Being there for a friend in need.....

[truth4me]

I work with a women whom I've come to become great friends with. She is funny ,bright and just a damn good person. No romance just darn good friends a divorced mother of 3. Tragedy stuck her hard saturday and terrible it was and is. Her oldest son and his wife and 2 children were in a car wreck in which he and his wife and one of the kids were killed I was at work with her when the news came it was/is heart breaking. I've been with her a lot since saturday a shoulder to cry on and I let her and being there for her and her family makes me feel humble and to come to realize how much I truly love her and her family whom I've got to know these last 2 years. They ask advice from me and I felt I gave them sound advice on how to proceed with things. A part of our mission is to help and being there for her and her family is part of my mission and I will for holding a person who needs a hug and support is one of the best things a person can do. True love of people is what we all must do, providing comfort in time of need. Dark days are here for her and family and I will be there for she ask me and I will help her the best that I can. Remember a person in need be there for them help anyway you can love your neighbor as yourself true love for your fellow human is whats it about....

[Kraut]

What a sad story, I hope they will be okay, and you too. It's good to know there are people who care. In troublesome times it often becomes apparent who is a friend and who isn't. Much strength to you.

[pyrangello]

Prayers and condolences Truth, If you would private message me your address I'd be happy to send you a package of info for this situation. I'm in a worldwide family motorcycle association of over 50,000 members . We do a lot of charity causes . For 5 years I was the appointed individual to handle all deaths in this association . Approximately 30 a year , some bike accidents and the other illnesses. I have some helpful info on grieving that I can send you or email you. I can tell you all too well the grieving process is a process with no common denominator .You can be happy one minute, angry the next and crying a few minutes later. They say the average time of grieving covers 18 months however a mother loosing a child I believe is never healed , let alone a grandchild too and a daughter in law. This is very , very sad , and how sudden this was compounds the loss and shock .

Your very good friend will be in a state of shock for quite some time and yes the best support is just your presence. There is absolutely nothing you can do in assisting the grieving process in time, each of us handle this process on our own way as it is a very tender and delicate time for the heart to deal with. This dynamic of the heart/love truly takes us into the most complex part of us as human beings and how special we really are. Just be there truth, don't try and make sense of any of the emotions , just your presence alone is what is needed. getting back to some type of routine is almost nearly impossible right now however observe when there are times to make small strides. Faith in the angels and the creator will play a huge factor. I was at a friends funeral last year and as they laid their father, husband and grandfather to rest going in the ground the entire family sand a song of fly, fly, away. Their faith and energy was so profound it even comforted me . :)

Again prayers and condolences to the family , May all feel the comfort of the angels wings and the love of god in the next days , weeks and months to come. And know that the ones that have left us really have not left us and neither has their love for us all here, they are around you more than you realize . :)

[Journeyon]

So sorry to hear such tragic news! She is lucky to have you for a friend.

[Hazel]

When the unimaginable happens and the world dissolves under our feet, we need someone to hold us together. At such times its undeniably clear that all else is a meaningless mirage, as in the end we only have each-other and the warmth and compassion we have to share as human beings on this lonely mud ball we call Earth.

Much strength to you truth4me and your friend, stories like this help to keep us grounded.. thank you so much for sharing it here.