College Stress Help For My Son

[WhiteFeather]

Hello Avalonians My Son Mark Whom Is Attending College For Nursing Is Asking The Forum For Some Assistance if possible. Here's My Son LittleFeather With A Dear Request.


Hello Avalon, My father WhiteFeather is trying to gather expert holistic knowledge on ways to reduce stress and anxiety for me.

I am 19 years old and a junior at a University taking up Nursing as my major. The second I step foot into a classroom my body numbs up with anxiety and becomes stressed. My hands turn cold, my body and eyes twitch, and I profusely sweat under my armpits. I can also say that I don’t stop itching and picking my nose for some reason. I tried to take a step back and figure why the hell I do this, but the only thing I can think of is that “I get extremely overwhelmed with things that I don’t see or listen to on a day-to-day basis”.

My father is comfortable right now. He’s been working at his job for over five plus years, he knows the boss, the material, the workload. He doesn’t sweat it because he is used to it. However, I am on the opposite side. I see new lessons everyday, new chapters out of a textbook that I have to thoroughly understand, new ideas I have to come up with for presentations, more thinking to get the best grade I possibly can obtain. Thinking ahead and paying attention are probably the two main things I need to do in order to be successful in this major. What is blocking these two things from happening are ANIXETY and STRESS. To eliminate this problem, I tried something that got my father WhiteFeather upset about.

I have been taking my sisters “pharmaceutical” anxiety medication HYDROXYZINE and it has been helping. The pill puts me inside a mellow and attentive mood, and I figured that the more mellow I get the more focused I become. Mellow is great for me. When I’m down I don’t become overwhelmed with things, I just float on in an attentive manner. When I am in my sober mind, however, my high level of energy makes my mind seek for distractions and overwhelming sensations.

What will make me mellow, holistically? What Can I Do. Im seeking some help from you people here before i seek Dr. Frankenstein, as my Dad always says.


Thank You!

[ulli]

Could it be that Mark has picked the wrong path?

I always thought that when you are on the right track you can't get out of bed fast enough,
that you enjoy every new day...that your studies absorb you and you end up with endless fresh questions.
That's what it was like for me at school, with my favorite subjects.
The main feeling is excitement and hunger for learning more.
There is love for the teachers.

When there is anxiety it is a sign of resistance...of not being totally in love with the subject.
Having to medicate to get through those studies is a symptom of something not being quite right.

Hmm....

[WhiteFeather]

Could it be that Mark has picked the wrong path?

I always thought that when you are on the right track you can't get out of bed fast enough,
that you enjoy every new day...that your studies absorb you and you end up with endless fresh questions.
That's what it was like for me at school, with my favorite subjects.
The main feeling is excitement and hunger for learning more.
There is love for the teachers.

When there is anxiety it is a sign of resistance...of not being totally in love with the subject.
Having to medicate to get through those studies is a symptom of something not being quite right.

Hmm....

I will let him answer that later on Ulli. Im sure he likes his studys but beats himself up all the time. He pressures himself too much. He is his worst enemy at times.

[WhiteFeather]

I often tell him to take a break when studying hard, play your guitar, listen to peaceful music, take a nap, take a shower, a dip in the pool or go outside and relax with nature for a little while. I think he's looking for a holistic herb such as St Johns Wort to calm him down.

[Reaver]

I am 19 years old and a junior at a University taking up Nursing as my major. The second I step foot into a classroom my body numbs up with anxiety and becomes stressed. My hands turn cold, my body and eyes twitch, and I profusely sweat under my armpits. I can also say that I don’t stop itching and picking my nose for some reason. I tried to take a step back and figure why the hell I do this, but the only thing I can think of is that “I get extremely overwhelmed with things that I don’t see or listen to on a day-to-day basis”.
I really don't get the part that I underlined. What do you exactly mean with things you don't see or listen?


My father is comfortable right now. He’s been working at his job for over five plus years, he knows the boss, the material, the workload. He doesn’t sweat it because he is used to it. However, I am on the opposite side. I see new lessons everyday, new chapters out of a textbook that I have to thoroughly understand, new ideas I have to come up with for presentations, more thinking to get the best grade I possibly can obtain. Thinking ahead and paying attention are probably the two main things I need to do in order to be successful in this major. What is blocking these two things from happening are ANIXETY and STRESS. To eliminate this problem, I tried something that got my father WhiteFeather upset about.
Why would you even want to get used to such bull****? the fact of the matter is that universities are like concentration camps which suck creativity out of you. Grades are nothing more than a "boogeyman" concept designed by psychotic assholes who can't stand people who have the courage nor the motivation to explore things in their own time, with their own pace. Grades are just an idea designed to make you fall in line with the university programming.

The way I see it, you need a few things to be successful in your major: surrender your creativity and spontaneity as well as submit to your teachers authority. Is that the kind of success you want? good grades in exchange for your own humanity and potential? Look schooling is about making you anxious and stressful, to make you fearful about not getting a cute grade. Schools can't afford to have relaxed and creative people because then they would be out of business. Why don't you try to explore medicine (modern and other expressions) on your own accord and they try to integrate the useful elements into your own kind of medicine? why not look for people who practice X or Y type of medicine and try to learn directly from them?

You know there was a black heart surgeon in the USA, Vivien Thomas. Guy had a hard time because when he was alive, racism was a trendy activity. He only finished high school, but the guy went to become one of the top heart surgeons. No universities, no cute accolades, no fancy PHDs. He had direct experience with another surgeon. So I ask you, do you think you really need some university to exploit your potential? to explore that which fascinates you?



I have been taking my sisters “pharmaceutical” anxiety medication HYDROXYZINE and it has been helping. The pill puts me inside a mellow and attentive mood, and I figured that the more mellow I get the more focused I become. Mellow is great for me. When I’m down I don’t become overwhelmed with things, I just float on in an attentive manner. When I am in my sober mind, however, my high level of energy makes my mind seek for distractions and overwhelming sensations.

Yeah well it's numbing you, if you keep doing it you'll need larger and larger doses. I can tell that you don't like feeling anxious nor stressed (which is understandable) so if big pharma's sorcery makes you feel a little better for a while, you'll take their magic pills. It's easy to see they are sedating you because when the effect fades away, you come face to face with your fear and anxiety which are legitimate to a degree, the problem is that you have no clue as to how deal with it from what I gather.



What will make me mellow, holistically? What Can I Do. Im seeking some help from you people here before i seek Dr. Frankenstein, as my Dad always says.
Well you can try some magic mushrooms and call that holistic numbness...

