What tools have you used on your path? Quickest route to cut through the crap?

[kingmonkey]

Hello people,

I feel grateful for living at this point in time. I am fortunate because of the rapid rate at which i have access to information. Information about everything i could possibly think of. This information allows me to explore healing techniques, sample any number of spiritual disciplines, and visit any kind of spiritual wisdom.

In the past five years i've been trying to get my **** together emotionally and spiritually. I've done more workshops and stuff than most of my peers and yet when it comes down to it im no more evolved or healed or whatever than someone who has not done any work. Yeah im a bit miffed right now. Im frustrated by my lack of progress. I seem to be more stuck now than i ever was.

Ok end of self pitiful rant. My question to people here or more a series of questions are :

What tools/practices have been for you the most efficient at cutting through the crap?

What in your life has made the most difference to becoming a happy life loving individual?

If you could recommend one thing to do to improve ones state of happiness what would it be?

thanky you for your time,

KM

[fathertedsmate]

understanding what you are, the problem is once you get that, putting the body into the condition it is supposed to function at, is way beyond most people

[Mulder]

I don't think people will ever be 100% "healed, evolved, or finished." I think the journey is more important than the destination - just change your expectations so you are happy NOW, not in some future time.

[kcbc2010]

It's a process. You can do all the workshops and read all the books that you want, but it's really about integrating the "a-ha" moments into your life. Once your perspective changes, you can't go back to where you were, but you have to accept that you are responsible for your actions/attitude/behavior.

[mahalall]

Hi King Monkey,
If we are to work through, or up from a lower state of crap, off sheer and complete despair.
May I suggest;
Acts of spontaneous kindness to immediately lift ones energy, through service to others.
To clarify;
a recent shocking-bereavement left this one devastated, no counsel, no mantra and no bandha-breath exercise could remove this desperate pity. In tears I asked the question what can i do to lift this bottomless, lonely, misery.
Immediately and within half an hour i had undertaken two simple activities that had relieved someone else's suffering burden. These actions instantaneously removed the despair and returned this self to a stable point of clarity, but more importantly the other parties felt happier.

[genevieve]

kingmonkey--

So many to choose from, but this one thing has given me more peace and
understanding than anything else:

Accept everything (including yourself) as being completely okay.


This is about loving, not liking (which is ego based).

If you do this, there will be no cause to quarrel with anyone or make yourself feel bad or carry heavy, unloving feelings toward anything, and thus you are able to be who you are--a loving light being dressed in a human body.

And just because you make everyone right, doesn't mean you agree with or especially like everyone and everything. We all have our preferences and our own points of view.

Suggestions:
---Remind yourself that everything is a facet of All That Is and shows you
who you are being in the moment.

---Notice your own physical and mental experience and decide if it's in keeping
with who you are and who you want to show up as.

---Remember: Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so.


Works for me! Best wishes.

Peace Love Joy & Harmony,
Genevieve


P.S. I strongly agree with the other posters who have pointed out that performing acts of kindness can be very healing and refreshing to our own spirit.
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[ThresholdRising]

Love everybody and everything. Not the easiest of tasks but definitely a part of me that is growing and will continue to grow with my conscious effort. I think asking a lot of questions in the direction you want to go is helpful too but making sure you remember whats most important in your life and continously growing or going a little extra every day in that direction if you wish to grow or go in that direction is important.

If it is'nt continously growing it could be dying and if its as important as spiritual or consciousness growth you definitely want to make sure its growing.

Thanks for the great post;)

[Mark]

Shamatha meditation. Meditating on the breath. Centering and grounding effect results in learning how to still the mind and stop the flow of thoughts.

[Anchor]

First answer this: what is it that you want?

[markpierre]

You'd get a lot more of the reward of those teachings and disciplines if you'd pick one and just do it.
One way or another it's going to be some form of autolysis, whether you're figuring out 'whose' navel or whose ankles are you sending your breath to.
It's self discovery and self awareness, however that occurs for you. Mind training like ACIM is fast and not too confusing if you stay out of the politics of the establishment, and don't pay too much attention to teachers.
Just do the lessons. That's the last thing anyone ever does.
Actually reading the instructions is the last thing.
Or even EST, if you can set your goals higher than ruling over your little world and keeping your numbers right. Ask to be the Christ for christsake, and you will be. No joke.

But I think meditation would be good for you right now, because you're a little confused about what it is you're after.

[Tane Mahuta]

King Monkey...

Stay away from negative people...

My belief is that "there is no easy way to cut through this crap".

If it were easy...then it wouldn't be a test, ...would it?

Your soul agreed to take this test.

nuff said

TM

hey rakyt, good to seeyah!

[lookbeyond]

Hello King Monkey,

I dont consider any phase of my path to have been wasted or "crap", I consider every phase, if you like, to have contributed to my outlook today, it did however take some years to get to where I find myself and I feel I needed those years to investigate wherever I was led. No shortcuts - dont be in a hurry, the journey is now, enjoy it or you are wasting the precious gift of life at this time, you came to learn so embrace the process. I cant imagine going somewhere without first having to travel there.


As with above posts, I agree that acts of kindness are good for all concerned. To add to this however, I was fortunate early in my life to know that I desired a career path as a health professional and my work brings much joy to my life.


You could also find something that you are passionate about and incorporate it into your lifestyle- you may need to try different things- thats a benefit of youth- time to play with ! :dance:

[kingmonkey]

Thank you for all your useful answers.

I guess im wallowing a bit in self pity at the moment thinking about all the stuff that is wrong with my life instead of accepting what is and being grateful for what is.

Im being all inpatient at the moment.

Id like to write a proper reply but its late now. Thanks for the answers guys and gals. Goodnight!

[Czarek]

I seem to be going back to my earlier years and enjoy doing things l did back then. I can't wait to get out from work or any buildings I'm in and enjoy the outdoor nature. I used to spend time sitting high up on trees and I guess didn't realize it back then but meditating. I have this inclination to do it again. I know this is my last time on this planet.
Namaste

[eileenrose]

Presence...fastest tool to awakening (in my own situation). Though not as safe or simple a path as the other ways. It comes with a certain level of risk. So up to the practioner to decide if they can deal with the fall out (as I am currently)..with this particular brand of 'waking yourself from dreaming reality verses being the creator of your reality'.

(verses; meditating, yoga, chanting, sex/tantra, left hand path)

[9eagle9]

Authenticity (not focusing on being 'nice', or good or bad. ) Not roles, or dramas or archetypes, or defining purposes that may be incorrect and limit my beingness.

Preserving one's core of innocence.

Staying out of judgement values like positive and negative, good and bad, evil and divine and relegating such circumstances as a choice to be made or not made.

Excavation of core values and beliefs.

Losing the need to manage unconscious expressions of power and energy.


Density is expressed exactly as that-dense. The opposing value of light is dense and heavy not darkness.

More answers are found in leveraging the dark than basking in the light.

Clearing of consciousness rather than expanding it.

managing one's emotions.

Knowing and information are not the same thing.

Acceptance one's higher intelligence rather than dramas or stories.

Not being pulled into or victimized by other people's stories.

Knowing there is no higher self authority for myself than myself.

Self acceptance.

Knowing where I came from.

Staying away from 'belief's.

Search and destroy of beliefs I may be unconsciously holding.

Clearing of contracts and agreements, and daily monitoring so I am not developing more.

Challenging myself to exceed limited potential vectors.

Not denying the physical body but allowing a higher expression to influence it.

Awareness of artificial installations and how programs run.

Avoiding limiting traps that are not states of being or expressions like shaman, medicine woman, psychic, medium ensuring they remain expressions and not labels and not allowing others to obligate me with such labels.

No is equally valid as yes.

Solution is more often found in disagreement than agreement and has nothing to do with positive or negative.

Not denying the ego but mastering it.

Knowing what light , dimensions, and vibration actually mean and creating circumstances for them to express.

Managing my mind so it's not managing me.

Identifying that what sounds good is not necessarily the truth.

Knowing that abilities have nothing to do with being awake or enlightened or 'special'

Managing my abilities so they aren't managing me.

Self value.

Reclaimation of self authority not just on the physical level but on all levels.

Creating circumstances.

Trusting my discernment to be absolute.

Knowing over thinking.

Demonstrating these in my own life rather than just leaving them as talking or thinking points.

Essential oils (plant spirit helpers) to lift energetic denseness.

Animal teachers.

Preservation of what is real.

[Falcor]

If you could recommend one thing to do to improve ones state of happiness what would it be?


my advice would be to practice what you preach. because deep down..... you know what it is that you should be doing :)

[puurfectten]

just stay on the path my friend...there will be many twists and turns as we go..some pull u far away and some not so much but the best thing is you can recognise when u get pulled out..just re-center yourself and stay on the path..remember..the most you can do for others is to stay in a high as place as you can be..it's not easy.. :)..sometimes..

[TraineeHuman]

Actually, techniques by themselves will get you nowhere. The reason for this is that techniques are always totally about:

“How …?”

That’s the wrong question here. The right question (in true spirituality) always boils down to:

“What …?”

The “What … ?” question always means that you’re really, truly listening, really truly watching, to see what’s there. Totally open, totally letting go. Always accepting what you get, however much it seems wild or to be coming from left field.

As Sherlock Holmes used to say, when you’ve eliminated all the false stuff, whatever’s left must be the truth, it must be reality. Never mind how bizarre or brilliantly beautiful or painful it may be. Trouble is, most people have been extremely dulled, or extremely dulled themselves, from daring to see “What” is truly there. And, indeed, “What” a glorious and powerful being they truly are.

And you know what? I happen to have discovered (for myself) that life gets a lot more beautiful, a lot more interesting, once you really and continually dare to do this. Things which to the people around you seem boring or petty or mundane or a burden, to you become fascinating challenges. That’s because you’re seeing the true nature of things. Life can never lose its spice for you, not even for a day, once you really begin to do that.

Dare to keep jumping into the abyss. Dare to let go and leave everything you thought you were behind, as far as practicable.

[puurfectten]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Beherenowcvr.jpg
dont know if this link will work...i've had this book since i was 11 yrs old..dont know how i got it but i still have it..it helps me to get centered when i go through it..:).

[Swan]

I've done more workshops and stuff than most of my peers and yet when it comes down to it im no more evolved or healed or whatever than someone who has not done any work. Yeah im a bit miffed right now. Im frustrated by my lack of progress. I seem to be more stuck now than i ever was.



I know the feeling....:) It actually took me 20 years of "working on myself" before I experienced a major break through. I am so greatful stubborness is part of my nature!

A technique I find useful is EFT, or tapping. It is very easy to do. When I feel fear I do a few rounds of tapping. Sometimes I can release the fear, sometimes it only helps a little. But it is something very "hands on", and when I am overcome by fear I reallly want to DO something.

Apart from that; being in the NOW - Eckart Tolle.

Have patience. I sometimes think of myself as a sculptor, bringing forth my essence. For years I am chipping away on the marble and hardly anything happens, then all of a sudden a big chunk falls off....

[spiritwind]

My answer to your question might not be what you're looking for but for me it was turning things around. I already had a problem with being too spiritual, I just didn't have a clue how to get a long in this world. So for me much time has been spent just learning to graciously accept what this life has to offer. Just learning to live in my own skin. I personally had to do a lot of healing work on myself because of early life traumas that were affecting my emotional responses to just life in general. A lot of floundering around ensued but even through this alot was learned about myself and other people. I mean, to me, that's what it's really all about is learning to truly love the self which means having to de-program yourself somewhat from the matrix, enough to get a good look at the real situation, whatever that may be for me or anyone else. And then learning how to get along with those around you. I too took a lot of workshops over the years and aquired many tools, then reached a point where I just have to use them.

To make a long story short, I guess my point is that for me there was no short cut to self improvement. It took years of using many tools to finally be able to say I see substantial improvement in the way I relate to this world and my experience of being here. I don't think now that there is any one right way. Reminds me too much of my rigid, overly religious but non the less very dysfunctional parental figures from my early life. No thank you very much.

One of the most amazing things I did along the way was to embark on my version of a vision quest of sorts, it was for me anyway. This was in 1993 and I planned for it for about 6 months. I had been having a variety of strange health symptoms and in our modern medical view's infinite wisdom they wanted to start treating symptoms without having a clue what was really going on with me. So, I quit smoking cigarettes, made some dramatic changes in my diet, and started applying more of what I knew about using herbs to promote health etc, and low and behold, all my strange symptoms went away. I wanted to fast for several days while spending time alone in a wilderness setting and really just focus my intent on receiving answers to some of my questions about just what the hell is really goin on here. I was hypoglycemic so I spent about 6 months trying to prepare myself for what I knew would be a physical shock to myself. It just so happened that on my chosen dates the weather had turned very wet and rain was forcast for the next several days. I went anyway, just taking a tarp, sleeping bag, journal, and warm clothing, plus some fasting tea. Not to bore you with details but it turned out to be an amazing life changing experience that actually did initiate a much greater pace of positive change in my life and really didn't cost me anything. Most of us fear the unknown to some extent and truly, in many ways our future is unknown, no matter how hard we try to see what lies ahead. I would say any path that helps you face your inner fears is a good one that should produce results.

[Wiremu2011]

Personally I thought Inelia Benz's fear processing in order to expand ones awareness to one of infinite love and light towards source was the complete package for me.
I'm quite surprised many people have not embraced this knowledge, given its simplicity and infinite potential in all dimenesions.
Well it certainly resonates with me in this very, very confusing and complex change or shift that we're all experiencing. We need some certainty right and her solutions do that for me IMO.

[Selene]

Wow. This thread is so packed with so much good, thoughtful advice that I hesitate to add anything further. So at the risk of echoing others, I will assay this one tool:

• Accept yourself. Just as you are now, lumps and all, the whole you. There’s no need to fight your nature or run away from yourself by wishing you were “someone else who is perfect [whatever that may be!]” Embrace – and forgive – yourself for being who you are and where you are. It’s okay.

We are all on a journey; a process; an evolution. No matter how much you learn about yourself, there will always be another lesson somewhere. It takes many lifetimes, and our own progress is sometimes invisible to us.

Sure, it’s good to have a goal, an idealized image of where you are going. But don’t let that goal cause you to reject yourself in the process of moving forward. You can only begin to make real progress toward that goal of love and acceptance of all around you by beginning with true acceptance of that which is closest to you: your own self.

And then,

• continue to practice whatever tools or methods you’ve already discovered are helpful to you. We don’t usually need to learn anything more; we only need to do what we already know.

And it’s in the doing that our lives – and selves - will evolve.

All my best wishes,

Selene

[Sidney]

Tons of great answers here. Here is my 2 cents. One thing I have learned along the way (although I still forget about sometimes),,,,is....When you get stuck, just ask. Ask your higher power, whatever (whoever) it may be, for help and guidance, and the answers will eventually come. Sometimes I struggle over something for weeks, before I remember this, and I will ask for help, I will admit that I need help, and I usually get it. I hope this is helpful. You ARE one the right track my friend, never stop believing in yourself.

[Reirrac]

I seem to be more stuck now than i ever was.

Something to think about is you've had your patterns that make up you as you are. It's not that you're more stuck, its that you have more awareness of your stuckness. Without going down the path that you have, ie the workshops and stuff, you would have been where you are now, just without the awareness part.

As for the tools, I've been exploring one called balancing which its like the Arthurian legends, facing your dragons. It works on connecting with the subconscious and changing/shifting the patterns that were useful in the past (ie, child logic, etc) and now are hindrances to my moving forward. It releases that old energy so that it can be formed/shifted into new patterns. I've had some great results so far.

[ulli]

Finding fresh perspectives and not running the 'same old, same old' programs.
Still doing it to this day.
Guarding against hypocrisy.
Sharing my discoveries and keeping myself fueled with enthusiasm.
Before the Internet: books, concerts and travel.
After the Internet: interactive communication via e-mails, forums and Youtubes.
In between: gardening and jewelry making...for hands and body.

[eileenrose]

Personally I thought Inelia Benz's fear processing in order to expand ones awareness to one of infinite love and light towards source was the complete package for me.
I'm quite surprised many people have not embraced this knowledge, given its simplicity and infinite potential in all dimenesions.
Well it certainly resonates with me in this very, very confusing and complex change or shift that we're all experiencing. We need some certainty right and her solutions do that for me IMO.

I personally don't relate to Inelia, when she talks about anything other than her psychic gifts. Not saying other's don't do. I just don't see her as the total (awakened) package, just one part of it.

ps: Probably because she is a walk-in (does she even relate to herself that way??? ...anyway...it came up on one talk I heard...) and karmically that still resides in her...but just hypothesizing.

pss: there are two other pretty good teachers of this type of information (though they don't talk about the psychic side of this)...and they are walk-ins as well (only one sort of admitting it...again, came up in one interview I listened too....the other one I remote viewed and figured out on my own). Is this beginning to be a pattern?

I guess you never really really know who you are getting into bed with (analogy?).

[778 neighbour of some guy]

Reiki, Rebirthing, reading, avalon, camelot, ibogaine and everyday life of course.

[PHARAOH]

Quit lying to ourselves. We are, who we think were not. This is a great start. :o

[kingmonkey]

Just wanted to say thanks to each and everyone who has posted on this thread. I value all you comments and thoughts. Lots of thoughts and ideas are in my mind right now

Im real tired right now and ready to sleep after a couple of nights poor sleep, so i don't have the energy to reply properly and do the comments any justice.

Just wanted to say thanks and i will write a proper reply shortly!

[PHARAOH]

Delete BS threads like, Disclosure 7-12 Days. BREAKING......., and Drake clarifications.... these are BS pieces that are still up and running as if though we have bought into them. For Avalon's own credibilities sake, they should be shut down. This would be a refreshing start.

[Swan]

Hi again King Monkey,

I just wanted to add another technique that I find really easy and useful - ho'oponopono

I use it sometimes when I find myself uncomfortable in a relationship. I repeat the phrases; I´m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you - in my mind. I continue until I feel a softening in the heart area.

I´ve actually began to try it with people I don´t have a problem with, like someone infront of me in the queue at the supermarket. It is a way of SEEING them. And it is also a way for me to practice opening my heart.

[eileenrose]

Hi again King Anthony,

I just wanted to add another technique that I find really easy and useful - ho'oponopono

I use it sometimes when I find myself uncomfortable in a relationship. I repeat the phrases; I´m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you - in my mind. I continue until I feel a softening in the heart area.

I´ve actually began to try it with people I don´t have a problem with, like someone infront of me in the queue at the supermarket. It is a way of SEEING them. And it is also a way for me to practice opening my heart.

It is a good technique, Ho'oponopono. I tried it a few times. A few things from it stuck with me.

If someone is interested in it, easy to google and find out about it.

[eileenrose]

This is somewhat off topic (though not really). But I had someone today, a chiropracter, telling me he is studying lots of these techniques with individual practioners in our area. Not chiropractic techniques.

You know, the regular, cranial-sacral, energy work and so on. He wanted to know how I did what I do. I didn't try to explain (I mean I was on his time) anything. Just noticing how this information (in this case healing...though for me it is all the same....consciousness, awareness, balance...and so on....all karma related topics) is getting out to the general public, at least here in Santa Cruz, CA.

ps: though he still had trouble adjusting (just saying....got me wondering if we want our chiropracters to not know how to adjust the old fashion yank and pull way....???still thinking about it).
I was trying not to stop him (he was trying to do cranial on me in the end....I mean to get my neck to move)....but I still kept thinking.....if he really was clueless? (I mean I do cranial type techniques...though highly evolved and so not so related to actual cranial any longer....all the time on my neck. It is just a loose piece of flesh now....not much celluar memory or restrictions....just plain old strain/sprain injury from too much TV).

[kingmonkey]

Hi ppl,

Thanks again for the replies.

I've been reading over my opening post and reflecting on what my intention was when i wrote it.

I have to admit some of it was self pity and some of it was wanting for some kind of attention, which you guys have so gladly given me ;).

But basically i was in a mood of despair. I was kind of frustrated at my lack of progress in some areas of my life. But also was a theme of "poor me look at me my life is so bad". Well its good to reflect everynow and then.

@eileen rose - yes i really do think that at this time period we are being given so many ways and tools to heal. The multitude of modailites seems to be a way of allowing multiple ways of releasing baggage.

@ Swan As for ho'oponopono, i do occasionally use it. Mainly when i cant do anything else, when i cant tal kto the person, or when im on a train or something. Can't say i've ever had any big things happen with it as is claimed by the guy who wrote about dr hen lew. But it calms me down every now and then.

@Pharaoh - Sure there are lots of things that i dont agree with here on avalon, i just just don't waste my time reading threads that resonate with me. You are free to the same.

@665 plumber of the beast - look forward to your pm mate. Im currently also looking at rebirthing. One of my problems at the moment is being able to access my emotions and i've heard rebirthing is a good way to circumnavigate subconscious defences........

@Uli - Thanks for the reminder to just live life..... as for the difference between pre and post internet days do you think there is a difference in the quality of interaction, for example how does travel compare to being sat at a terminal exchanging ideas?

@Reirrac - Thanks. As for the awareness part this is the part im stuck on. Im great with the awareness part. You know theres a song lyric in a robbie williams song that goes something like " so self aware, so full of ****". Well thats me. Im acutely aware of ALL of my patterns and stuff, yet i seem to be utterly incapable of changing you know? It like the classic case of the dude who goes to therapy for 20 years and still is a neurotic wreck at the end of it.

@Starchild - Thanks, i'll give it a go.

@Selene - Thanks - i needed the reminder to do this - acceptance is often cited as the precursor to any change. Afterall its the only thing sometimes.

@41Wiremu2011 - i dont remember seeing that exercise, but my memory is really bad and its a lond time since i watched her videos. So i will have to check her out.

@spiritwind - I still have a lot of healing work to do at the moment. I know that a lot of my current res[onses to life are trauma based ones. I guess that was one of my intentions for starting the thread. What is the quickest ways to resolve trauma. But also i recgnise i need to just live life aswell. I've got lost in my quest and forgot to smell the roses.

Now the vision quest! That does sound exciting. Can you tell me more. For months now i've been fantasising about doing something similar. Now theres not too many sweat lodges where i live but my idea was just to go to the middle ofno where with a tent and silence and see what happens. Do you have any advice about doing a vision quest.

puurfectten - Yeah i have that book on my shelf, i stumbled across it in a second hand book store and i just love the clip arty artwork in the book!

@9eagle9 - Ah your post is too long for me to reply to everything ! But thanks!




I have run out of time for now but i hope to reply to the rest of the posts later today!

[kingmonkey]

Well i wanted to reply to the rest, but when i go to reply and review the posts i can only see so far down, which makes it hard for me to go back and forth to reply.

Anyhow thanks to everyone who posted, some great stuff in here. Happy evolution!

[Rantaak]

Shamanism and Love - the smile, laugh, and voice.

Also music - listening to it and making it.

[Nanoo Nanoo]

Know thy self

Have no fear

Do not judge

Appreciate all things

Be kind to nature

Smile

N
N

[Tony]

S p a c e !

[Elliebabe]

I keep getting signs to STOP and then choose, each new day to start new.
I had a vision when I was very small of a stop sign and of a man with dark glasses taking me for a ride.
I try to remember each day to choose in which direction I will go, everyday a new beginning.

[ahauocha]

kingmonkey
one of the Hello People

You ask:
What tools and Practices ?
-- I am another you -- do this with all things in path, my iron horse is me
-- Prayer circle of Stones outside-- feed the Mother Earth and surface relations
-- Alter -- inside house, assists with the place I am planted
-- Money -- energy given from Creator to do your work, use as such
-- body (human form) -- care and feeding, vibrational frequency, what you hook-up too
-- clothing/ adornment -- color and material has vibration
-- incense/ sage-- lighten-up space I am in
-- Drum -- hide, how to beat rhythm with focus direction
-- Rattle -- contents, materials made of , symbols and movements
-- pen/small pad -- write thoughts as given, day or night

What most?
-- Life is Eternal--
-- Slow down and breathe --

One thing?
-- If you get a moment of Clarity around alcohol, hold on to that --
THANK YOU
lance

[kingmonkey]

Thanks for the further replies, id forgotten i started this thread.

"moment of clarity around alcohol" - what do you mean?

Im currently abstaining from alcohol so interesting you should mention that. Im not a daily drinker, more occasional "partier" but recently im connecting the dots between all the times alcohol has cost me financially, socially and emotionally, not to mention physically......

Thanks