need prayers for my sister please..

[shadowstalker]

My sister is going thru a nasty custody battle, he is highly abusive (i have witnessed this) and a liar and drug user.. needless to say he made plans and already has one child turned against the mother... This is very unsettling for all. so I need anything you can send.. My sisters name is Gillian Hunter if you read his facebook (Larry Massey) you will see what i am talking about .. thank you in advance as i will be helping her move as well in the next week or two...

[truth4me]

prayers sent....

[CdnSirian]

Power to her! I have been through this. It is terrible, but our guardian angels are with us and I pray that she feels that.

[Guest]

Hey Shadowstalker,

Prayers of love to your sister, you and the family.

Love

Nora

[Snowbird]

I send a tsunami of peaceful blessings of harmony and compassion and understanding and then waves upon waves upon waves, first and foremost to Larry and then to the children and then to Gillian.

[Ernie Nemeth]

I will keep your sister in my prayers. I know how messy such things can get.
Love,
Ernie

[9eagle9]

I'm going through the same sort of thing, nastly custody battle. Same situation abusive hostile parent. I have an overabundance of ' You are sooo going down dude' energy that I can't manage it anymore to the point I can't wait for other people to sue me so they can crawl into court and make asses of themselves. Not healthy. Thats not the sort of thing I'd send to your sister, but her ex.

She'll be okay. When she's not remind her she's doing the right thing and she didn't create these conditions, he did. Now its just come to the point where no one else is going to suffer for the conditions that he's created except for him.

Don't worry about the estranged child either, Daddy-o will overplay his hand and all will be revealed eventually.

[Knowrainknowrainbows!]

May the children's best interest prevail and your sister's challenges be met with courage, dignity and love. May energies of positive light and love immerse all involved for the highest good.

No Rain No Rainbows
Know Rain Know Rainbows

[RunningDeer]

Zap! Protection surrounds. Protected. Healing and Healed.

With light,
WhiteCrowBlackDeer

[seko]

Lots of love to your sister going her way right now!!

[East Sun]

People who seem or are nasty have their own hell.

So, I wish the best for all concerned.

[write4change]

I have been through this and it did not end well for everyone concerned and the ripples are still moving thru lives over thirty years later. If there is karma, he died at 50 of cirosis of the liver from being an alcoholic and the last five years he was the walking dead on dialysis. My daughter and my grandaughter still suffer. It is one of the things I have to redeem and I am working on first and foremost this year.

Most of all, it was about nothing but money. A tragedy for all the souls involved that could not see. All habituated to authoritarian rules that worked for no one.

[Sidney]

Power to her! I have been through this. It is terrible, but our guardian angels are with us and I pray that she feels that.

I have been through it too, many prayers sent her way. I had guardian angels to help me (and my daughter), and we pulled through with flying colors. Keep the faith. Blessings XOXOXO

[WhiteFeather]

Sending the frequency of LOVE.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o9TFmhTOIX4

[Kindling]

My sister is going thru a nasty custody battle, he is highly abusive (i have witnessed this) and a liar and drug user.. needless to say he made plans and already has one child turned against the mother... This is very unsettling for all. so I need anything you can send.. My sisters name is Gillian Hunter if you read his facebook (Larry Massey) you will see what i am talking about .. thank you in advance as i will be helping her move as well in the next week or two...

Sending loving energy and strength to your sister. Hugs Jana!!

[WHOMADEGOD]

Since I have discovered the secret, I am using it.

My prayers are for you all x

Blessings

Mark

[karamba]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LeCvSSUuC0g&feature=relmfuI am sending your sister Huge constant wave of Harmony and Balance and Peace !
Lots of Love

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4US_On-YORw&feature=related

[Lifebringer]

I mentally sent to you and your sister a warrior of protection from me a once badly domestic abused survivor. If you recieved to "plan carefully, buy a pit bull and raise the ankle/chest latcher for protections. A couple of loud window alarms, and a stun gun for your next couple of years. I understand drugs are involved. Depending on if it's cocaine or heroine, then EGO will cause her harm because of the wanting to put fear in her for control. She is trying to gain freedom, and therefore you must prepare for it and plan it carefully. Those other implements are part of succeeding.

