What do you feel when someone you know dies?

[shadowstalker]

I put this is the spirituality section because as we know when one dies one transitions to another frequency/dimension..

When someone I know dies, that day or night, I feel complete neutrality.
It takes me a while to realize that someone that I knew had died, but only because i don't encounter it to often. I feel this neutrality before I find that A person that I had known had died not after.

And this is the question I am asking.
Before you realize that a loved one has died,(by word of mouth) do you feel anything specific spiritually?:confused:

I ask because this maybe another gift that some may have.

P.S. I do realize that this maybe a touchy subject to some, but I do feel that it is subject needing to be addressed and help us gain balance.

[DeDukshyn]

I wish I had something to share with you on this specifically but haven't had enough people in my life die to notice. But the few I have had, I feel complete neutrality upon hearing of their their death. I rarely feel "sad" on a death (except my cat (which isn't dead :) - just almost a good few times - made me cry good - weird) but a neutralness.

I have 100% faith death is just a body thing anyway - rather insignificant in the bigger picture. I think you may have the same outlook (emotions will tell you) and that may allow you to experience death from a more true spiritual state rather than an egoic one, which may also manifest the instant connection - spiritually. just some thoughts.

[cloud9]

Sad, I'm selfish...

[shadowstalker]

Sad, I'm selfish...
But do you feel sad before you find out they had died or after?

[Flasky]

Hello,

I kind of tried to reply to you but my post took a bit of a random turn so I posted it on its own...but I donno if it might still help with offering a bit of different food for thought!

http://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?21356-Africa-was-my-First-Home

[meeradas]

I can remember trying to meditate the night one of my friends committed suicide.
I sat down, only to find myself in the following situation:
Picture a "Desert Eagle" pistol circling my head for 1 hour, incl the stronge urge to pull its trigger.
Wasn't suicidal myself, so what was that? Was very strong.
Couldn't get rid of it, didn't know where it came from.

Next day, somebody told me, my friend had killed himself at the time i was "meditating".
That must have been it. So, no feeling but this instead. The incident had no felt link to my friend.

I know that's not what you are talking about, but thought i should put it here, anyway.

[meeradas]

Answering your question:
No, i don't feel anything spiritually.
The 'emotional work' (and beyond) sets in only after realizing this particular being has left this frequency band [of embodiment].

[Darla Ken Pearce]

Over the years I've lost too many family and loved ones to count. It always hurts to lose them and especially when I saw them all the time ~ like my grandma who lived next door to us. I was 11 years old at the time and she had never been sick for one day. And that same year a neighbor boy, Bruce, who I really liked died, he was 12 years old.

Again, another old man, I visited, Laffette, who was bedridden in his 90's and who I used to read the newspaper to by way of entertainment, died that same year. And throughout the years many others as well. A husband, my best friend, my favorite uncle and aunt, then all my uncles and aunts, within a period of about 3 years. They were here and then ~ gone one by one.

One thing I began to notice is that when another died, I'd be sitting in their funeral listening to sad music and there would be a "Roll Call" of the dead, who passed before my eyes through memories making the cumulative effect very powerful and even sadder.

This packed a wallop, I can tell you and it felt staggering to absorb. It was not just one of them but it felt like all of them combined! The feeling was overwhelming to me.

Once I cried more than the Widow and everyone looked at me really funny. I laugh about it now. Like I must be a mistress or something interesting. It was so embarrassing when this happened. Especially because this was a person I didn't know well (father of my son-in-law). It was about then that I realized each death was bringing cumulative grief up from somewhere within me.

Something I've never heard others talk about but feel certainly exists at least in my experience of death. This all has changed, thank goodness and mercy, as I can tell you having just lost my beloved Father on this last Easter Sunday.

I am more aware and conscious that this transition has nothing to do with their spirit which never dies and is eternal. In his case and also two months ago, when a little companion dog, Topper, I had at my side died suddenly, their spirits are now much more in your face. You can feel them right there immediately and know for certain they live on where before it was not all that noticeable.

In my Dad's case, his spirit visited me about a month before he died. He had never been to my home before and commented about the beauty of my surroundings and then he was gone. This made my transition easier when his body followed. Make no mistake ~ when you love someone, you also have a serious transition to make in adjusting yourself and regaining balance.

As our consciousness rises, we become more in tune with spiritual and etheric personages that I believe have always been around us. For instance as our angels and guides. It gets easier all the time to detect their loving presence and this alone, makes life more blissful, as it's impossible to feel you are ever alone.

The one thing that hasn't changed much is dealing with the body of those we love here; their mortal remains that are left over. This is the hardest part and no matter how you can intellectualize and know they are not really "dead" there is a sadness associated with the body that still has a sting.

At least this time, I knew better and although difficult it went smoothly. Once they are laid to rest, I was able to go forth calling upon their spirit whenever I think of them and knowing all is well with a certainty that was missing before.

This is beyond the scope of this thread but I'd also like to add one other thing and that's that in this time as Earth is ascending, we are being asked to integrate all the other lives we have led into a unity of purpose and reconciliation.