In all seriousness, you should spend time with yourself as in alone with no one around to distract you. Ask yourself if Uni is worth it, worth it from a human perspective, not an automaton perspective. Understand that there is something as social conditioning which tells you what you must do, you may find that your anxiety has something to do with it, I'm not saying Social Conditioning is the one and only factor, but I bet it is one of the main factors. Ask yourself what terrifies you in this particular case, the nursing major thing... is it that you are really afraid of new ideas and content? maybe that's a rationalization and one of the true roots has something to do with the fact that you are afraid of not getting good grades.

Those are the kind of questions you should ask yourself and think deeply about. A psychoanalysis of sorts, done by you and for you.
And since this has something to do with University aka Schooling, I'd say getting to know the dynamics, well the true dynamics of schooling can be an ingredient for your holistic medicine. Check out John Taylor Gatto's website: https://www.johntaylorgatto.com/

[spiritguide]

Any crutch is just a crutch. Ask who is in charge if not him. Anxiety is from fear usually unfounded. (fear of fear) Hematite crystal is used for grounding and can be kept on the person to accomplish this.

[Poly Hedra]

I had the same problem. I moved to the UK to go to university. I moved into student accommodation and found the whole experience so overwhelming. I loved the course but I found it harder and harder to deal with the anxiety that was building up and up. I stopped going to college. I would get really anxious at the thought of leaving my room. I would freeze up and just sit there frozen with fear and dread. I eventually left the course. What happened is I was in a new situation, everything was becoming very hard to deal with. I was convinced that I was in the wrong place. I left the course and moved away. It took me at least 6 months to figure out what had happened. I regret leaving the course but I didnt have a choice. I also think that experience was there to teach me about myself. :)I suffered all my life with social anxiety and I had no idea. I realise that Littlefeather might be experiencing a different kind of anxiety but anxiety is anxiety. My opinion is that the stress of college is an outward symptom of the anxiety felt. There are a lot of free recordings online and websites that tell you all about the kind of anxious feelings and thoughts that stop a person from getting on with their life.
My advice is to deal with this problem as anxiety, not as a problem with college. Meditation, guided meditation expressly designed to deal with anxiety. Once you realise that the issue is not the world around you but its about how you talk to yourself. IOnce I figured out that I suffered from anxiety I was able to deal with it by doing research and understanding that the fear and dread can disappear through understanding the issue of anxiety. I'm a different person now, confident and positive. my two cents. best of luck to you Littlefeather :/

[Flash]

The one and only answer: lol

Tell your son to listen to this video completely, a few times. This is one of the greatest hypnotherapist that has existed (notice he is in wheelchair, he was crippled). Littlefeather, notice the women who was Erikson's daughter in law and who was doing her Master degree, having no talent for writing. Littlefeather, now find a good hypnotherapist of reputation and for little money, you will go through school like if it were a light pleasant breeze. Everything to succeed easily is already in you littlefeather, it will easily get out, in full peace and relaxation.

Here Milton Erikson


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Ug8WMM6y7Q

[Fellow Aspirant]

I went from a steady, 15 year long "diet" of Paxil and Welbutrin (up to 2 per day for each) to zero about three years ago. The main thing that I changed in my lifestyle was that I adopted the practice of "mindful meditation". I was introduced to it by my psychiatrist, at my request. I've done a lot of exploring since then about the various ways to meditate and have become a firm believer in meditation's efficacy in reducing stress, among other things. Just searching "relaxation meditation" will yield tons of sites for you to investigate. You will surely find a method that suits you.

Be well!

Namaste

Brian

[Amysenthia]

Mark I really feel for you. I did a bachelor's in nursing before pursuing a advanced medical degree and I also thought joining the marines couldn't be as hard as nursing school. I swear they plan it that way just to weed out the weak.

I wish that I knew if you are attending college for the first time or if you have been in college and just now getting into nursing. I'm curious whether you are having first time college jitters or just because the nursing programs are the way they are.

Regardless, a great way to relax is to try to meditate on the root cause of your anxiety. Are you nervous about the fast pace of the learning, do you have a teacher that calls on you and you are afraid you may not not the answers, do you just feel overwhelmed by college in general, etc. ?

I will say that everyone who enters a nursing program feels overwhelmed at first. The average person just does not understand how much there is to take in during the very first semester. Some suggestions that I would make is remember to breath when you enter the room. If you can get to your class about 15 minutes early. Choose a seat relatively close to the door so that you will get fresh air from the hallway and not feel trapped in the room. During the time you are waiting for class to start DEEP BREATHE!! I mean really DEEP BREATHE!! Suck in air through your nose and imagine that you are smelling the most beautiful rose, hold onto the air in your lungs for as long as you can, then blow it out hard like you are blowing out a big candle, long and slow until your lungs are empty. Do this several time before the class begins and self hypnotize yourself while doing this by repeating affirmative things to yourself like, "I've got this", "I will remain relaxed and enjoy what I am about to learn today", etc. Repeat to yourself as many times as you need to until you start to believe it.

The next recommendation is make friends in the class. The good support that I got from a couple of people i got to know made school so much better. They don't have to be people that you hang out with after class, or even talk to any other time. However, having people to compare notes with, study with, commiserate with, etc. is so invaluable. Believe me you are not the only one that feels like you do.

That being said the next thing you need to do is STOP TAKING YOUR SISTERS MEDICATION. Number one Hydroxyzine is a med that you should be getting monitored for when taking it. Also, if anyone at school found out that you were taking a med that you do not have a RX for you would be kicked out of the program. There are many holistic ways to deal with stress. I like the hypnosis suggestion that Flash advised. Also, check out the Health Food stores for aromatherapy sticks. These are herbal formulas like lavender, that come in an inhalant stick that you can sit in class and smell to help with relaxation.

The best way to feel less overwhelmed though is to read the material that you will be covering in class prior to the class so that when you are sitting listening to the lecture it will not be the first time you hearing it. Nothing is more mind blowing than having a lot of medical terminology flung at you and you have no idea what a teacher is talking about. You start to feel like "WHAT??!!! You must study in advance and be prepared for whatever you are going to learn in each class. Read your syllabus and study ahead of time.

I hope these suggestions have helped. Please feel free to PM me if I can help in any other way.

[RunningDeer]

Could it be that Mark has picked the wrong path? .

Hello Mark and WhiteFeather,

Before I read any more posts below (I don't want to be influenced.), this was first impression I got as soon as I began reading "I am 19 years old and a junior at a University taking up Nursing as my major. The second I step foot into a classroom my body numbs up with anxiety and becomes stressed. My hands turn cold, my body and eyes twitch, "

There's a good chance that it's not your path, Mark. I will sleep on it and see if something else comes up. But I suspect you have your own answers.

