Recommended Cleansing after Breakup

[Zillah]

Hey all,

I have been engaged for nearly two years, but it just ended yesterday. This relationship has been different from many of my past ones, one where I felt I completely surrendered to love, but lost myself in the process. Altho I swore to myself Id never let this happen, before you know it, it does. Granted, there are no mistakes and everything happens FOR us and not TO us - Im finding the ties we have made together still very strong and I feel a cleansing or cutting of chords is in order for me to move on.

I know innately our paths are no longer to be shared, and have come to rational terms to end the relationship and nurture my own happiness once again, but I cannot lie - its horribly difficult and taxing on my heart - Id like to know of your ways you have cut ties, connections, vows, etc to release and let go of the other person.

What I have done so far:

I Release and let go _______(name).
I cut all ties and chords binding _______ (name) to me.


Thank you all in advance.

[Lord Sidious]

Wish I could help Zillah, but this isn't a field where I excell.
Women have wounded me on occasions and it has taken many, many years to heal, as I don't know what I need to do for myself.
But I wish you all the best and call on the gods/universe/whatever to give you what you need.

[RMorgan]

Zillah,

Unfortunately, the only advice that I can give you, that´s 100% efficient, it´s also a cliche...Only time is able to heal these wounds.

So relax, do things that make you happy, have fun with your friends, think about your mistakes on this relationship and try not to repeat them in the future.

Getting out of a long relationship is just like stop smoking...It´s pretty hard, because many daily things you´re used to do will make you remember of your former partner. Just give yourself some time and these links will be gone.

After some time, only the good memories and good lessons will stay.

I wish you only the best, my friend.

Raf.

[pharoah21]

I think spiritual issues need to be handled by spiritual beings, so call on the gods/ spirit guides or whatever it is you believe in. On a more practical level, I might recommend something like a detox/liver flush, getting rid of any toxins in your body would surely be a good way of feeling better and starting a fresh.

[Zillah]

Time always heals no doubt - the hardest part for me is sleeping at night, waking up to a blank spot in my bed -- during the day I can fill myself with all the reasons and joys and pleasures and excitement for a new life...

So essentially I'm looking for a method to get me through those dark moments, in the dead of the night.

Thank you both for your love and support - its beyond appreciated xo

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I think spiritual issues need to be handled by spiritual beings, so call on the gods/ spirit guides or whatever it is you believe in. On a more practical level, I might recommend something like a detox/liver flush, getting rid of any toxins in your body would surely be a good way of feeling better and starting a fresh.

so just keep doing what im doing - the realms are gonna be busy ;)

good idea on the flush - i have been doing a gentle detox for cellular repair, restructure - and eating a ton of colostrum.

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Wish I could help Zillah, but this isn't a field where I excell.
Women have wounded me on occasions and it has taken many, many years to heal, as I don't know what I need to do for myself.
But I wish you all the best and call on the gods/universe/whatever to give you what you need.

i send YOU love, thank you for sharing your experience.

[RMorgan]

Well, why don´t you buy a pet? Little blessed creatures like dogs and cats are really good in making us happy! Anyway, it´s nice to have something to take care of. :)

[pharoah21]

Well, why don´t you buy a pet? Little blessed creatures like dogs and cats are really good in making us happy! Anyway, it´s nice to have something to take care of. :)

Couldn't agree more. This quick video shows a great example of this :)

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[Zillah]

Well, why don´t you buy a pet? Little blessed creatures like dogs and cats are really good in making us happy! Anyway, it´s nice to have something to take care of. :)

This forum never ceases to amaze me :) Amazingly enough - Im already in contact with a friend of mine I met while I lived overseas, she's shipping a dog that I rescued (and she took care of while I continued travelling) on over to me...

Her name is Mini and she's arriving in the next few weeks.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v54/suzanne1/lilmissmini2.jpg

My father's dog (who I raised) is also here - altho she's with him most of the time, she will cuddle up to me and it will alleviate some of the pain.

This is Clee:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v54/suzanne1/cleosnowface.jpg

[amym]

I think it is important to fully feel your feelings without trying to block them.

Feel through all of it and eventually you will come to the other side of sadness and feel tremendous relief and eventually happiness.

[Marianne]

Hey all,
I have been engaged for nearly two years, but it just ended yesterday. This relationship has been different from many of my past ones, one where I felt I completely surrendered to love, but lost myself in the process. Altho I swore to myself Id never let this happen, before you know it, it does. Granted, there are no mistakes and everything happens FOR us and not TO us - Im finding the ties we have made together still very strong and I feel a cleansing or cutting of chords is in order for me to move on.

I know innately our paths are no longer to be shared, and have come to rational terms to end the relationship and nurture my own happiness once again, but I cannot lie - its horribly difficult and taxing on my heart - Id like to know of your ways you have cut ties, connections, vows, etc to release and let go of the other person.

What I have done so far:

I Release and let go _______(name).
I cut all ties and chords binding _______ (name) to me.

Thank you all in advance.

Dear Zillah,
My heart goes out to you, and I wish you strength and courage as you grow from this experience.

Dawn posted some excellent information on another thread, about cord cutting, and a traditional Hawaiian process called Ho-oponopono that sounds like it could help you. Here's the link:
http://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?30915-Is-My-Mission-Over&p=316919&viewfull=1#post316919

EFT (emotional freedom technique) is also useful in releasing emotions/patterns. You can find lots of info on the web about it, it's very simple to learn the basics. I can also give you info if you want to PM me.

Let me know if there's anything I can do for you. I'm one of those who often rises in the wee hours of the morning and would be glad of someone to talk to if you ever need a friendly ear.

Love,
Marianne

[Lord Sidious]

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Wish I could help Zillah, but this isn't a field where I excell.
Women have wounded me on occasions and it has taken many, many years to heal, as I don't know what I need to do for myself.
But I wish you all the best and call on the gods/universe/whatever to give you what you need.

i send YOU love, thank you for sharing your experience.

And twice as much back to you.
And to start with, here is a goddess to make you feel better.
I know she does that for me.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5TnLFJbj7fk

[onawah]

Hi Zilah. Pets are a wonderful solution!
Crystals may be good helpers too.
I will PM you with a personal invitation.

[Zillah]

I think it is important to fully feel your feelings without trying to block them.

Feel through all of it and eventually you will come to the other side of sadness and feel tremendous relief and eventually happiness.

YES, I agree - This will take the ultimate courage but it must be done - thank you for your wisdom.

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Hey all,
I have been engaged for nearly two years, but it just ended yesterday. This relationship has been different from many of my past ones, one where I felt I completely surrendered to love, but lost myself in the process. Altho I swore to myself Id never let this happen, before you know it, it does. Granted, there are no mistakes and everything happens FOR us and not TO us - Im finding the ties we have made together still very strong and I feel a cleansing or cutting of chords is in order for me to move on.

I know innately our paths are no longer to be shared, and have come to rational terms to end the relationship and nurture my own happiness once again, but I cannot lie - its horribly difficult and taxing on my heart - Id like to know of your ways you have cut ties, connections, vows, etc to release and let go of the other person.

What I have done so far:

I Release and let go _______(name).
I cut all ties and chords binding _______ (name) to me.

Thank you all in advance.

Dear Zillah,
My heart goes out to you, and I wish you strength and courage as you grow from this experience.

Dawn posted some excellent information on another thread, about cord cutting, and a traditional Hawaiian process called Ho-oponopono that sounds like it could help you. Here's the link:
http://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?30915-Is-My-Mission-Over&p=316919&viewfull=1#post316919

EFT (emotional freedom technique) is also useful in releasing emotions/patterns. You can find lots of info on the web about it, it's very simple to learn the basics. I can also give you info if you want to PM me.

Let me know if there's anything I can do for you. I'm one of those who often rises in the wee hours of the morning and would be glad of someone to talk to if you ever need a friendly ear.

Love,
Marianne

All wonderful tools, I will dig into them - blessings Marianne, I'm sure we will talk soon :) <3

[Cartomancer]

As your attorney I advise you to party heavily. Here's some good advice from Billy Ray Cyrus:

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[Hughe]

When you are in anxiety, write anything in your head and feelings on used newspapers using pencil, pen whatever.
Once you done writing, don't read it again. Pick the newspaper, tear it to make small pieces than dumb it in garbage can or burn outside.
It makes sense. I never tried it but I often write to myself, which helps me out to ease anxiety, frustration in general.

[Dawn]

Dear Zillah, I have some experience and helpful wisdom here. Let me tell you that this comes from my 20+ years as a healer.... Plus ending my 38 year marriage. So I have both given and taken this advice... and it is powerful.

It is good that you stated that you cut the ties, however if you ever find yourself thinking of him... guaranteed you are re-attaching to each other. This can be caused by either one of you reaching towards the other for support. However it is more likely that you are re-connecting to each other to balance the energy between you. Simply balancing the energy between you will end this. Once you are energetically balanced and disconnected, you will both be much lighter and happier. I do need to tell you that you will need to be vigilant here. The first day you might have to do this every 15-30 minutes, however as the days go on this will dwindle very rapidly. A week from beginning this work, you will be 90% clear of each other.

So how do you do this? I can only point at the truth under my words, because this teaching is about energy and power... not about words. I will tell you what you need to do and give you the words to say... however you must learn how this feels when you are really doing it (not just acting the part). This takes awareness, and some practice on your part.

Here's the simplest path way. Visualize your former partner, close your eyes and say,


"What's Mine is Mine.... and What's Yours is Yours"

Keep repeating this, and focus on what is happening in your energy field. You may be able to actually feel the energy balancing occur. When you feel complete, check yourself for chords that connect you to each other. Go ahead and cut these... or simply say,


"I now cut all chords and attachments'

It is also important to remove your energy from all the promises you made with or about your former partner. Anything like this that you created with your energy, or voice, has your power behind it. You need to recall your power. Just as you used your power to create, you can use it to un-create. To accomplish this simply say:


I now revoke, recant, rescind, renounce, denounce, and uncreate all oaths, vows, fealties, commitments, agreements, swearings, and contracts I ever made between me and _________

Does it actually take 7 years to disconnect from a former partner? Not if you do it consciously!

[eva08]

Feel hugged, we all hold your hand and love you

[Lily de Cuir]

Hi Zillah,

I had a major emotional meltdown today (long story, everything came to a head; unresolved grief over my Mum's death, menopause, depression, you name it, lol....) anyway because of what happened to me today, I very much feel for you. Here's what a wise girlfriend told me to do (a healer) - she told me to write a letter (don't send it!) and wait for the next full moon, underneath the full moon, outside with a candle, read it one last time then let the letter catch on the flame and watch it disintegrate. Be sure to finish the letter, something to the effect of 'I send you love in order to let go, thank you for being in my life'.

Worked for me!

Also a loving pet could also do the trick. Here is a favourite vid that never fails to put a smile on my dial. Enjoy!

Love Lily:bounce:
x

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGeKSiCQkPw

PS: My young son has a Jack Russell dog called Mini!

[Corncrake]

Dear Zillah - my heart goes out to you. Some good advice has been offered here. Animals give us wonderful unconditional love and my sister has just rescued a dog too. She is in the process of flying her from Kho Samui to Chiang Mai - she is very keen to get her home because when she lived on Samui her last two dogs were poisoned. Thai's have a strange attitude to dogs but that is another story. The warm body of a dog or cat on the bed is a real comfort in the dark hours. From my own experience, my girl friends were a wonderful comfort and great support too. In the early days it is so important to take time out from it all - not to bury your feelings but to distract yourself for periods of time while you go through the healing process. This is easier said than done when you are hurting but sometimes a good book, movie or music does work. You will get there! x

[Zillah]

Amazing everyone - simply amazing....

The love radiated here was SO felt, and it helped me sleep through the night ( I think I finally had my first full night's rest). I echoed the words shared here, and I felt blessed to have a circle of pure love and kindness surround me. If this is the feeling I get to take along with me, then I think another night will be slept right on through... :)

You are all very wise and beautiful people- I am grateful to have you all here along with me.

So much love to you all.