Imagine how much sadness we have to sort through that we may not even realize comes from other lives, as well as, this one. I think a lot of addictions come from a sadness people are unable to place their fingers on that needs to be resolved right now for once and all.

We need to be clarified, blessed, and sanctified in order to be whole before we can fully enjoy the New Golden Age that is upon us now. And so it is.... Much love!

[ozlemer]

The day my father died I saw him pass me in his car waving to me (saying goodbye most probably). This was of course totally impossible as he was 150km away at another town at the time. 10 minutes later I was informed that he has had a heart attack and that he died. I of course couldn't believe it as I had just seen him pass me ten mins ago. So, what was that?

So my experience wasn't really a feeling, I don't know what it was. But I do know that I saw him, which at the time he was dead for half an hour (I later learned the time of death).

Interesting things do happen in life, open yourself and you will SEE.

Cheers

[shadowstalker]

Ok then let me advance the question as I seem to be getting responses farther then meer feeling.

What do you feel/see/experience before/during/after the death of a loved one?
Maybe I should have asked that to begin with but i didn't think I would be getting these awesome responses either.

[toothpick]

Hi shadowstalker.
I,ve known way too many family and friends, that have passed on.
I have been to more funerals then I care to count.
Starting with my dad,s when I was ten.
Never felt anything, that I noticed, before someone,s passing.
After someone close passes there is just mourning and numbness.
Nowadays I don,t feel anything before or after, only compassion.
It seems that, now I only mourn when I,m damn good and ready.
That might entail a couple of days later, a month later or maybe a year later.

toothpick

[shadowstalker]

Hi shadowstalker.
I,ve known way too many family and friends, that have passed on.
I have been to more funerals then I care to count.
Starting with my dad,s when I was ten.
Never felt anything, that I noticed, before someone,s passing.
After someone close passes there is just mourning and numbness.
Nowadays I don,t feel anything before or after, only compassion.
It seems that, now I only mourn when I,m damn good and ready.
That might entail a couple of days later, a month later or maybe a year later.

toothpick
I am reaching that point myself when it comes to my mourning period it comes when it comes and maybe last anywhere from a few days to a few weeks.. It all depends on who passed over.

[Fred Steeves]

I haven't had someone close die since I woke up, so don't know how that will be. But regurarly visiting my wife's 99 year old gramma in the ALF I've said goodbye to quite a few of the ailing and elderly residents along the way. Many aspects of these places are very sad, so I've always made it a point to get to know the other people and make sure they know someone cares.(especially the ones who have been abandonned)

Sometimes it's heartbreaking to see them keep on living, but when they die it's just, o.k., and it's a good feeling to know that you atleast showed them some love at their final station in this life. It doesn't take a lot, a simple smile and peck on the cheek can make a day.

Anyway, there are times when I feel their collective presence or energy. It seems they don't forget and like to do a bit of watching over so to speak. I think some pets gone by are with them.


Cheers,
Fred

[letmedanz]

You know, not sure if this is what you are looking for as an answer, but here goes:

AS known a death automatically brings about grimness in the family.
Everyone is all low, probably because of attachment or the social pressure to appear so.

I the only thing i have ever felt is the thought of what would be going on in the persons mind.
His thoughts wen he would have been so close to death.
somehow the understanding that they are moving to a better place helps.

i have fortunately not lost anyone really close in my life, so the feeling maynot have been stronger

but more importantly that the only race we take part in our lives is to death.
like it or not, from the moment every baby is born, it is always inching towards death..

Circle of life i suppose.

[Belle]

Many years ago when I lived 1550 miles away from family, I felt the presence of one of my uncles. It was like he was right beside me, had come to say hi and see how I was doing. I spoke to someone I couldn't see, but could feel very strongly for a while, and then the feeling was gone. Later that day I got a call to let me know that he had died.

About ten years ago, I was performing (I'm a musician) and could see a dear old friend in the audience. Andy and I had been friends since we were 5 years old, and I wondered why he didn't let me know he would be coming up to see me perform...he lived about 100 miles away, so it wasn't like it was a last minute decision. As soon as I was done, I went to see if I could find him, but he was gone. When I got home, my Mom called to tell me that Andy had died...the time coincided with the time of my performance and seeing him in the audience.

There have been many other times this kind of thing has occurred in my life. It's like they come by for a visit before they go. Sometimes I can feel them on and off for weeks before they leave. It doesn't stop the feelings of loss of their physical presence...the knowing that I won't be able to hug them anymore or talk over a cup of coffee. But it has allowed me to say I love you one more time and know that they 'hear' me.

[regaks]

The two energies I loved as parents have passed. The first (father in law) was ill for a few days before he left but "I felt" he really wanted to leave. I remeber telling him "meditating" it was ok to leave as it would be wonderful. When he took his last breath, I felt relief and extreme joy for him although sad that he was there and I was here. He often came to me in my dreams for the next year to have conversations.