Peace,
WhiteCrowBlackDeer :wave:

[Ellisa]

I agree with those suggesting that perhaps the 'path' you have chosen is not the one that would suit you best. Can you take a break for a while without losing your place?-- I know this is possible in my country, and if you decide on a change you would be able to use subjects completed successfully as credit in another course. It is very important to choose something that is your own passion, otherwise studying will become a chore and not an exciting discovery, and, as the course will lead to a career, it is best if your course is something you really want to do for the ret of your life.

Taking time to volunteer, to explore opportunities and form friendships will often help people to make a life choice they had not thought of before. Think about what your strengths are-- does your present course allow you to use these areas? Above all remain positive that things will improve, and read Amysthensia's post. It has some very sound suggestions.

Also please stop taking other people's medicine, and, if you feel medication will help you, visit a doctor who can assess you and your own needs.

[Paranormal]

I wish Mark well. Nursing is a good choice as it will get him a job, unlike studying Psychology, for example. I had a job at my University Admin, and I saw the passing grades of surgeons - most only got 51%! Mark may not be skilled at studying, and don't worry as the nursing work he does when he graduates will be different to the rote-learning he does now. Just hang in there Mark!

[GarethBKK]

Great that 'Littlefeather' can open up like this, especially with his dad. I've been studying or working in universities my entire life. They are temples, but often the initiate is unprepared. When my material world fell part in my mid-forties I realised that I had forgotten how to breathe. I re-learned breathing through the autogenics method. I realised that I couldn't remember the last time I had breathed properly. Autogenics then led to mediation and Qi-gong and .. well ... it's a long story. My suggestion is to learn to control your breathing. Start by exhaling slowly through your mouth for as long as you can.

[sandy]

Hi Littlefeather :)

You are going to get many responses as those so far and will have much to contemplate!

My suggestion is to quiet self and hear what it is you are not wanting to hear and chances are you already know but do not trust what your higher awareness is intuiting to you. Risk is scary business but in the end a real backbone builder.

Change is a bugger, but the transition time is a bitch and a challenge that can make one strong and a whole lot wiser if one can make it through the journey.

Remember also that life is a journey so don't sweat the small stuff.>>>>>Blessings : )

[Rocky_Shorz]

stress relief for Speeches is looking out over a crowd and imagining them neikkid...

wonder if it too much of a distraction for a 19 yo to do the same to everyone in the classroom... ;)


maybe holding your breath and counting backwards from 100 to 0 before exhaling...



but seriously now,

have him perform this exercise every day before entering the classroom...


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J4QaUOAVheo

I guarantee he won't be nervous after that... ;)

[Healthy Skeptic]

Go to YouTube and search on 'relaxation anxiety'.
There is a lot of stuff there that might help.
Love, HS

[meeradas]

Get out of mind somehow.
[No drugs]

[christian]

You can try this fear-processing exercise (http://ascension101.com/en/ascension-tools/33-ascension-tools/105-fear-processing-exercise.html).

[Tony]

Dear Mark,

The result of anxiety is a tension in the subtle body. It is felt as a tension in the head heart or gut region. The inner wind at the navel ( to be more precise four finger widths below the navel) called the downward wind, rises to to upper areas and cause anxiety. Here is a video that explains a little more.


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[spiritwind]

Wow, in just the time I took to write this post there have been several more responses. Looks like you have a lot of good suggestions. Meditation and hypnotherapy are both good ideas. Fear processing definitely. I’ll just share my little snippet of understanding in this area for what it’s worth.

My daughter has severe anxiety similar to what you describe only worse. I gave her St. Johns Wort but it didn’t really do what she wanted it to. It helped me years ago. Many other things we tried that she generally wouldn’t follow through on were valerian root, homeopathic remedies such as Rescue Remedy. They even have homeopathic gum and in a chewable gummy bear type form that you’ll find in the same section. I have a good friend who tells me they work great for her. My daughter just turned 18 and went to the doctor and did get an anti-depressant/anxiety medication and something fast working and stronger just for anxiety for situations that are more extreme. She has been having trouble in school for years, severe social anxiety etc. and I have to say she has been able to finally calm down and not be so reactive. It has helped her to handle school better as she is a Super Senior this year. I’m proud of her for not giving up. Nobody would know if they didn’t know her, she just seems really quiet. I have resisted and in fact delayed it all the way to her 18th birthday. Now she can make her own decisions and I can see no reason to tear her down for making different ones than I would. She knows how I feel about it but I have to say she does seem to be doing better. Just a perspective you don’t necessarily have to share. For myself I have long suffered from stress and since I work nights now I sometimes have trouble falling asleep. Valerian works great for me and so does Skullcap which can be easily grown from seed and reseeds itself every year. You can just eat the leaves fresh right from the garden which is what I do in the summer (maybe slip them into somebody’s salad – just kidding : )

As far as education goes, I can relate there too. I finally graduated with my BA in Psychology in the summer of 2010, not that long ago. I think everyone is motivated to put themselves through our modern education system for different reasons. For me it was a sense of completion and showing myself I could do it but it was still very stressful. Ask my family. My husband said he was going to get rid of all my books (throw them over board as we were living on a boat at that time) when I finally finished. Part of it was just the challenge of having a life, husband, and a daughter still at home etc. and the other part was forcing myself to do something I didn’t want to do at times, but I still derived a great deal that was positive, in retrospect, from the experience that is hard to measure. True, when I learned a subject on my own or taken certain classes I liked it was more enjoyable but I know many people who had to suffer through classes on their way to their desired professions that they less than enjoyed and I truly do think that the push during finals and in general is not just about learning the subject matter but testing your endurance and discipline. I think they do it on purpose and to a large extent it’s totally unnecessary. But hey, if you want to be a nurse, veterinarian, and many other things you still pretty much have to jump through the standard hoops to get there.

[RMorgan]

Hey mate,

Taking palliative actions like herbs and meditation will help, but only superficially.

In this case, it´s essential that you find, understand and eliminate the root/cause of the problem.

Take your time and ask yourself why are you so anxious? Seriously, you have to find the cause. Make it a priority.

I would guess that maybe Nursing is not your true vocation and your mind/body is trying to tell you. Just a guess anyway. There can be several other reasons.

If you feel like you´re not able to find out the root of the problem by yourself, which is quite normal actually, I would highly advice you to do psychotherapy sessions with a good psychologist, specially a Jungian psychologist if you can find one near you.

Cheers,

Raf.

PS: You have a very nice father. Listen to his advice. :)

[pugwash84]

scared of failing, maybe he should just adress the issue of what if something goes wrong, not the end of the world he can just retake it again. He needs to stop setting himself up to fail by stopping thinking that he will not achieve his goal. Some people make themselves so nervous and set themselves up to fail by not thinking that they can do it. Confidence and the reality of it's not the end of the world if something goes wrong. Some people also feel extra pressure of failing the people they love. Sometimes you have to take one step back to see the whole picture. Also excersize in a gym or jogging is a great stress relief.

[Swan]

Hi Littlefeather,

First of all, I admire you for having the courage to ask for help.
I found university tough, even though I was studying the subjects I wanted to.

My suggestion would be:

- First find an aromatherapy oil that you like and find relaxing. I would strongly suggest jasmine. If that is not to your liking, then maybe frankinsense, or lavender. Put a drop on your shirt just before class.

- Then learn EFT ( emotional freedom technique ). You just need to learn which points to tap, and then when you feel anxious just keep tapping. You don´t really need to do the affirmations, or phrases. Just tap. In fact there is a really easy version of tapping you can do in class, with your hands hidden under the table so no one can see :) Face your palm downwards and tap firmly on the outside side of the thumb ( the right side ) at the bottom part of the nail, then do the same on each finger.

Here´s a good site, even has a video for students with anxiety :) http://www.eftdownunder.com/SET.html

[Nerge]

As others have already said, it might not be your 'path', on the otherhand, it very well may be, but there's a small part of it that feels uncomfortable to you in some way - waiting there to be faced and overcome. :)

How many times have we feared things in our lives only to then face them and wonder what all the fuss was about? ;)
I know it's anything but easy at the time but it's worth looking into it deeper to ensure you're clear on what's triggering it.

My suggestion would be to sit down and really go within and ask yourself if you really like the idea of nursing. Does it excite you? Does it 'feel' like work or something you feel a calling for and love doing? Be honest with yourself and if the answer is no, then take a look at other things.
It may even be just one small part of the studying process that causes the reactions you described; many people get nervous in social situations or feel pressured, which doesn't mean you dislike what you're studying or that it's not your path in life.

You best guide is always within, as long as you're honest with yourself. As mentioned above; ask yourself questions and feel how you react to them, keep getting more specific and wait for those reactions you described. Hopefully this may help you to narrow it down to exactly what is causing this, be it your choice of study, the environment, the situation, the people, whatever - you have your own internal compass, see where it points. :)

Good luck - you'll do great. :)

[Lifebringer]

Help pass the medical marijuana law that helps with depression, appetite, and mellow feeling about the world's outlook if effort and solutions, that you may one day provide, flow.
Your father probably won't want to hear this, but this site is supposed to be truthful. Make sure you highlight your reading sessions on your chapters in your paid for books. Summarization of chapters should be put in notes, that trigger the correct answer, when key words on the test, ask for the answer, and you recognize them in your conscious as you took the notes. The day before a test, go over the notes, and any that don't trigger, go back to the chapter, as nursing or medical courses are long. Ergo the need for highlighting and the key words of a paragraph written on the side of the highlighted paragraph.

Photo graphic memory of an answer, used to help me. Try some match flash cards, to tune up your memory capasity using medicing measurements.

Good luck, we need more good nurses. You don't have to thank me, it's just good study habits I picked up along my medical career. Also remember most of the chapters in your books, are at least 17-34 pages long, so highlight, highlight and key word summarizations, will aid you in your grade levels. If you are really serious about it as I was, try setting aside a day or two of play, for going ahead a chapter or two, and when the professor goes to the chapter, it's almost like a review of what you already started processing on those days off. I used to finish the whole book in 4 or 5 months when bored, and all through the year, the class was like a review, and I was able to pick up the vital information through the teacher, that I may have not known about when i went over it.

Take the healing of a body seriously because it is, and remember if God didn't want you to have this skill, you wouldn't have been led to try it. If you don't like it, your next pursuit should be something you enjoy doing also. Life is at least 80 - 100 years, so during your prime health and mind learning years, you should take advantage of those youthful blessings of body that sustains whatever you want to do in life. As you age, around 40 your eyes go, and you spend 3 years denying it's happening. But it is. So use what God gave you and make the best for yourself and others in the world. My husband has a saying. Just be the best you can be. Be it a father, mother, son, daughter, grandmother, or grandfather, plumber, turd shoveler, snow blaster garderner, doctor, nurse, or whatever, just be the best you can be.

We need more people like that in the world.

[Houman]

sweat it

maV2InOTsOc

[intruth]

Littlefeather/Mark,
I had problems with anxiety when I quit a full time job to enter a full time MBA program. I got a script for xanax (yes I needed a crutch too). For me, the pills were an insurance policy, there if I needed them. I only used a few, but they did get me off the ceiling. Anxiety is horrible. I feel for you. Since this is your Jr year, I would have thought you would have developed some better coping mechanisms. This is not a criticism, just an observation. You seem to be pushing yourself pretty hard if you are a Jr at the age of 19, in a difficult program to boot.

My only suggestion, would be to try to lighten your load. Can you drop a class or 2 and take a little longer to get through or is this unnacceptable?

I don't find the pharma solution to be unreasonable, given the pressure you are under. I wish you the best!

[Dawn]

My daughter used to experience this when trying to read and study. What worked for her was listening to Baroque music while in a learning mode. This music has been shown to change brain waves and allow learning to occur at astonishing rates. Scientists actually discovered the link. She became an excellent student who could learn new things at lightening speeds. In fact she began to enjoy reading and studying and would come out of her room in a great mood after she was done for the day.

Other than that... his reaction when entering the classroom sounds like an empathic one. Hmmm... I am a very sensitive empath, and it has taken me a lifetime to learn how to remain somewhat balanced in a crowd. I have learned that being with a good friend who is not this way is a great anchor for me, as is learning to walk out of situations that start to overwhelm me. Wearing a pendant such as a Q-link can help him strengthen his field. You might not like to try this, but I was given a key when I went to Peru by the shaman there. It turns out that a plant called brunfelsia is a great help in this. If you wish to try this, you can purchase it at your local nursery, where it is known as 'yesterday-today-and-tomorrow'. The idea is to make a tincture from the root and some rum or brandy. Taking a few drops under the tongue is said to help this overly sensitive condition and allow a healer to work on sick people without picking up their illnesses. It is said to be cumulative and is to be taken on a continuing business if you are a healer or shaman. My tincture is ripening as I write this, so I can't say for sure how well it works. The internet has a lot of articles on the use of this in the Amazon, if you care to look it up, however TPTB have cautioned against it.

One more thing. This might be way out of your comfort zone but I'll bet it would work. The University of Berkeley trained psychologist/anthropologist who has become a shaman in Peru could help. Many professionals in his field send their sons and daughters, as well as their patients to him. He can 'cure' psychological blocks within 7-10 days..... Just an out-of-the-box idea. This is what I'd do for my daughter if she were having this experience. Here's the link on my experience there: http://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?49453-My-Exorcism-and-Healing-in-Peru .... PS: A number of the clients there when I visited were in their 20s or even teens.

