I Spoke With My Deceased Dad on the Phone in a Dream

[Lone Bean]

I had a very unusual dream early this morning. I was able to talk to my dad on the phone knowing that he died over 2 years ago. We have some serious unfinished business and I had not seen or talked with him in the last 27 years. I remember asking him what it was like where he was and he told me he wasn't allowed to tell me that. So I asked him if he was happy and he said yes, though throughout the entire conversation he sounded sad and not too happy about speaking with me. The telephone was an old fashioned phone from the 1940's and it was not very clear but I could understand him. I asked if he had things to do that he liked to do and he said yes. I told him some about my past that I thought he should know about in hopes that he could better understand why I had not had anything to do with him. I was sorry about our separation over the years but felt that was the only recourse I had at the time and wanted to help him understand why, though I think he already knew. I think he was told to call me by someone who was trying to help him grow spiritually on the other side. I told him he should do what his "sponsor" or spiritual adviser said for him to do even if he didn't want too. I don't think he was at a level that he felt he should be placed at.....a little lower than he expected and he wasn't too thrilled about it. I was genuinely concerned about him because he seemed so depressed.

It was just very unusual and I could tell he really didn't want to talk to me but did answer my questions to a certain extent. I understood that he was not allowed to tell me what his situation was like because I'm not supposed to know while I'm here on earth or something like that. I don't think our conversation resulted in any emotional breakthroughs or anything like that, but it was interesting nonetheless. I guess I could have just dreamed the whole thing up and it didn't really involve him at all......I didn't wake up with any profound feelings of having made a solid contact or anything like that.

[Fred Steeves]

That's pretty cool Lone Bean, and I don't think it was just a dream btw. It sounds like your dad still has a lot to work through, and I would imagine that your talk was beneficial to you both, even though it may not have appeared that way.

Now I hope this doesn't come off as offensive, but something I've heard David Icke say a few times really comes to mind here: "Death is no cure for ignorance". There seems to be this perception that just because we drop this body, we are automatically enlightened or something. I personally think this is a bunch of bs, and is a major distraction from what is really important, which is what we are doing right here, and right now.

IMO, if we piss this life away, we cross over, look back, and say :"S**t, I pissed another one away! Alright, let's try it again, from the top then". I highly suspect I've said just that more times than I can count. http://nexus.2012info.ca/forum/images/smilies/newadditions/smile.gif



Cheers,
Fred

[Lone Bean]

I agree with you! I think that you don't get instant enlightenment either but you do get to sift through all the mistakes (and good things you did too!) with and adviser(s) and try to understand what happened and why so hopefully next time you'll do better. Thank-you for your response Fred! :)

[Soul Safari]

Just a couple of days ago somebody told me almost the exact same story. My friend was on the phone to her dad. He said- 'im passing over so no more tears. Everything is in place for you to get on with your life'

She tried again to speak to him on a another occasion. The phone rings.. He said 'Stop creating a scene. Im passing over there is nothing anybody can do. I must go now.. '

And that was what she needed to hear to be able to let go.

[markpierre]

Regard that experience as what it seems LB. I had a similar experience with my dad just days after he died. A lucid experience. He was actually there, he was surprised I could see him. He hadn't even ventured out of the house yet.
Not until years later that I heard from him again, and he was so far beyond his moments of 'closure' that it wasn't pertinent anymore. We'd had our own closure a year before he died, but there were a lot of things he hadn't been able to confront in life.
Not obvious things to us, his own private stuff no one else in his life ever knew.

Listen, nothing much changes at death except you've lost your fear of dying. Illusions don't serve you anymore. But you don't just drop your self identity, you don't bypass rungs on your ladder.
You take your issues with you, and gracefully if not here in form, then on to whatever is useful to meet them.
It could well have been purely for his own purpose. It's nice that you picked up the phone eh?
And it's maybe nice to know he's just a phone call away.

[Peace of Mind]

hmmm, It seems like suppress regret. People often hold a lot of the past (hurt) within their subconscious. Most of this is triggered and brought to the front when dreaming. Imo, I think not having any contact with him for 30 years was hard on the soul/heart/mind and his death 2 years ago made it even harder (knowing there were still some things you wanted to do with him).

Maybe it’s your mind informing you to clear the past and release that energy. It’s the most logical answer because the dead tell no tales…at least I haven’t met anyone yet to confirm they do. Thta said, maybe it was your father trying to reach out to you, but I hesitate to say that because you admitted that there was hardly anything of significance in the conversation. Usually when people make these sought of claims they are able to take something very meaningful from it, but that’s just my opinion. Only you will know what this experience means to you.