Tell her to regain her composure and competence before dating again, enjoy the freedom to take a sunny energy day in a field of wild flowers when she feels alone and to ask her guardian to show her how she will be happy. Her higher self remembers and it only takes a little crack in the memory to get that feeling of freedom and security again. You may have to stick close and tell her, they never change, they only get worse. It will take an inside act of God and if she's not God, stop trying to make him change, they fight against it because of EGO. Be careful and hang tough. Keep you plans close to your chest and do not confide in the children until safe. Since they know how to make phone calls, he will use them to get to you. Do not give them any alarm codes or show them how to do so, until you are secure. If you chance it with them and you make if from the screw up, change the code again and don't give it to them. Some mom's are blocked by love colored glasses. Children can't decipher the fear you are under yet, as they still love him and want to repair something that only their father and GOD can.

God speed divine fems. Safety first. Oh and tell her to watch the movie with Jennifer Lopez," ENOUGH!"

[Debra]

May you all stay safe and look back on this time as another bump in the road.
Light and strength
Zebra

[markpierre]

Gotcha mate.

You know you can make a big difference in helping her get the most out of this lesson work for herself. We're all discovering this amazing new idea that what isn't okay, really isn't okay anymore. And never will be again. The days of rolling over and giving in to abuse are over. It's taking a moment to figure out how to do that, but I think the solutions now should just be appearing out of the ether.

In the past couple of years it seems like I've had every type of controlling dickhead and 'authority' in the universe cross my path, and discovered all the insidious ways that we all manipulate or bully each other, or give our power up to others. It's amazing how deep it goes. Like we shame each other into hell, and hold each other there. No one can ever be free, no one can ever be good enough, or get what would support them. How weird is that?
I've only just been enjoying the pleasures of saying things like 'no, that doesn't suit me', and 'that's not my business', even 'F-off with your insanity. I'll guess that your sister is one of us trained 'powerless' people who's
discovering that she's not. Or she's about to.
I think it'll be interesting for you all.

Try to stay with the idea that 'this is an experience' and everything is always working the way it's meant to work. It's a bigger agenda, but it's a lot more reasonable than our little ones because it's about healing the
issues, rather than our need to organize them into levels of tolerance and then tolerate them. Or stuff away the really nasty ones.
Truth, happiness, and safety are the objectives right? Well that's perfectly reasonable.
We actually have to change in ourselves to accept and then assert those objectives, and those experiences do that changing for us. It's an opportunity for her if she can stay aware enough to use it that way.
Well she's got a pretty solid sister.

Hope that doesn't sound like my heart doesn't break over those stories.

Best wishes shadow

[M6*]

The road to BALANCE starts with a single step.
....the problem is that sometimes that first step
is the hardest one to take! It is a wonderful thing
that she has you to care about her. Hang in there,
look for the positives, and be BRAVE. I will pray for
you both....and the children! M6*

[Carolin]

My heart goes out to all involved. May the adults rise above the pettiness and remember the love they once felt when they created these children. May the children remain innocent, unbiased and feel only unconditional love from both their parents.

Parental Alienation Syndrome is rampant in our society because most don't recognize it as emotional abuse. Regardless if the offending parent is doing it consciously or not, whether the things that the child is told or overhears are factual or not, the damage is done. Obviously there are situations where the child is in danger and extreme behaviour is needed. But for the most part these parents are unaware of the damage they are inflicting on their children. Kids deserve to love both of their parents equally. They don't need to be told or overhear conversations about who did what and who's paying or not paying what. Love the children enough to spare them the drama and let them stay children. I could go on and on about this because it hits home for me but I'll spare you all.

[shadowstalker]

I will catch up later its my dads puter and have little time on it..

For now the kids lawyer called from NY and asked the kids who they want to be with and they said they want to be with mom. and the lawyer said that the case maybe dropped soon as the CPS case is out of jurist diction...
We have been recording all conversations of the kids with there dad and lawyers and cps.. got them on disk in case some one wants to pull a fast one..

