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Heyoka_11
25th November 2011, 07:02
When sharing a self-empowering message, it pays to take it for granted that the recipient has sufficient self awareness to understand your words.
G'day All,

I was given the opportunity to make a little difference in someone's life last night, and I thought the tale worth repeating.

As some of you know, I work in the mining industry, in a remote region of Western Australia's North -West. It's a pretty hard drinking, blokey environment, where the usual after hours topics of conversation revolve around grizzling about work, the opposite sex, or arguing over whose shout it is for the next round of drinks.

One of the younger fellows that I know, all of twenty years of age, is a rather flamboyant individual, quite tall, covered in tattoos, whose main priority in life, or so he would have us believe, is the number of sexual conquests he chalked up when last on leave. He comes across as an extememly confident young man, is a former state champion in a popular sport, and seems to attract a fan club of girls wherever he goes. But right from the get go, I knew that there was a depth to this person that his brovado could not betray.

He had taken to joining me for dinner, and last night during a lull in conversation, I raised the subject of numerology, and the difference that it had made in my life. I asked him if he had ever heard of numerology, and to my surprise, be told me that he had an Aunt who, "was into all that wierd stuff". Oh well, that was better than "Nuh!" I thought. I offered to knock up a reading for him later in the evening, "Just for a laugh" I assured him. He was happy to give me his full name and date of birth, and probably thought little of it if there was going to be a laugh involved.

Later in the evening, I sat him down at my laptop to read three pages on the most basic aspects of his numerological reading, while I joined a small gathering outside my room, where the conversation was fast descending into the gutter (Grossing each other out is a pastime in Australian mining camps). Now I thought that it might take this fellow five minutes perhaps to skim through this reading and honestly thought he would gain little from it.

Here are a few brief exerts from his reading:


Others may perceive you as very cold and even socially dysfunctional but actually your detachment from others is very spiritually sophisticated

Your reluctance to let anyone get to know the real you is an innate defense mechanism that prevents you from being hurt by others.

Living too much inside your head might present a lifetime's worth of challenge for you. Your cool personality often makes it difficult for you to make friends.


You are a deeply spiritual individual who often displays a deep interest in religion or the occult at a very early age.

You are very aware of feeling as insignificant as a grain of sand in the Universe and believe that materialism, prejudice and lust just don't matter in the long run

As you are naturally very lonely and insecure, you are particularly vulnerable to joining a cult or becoming fanatical in the religious sense.
He finally emerged over ten minutes later, and I greeted him with "Well, how far off your intended path are you?; like, did any of it make any sense to you?", attempting to make light of it all.

"Actually most of it made sense to me" he replied in a somewhat humbled voice.

I expressed my surprise, but he assured me that he was able relate to most of what he had read.

Oops! I thought to myself, now realising that I had foolishly prejudged the fellow. What he read had honestly struck a chord, and he had the courage to admit that to me.

I had made the mistake of allowing myself to judge him based on the bravado that he portayed, instead of accepting him as another living, breathing, human being, with a heart and soul, and the same basic need for love and acceptance as the rest of us have. He had sufficient self awareness to recognise the truth, but I chose to think him unable.

Anyway, it was all good, and no offence was taken, and I now have the opportunity to make a difference in another persons life that I hope will be a positive one.


Live a lie long enough, and you will end up believing it to be true

I hope the day comes when he thanks me for having brought numerology to his attention, not for the sake of being thanked, but for knowing that it has helped another soul to drop the facade and learn to love themselves for who they really are, and to understand why they are here on Earth in the first place.

Thanks for your time,

Tony.

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Kristo
25th November 2011, 08:21
What a wonderful story, Tony. You indeed planted a seed for this guy. Now he is free to do with it what he chooses... your work is done (or 'to be continued' ;) )
Thank you so much for sharing. Many blessings to you!
Kris

Heyoka_11
25th November 2011, 09:06
(or 'to be continued' ;) )

Hi Kris,

This is the first time that we have crossed paths, so an especially big 'Hi' to you, and thank you for your post.

Hopefully this one will be a work in progress, but that's up to him.

One soul at a time, that'll get the job done.

Best Wishes,

Tony :)

Lord Sidious
25th November 2011, 09:10
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58andfixed
25th November 2011, 09:44
I used to take judgment on some process such as numerology, runes, & card reading ...

Now my perspective is not as restrictive on the specifics of the process, and more appreciation for the bonding, while preparing the mind for seeds not yet ready to even be planted.

Bonding is such a healing and memorable event, especially for 'non-traditional' topics.

This has done much for me, particularly tonight. Your timing is impeccable.

- 58






Live a lie long enough, and you will end up believing it to be true

I hope the day comes when he thanks me for having brought numerology to his attention, not for the sake of being thanked, but for knowing that it has helped another soul to drop the facade and learn to love themselves for who they really are, and to understand why they are here on Earth in the first place.

Thanks for your time,

Tony.

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Ria
25th November 2011, 09:54
Heyoka, Do you think your new friend might be interested in this site ?

Star1111
25th November 2011, 10:22
Heyoka 11
Good for you!
I am SO interested in Numerology too, its fasinating
I'm glad you had the response from this guy in the way you did.
Good start!!

Oh and I L O V E you dancing kitten, please can I have him/her!!

Much LOVE to you.

Kiki
25th November 2011, 10:47
I think you should also thank him, for helping you realise not to prejudge! Good job and I would also like to have a reading if possible :o

Heyoka_11
25th November 2011, 11:14
Heyoka, Do you think your new friend might be interested in this site ?

Hi Ria,

A fine question, though I reckon it's a case of one step at a time. What he learned in that one reading has blown his mind already, so it's a case of softly, softly for a little while.

If I think he'd be up to it in the future, he may be hearing of Avalon.

Best Wishes,

Tony :)

Heyoka_11
25th November 2011, 11:19
I think you should also thank him, for helping you realise not to prejudge! Good job and I would also like to have a reading if possible :o

Hi Kiki, and a belated welcome to Avalon.

Just had dinner with him, and I squared the account up with great aplomb. It was a win, win situation, so it was the least I could do.

I'll PM you about a reading.

:)

laughs-last
25th November 2011, 12:22
Hi all hope your all wella nd bouncing along. Nice to hear you found a connection dude. I 'bumped' into 2 south american shamans the other week, and had a chat with one in particular. He mentioned that it would be best to work with those closest to the 'vibe', and leave those far away alone as they are outta reach; makes sense if he felt things were gonna crank up, soon. I too am learning to drop my judgemental programming and allowing the universe to guide me to the next coversation, and the next wake up call. I never bothered to ask the mayan shamans about 2012, like I can think that far ahead; one day at a time, and so far so good :)

Happy hunting to all keep on smiling, it's easier to do than frowning, so I was told :)

ONE LOVE, BIG HUGZ and PIECES FALLING INTO PLACE :jester:

westhill
25th November 2011, 13:24
Hi...
Sometimes seeing something in writing can have a big impact. I imagine that piece of paper will have a long life as he will review it often.
Being really seen (by you and all of us here) and yet not judged or injured will help him build strength to be himself. It all makes for a
better place to be. Thanks.
westhill

Caren
25th November 2011, 13:54
Hi Heyoka_11,
thank you for sharing your experience with us. I really enjoyed reading about your new young friend and how two seemingly different people shared much more on a deeper level than was evident on the surface. An interesting story Tony and you tell it so well :hug: