Anxiety and Worry- How to get rid??

[markenty13]

Hey all, just a quick plea of help from you guys...

i tend to suffer from a mild form of anxiety (no panic attacks or anything extravagant) just a feeling in my stomach like a worried feeling..

it tends to happen when im in a relationship and my partner wants to go out or when she leaves my place to go home...

it doesnt happen all the time, it just random times.

It strange as i have never been cheated on as far as i know and just wondered why i get this weird worrying feeling, as i believe people get anxious in relationships if they have been cheated on in the past.

Is there anything you can do to rid this feeling at all, either spiritually or any other way as it would make my life much better, although it doesnt affect anyone else, only me...


thanks for any help :)

[Tarka the Duck]

Hello Markenty

I am sorry to hear about that - not nice.

Tony (Pie'n'eal) has written about a technique taught in Tibetan Buddhism, known as Subtle Body practice. The subtle body is where our emotions are felt and stored. You might find it useful - others seem to have. It is on a thread called Meditation for Beginners.


The Subtle Body

About three fingers' width below the navel is a chakra which controls the downward wind and subtle body. Our feelings are not held in the mind, but in the subtle body. When we are apprehensive, worried, or even just having a conversation with someone, we might feel a tension in the gut, heart, throat or head. This downward wind is called lung in Tibetan (pronounced loong), and when it rises, it reveals tension in the body.

In the west. we get very 'lungy' ...hot under the collar! We are speedy people.

The lung has to be brought down to where it should be, below the navel. As a result of our emotions, a residue is left in our subtle body, and it is quite exhausting. It also has other effects such as dry eyes.

Sometimes in meditation, though we practise, we still do not feel at ease: this is a lung/wind problem. I had all the above problems until I practised with the subtle body. The effect was quite noticeable - ask my teacher! (and the wife...)

It is a very simple practice of mentally scanning the body from the top down, and taking the attention to below the navel. This is done with the help of the 'gentle breath': as you scan, breath in naturally, taking the breath down to below the navel and holding it there for the count of 6-9 seconds (your tummy will fill out a bit, but do not strain).

Release the breath, but let a small amount remain there.

I did this 108 times in one session once a day, for six months. It had the effect of my being at perfect peace. You do not have to do it 108 times - see how it feels. During the day when you feel the lung/wind rising, merely remember to scan and take the breath down a few times

Now you are really contemplating your navel!!!

[markenty13]

wow thats awesome, i will give it a try - like i said, its not that bad, its just a weird feeling i get, its really strange...

but i will give the above a whirl and see how i get on

Thanks :)

[THIRDEYE]

markenty i understand completely where your at....at this moment my life is an emotional rollercoast...things that are causing this are shifts in the energy...a new paradigm thats comimg...a whole lot of good stuff look up thread anger and emotions i posted the thread on 10/12/2011 and i got an emense lot of feed back...so your not alone my brother just let these feeling flow thru you... and all will be taken care of...and if thiers any doubts about your girlfriend talk to her about it...its ok to be vulnerable....im one to go with my gut feeling and they dont lie...just some food for thought light love and abundance....thirdeye...

[markenty13]

Cheers third eye - i dont believe that my girlfriend is upto anything at all, i guess i just become a little paranoid, perhaps the thought of losing her or something ridiculious - i know in my head i am being stupid, its just the feeling in my stomach that i want rid of lol.

i will check your post out now

Thank you :)

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Good advice from Tarka the Duck. I have found in my own growth, that the more I have developed a healthy and natural self-Love, the less I have been plagued by anxiety. In the past, many of my relationships were based on my need, I sought them out not for the value of my partner, but for their use in filling the holes I had inside. Developing Love of self allowed me to appreciate the beauty of other people, and to form healthy relationships. Healthy self-Love is not vanity, it is the essential first step for true spiritual growth.