manifest the change to love on this planet. Starting with self, we each pave the way. Local realities shift, and non-local realities have space to emerge. Fantastic.

This seemed like a good place to share an interesting story of someone I've recently become aware of, since she is a person who embodies all that Darla's 'self love' article explains. Her name is Lorrin, and I first became aware of her by reading "The Children of Now", which is a book about Indigo/Crystal/Star children. There are some who come to Earth and are wise enough to stay hidden quietly, mostly unobserved, as they radiate the energy of love and self love that is so needed in 3D at this time. These Beautiful Silent Ones have much to share and teach about how to accept oneself, just the way one is, even as we work to hone ourselves into the visions of our higher selves. Moment to moment, each one complete in itself, and yet also building into fullness as well. Hovering in the balance of this kind of being, Lorrin shared light, and just being aware of her has changed me. I share this link with love, and also to honor Lorrin for her enduring spirit which manifested here on Earth.

http://web.mac.com/lorrinsworld/lorrinsworld/Lorrins_Story.html

[Artemesia]

Darla


I've come to realize that while trying to correct my self-talk from negative to positive, I don't really believe the positive. Then I ask "why?" If I can believe that others are acceptable, why can't I feel acceptable?

It comes down to a single response:
FEAR

It's not safe to feel good about myself.

Does this make any sense? How can I fix the part of me that is so deeply conflicted?

Heartsong, you are so brave for seeing this. Kudos, truly.

You stated that you don't really beleive the positive. Sometimes the funny technique of 'fake it 'til you make it' really can be helpful. Just keep talking. Keep the self praise flowing. Eventually, it will become real. It does indeed take practice.

With practice, its possible to turn something scary, seemingly impossible when new, into truth, glistening and pure. Self love is a skill. I might suggest that this is the reason it doesn't feel 'safe'. You're just not practiced in it. Just like a kid learning to play a new sport, its easy to get discouraged in the early phases, to allow the bilittling remarks of others to chase one off the field and into the bleachers. But life cannot be lived in the bleachers. You must play. It is a game. It must be played. There are no bleachers, not really.

I relate to the invisibility feeling well. For me, the invisibility was the scary part. Now I've learned when to use that skill, and when to stand in the center of the diamond and pitch with the best of them. Outfield is nice too, on some days. The point is, I've learned to play. And I spent a lot of time faking it. No matter. Its how I got here, who's to judge the validity of my path, when all they know, all I know, is that I AM here. Arriving, I stop striving. I love that. Loving comes easy that way.

Namaste.

[Lord Sidious]

Darla
Thank you for your posts. I always learn from them.

I've come to realize that while trying to correct my self-talk from negative to positive, I don't really believe the positive. Then I ask "why?" If I can believe that others are acceptable, why can't I feel acceptable?

It comes down to a single response:
FEAR

It's not safe to feel good about myself. The child in me knows that it's dangerous to be self-confident, self-present if you will. Better off invisible. Some one out there will cut you down to size - put you in your place - crush every positive feeling.

I'm now 60 and am good at many things but in trying to dress fashionably, as much as I would like to, there is an obstacle to doing so. When I speak in front of a group I don't feel the fear, my speaking is fine. But when I try to find something to wear my brain melts into helplessness. I know I will not only be heard, I will be seen.

Does this make any sense? How can I fix the part of me that is so deeply conflicted?

Do you realise that FEAR is actually
False
Expectations
Appearing
Real
and that it is all nothing other than an illusion?

[NinJin]

You always bring such good energy to the forum Darla - you light-worker you .. Thank you
I try to help but am clearly an amateur by comparison. It's good to know I can revitalize from time to time with what you & others are bringing
(we all need a little help now & then).