Tony
20th June 2012, 18:10
Noting our 'set point'.
I'm using this strange term to describe a moveable point of our reaction/intelligence/tolerance.
As our understanding develops, so this set point changes. For some, this point never changes.
Sometimes, we can be amazed at the change. Looking back over the past year, for example, we may note that a change has taken place. An emotional reaction is still present, but not so rampant. This set-point seems to be a level that one never falls below.
Instead of controlling the mind, the emotions seem to brighten up the mind. It's not something one can actually talk about, but it proves to us that we are moveable in our responses and intelligence.
To put it another way, things aren't a big deal any more!
It's something one can't falsify, but one can giggle at it. And most importantly, it's such a relief! Here comes the tough news...you may have changed, but the view others hold of you may not!
And so, we are sentenced (in their eyes) for life.
This is something we just have to live with. More importantly, it may teach us not to sentence others in the same way, and that is very difficult. Remember: when we react to others, we are reacting to their mind - or rather, the ideas they hold. We are not reacting to the 'being' because that, in essence, is as wonderful as you.
'Being' up-set is all about a 'being' believing ideas.
Ideas have no reality and are therefore not a big deal. But in the relative world we have to respect them, and so we inter-act, but try not to re-act.
One of the sad things about life is that, as our set-point changes, so can the set-point of others. This means that if we hold on to an idea about another person and they do the same about us, we have sentenced one another – whereas, in fact, we have actually moved on. If we are in a transitional period of change, we are vulnerable and can be destabilised, if we allow ourselves to be dragged into conflict and thus back to a previous set-point.
This will continue until we finally just give up and let go!
Quite often, we just need a break from a situation. We need time to digest or assimilate.
Like tennis, life is a matter of love and set-point...until the game is over!
Of course, this won't happen to people who live in a habitual pattern – a mind-set – and unfortunately, when they see your face (or read your name), they immediately label you as the same person you were before...when in fact you have changed!
My family still see me as a stuttering, mumbling, thick, awkward never-satisfied, over creative, headless chicken...and I can't convince them otherwise (though there could be some truth there!), and there's no point anyway: I just have to accept it. Their set-point is their story.
Tony
I'm using this strange term to describe a moveable point of our reaction/intelligence/tolerance.
As our understanding develops, so this set point changes. For some, this point never changes.
Sometimes, we can be amazed at the change. Looking back over the past year, for example, we may note that a change has taken place. An emotional reaction is still present, but not so rampant. This set-point seems to be a level that one never falls below.
Instead of controlling the mind, the emotions seem to brighten up the mind. It's not something one can actually talk about, but it proves to us that we are moveable in our responses and intelligence.
To put it another way, things aren't a big deal any more!
It's something one can't falsify, but one can giggle at it. And most importantly, it's such a relief! Here comes the tough news...you may have changed, but the view others hold of you may not!
And so, we are sentenced (in their eyes) for life.
This is something we just have to live with. More importantly, it may teach us not to sentence others in the same way, and that is very difficult. Remember: when we react to others, we are reacting to their mind - or rather, the ideas they hold. We are not reacting to the 'being' because that, in essence, is as wonderful as you.
'Being' up-set is all about a 'being' believing ideas.
Ideas have no reality and are therefore not a big deal. But in the relative world we have to respect them, and so we inter-act, but try not to re-act.
One of the sad things about life is that, as our set-point changes, so can the set-point of others. This means that if we hold on to an idea about another person and they do the same about us, we have sentenced one another – whereas, in fact, we have actually moved on. If we are in a transitional period of change, we are vulnerable and can be destabilised, if we allow ourselves to be dragged into conflict and thus back to a previous set-point.
This will continue until we finally just give up and let go!
Quite often, we just need a break from a situation. We need time to digest or assimilate.
Like tennis, life is a matter of love and set-point...until the game is over!
Of course, this won't happen to people who live in a habitual pattern – a mind-set – and unfortunately, when they see your face (or read your name), they immediately label you as the same person you were before...when in fact you have changed!
My family still see me as a stuttering, mumbling, thick, awkward never-satisfied, over creative, headless chicken...and I can't convince them otherwise (though there could be some truth there!), and there's no point anyway: I just have to accept it. Their set-point is their story.
Tony