[Meesh]

Great advice here. You might also consider making an appointment at the counseling center at the university. It is usually free and will be confidential. Tell them that you want to learn some behavioral techniques for reducing anxiety.

[sdv]

Chopin is also awesome!

Maybe your son will never qualify as a nurse, but every day that he turns up in class he has the opportunity to learn something new.

Who knows what tomorrow brings? Maybe we focus too much on end goals, when we should just get the most out of every day.

Maybe you can tell your son that all you care about, in love for him, is what he has learned today that you can share and be amazed about.

[nearing]

There are many very good responses here and he should most certainly work on controlling his mind.

In addition to that I suggest to all of my patients that have anxiety (and other symptoms as well) that they take chelated magnesium to bowel tolerance. (meaning take it in morning and night in high doses, perhaps string at 400mg twice daily and keep going up until he gets loose stools and then back down by one pill).

All western humans are deficient in magnesium and it is a natural relaxant and anxiety reliever. Needed by every cell int he body.

[genevieve]

WhiteFeather--

A long time ago before I woke up, I took a class at a college. During each session I was agitated and extremely unable to focus. At the end of each session I was drained and wanted only to sleep. One day, at about the sixth session, I noticed I was focused and alert and not at all agitated. At the end of the session I noticed someone in the back of the room wrapping up a gizmo. He, too, had been having "symptoms" similar to mine and had brought a negative ion generator with him to see if it would help. It did.

Perhaps your son needs some sort of device to protect him from the electrical field he's being subjected to.

Also, does he drink sodas or Gatorade-type drinks? Do check out his food intake--anything he puts in his mouth may have chemicals that are not helpful.

Best wishes to you both.

Peace Love Joy & Harmony,
Genevieve

[ThePythonicCow]

In addition to that I suggest to all of my patients that have anxiety (and other symptoms as well) that they take chelated magnesium to bowel tolerance.
As people get older, they can have increasing difficulty absorbing optimum amounts of magnesium from their digestive tract. One can also absorb magnesium through the skin, which is called transdermal magnesium. Foot soaks in Epsom salts can do that, or spreading magnesium oil (a super-saturated solution of magnesium chloride) on one's skin can do that.

A common cause of fatal heart attacks is the heart muscle going into fibrillation ... twitching rapidly and uselessly. This is much more likely to happen if one is low on magnesium. Personally I have a muscle in my thigh, just above my right knee, that starts twitching when I get low on magnesium. So rather than taking oral chelated magnesium to bowel tolerance, instead I apply transdermal magnesium sufficiently to stop that muscle from twitching, being thankful each time that it's a harmless thigh muscle, not my heart, that twitches first.

I reserve the "bowel tolerance" throttle for another favorite nutrient -- Vitamin C.

[WhiteFeather]

scared of failing, maybe he should just adress the issue of what if something goes wrong, not the end of the world he can just retake it again. He needs to stop setting himself up to fail by stopping thinking that he will not achieve his goal. Some people make themselves so nervous and set themselves up to fail by not thinking that they can do it. Confidence and the reality of it's not the end of the world if something goes wrong. Some people also feel extra pressure of failing the people they love. Sometimes you have to take one step back to see the whole picture. Also excersize in a gym or jogging is a great stress relief.

This was my thought exactly. I think he just might be afraid of failure.

[WhiteFeather]

My daughter used to experience this when trying to read and study. What worked for her was listening to Baroque music while in a learning mode. This music has been shown to change brain waves and allow learning to occur at astonishing rates. Scientists actually discovered the link. She became an excellent student who could learn new things at lightening speeds. In fact she began to enjoy reading and studying and would come out of her room in a great mood after she was done for the day.

Other than that... his reaction when entering the classroom sounds like an empathic one. Hmmm... I am a very sensitive empath, and it has taken me a lifetime to learn how to remain somewhat balanced in a crowd. I have learned that being with a good friend who is not this way is a great anchor for me, as is learning to walk out of situations that start to overwhelm me. Wearing a pendant such as a Q-link can help him strengthen his field. You might not like to try this, but I was given a key when I went to Peru by the shaman there. It turns out that a plant called brunfelsia is a great help in this. If you wish to try this, you can purchase it at your local nursery, where it is known as 'yesterday-today-and-tomorrow'. The idea is to make a tincture from the root and some rum or brandy. Taking a few drops under the tongue is said to help this overly sensitive condition and allow a healer to work on sick people without picking up their illnesses. It is said to be cumulative and is to be taken on a continuing business if you are a healer or shaman. My tincture is ripening as I write this, so I can't say for sure how well it works. The internet has a lot of articles on the use of this in the Amazon, if you care to look it up, however TPTB have cautioned against it.

One more thing. This might be way out of your comfort zone but I'll bet it would work. The University of Berkeley trained psychologist/anthropologist who has become a shaman in Peru could help. Many professionals in his field send their sons and daughters, as well as their patients to him. He can 'cure' psychological blocks within 7-10 days..... Just an out-of-the-box idea. This is what I'd do for my daughter if she were having this experience. Here's the link on my experience there: http://projectavalon.net/forum4/showthread.php?49453-My-Exorcism-and-Healing-in-Peru .... PS: A number of the clients there when I visited were in their 20s or even teens.

Thanks For That Dawn. I did a YT search and found some great studying music. Re: Baroque. Mark give this a shot. Im going to post some more. Found this one pretty soothing.

Keep it coming peeps some great contributions. Much Wanishi. ;)


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H8-lWIDT19k&feature=related

[WhiteFeather]

In addition to that I suggest to all of my patients that have anxiety (and other symptoms as well) that they take chelated magnesium to bowel tolerance.
As people get older, they can have increasing difficulty absorbing optimum amounts of magnesium from their digestive tract. One can also absorb magnesium through the skin, which is called transdermal magnesium. Foot soaks in Epsom salts can do that, or spreading magnesium oil (a super-saturated solution of magnesium chloride) on one's skin can do that.

A common cause of fatal heart attacks is the heart muscle going into fibrillation ... twitching rapidly and uselessly. This is much more likely to happen if one is low on magnesium. Personally I have a muscle in my thigh, just above my right knee, that starts twitching when I get low on magnesium. So rather than taking oral chelated magnesium to bowel tolerance, instead I apply transdermal magnesium sufficiently to stop that muscle from twitching, being thankful each time that it's a harmless thigh muscle, not my heart, that twitches first.

I reserve the "bowel tolerance" throttle for another favorite nutrient -- Vitamin C.

Mark has mentioned to me about the twitching in his abdomen area. I think the magnesium is worth a shot along with the foot baths. Vitamin C couldnt hurt either. Much Thanks Nearing, Paul and the Avalon Crew.

