Why We Shout When In Anger

[IndiGo33]

Spiritual Story
Author: Unknown

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked.

'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout.'

'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.' asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .

'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

He looked at his disciples and said.

'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return. They may end up in divorce courts, for instance.'

[TargeT]

interesting idea.. I think it has more to do with dominance & agression, but the hearts distance is a very cute fuzzy way to think on it.


Perhaps "hearts being distant" invites the reptilian responces of dominance & agression? maybe its less the heart being distant and more the limbic region of the brain shifting downward to the reptilian brain and away from the upper cortex where rationality & logic exsist, a sort of regression.

[Flash]

ir is a mammal reaction, low in the evolutionary ladder

[modwiz]

interesting idea.. I think it has more to do with dominance & agression, but the hearts distance is a very cute fuzzy way to think on it.


Perhaps "hearts being distant" invites the reptilian responces of dominance & agression? maybe its less the heart being distant and more the limbic region of the brain shifting downward to the reptilian brain and away from the upper cortex where rationality & logic exsist, a sort of regression.

I'm good with your science, but I'm going with the poetry.

[mekiac]

It certainly draws a nice picture :)

To get the maximum out of anger one shouts.
To get the maximum out of bliss one remains in silence.

Its like the story of the two wolves that are living inside of us. The one we feed survives.
To let go of the anger, we have to let go our ******* right to hate those idiots and not life it out ;)

[Tony]

We get so frustrated with the clutter in our heads that we cannot hear ourselves 'being'.

I have heard of four ways to communicate on the relative level, and they are all to do with responding to ego:
1. pacifying.
2. magnetising.
3. enriching.
4. destroying.

I have heard of one way to communicate on the Absolute level:
1. Limitless spacious love...a love with no conditions attached to it.



Of course I could be wrong.
Tony

[soleil]

thanks for posting this, i will always keep this in mind when i shout, or get shouted at. ;)

[Camilo]

how true this is.