How to Share Difficult Information with Friends Without Losing Friendships

[Robin]

Hey folks,

Here is a great video blog from Foster and Kimberly Gamble who talk about ways that they find effective when trying to spread Truth to friends and family.

I personally find what they say to be very good advice, and I myself have found success when I consciously speak about Truth subjects to people in a careful manner. Even in discussions on Avalon, we could all benefit from learning how best to talk about subjects with one another without sharing negative feelings towards others because of opposing viewpoints.

If we cannot effectively communicate with one another, specifically communicating our thoughts and feelings, then how can we ever live in a productive, peaceful society?

Do share other methods that you find to be effective when talking about truth subjects! This is something that we all can benefit from.

:)


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0sdhjU9miw

www.thrivemovement.com (http://www.thrivemovement.com/)

[Eram]

Hi Sam,

You beat me to it with this OP.
Great instructions here.

I've used this video to start a dialogue on vaccinations with a friend, since he is becoming a parent soon and he and his partner planned to do vaccinations.
This particular video helped me a lot to keep the conversation in a friendly manner with respect from both sides.
I can actually say that this conversation strengthened the bond we share and I managed to arouse his concern and curiosity enough to get him to do research on the subject.

I would almost go so far as to say that this should be mandatory for every member here lol.

[Eram]

For those who can't watch youtube's easy, here is a summary of the tips in the vid:

1. Honor different paths.
2. Keep it personal.
3. Ask questions about their point of views and feelings.
4. Distinguish facts from interpretation.
5. Share the personal benefit of getting informed.
6. Timing is everything.
7. Tidbits are risky, immersion really helps. (build a context)
8. To recover, apologize, ask, learn. (if conversation didn't work out as planned)

[Kryztian]

Bill Ryan also shared a good piece of advice on this matter a few months ago, something like "you only need to move a person one millimeter". Your not going to convince most people of a major conspiracy in one conversation, in one day, or even in a year, especially ones who are intelligent and critical in a mainstream way. But you can move them from the current views ever so slightly, you can show them that there are other paths. Eventually, they might find one of these paths and take you down it and enlighten you.

[ghostrider]

each person is an individual , so each encounter must be different , reading a persons aura if you will , is top priority , understanding their nature , if you listen they will tell you everything you need to know about themselves ... you won't save em all but , wake the ones that want to wake ... there is an art to dialogue that is productive and genuine ... speaking from the heart gets em every time ...

[sirdipswitch]

nuther good one is: "How To Win Friends And Influence People", by Napoleon Hill.

[Robin]

nuther good one is: "How To Win Friends And Influence People", by Napoleon Hill.

I think you mean Dale Carnegie (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People).

I've read the book a couple times and carry it with me everywhere I go. The informaion in the book is golden, and I use it to spread Love and Light to everybody I meet. However, if it falls in the wrong hands, it can be used for manipulation. Charles Manson studied the book and used the methods to create his cult following...

[Mike]

Well I give you credit for even trying Sam. Every time I've tried I couldn't help but feel like a creepy religionist trying to push my ideology on someone. Its the way they'd look at me...the same look I'd give Jehovah's witnesses when they showed up on my doorstep;)

If you're around someone long enough, they will eventually become privy to your theories. First they will mock you, of course (lovingly hopefully, if they are friends). But then, and you'll be surprised, they'll begin asking you questions. Inquiring. It will be cloaked in sarcasm, so they can still be secure in their hipness, but deep down they'll be genuinely curious. And ultimately, they'll just drop the facade and humbly admit you've had a point the entire time. Not all of them of course. But thats been my experience.

Its much easier when people come to you, rather than you going to them, hoping to sell your theories. Just plant the seed and wait. You'll see.

[Selene]

This vid is excellent advice, very helpful.

I’ve also had some success with a “sideways” approach: dropping some breadcrumbs, as it were and hoping they pick up on them. That is, I simply send friends or family a link to a story or thread that I think might interest them – nothing too controversial – but from here on Avalon, Veterans Today, Alex Jones or a site with lots of other good alternative info. YouTube vids sometimes have a good selection of related vids in the sidebar.

And I leave them to explore the rest of the site on their own, according to their own curiosity. I don’t express my own opinion. If the link is here to Avalon, I might not even say I’m a member here unless they later express more interest in something.

I might sometimes follow up with: Did you get that link I sent you; what do you think? And I simply listen. Or I might not follow up at all, depending on the person and their communication style. I don’t ask about anything else they may have read on the site.

Exposure to new ideas is often a process best done in the privacy of one’s own mind, at your own pace and without necessarily any outward changes. After all, what was the process that led you here?

I can open a door; but each person must walk through it themselves.

Cheers,

Selene

[Robin]

I just came across this article that may prove to be useful for some:

The Do-It-Yourself Guide to Inception (http://riskology.co/inception/)

Basically, if you know what somebody's passion is and want to do your best to wake them up to the "real reality" behind their passion, then utilize the idea of "planting a seed" in somebody's mind so they think that the idea came from them.

For instance, if somebody is a football fan, and you wish to let them know that the NFL (National Football League) is nothing more than a Coorporation based off of gladiatorial events of the Roman Empire that bombards people with advertisements in the form of mind-control...then take the time to warm up to your friend. After gianing their trust, and validating the man's ego (or the emotional security of a woman), start subtely bashing certain advertisements. After careful deliberation, you may "plant a seed" in their minds which will ultimately lead them to research more into the corruption of football and the NFL.

I've actually got really good at planting seeds in peoples' minds, but instead of doing it for manipulation, I utilize the method for the greater good of awakening and awareness for humanity.

[Robin]

Well I give you credit for even trying Sam. Every time I've tried I couldn't help but feel like a creepy religionist trying to push my ideology on someone. Its the way they'd look at me...the same look I'd give Jehovah's witnesses when they showed up on my doorstep;)

If you're around someone long enough, they will eventually become privy to your theories. First they will mock you, of course (lovingly hopefully, if they are friends). But then, and you'll be surprised, they'll begin asking you questions. Inquiring. It will be cloaked in sarcasm, so they can still be secure in their hipness, but deep down they'll be genuinely curious. And ultimately, they'll just drop the facade and humbly admit you've had a point the entire time. Not all of them of course. But thats been my experience.

Its much easier when people come to you, rather than you going to them, hoping to sell your theories. Just plant the seed and wait. You'll see.

This made me laugh...and you bring up some good points. ;)

We also need to be aware that men and women are both different, and we must carefully choose how we speak to both genders.

Remember, men have large egos, so they feel more comfortable when you listen to them rant about their favorite hobby...so offering suggestions on how they could "improve" said hobby or learn more about it may be a good tactic.

Women typically desire emotional validation, so complimenting them on their brilliant ideas and outright acknowledging their emotions may prove to gain a welcomed atmosphere when in their presence. Then subtely throw in suggestions while saying that their emotions are spot on, but also mention that there are other ways to look at topics...