[Reaver]

I have to say that this issue of anxiety is no laughing matter and I find most of the suggestions on this thread rather superficial. Sure WhiteFeather's son may feel a bit better after going ahead with any or a combination of those suggestions, but as RMorgan stated:



Taking palliative actions like herbs and meditation will help, but only superficially.

In this case, it´s essential that you find, understand and eliminate the root/cause of the problem.

Take your time and ask yourself why are you so anxious? Seriously, you have to find the cause. Make it a priority.

And here's what bothers me the most: -and it has nothing to do with trying to prove a kind of narcissistic superiority-

Most of those suggestions remind me of what most psychologists on this hell-hole of a world do. They will try to give treatments which work to a degree, but in the end it is done so that the person in question can re-adapt or adapt to a toxic environment. Didn't Jiddu Krishnamurti say that:


It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.

That's exactly what most people on this thread are ignoring, either because they rationalize it or because they are ignorant as to how damaging Universities (or any kind of "learning" center which are meant to keep the system running) are designed to be. They aren't designed so that humans can reach their fullest potential, they are just designed so that people aim to a limit set by the establishment, a limit which serves the purposes and necrotic agendas of TPTB that we all seem to despise.

You know, I can relate to a degree to WhiteFeather's son, I'm not that much older than him. I never had any extreme anxiety at school, but I got really fed up with it at some point. When I was in primary school (elementary school in the USA) I could recall entire book pages, perfect recall, word by word, but of course I never did it because it was an impulse of mine, I did it because I'd get some kind of punishment like a report, the teacher calling my mother, bad grades, I may get grounded or mommy wouldn't buy me some toy or some video game.

Later on when I was going through the school period which covers the ages of 13 to 16 in Mexico I started to get annoyed by having to regurgitate endless book pages, so I started to lose that total recall ability and then I found myself getting all kinds of grades, from bad to good. The same thing kept on going until I was done with "the equivalent" of what is known as high school in the USA.

Some teachers even went as far as saying that I was apathetic in class and that's a no-no in the school system. I never had any motivation to participate in class because quite frankly I found it utterly stupid, I didn't quite understand the reasons at that time, but I could see that it was something lame, to participate in class just because the mighty teacher would wave his/her magic pen and add or subtract a point which would affect your final grade. It truly was like seeing trained parrots take turns to please the teacher, they might as well have given the teacher oral sex.

Later on when I got more serious about understanding what was going on behind the lies being fed to the people I understood that my apathetic attitude was a completely healthy response to such a toxic system of indoctrination.

The system Leviathan is quite good at making people believe that they are scum and that only a few people are capable of reaching their own twisted idea of excellence and success. Most people in this world are bound to develop an inner conflict to a greater or lesser degree (whatever the degree, it's no laughing matter) and the system will provide all sorts of simulacras to anesthetize this conflict. Enter schooling with all its empty promises of excellence and success, where the masses are sold the idea (and most buy it) that they have to prove to themselves and the world that they can make it.

I really find it appalling to see some folks here rationalizing the tough time they had in school or uni as some kind of positive experience, as a healthy challenge. Again, I don't mention it because I get off from a narcissistic Ivory Tower, but because I don't take the study of the human psyche as a hobby. I know from first hand experience how damaging schools and universities are, they are rotten to the core, no matter how well intentioned the staff may be, they still submit to pathological demands by the education bureaucracy and are partially responsible for klilling any creative and rebellious spirit that their pupils may have.

There are even some people who commit suicide because they can't meet up the pathological expectations of the education establishment. Look at Japan or China for extreme examples. I lived in London for some time and met some Japanese and Chinese people who pretty much confirmed something I thought could be a stereotype, but I found out that the suicide rates in Japan and China because of not making it at school were far from being a bad joke.

WhiteFeather and LittleFeather, I do think that you should look into stuff which addresses the possible root causes. I won't suggest breathing exercises nor herbal medicines if the ultimate aim is to make LittleFeather adapt to a profoundly sick environment. I don't have any issues with those methods, not as long as they are accompanied by a true and sincere exploration of LittleFeather's psyche. Because if that exploration doesn't take place, then the Chinese/Japanese scenario could become a probability for LittleFeather and even a reality and that would be a tragedy.

And who says he needs some university title? again, look at Vivien Thomas. That guy was teaching other aspiring surgeons at some point during a period which may have been far more intolerant and dogmatic than the one we are living in.

Now I'm not saying that a descent to his very own Hades is gonna be a walk in the park, but getting to the root of the problem is of paramount importance. Who knows to what else his anxiety is connected to, University could be just a symptom of something more serious/important.

[modwiz]

I have to say that this issue of anxiety is no laughing matter and I find most of the suggestions on this thread rather superficial. Sure WhiteFeather's son may feel a bit better after going ahead with any or a combination of those suggestions, but as RMorgan stated:



Taking palliative actions like herbs and meditation will help, but only superficially.

In this case, it´s essential that you find, understand and eliminate the root/cause of the problem.

Take your time and ask yourself why are you so anxious? Seriously, you have to find the cause. Make it a priority.

And here's what bothers me the most: -and it has nothing to do with trying to prove a kind of narcissistic superiority-

Most of those suggestions remind me of what most psychologists on this hell-hole of a world do. They will try to give treatments which work to a degree, but in the end it is done so that the person in question can re-adapt or adapt to a toxic environment. Didn't Jiddu Krishnamurti say that:


It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.

That's exactly what most people on this thread are ignoring, either because they rationalize it or because they are ignorant as to how damaging Universities (or any kind of "learning" center which are meant to keep the system running) are designed to be. They aren't designed so that humans can reach their fullest potential, they are just designed so that people aim to a limit set by the establishment, a limit which serves the purposes and necrotic agendas of TPTB that we all seem to despise.

You know, I can relate to a degree to WhiteFeather's son, I'm not that much older than him. I never had any extreme anxiety at school, but I got really fed up with it at some point. When I was in primary school (elementary school in the USA) I could recall entire book pages, perfect recall, word by word, but of course I never did it because it was an impulse of mine, I did it because I'd get some kind of punishment like a report, the teacher calling my mother, bad grades, I may get grounded or mommy wouldn't buy me some toy or some video game.

Later on when I was going through the school period which covers the ages of 13 to 16 in Mexico I started to get annoyed by having to regurgitate endless book pages, so I started to lose that total recall ability and then I found myself getting all kinds of grades, from bad to good. The same thing kept on going until I was done with "the equivalent" of what is known as high school in the USA.