I also agree that we shouldn’t be pissing our life and time away, so many people do this and seem to be oblivious to it.


Peace

[Lone Bean]

I calculated out again and as best as I can figure, I we never saw each other again for 27 years. I keep forgetting I'm as old as I am now......
I can't argue with what you say Peace of Mind, because of the lack of strong emotion associated with the dream. The couple of times I dreamt of my grandmother I woke up with powerful feelings of love and longing for her. Not so with this dream concerning my dad.

I do carry some baggage with me about him. I've asked with sincere earnestness to my Higher Power to please not let me torture myself with guilt about it because it's the one thing I specialize at. I think I just need to let this whole 27 year thing with no contact simmer on the back burner a few more years and see what cooks out. So far my HP has been very obliging in that I don't give my dad a whole lot of thought anymore, and I feel very little guilt. I don't think I even thought about him at all this last week and then the dream happens out of the blue. I've had other dreams with him in them and neither one of us can make the decision to reach out first to the other. I guess he's got his reasons to hold me in disdain as I have for him. I feel his anger stems from the fact that I did the one thing that nobody dare to him and that was to simply live my life completely without him. He did not receive the needed attention from me that he demanded of those in his world. I don't think he can even accept it now even with a life review? What does it take? And honestly, he was not a loving, caring father.......and that's too bad because it's so easy to love your kids and to be a good parent. :)

[truth4me]

I've seen my dead uncles and my mother in my dreams. To both quite honest they were seen.....let's say in a very arkward way. I believe they ,my relatives, were "implanted" in my dreams by dark entities whom realise that I've awakened to their ,the dark entities, existence. Believe me there are entities IMHO who's job is to put us back to"sleep" regardless of our social standing in life. They do not want us to "advance a grade" in our soul growth class room on earth. Now I can't say that is what's happening to you but I believe thats what happens to me when I see someone in a dream who's died and act totally different then they did when alive.....

[sirdipswitch]

When you die, you will go to whatever level your belief, in this consciousness, takes you to. If you do not find your High Self in this life and this consciousness, you will not find it when you die. And you will reincarnate right back here to start all over again.

[kcbc2010]

Personally, I think that is awesome that you were able to talk to your dad over the phone in your dream.

Dreams can be such a healing experience when it comes to unfinished business with people who died. (I also don't doubt that some people have had some not-so-great experiences, that just hasn't been my experience.) And it's not unheard of for the dead to use technology to contact us to let us know that they've passed or send messages.

It's really odd (not really), but things that used to freak me out make me so happy these days. Usually the first part of August is really hard for me emotionally. And what was bizarre - seriously bizarre was that I kept thinking about goulash. I'm not Hungarian. I don't eat goulash on a regular basis, but for a couple of weeks, I seriously had a goulash fetish. I wanted to eat it. I kept thinking about it. I kept picturing it. I could have been called an addict......

It wasn't until I remembered that my mom loved goulash and she'd cook it all the time that I realized that she was trying to tell me that she was there spiritually supporting me in this rough patch. What really sent me over the deep-end though was when one of my best friends - who happens to be a foodie (like mom was) - started talking about this wonderful goulash that she had eaten and my smile just beamed and I nearly started crying on the phone because I couldn't believe the connections my mind and spirit were making at the time. It was really a blessing because for so long I was convinced that she didn't love me and had no interest in protecting me and that she didn't care enough 'to stick around' (she died because of injuries due to a car accident and she specifically chose not to stay in the hospital to receive treatment). So, finding out that a lot of those childish thoughts were really inaccurate, given what we know about the soul and the afterlife, has been a huge blessing for me. (She had her own path and she wasn't fully aware of the choices she was making because of mental issues......)

I'm glad that you shared your experience. It's sad that your dad still truly isn't at peace. However, I really wouldn't be surprised if he kept visiting you until this problem is resolved. I know you don't want to deal with the guy, but it just might help you sleep better in the future if you did. (My two cents. Take it. Leave it.) Keep in mind that we chose our parents when we incarnated and that we chose them for specific reasons to learn specific lessons. Obviously, your dad has forgotten his true purpose and reason for being.

[GloriousPoetry]

If all is consciousness then perhaps when we die here we continue where we dropped off but just in another dimensional world.

[pugwash84]

I remember when I was pregnant with my son Daemon and I was walking through the precinct and I heard my Dad shout my name and he had been dead for a few years prior :)