[9eagle9]

Yeah I just went through the whole horse and pony show with the parental alienation thing. I get charged with alienating my daughter from her dad, when he's the one making the conditions for estrangement. Mental and emotional injury. She's lived iwth me for two years and he wants child support, so I'm sued for that too and he thinks his daughter doesn't notice this ****. I let him have parenting but he has to do with counseling. Someone besides me and his daughter, some unbiased mental health counselor has to tell him that he's putting too much of an imposition on her. He wants to punish me and he can't do it, he's only driving her away in attempting to do so, practically forcing her to take sides. The only internative is to be in the middle and that's wrong too.

My biggest fear is he'd play games in court about her welfare like asking for support when she's in my home, until the judge decides we're both idiots and she's made a ward of the court.

and he's NOT aware of what he's doing because you can't tell him, denial , denial , denial. Co-dependent behavior , he's imposing it on his daughter and she doesn't want some needy father making her responsible for everything.

They want the kids around ONLY to provide validation to them and that's just wrong. "Even though I'm an arsehole , because I have my kids (under manipulation , coercing, and conditioning them against the other parent), it means I'm a good parent."


My daughter knows that my ex acts like three year old, tantrums, blaming everyone, 'everyone is out to get him', like she's not supposed to notice. There's no reason for me to talk badly about him. And I don't. to listen to him you'd think me and her had nothing better to do than sit around and plot against him and we really don't.

He talks badly to her about me and it hasn't effected our relationship, so it stands to reason if he was really a good parent, a healthy parent the same would apply. There would be nothign I could say to turn her against him. He won't see there is an underlying tension there that hasn't been addressed. And its not up to her to address it, she can't be responsible for his emotional health , he's an adult. Another adult doesnt' want to be responsible for someone elses emo welfare , that's up to us. That too is a impostion and causes alienation.

What can parents like this reasonably expect? the emotional impositions placed in the marital relationship results in separation and divorce. You put it on your gets and they withdraw and separate from you.

he was letting her choose parenting time and she made her choice known. Like I said, in response to the accusations. If I have that much influence her you think you'd ask ME for parenting time since I'm her puppet master.



Mine was pretty clear cut. There was no violation of parenting time , the time was agreed on between him and i. Since he never speaks to me or communicates anything to me ( because I shut down the drama and won't play his games) preferring to use her as a messenger (big no no) there was nothing given to me to refuse.

And all his statements provided evidence to ME that I used against him in court.

Lawyers do not care about your kids, they want money.

I want my daughter to have a father to spend time with him. But not at the risk of her welfare. That' means counseling. He thinks its a slight to his character or that he's mental, that's not it, its because they are not AWARE of what they are doing.




My heart goes out to all involved. May the adults rise above the pettiness and remember the love they once felt when they created these children. May the children remain innocent, unbiased and feel only unconditional love from both their parents.

Parental Alienation Syndrome is rampant in our society because most don't recognize it as emotional abuse. Regardless if the offending parent is doing it consciously or not, whether the things that the child is told or overhears are factual or not, the damage is done. Obviously there are situations where the child is in danger and extreme behaviour is needed. But for the most part these parents are unaware of the damage they are inflicting on their children. Kids deserve to love both of their parents equally. They don't need to be told or overhear conversations about who did what and who's paying or not paying what. Love the children enough to spare them the drama and let them stay children. I could go on and on about this because it hits home for me but I'll spare you all.

[pugwash84]

My sister is getting out of an abusive relationship too. I pray for anyone going through anything like this. xx It's a hard time for the parents and a hard time for the children too xx

[shadowstalker]

Well the CPS case was dropped, Thank you so much for the prayers, they could not find anything wrong with the way she is raising the kids or the rest of us....LOL..
But HE is still pulling at straws..

[9eagle9]

That is good news, I expected nothing less. He will only have straws to pull at. He's doing this for himself and doing this to himself, not for his kids.

He'll keep pulling at straws too . As bad as our judicial system is keep in mind the family law portion of our legal system has seen this sort of thing day in and day out.

[transiten]

I have a friend that is going through the same procedure. It has been going on for years involving sexual abuse. Next time in court will be May 23. Her astrological transits are promising and also a horary i ordered from a skilled american astrologer shows she will win this case.

I pray the same thing will happen for your sister.