SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome)

[Chrononaut]

Hi all

SIDS:
I didn't know exactly where to drop my story but my intuition is telling me this is the right place.
Today is exactly one year ago my girlfriend and I had lost our daughter, it was at this very dramatic day I was gladly preparing the birth bath in our house, when the midwife came downstairs in panic towards me with the message that we have to rush to the hospital because she couldn't hear our baby's heart, it was quit. I was hoping her electronic tool had a defect on that moment.
So we rush to the nearest hospital for a case of emergency research. When we arrive it was already to late, our baby already past away. It was/ still a mystery, the doctors and the nurses where an enigma because the result of they're analyses was very positive before. Her heart was beating fine and so on. We're still working with professional help to the psychologist and parapsychologist because it's not just something that you can handle on a easy way. It's a nightmare first class.. The parapsychologist told us it was not her plan to take part in our life on this world? Layra was her name, she weighed 3680 grams and was 53 cm, past away at forty weeks before she was born.
We hope she is in a good place in peace where ever she is..
It's a strange & sad day for us today. Today we are parents of a angel.
Why us? The candle is burning.

Namaste to All,

Chrononaut.

[benevolentcrow]

So sad to hear of your loss. I can not even imagine the pain of losing a child. Only those who experience can. I am in love with hope that we may at some time be with all whom we love in a better place. May you look up to heaven and have comfort and a peace in your heart today...

[ktlight]

It is possible that Layra needed only the experience of being inside the womb to complete her assignment on this planet. I hope you are not grieving but celebrating her very short existence here.

[seko]

The best thing to do is to let Layra go so that you can both continue with your life.

I;m sorry about your loss and remember, life goes on. Probably that's what she wants, that you two move on.

Lots of love to both of you friends.

[Ineffable Hitchhiker]

I am so sorry for your loss.
I hope that you receive all the strength, courage and help you need to relieve you of your sadness and pain.


Do Not Stand At My Grave and Weep


Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
Mary Elizabeth Frye - 1932


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Much love to you and your partner.

[Lord Sidious]

Hi all

SIDS:
I didn't know exactly where to drop my story but my intuition is telling me this is the right place.
Today is exactly one year ago my girlfriend and I had lost our daughter, it was at this very dramatic day I was gladly preparing the birth bath in our house, when the midwife came downstairs in panic towards me with the message that we have to rush to the hospital because she couldn't hear our baby's heart, it was quit. I was hoping her electronic tool had a defect on that moment.
So we rush to the nearest hospital for a case of emergency research. When we arrive it was already to late, our baby already past away. It was/ still a mystery, the doctors and the nurses where an enigma because the result of they're analyses was very positive before. Her heart was beating fine and so on. We're still working with professional help to the psychologist and parapsychologist because it's not just something that you can handle on a easy way. It's a nightmare first class.. The parapsychologist told us it was not her plan to take part in our life on this world? Layra was her name, she weighed 3680 grams and was 53 cm, past away at forty weeks before she was born.
We hope she is in a good place in peace where ever she is..
It's a strange & sad day for us today. Today we are parents of a angel.
Why us? The candle is burning.

Namaste to All,

Chrononaut.

Usually, people feel sorry for people in your position, but it isn't the way of the Irish to do that.
Rather, we celebrate the fact that our loved one has gone to a better place.
There was another poster here a while back who had her daughter die very early too.
And I asked her if it were possible that she only came here to be a catalyst.
Is this possible for you and your girlfriend?
Are you different now to then? You see things around you very differently?
If so, she may have been a volunteer to help you.
So, honour her sacrifice and always remember that she is better off away from this existence than she would be here.
She may even feel sorrow for her earthly parents.
One thing you MUST realise is this, there isn't any blame in this for you, so if you feel guilt, let it go, she wouldn't want you to feel that.
In the meantime, here is a goddess for you to try and impart some of the feeling I am feeling for you.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5TnLFJbj7fk

[ulli]

May you find some answers today, within yourselves.
Some mysteries are indeed beyond our understanding.
Layra's soul may also have felt pain, knowing that her departure or non-arrival hurt you both.

I wonder how many souls change their minds about being born at the last minute
out of terror at the thought of being born into such a complex world.