Some teachers even went as far as saying that I was apathetic in class and that's a no-no in the school system. I never had any motivation to participate in class because quite frankly I found it utterly stupid, I didn't quite understand the reasons at that time, but I could see that it was something lame, to participate in class just because the mighty teacher would wave his/her magic pen and add or subtract a point which would affect your final grade. It truly was like seeing trained parrots take turns to please the teacher, they might as well have given the teacher oral sex.

Later on when I got more serious about understanding what was going on behind the lies being fed to the people I understood that my apathetic attitude was a completely healthy response to such a toxic system of indoctrination.

The system Leviathan is quite good at making people believe that they are scum and that only a few people are capable of reaching their own twisted idea of excellence and success. Most people in this world are bound to develop an inner conflict to a greater or lesser degree (whatever the degree, it's no laughing matter) and the system will provide all sorts of simulacras to anesthetize this conflict. Enter schooling with all its empty promises of excellence and success, where the masses are sold the idea (and most buy it) that they have to prove to themselves and the world that they can make it.

I really find it appalling to see some folks here rationalizing the tough time they had in school or uni as some kind of positive experience, as a healthy challenge. Again, I don't mention it because I get off from a narcissistic Ivory Tower, but because I don't take the study of the human psyche as a hobby. I know from first hand experience how damaging schools and universities are, they are rotten to the core, no matter how well intentioned the staff may be, they still submit to pathological demands by the education bureaucracy and are partially responsible for klilling any creative and rebellious spirit that their pupils may have.

There are even some people who commit suicide because they can't meet up the pathological expectations of the education establishment. Look at Japan or China for extreme examples. I lived in London for some time and met some Japanese and Chinese people who pretty much confirmed something I thought could be a stereotype, but I found out that the suicide rates in Japan and China because of not making it at school were far from being a bad joke.

WhiteFeather and LittleFeather, I do think that you should look into stuff which addresses the possible root causes. I won't suggest breathing exercises nor herbal medicines if the ultimate aim is to make LittleFeather adapt to a profoundly sick environment. I don't have any issues with those methods, not as long as they are accompanied by a true and sincere exploration of LittleFeather's psyche. Because if that exploration doesn't take place, then the Chinese/Japanese scenario could become a probability for LittleFeather and even a reality and that would be a tragedy.

And who says he needs some university title? again, look at Vivien Thomas. That guy was teaching other aspiring surgeons at some point during a period which may have been far more intolerant and dogmatic than the one we are living in.

Now I'm not saying that a descent to his very own Hades is gonna be a walk in the park, but getting to the root of the problem is of paramount importance. Who knows to what else his anxiety is connected to, University could be just a symptom of something more serious/important.

That was awesome Reaver. In more coherent and eloquent parlance, your unblinking, refreshingingly honest examination of this topic is like water in the desert. Thank you for lifting this conversation into some light and fresh air.

[gooty64]

Hey Littlefeather, I am gonna agree resoundingly with Reavers posts.
As of the mid 1990's I was still trying to get a degree in Chem Dependency-Social work after changing majors from Meteorology and Geography. The system will drain the life out of you or at least indoctrinate you-imho.
I did 1000 hours of unpaid internship in hospitals and treatment centers and just lost interest and became bored and depressed by it all. I wanted so bad to be a "good boy" and get a degree and become a professional because I thought I was supposed to. I hated college, I hated driving in rush hour traffic to intern (unpaid), I hated wearing dress shoes etc.
Once I stumbled into something else that I liked (antiques) I became motivated from the inside to learn everything I could about it and was motivated to get up before dark to find merchandise and to work late because I was immersed in something that interested me, motivated me and I really liked it.

Healing, helping, nursing, doctoring might very well be right for you but, maybe with your awareness you might find a roundabout way to work in your field without the traditional degree.
Your physical reaction is very alarming and I agree with Ulli and WCBD about maybe your body is alarming you about the path...

[trenairio]

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[modwiz]

For the above post.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K8E_zMLCRNg

[Kimberley]

Could it be that Mark has picked the wrong path? .

Hello Mark and WhiteFeather,

Before I read any more posts below (I don't want to be influenced.), this was first impression I got as soon as I began reading "I am 19 years old and a junior at a University taking up Nursing as my major. The second I step foot into a classroom my body numbs up with anxiety and becomes stressed. My hands turn cold, my body and eyes twitch, "

There's a good chance that it's not your path, Mark. I will sleep on it and see if something else comes up. But I suspect you have your own answers.

Peace,
WhiteCrowBlackDeer :wave:


I have only read to this post by WhiteCrowBlackDeer and I too want to add that as I read the OP I too had the same quick feeling that Mark is not on his true path... I have learned to follow the excitement... If you are not excited about what you are doing I suggest to not do it... beyond that we are human beings and being vs doing is the best path IMHO.


I know I am so, so , so, so, very, very, very blessed and fortunate to have found my calling. I love my paying part time job as the public affairs director and host of a once weekly radio show. I have had this position for 10 years now as of this month!! WOWOWOWOWOW and I have been "working/having fun" in radio for 36 years and have loved almost every minute of it.... Yes I know I am fortunate...I followed my bliss and am here to remided others to do the same...

I found my path the summer before my senior year in high school. All I can say is if Mark is not feeling excited about his current choice and path that he is not on the best path for him...

I know I was blessed and shown my exciting path at an early age and I would love that to be true for all... however I will advise again to follow what excites you to the best of your ability and you will prosper and have fun!!! This goes for Mark and for everyone!

Ok that's all for now!!!

Much love to us all!! :grouphug:

[modwiz]

All I can add to this conversation after the excellent job Reaver did here is to say, trust your gut, and college is the easy part. At least as far as how much of your soul you will have to sell. Sale of the soul is excruciating. It is why most of the world uses some form of drugging to mask the pain.

St. John's Wort works wonders. I have never needed it for more than a day or two. It rebalances and adds light when we get out of kilter. It is for acute situations. All herbs are. Anything chronic is an issue that needs to be dealt with. Even if it has a disease name attached to it.