My mother recently passed. This one has provided much more learning. When my sister called, I remember "feeling" before I answered the phone, that my mother had left. After I hung the phone up, I layed back on my bed (completely numb) and my mother was with me instantly. We were saying goodbye on a different level - or so I thought. It took longer for her to come to me in my dreams. I think that the fear-grief was too much of an obstacle at first. When she did finally come, she gave me a message about what is happening here on earth - a name - and told me she could not come anymore but would see me again soon?? To say the least, I was confused. Again I think the fear-grief took over and I did not think about the dream for a few weeks. I finally was able to relelase the fear and conduct an internet search of the name she gave me. I found what it was that she wanted me to see. After that - WOW! I hear, see and feel things now that before this time might have driven me right off the deep end. The true gift that she gave me during her time here and apparently after she left was "never be afraid that love/light is always with you".

I am so greatful for these gifts and I will always choose love.

I hope this helps in some way - thank you for the post

[ktlight]

And this is the question I am asking.
Before you realize that a loved one has died,(by word of mouth) do you feel anything specific spiritually?:confused:

I ask because this maybe another gift that some may have.

P.S. I do realize that this maybe a touchy subject to some, but I do feel that it is subject needing to be addressed and help us gain balance.

Very strangely, the only close death that I have felt is of my husband's auntie, who raised him. I think she transmitted a thought/ feeling that, even if not intended for me was caught somehow by me. I was therefore able to prepare him to receive the call.

[Fred Steeves]

The true gift that she gave me during her time here and apparently after she left was "never be afraid that love/light is always with you".

I am so greatful for these gifts and I will always choose love.



My mom taught me a very much needed and profound life lesson with her unexpected death 13 years ago. Much more basic than yours though regaks, I was nowhere near ready for the one you got. It was however the right bump, at the right time, in the right direction.

Cheers,
Fred

[mondaze]

my nan died last year and at the time she died she said to me (60 miles away) this is a bloody silly place to die. I smiled at the time, but three hours later i got the call that she had fallen down beside her bed and died. she has visited me a couple of times since, usually to tell me i'm cooking something wrong.... :rolleyes: she taught me to cook as a child...

[Fred Steeves]

Shadowstalker, maybe you could elaborate a bit on your experiences? Sounds like yours are leaning towards the before aspect, and I would like to understand what you're talking about.

Cheers,
Fred

[Nyce555]

A good friend of mine passed away from a motorcycle accident last summer and it was devistating as he was only 30 years old. I think I was in shock for a good 15 minutes when I first heard the news and then I was devastated realizing that I was never going to get a chance to see him again in this lifetime. I thought back to the last time I saw him which was a few months prior and we hadn't seen each other in years due to me moving away. I gave him a huge hug and told him how much I had missed him. I briefly caught him up to what was going on in my life and told him to email me so that we could hang out next time I was in town visiting. I never heard from him again, but I always looked out for his email. When I heard that he died, I thought to myself how happy I was to have saw him that one last time, but sad know we would never see each other again. I know he is on the other side living eternity in bliss so I am not sad for him. But I know I miss him and his family and other friends do. I hope he pops in on me from time to time to say Hi. Sometimes I dream about him and he tells me he's okay and gives me a big hug. I am hoping it is really him giving me a message and not a part of my imagination craving to know.

I have had several dreams about family members who have passed away and even a dream about my friends father who passed away. For some reason spirits really like to visit me in my dreams I guess. I think it is their way of saying "hey I'm still here and I'm okay." I had a friend that died in a car accident when I was 16. She also came to me in a dream. I was terrifed of driving after her accident and I was in the process of getting my drivers license. In my dream she was leaning against a bright red sports car (my favorite color and style car) and I walked over to her. I asked her if she was dead and she said yes. I asked if she was okay and she said yes. I then said okay, smiled at her, told her see you later and walked away. I woke up having no fear of driving again. That was my first experience with death of someone close to me and it confirmed my belief in the afterlife and that things there are even more beautiful and comforting than we can ever imagen. As I got a glimps of the golden flowing meadows that they speak about in NDEs and vibrant colors that surrounded my friend as she stood there glowing and looking more beautiful than I ever saw her in life. It is something that I look forward to when my time comes.

[shadowstalker]

Shadowstalker, maybe you could elaborate a bit on your experiences? Sounds like yours are leaning towards the before aspect, and I would like to understand what you're talking about.

Cheers,
Fred
Mine aren't necessarily before, but before I know my loved ones had actually died.
In other words the day they die I feel neutrality, but after I find out they have past, then I feel loss.
I don't get dreams of them before they pass, no goodbyes before they go.
Depending on who they are I do sometimes dream of them after they pass, and they are negative dreams, those folks had not changed there controlling ways and still leak them thru my dreams. I tell them that I had loved them and forgive them, but they need to move forward and not worry about there control over me and to just move on .
This takes several time before they hear me and then they move on.

If I do morn, it depends upon the person who had pass, and it usually takes only a few weeks for my morning period to go thru.
Sometimes it takes a few weeks before i do decide to morn but that also depends upon who passed over.

This is what I am looking for in responses from folks:
What do you feel/see/experience, spiritually/psychically, before/during/after the death of a loved one?