[Caren]

Dear Chrononaut,
having worked with parents whom lost their babies to SIDS my heart goes out to you and Layra's mother;
there is no pain deeper than losing a child.
Loving thoughts and a prayer for peace and healing on this most personal day for you
and your girlfriend. :hug:

[Lisab]

Hello Chronaught. My sister and her partner have recently been through the same experiance. I agree with Ulli for me I like to think my nephew just changed his mind. Also this evening I am going to a charity ball in the memory of my friends son Harry who was killed a few weeks ago in a freak accident. The money we are hoping to raise is going to the hospital that tried to save him. The loss of a child is the worst of all. Im so sorry. I also agree with Lord Sid that maybe children who come and go so quickly change us in positive ways as well. Il be thinking of you tonight when honouring Harry and also my nephew and your daughter. Peace Lisa x

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Layra is a beautiful name by the way xxx

[Chrononaut]

May the good spirits always be with you my lovely Avalon friends,

I remember when the time came to say good buy at the cremation, we choose this music because the lyrics match very good for in the background.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PY1VCfMd2fc

Only the letters in of her name are bit different..
Thank you all for your support.

Love.

[Sierra]

I'm so sorry love. 1st anniversary has to be kicking all the shock, pain, and sorrow again.

I think Layra is holding you two in her arms very closely today.

So are we. :hug:

[Bridey]

I'm the other poster that Lord Sidious talked about. A similar thing happened to me. I was 39 weeks. Bridget was 8lbs, pretty little baby. The worst part of it all was giving birth, going through that whole process and just walk away with no baby. I have to say that was the hardest thing I had to go through.That was eight years ago now. I remember that time in my life very well still. I also remember the first day I didn't cry, that was six months later. Day by day it gets easier. I look back now with some tears but very thankful. I have learned quite a bit through my experience and I'm sure you both will too.

She was a special gift for both of you. Look back with fondness and I'm sure you do. Let the tears come, don't hold them back and then let it go. This day will always be special to you. Each and every year. Thinking strength for you and your girlfriend today.....

[Tarka the Duck]

I send you all as much love as I can muster.

[Lord Sidious]

I'm the other poster that Lord Sidious talked about. A similar thing happened to me. I was 39 weeks. Bridget was 8lbs, pretty little baby. The worst part of it all was giving birth, going through that whole process and just walk away with no baby. I have to say that was the hardest thing I had to go through.That was eight years ago now. I remember that time in my life very well still. I also remember the first day I didn't cry, that was six months later. Day by day it gets easier. I look back now with some tears but very thankful. I have learned quite a bit through my experience and I'm sure you both will too.

She was a special gift for both of you. Look back with fondness and I'm sure you do. Let the tears come, don't hold them back and then let it go. This day will always be special to you. Each and every year. Thinking strength for you and your girlfriend today.....

Sorry Bridey, I couldn't remember who the poster was, but I did remember your post.

[Bridey]

No worries whatsoever Lord Sid, you gave some great advice..

[Chrononaut]

Again lot of thanks for all your support,

Now I like to share my personal spiritual experience after this nightmare.
I was feeling so sad, empty and ill. I didn't eat, was crying the whole day and also the next day and so on.. Till the moment came for a question, what I am doing here?. Then I got the this deep feeling that my daughter was trying to communicate with me ( I think telepathic ) Something brought me to the place she was, amazing beautiful wonderful it was! On this place I learn allot from her in a short time. This is what I learn; We have to come together to support each other specially in difficult times and learn to love so we can reach spiritual enlightenment. And also she told me that she was already enlighten to go to a higher dimension. That I don't have to worry with her, everything is fine where she is and that she's waiting for us. Don't be affright. She love to see us together. Since then I was feeling much better.
What also amaze me was that after this happening I was telling my sister about the experience I had, and she was quiet for a long time on the phone.. When I ask her if everything was OK she told me she had told a friend who is a medium what happened. And this person told my sister the same from what I had learned from my daughter. With other words she had also communication. But the thing is, I never had contact with this medium before and till this day I don't know who she is.

[Sidney]

My heart goes out to you. Please know your beautiful daughter is in a much more beautiful place. Everything happens for a reason. Give her your blessing, and she will give you hers. I am so sorry for your loss and for your pain. Prayers heading your way. Much Love