These are trying times we live in! So what can we do?

[jagman]

I was trained in the law enforcement community, And we had to take a lot of
basic psychology ! Avalonians on a day to day basis have to tackle some pretty
big issues! Apocalyptic end of the world prophecies, Mind Control, Abduction and
Life Altering Events and a host of many other topics!

So what can we do to make ourselves feel better in these trying times?
#1 If you dont exercise start exercising! It is a scientific fact that when we exercise, our brains release Endorphins ! Thats the stuff that makes us feel goooood!

#2 Sleep is very important, Try getting at-least 6 to 7 hours of sleep a night!

#3 Our recreation, WE all lead very busy lives today, But it is vital to our mental health
that we plan things for ourselves that we enjoy. ( not what our wives or husbands
or children enjoy) I know it sounds pretty selfish, But think about it for a moment.
If your happier you will make your family happier !
#4 Probably the most important. Its time to get in touch with your spiritual side !

These are just some guidelines, And I know I left out alot so feel free to post some of your own!

[pyriel]

Disagree with #3.. if your making just yourself happy then your alienating your family. If you dont put a side some time to make your kids and husband/wife happy. You'll just have a husband/wife that doesnt want to be with you and there will end up being a divorce and your kids will possibly want nothing to do with you. You do need to do things to make yourself happy but you need to put some time to the side for the rest of the family. If you're unwilling to do that then dont get married and keep your tool in you pants.

It's extremely selfish to blow them off and only do what makes you happy.

[jagman]

I did not say ignore your wife or kids or husbands! But it is very important to take ME Time! I hope this clears it up for you.

[pyrangello]

Hey Jagman, your on the right path to a positive result in our daily lives. i always say do at least one good deed per day for someone and make them smile and you too!

[Darla Ken Pearce]

When you attempt to please everyone, your wife, husband, children, friends, family and neglect to get in touch with your own heart, they can tell. If it sounds selfish to look to your own happiness first, so be it. The reason there are high divorce rates and messed up children and families is the need, the obligation, to do all things for others instead of enabling them through your own example to know how to achieve happiness on their own steam and merit. We were programmed badly to put our own needs last in most instances. Religious and other traditions maintain control when you are off kilter and obligated to others. It's what keeps those chains on without guards needed. We snap them on ourselves by being miserable and finding no way out. While there are serious exceptions, for the most part all of us fall into this trap one way or another.

One of my friends waits on her children hand and foot and has created cripples who don't know how to tend for themselves. It's a sad thing to see and they walk all over her and do not appreciate her efforts. Neither does her husband who has learned she is a willing doormat. Jagman thinks we all have a right to happiness. That's what he means by #3 and it's true.

It does no good ~ how much time you spend, your family will pick up on your basic unhappiness and often the tendency is to use you even more if they can manage it. If you don't have respect for your own needs, no one else will either. They take your lead. We are all good actors in the theater of life and can get away with 'faking" happiness for long periods of time, but in the end, no one will be happy when you do it this way.

Find your bliss and then demonstrate it to others. Some of you haven't found this out yet but you will. So there is hope for you yet. Keep truckin' ~ xoxox

[off_the grid]

Great post and I fully agree, Darla.

Me time isn't selfish but is actually selfless......

To people who don't understand this; to make others happy you have to be happy first.

And like you said, high divorce rate is reflection of people that are always compromising and never doing things they like.....

[Tane Mahuta]

I was trained in the law enforcement community, And we had to take a lot of
basic psychology ! Avalonians on a day to day basis have to tackle some pretty
big issues! Apocalyptic end of the world prophecies, Mind Control, Abduction and
Life Altering Events and a host of many other topics!

So what can we do to make ourselves feel better in these trying times?
#1 If you dont exercise start exercising! It is a scientific fact that when we exercise, our brains release Endorphins ! Thats the stuff that makes us feel goooood!

#2 Sleep is very important, Try getting at-least 6 to 7 hours of sleep a night!

#3 Our recreation, WE all lead very busy lives today, But it is vital to our mental health
that we plan things for ourselves that we enjoy. ( not what our wives or husbands
or children enjoy) I know it sounds pretty selfish, But think about it for a moment.
If your happier you will make your family happier !
#4 Probably the most important. Its time to get in touch with your spiritual side !

These are just some guidelines, And I know I left out alot so feel free to post some of your own!

#5 THe hardest & the most important of all.....is to Forgive those who have wronged you!

don't harbour any anger, hatred, just let it all go. Whatever happens, good or Bad!!

is meant to happen!

Great post


TM

[The One]

The longer I live, the more I realise the impact of attitude on life. Attitude to me is more important than facts. It is more important then the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important then appearance, giftedness, or skill. The remarkable thing is, we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people may act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is ten percent what happens to me and ninety percent how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are the change

Henry Ford said it another way, If you think you can or you think you can't, you are probably right.