[Mike]

the deeper the pathology, the deeper the individual will need to dig to get well. this is a bit of a catch-22 of course, because the more downtrodden one becomes, the harder it becomes to dig oneself out of a hole. here, severe sickness, whether mental or physical, can become a massive challenge. i know, i've been there.

i have a close friend with *severe* anxiety. and i mean *severe*. he's a barely functioning adult. i sincerely believe that if i told him to try some breathing exercises he might just punch me in the face. i'm not kidding. before i really had a grasp on "alternative" healing methods i made a few suggestions to him involving herbs that had little to no effect. at this point i had never really suffered from any kind of severe illness, and naively thought that a few capsules of this or that would do the trick. now, many many years later, having suffered massively from my own various health maladies and having tried literally hundreds of nutritional supplements and other sundry "alt" methods, i blush at the thought of my ignorance.

all illness, at least the biological aspect of it anyway, is, imo, cellular in nature. mitochondrial deficiency accounts for literally dozens of symptoms that the medical field has taken and separated and classified into a host of individual diseases, all of which have various corresponding drugs to "manage" the symptoms of said invented disease. "invented' may be the wrong word, because people are suffering from something, but many of these so-called diseases are really just the same problem manifesting in different ways in different people. it accounts for so much of the confusion today amongst the sick population.

one day i suggested the same friend take a cocktail of mito-stimulating supplements. but he was jaded and sick of my suggestions. he was living in a universe of suffering i simply could not comprehend. i truly thought (and still think) the suggestions may have helped; he didn't. after i made the suggestion he calmly sipped at his beer, and, turning casually in my direction began to spit a mouthful of it in my face. his reaction was so absurd that, instead of getting angry, we both buckled over in hysterics! i wondered about that reaction for years, and what prompted it. then i became very sick myself and understood perfectly well where it came from. it comes from a place of being so vastly misunderstood, that talk of any kind becomes almost irrelevant. it comes from a frustration so profound that it infects every last cell in the body. many was the face that i wanted to spit on.

i observed this friend for years, and though he put up a wicked fight, his life was hell. i believe severe and debilitating anxiety to be a complex mix of pscho and physiological issues, a mix of spiritual as well as karmic dynamics. the answer is as complex as the disease itself, and requires the same energy and power generated by the pathology. in my experience -- and i hate to say this -- drugs are the most effective approach. but a multi-pronged attack involving a whole plethora of options seems the most reasonable. i think that first and foremost, understanding and support from loved ones is the most crucial thing, and it sounds as if the young man is getting it in spades. whitefeather and littlefeather, i wish you both the best and will certainly include you in my prayers.

[Arrowwind]

Mark, Im sorry to hear that anxiety is your result when dealing with nursing.
but I will tell you this... this profession called nursing is riddled with anxiety and anxious people. Having been in the profession for many years I have had to confront it repeatedly in myself and in others.

It is a high stress environment that you will be working in most of the time. People are on edge because the stakes are so high, often at the end of the trail is a human life that hangs in the equation and those who attend to the tasks to help or save this life are on the line one way or another, either professionally or karmically. It is a huge responsibility that NEVER goes away.

Although anxiety was always there as an undercurrent I never did suffer from overt anxiety symptoms as you are although restless nights and dread of going to work were not uncommon intermittantly over the years. I will tell you, nursing school is rough. Extremely rough, even for the brightest, and if you are not atune to rote memorization it can be even harder. There is so much to learn and so small a time frame to learn it in.. and to that I will add the learning really doesnt even begin until you hit the floor in the hospital or where ever you land.

Here are the stresses you will be confronting

lack of sleep as you approach your clinical rounds
lack of time to study sufficiently
lack of time to do exercise
educators that are obtuse and seem to try to make things difficult for you
excessive paper work... and this becomes even more so as you actually start doing the work.
get ready to become a real paper shuffeler,,, all on computer now, but none the less still there
demanding detail to the inth degree... over the years I came to realize that most nurses probably
just check boxes to get it done... in essemce they lie to just get through it.
then there is the stresses of success and failure.. and yes, success can be stressful for you
have jumped immense hurdles to make it happen
and the failures are painful for likely someone suffered or died because of it
and you learn to bottle it down, choke it down, for there is another plight, another chore, or another
war to win just seconds around the curve.
Your work may be scrutinized by reviews, audits, other nurses, physicians... and that is stressful
your work is also reviewed by patients, in real time often... so get ready for that... and they are not
all rational or realistic in expectations.
Other staff memebers can be noncooperative, and even so ambitious that they sabatoge other nurses... ive seen many times

You will suffer stress when your view points are not acknowledged or followed
those times when you know in your gut that you are right but political forces are holding you down
and once again someone sufferes for it.. either in real time or somewhere in the future where you wont be able to go to or see
for it is out of your hands.
then there may be the occassion when someone suffers or actually dies because you messed up.
this happens daily in the real world of nursing... often it is swept under the rug, sometimes there are legal
ramifications... which ever way it goes, the nurse has to live with it.
I am reminded of an occurance when i was working on a pediatric floor and a young nurse
forgot to turn on a monitor only to come in sometime later to find her young patient who was due for discharge the next day, quite dead.
Then there is always the temptation of drug use
and many many nurses fall into it and you are there already

I could go on and on .... it is a very stressful profession


Before I entered nursing school I already had a fair orientation into alternative health. This made it even more difficult for me for the internal conflict was always there. Now I will tell you that to change the system from with in from within nursing is a total waste of time. It just wont happen from within nursing... and yes, they do have this "holistic nursing" now, and it largely is a joke, for it does not address what is really happening in medicine today and still perpetuates the errors of medicine.

If you are attracted to helping really sick people, if you feel that dedication or propensity for it in your heart, there are other paths that will not be so stressful and where the people are likely a notch or two more enlightened. If I had it to do over again I would be heading in that direction, a direction that literally didnt exist when I was young and seeking a professional path.

It sounds like you are in a BSN program, or at least a associates degree program. Be sure you want to work with the conventional medicine paradigm. Be sure you agree with all the usages of drugs. Be sure you accept that drugs are the answer... for if you dont you will be confronted daily with the pharmaceutical lie, the pharmaceutical sham.

If you are on a course for advanced education consider carefully to become an alternative health practitioner. There are a number of directions to go to accomplish this including a post graduate degree in Naturopathic medicine to become a Natuopathic Doctor, now licensed in probably 23 states and moving forward, or to become an OMD, oriental medical doctor, recognised in a few states, or a Licensed Acupuncturist, or a physical therapist, or
a Homeopath for which there are 3 and 4 year schools now available... look to Arizona. or a Chiropractor...

all of these professions are demanding yet not lending to near the level of stress that nursing will bring.. first and formost you will have reduced anxiety for you will have stopped doing dangerous things to patients, and you will now be advancing their potential for true healing more often than not.

Hydroxizne is not a good medicine to take and if you are requiring this just to get through nursing school the prognosis is not so good.

for your current stress, if you decide to continue on your path I recommend the following homeopathic remedies:

http://www.iherb.com/Heel-BHI-Nervoheel-100-Tablets/8945

http://www.iherb.com/Heel-BHI-Ypsiloheel-Homeopathic-Medication-100-Tablets/10606 this one is really good if you think you are mentally going to break down or reality is to much to bear

http://www.iherb.com/Heel-BHI-Valerianaheel-Homeopathic-Medication-Oral-Drops-1-6-fl-oz-50-ml/11187

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