A surreal dream I had

[Humble Janitor]

Lately, I've been thinking about the disaster in the Gulf and telling myself how I would never want to raise children in an environment utterly destroyed by oil and corexit and other chemicals.

But I had an odd dream last night in which I was being hugged by a child with the words "I love you daddy" being the only words I remember from it. It was such a surreal dream. I woke up feeling strange and I've been wondering about it all day long.

I guess I'm sad because maybe deep inside, I want to be a father but I just don't see the opportunity coming by anytime soon. You can't just jump into having kids if you don't have a relationship and you can't form a relationship with someone if you're not willing to get out and meet them. It goes on and on and on.

It's just so sad. I wouldn't call it fear but rather my subconscious listening to what I'm thinking and responding via my dreams.

[dim]

Hard to tell without a context but it has something to do with either
old emotional trauma surfacing right now in your life which you'll need to enfold in order to release,
or part of your character that you don't want to lose or see being destroyed.

Something along these lines but nothing to do with you being a parent,
then again is just me giving an interpretation which by definition is vague.

[lindabaker]

Hi, Humble! I really liked your dream. If fatherhood is in your dreams, you may be a great addition to those of us who are raising the next wave of loving people. Don't let the unconscious ones be the only ones raising kids, right? If I may be so bold, why are you not willing to go out and meet people? I am picking up a disability or some other sort of handicap, to use the words of people who must use labels, he he. If this is the case, it does change the approach that you may want to take. If you are a male, I wouldn't suggest meeting someone through the internet. The law of averages tells us that you are outnumbered. Do you work at night? I'm seeing a tunnel that you are in, one that you could come out of, into the daylight. There is absolutely no reason for you to be without a partner. It's easy not to be bold and seek companionship. So much easier to sit back and stew. I say, step out into the sunshine. Someone may be waiting but they can't see you, darling! Love to you, Linda (p.s. I had to kick myself in the butt a few years ago and put myself out there. Wow, I got what I asked for. Ask me how if you are interested.)

[Caren]

Hi Humble J
Perhaps you are feeling a little overwhelmed emotionally in regards to this massive, environmental
disaster.
Of course your dream affected you. It sounds like you are ready and very interested to meet someone
special and start a family. Maybe you are a shy person? It can be difficult to meet new people when you
are shy by nature.
I understand your feelings of wanting to become a father. I have loved children all my life (child nurse).
So yes- step out into the sunshine, someone may be waiting... and all the best humble J.
caren

[Peace of Mind]

Hi HJ,

Maybe you were experiencing Hypnogogia (A sleep like trance). I say this because it is in my understanding that it’s extremely hard to read anything in dreams (there’s a few studies showing how dreams are control with one side of the brain while comprehension is controlled by the other…I’m not so sure how accurate the dream reading theory is thou).

It’s also possible that you had a vision and not a dream…so that’s a good thing. Just stay optimistic either way, not only are visions a look into the future…dreams do come true…

Peace

[Humble Janitor]

Thanks for the replies. I am not sure what it means but I am discouraged by what I see from relationships and the drama they cause my friends and the people I love. I'm really not ready to put myself out there for anyone, especially when they reject me based on silly things. I will be going back to working nights to free up my weekends again so I can socialize.

Though I will say that there was an immense feeling of love and warmth from that dream. Perhaps it may also signal to me that I have the ability to be emphatic and caring and awaken those skills?

[Caren]

Great stuff Humble J, sounds like a wonderful dream/experience.
all the best, caren

[Lost Soul]

Possible soul of your future child embracing you? You might meet her and have that child after all. Depends on your free will decision to make it happen and the universal spirit's will.

People have dreamed of specific acts done by a child they didn't have and when they did have that child, that act that was dreamed of happened.

[Humble Janitor]

That's also possible.

But another possibility went through my mind after that dream: What if I could be a "father" to the world, but in a different way? What if I could contribute something that would help others?

[Peace of Mind]

Lost soul, :thumb:

Humble Janitor, I feel you. But, we all have the potential to contribute in this world and beyond.

Our unique skills and characteristics not only aid in improving humanity but inspiring others….whether it’s to do good and/or bad. It’s all about desire; many people lack the will to do what they really want to do. Whatever the reason…it’s just another obstacle that was meant to be conquered. However, the lack of ambition is understandable because the system we live by is a set up, designed for you to fail before achieving, It robs you of your motivation, very uninspiring. We (society) make living way too difficult… when we can clearly make it a paradise.

Life is all about moving, living, experiencing the experience.
If you feel idled... it’s probably because you’re stopped at a stop sign in the road of life. No need to panic thou, don’t dare let others/society rush you into the intersection.
Observe and assess the situation and make yoe move with confidence.
In other words…your subconscious got your back. :yes4:
You just have to recognize it.

No one really wants to be the first to man/woman up and take the great responsibility of cleaning up our crap/act, haha. It’s also, funny how we wait for the guys we complain about to help us out ….but that’s another topic, pardon me.

Anyway, just continue to live and learn on your path, work on your crafts, and watch for your opportunities, only you will know them when you see them.

No one should doubt the perspective of their communal interest, its very importan for your peace of mind. Never rush, enjoy the moment of solitude while it lasts, moments of silence can sometimes become a priceless privelge. :wink:

But seriously, everything happens for a reason. The mind/universe haves a funny way of reserving privacy when needed, when it needs to reflect and react, but cautiously.

Be careful looking for love, it will often have you in the wrong places (As the song says)
when its real, it will find you.

Peace

[Humble Janitor]

Very true about opportunities. I'm already pursuing one with confidence that it is the best move I could possibly make at this point, career-wise. My intuition told me it was the correct choice, there are little if any negative issues with it and it will get me what I feel I need at this point, which is to start saving money in case I must relocate or survive.

[pilotsimone]

At the pace human beings are changing right now...I personally would not pursue a relationship YET. Why enter into a relationship based in duality if you don't have to?

I sincerely believe our relationships will be changing radically in the next several years anyway. I already see it in my own life. I haven't been able to look at my spouse or children the same in a very long time.

I see us all as four beings having a unique human experience together. Not really my husband or children. It's a much deeper respect and love.

I say consider waiting for the new human template to emerge and just focus on yourself right now. :)

[oldeyes]

I know this is an old thread, but I'm new to Avalon. I just wanted to tell you to never give up hope. Who knows? I have many times seen future things in my dreams (mundane things, so far, but future things nonetheless). This may have been a precognitive dream. :) I hope this one comes true for you. Best wishes. Peace and love.

[Heather2017]

HJ, I can relate to your dream and your sadness around not having a child. While I've chosen not to have a husband or children and have no regrets, I love children very much and sometimes feel sad that I don't spend more time with them.

Changes are happening in our lives, and it wouldn't surpise me if both of us had more contact with children soon. There's more than one way to be a parent, and having a loving relationship with a child does not have to mean having a romantic relationship first.

Keep following your inner guidance and stay open to opportunities for increasing the love all around. :hippie: