What's in the dark shall be revealed.....

[truth4me]

That statement to me is what I'm seeing more of in my everyday life.I've dated 3 different women recently and all talk of doing the right thing yet they tell on themselves by their actions.I do my best not to lie and nor do I steal and try to be as honest in my dealings as possible.I'm not judging people BUT their actions is what I judge and when I catch a person lying to me I back away from that person.Example: I was seeing this person and she was talking about being broke and didn't have any money blah,blah,blah yet as we sit and talked she pull out her change pulse looking for a card and there was 2 20 dollar bills for she had forgot she told me she was broke.


I'm not cheap nor am I the "lie police" but trying to do the right thing all the time has helped me raise my vibrations and get a better understanding on what's really going on.Plus I ask my spirit guides/higher self for guidance and its been working.Everyday life we deal with stuff that's simple but we make it complicated by our actions.Honesty must be a part of your life to be awakened and those who choose to stay asleep and want to continue in this 3-D world they tell off on themselves with their actions.


All that is so simple and it is but so many people make their life complicated by lying and that's a crying shame.

[ulli]

Doing the right thing is the best way to guarantee spiritual growth and transformation.

What I still have a problem with is to let a thief or liar know that I spotted their action...
Telling them that I caught them in the act would give them a chance to change their ways.
But this takes quite a bit of courage, which I have yet to develop.

[CD7]

Haha having only two twenties is Broke son! perhaps thts all she has set aside for food? Im mean do u know these things? Find all perspectives before u assume someone is lying, may explain things a bit more

[Latti]

When I was your age, I had a business failure and was drained to the point where I had only $3,000 in checking and $20,000 in savings. To me that was broke and the lowest point in my life.

Yet, I realize that millions of people would consider me wealthy. Broke or wealthy, it depends on our perspective.

We can't fix other people and we shouldn't judge them. We are all one and we need to recognize that we all have faults and failures. We need love and we must also give love to those we interact with.

[SHAPE]

Doing the right thing is the best way to guarantee spiritual growth and transformation.

What I still have a problem with is to let a thief or liar know that I spotted their action...
Telling them that I caught them in the act would give them a chance to change their ways.
But this takes quite a bit of courage, which I have yet to develop.

What is doing the right thing and how does this guarantee growth and transformation?

[ulli]

Doing the right thing is the best way to guarantee spiritual growth and transformation.

What I still have a problem with is to let a thief or liar know that I spotted their action...
Telling them that I caught them in the act would give them a chance to change their ways.
But this takes quite a bit of courage, which I have yet to develop.

What is doing the right thing and how does this guarantee growth and transformation?

Your conscience guides you in this. Also contemplation of your own behavior patterns.
A person who has an active conscience will have feelings of shame, as well as pride.
Those feelings in combination create attitudes to better oneself, and by "better" I mean
by one's own measuring stick, not an externally enforced one.

When still young, one's standards are still set by parents guidance, or other sociatal forces.
But when real inner growth begins, those standards and rules are questioned, and replaced.

On a forum like Avalon one can see this a lot, as people here have largely left those earlier standards behind.
But when one looks at it carefully, there is evidence that they are all on a quest for knowing more, and discarding falsehoods.
It's a basic human dive, to seek Aha! moments, which when found, lead to an increased sense of power, hence growth.

[christian]

I was seeing this person and she was talking about being broke and didn't have any money blah,blah,blah yet as we sit and talked she pull out her change pulse looking for a card and there was 2 20 dollar bills for she had forgot she told me she was broke.


Did you ever ask her, "How broke are you?"

If I look at it pragmatically, for things to be revealed fully, they have to either reveal themselves or you have to make an effort to reveal them.

[truth4me]

Haha having only two twenties is Broke son! perhaps thts all she has set aside for food? Im mean do u know these things? Find all perspectives before u assume someone is lying, may explain things a bit more she has plenty of food I know she was talking about changing her life style after meeting me.If you seen everything like I did you would know what I mean.Broke to me is no money to buy food.I've been homeless not a dime now that's broke.Another women told me she was broke yet to be revealed that she was wasting her money on drugs......I know the streets and things get revealed to you if you ask.....

[truth4me]

I was seeing this person and she was talking about being broke and didn't have any money blah,blah,blah yet as we sit and talked she pull out her change pulse looking for a card and there was 2 20 dollar bills for she had forgot she told me she was broke.


Did you ever ask her, "How broke are you?"

If I look at it pragmatically, for things to be revealed fully, they have to either reveal themselves or you have to make an effort to reveal them. being broke one thing that revealed its shelf another thing was she wanted to be in a relationship with me yet ask me to go to a gay bar.Now if a person is gay I'm fine with that it's their choice but I'm not gay and she ask me to go with her to one then why ask for a relationship?

[CD7]

Haha having only two twenties is Broke son! perhaps thts all she has set aside for food? Im mean do u know these things? Find all perspectives before u assume someone is lying, may explain things a bit more she has plenty of food I know she was talking about changing her life style after meeting me.If you seen everything like I did you would know what I mean.Broke to me is no money to buy food.I've been homeless not a dime now that's broke.Another women told me she was broke yet to be revealed that she was wasting her money on drugs......I know the streets and things get revealed to you if you ask.....

Well it all depends on all varying perspectives of the situation and also what one considers "broke" To me broke is living Day to Day with NO SAFETY NET (no other funds) There are Millions of people like tht...One never really knows what Everyone has in their bank accounts aside from NSA lol

[Lifebringer]

Yes, and to be the enabler, is no picnic. Sorta like casting ye pearls/hard earned, before swine/waste in addictive harmful substances. If she's paying every other bill, perhaps that forty dollars left is all she has, and doesn't quite have enough to make a payment on something. Idk, ye must tread carefully. Someone I loved and had high spirits for change in their family, fell victim to the same substance of crack by a evil demonic schizophrenic girl named Mya. It's rather strange for her to pick up after seeing her own family split/ripped apart'/separated. She had a scholarship, but her family was in another state, and therefore the scholarship, non-transferable.

I've done an intervention and helped others recognize a "con for $$'s" by lying to them and to keep the children's money separate, or buy what they need themselves. She started selling the baby milk powder, and now one of the children's father keeps all the extra he buys at his own home and waits for her to call about some for his child. The neighbors are telling a whole lot of what she's been doing and I'm afraid she's putting herself and her family in deadly contact, but the court child support agent/mediator is aware of her denial of addiction. However, she's recently been picked up on warrant for fraudulent check card theft and this won't bode well for her "attempt at shutting the father out because he won't give her money for the crack." That's what she did, she put a warrant for assault on him because she was punching him in the head as he held his pocket closed and he pushed her off him and left.

If she's not that bad, then count yourself blessed your not going through it, and keep an eye out for "geeky" or "in the bathroom too long while shower is on" behaviors. Most couples with one addicted, will notice the other is missing in action and in the bathroom of "privacy" too long.

She's had a gun to her head twice. One by the schizo chick, and another by a dealer she owed 200.00 dollars to. This guy came to her front door with a shotgun after banging on the door, and when she opened it, put it to her face. When the cops sirens were heard, he ditched it in the trash, and then my niece told the cops he tried to rob her and the gun was in the trash can. Matched prints on the gun with a felony record and probation will net you all the time over your head in VA.

Her 4 month old and 7 year old daughters were there. Her sisters beg everyone to leave her in there to face the charges, but one of the fathers of the children, went through hell and high water to bail her out, without any conditions for rehabilitation be become a good mom to his child.
Now her children are also in harm's way, because she has this environment around them when the father's work. One out of town and one here. She stole his job payment card, changed the pin using his private info, and smoked/cracked his money. They have her on store camera's at the ATM machines withdrawing from the "new permanent payment card the job sent, not knowing they were broke up."


Godspeed on your relationships in the future.

[ghostrider]

That statement to me is what I'm seeing more of in my everyday life.I've dated 3 different women recently and all talk of doing the right thing yet they tell on themselves by their actions.I do my best not to lie and nor do I steal and try to be as honest in my dealings as possible.I'm not judging people BUT their actions is what I judge and when I catch a person lying to me I back away from that person.Example: I was seeing this person and she was talking about being broke and didn't have any money blah,blah,blah yet as we sit and talked she pull out her change pulse looking for a card and there was 2 20 dollar bills for she had forgot she told me she was broke.


I'm not cheap nor am I the "lie police" but trying to do the right thing all the time has helped me raise my vibrations and get a better understanding on what's really going on.Plus I ask my spirit guides/higher self for guidance and its been working.Everyday life we deal with stuff that's simple but we make it complicated by our actions.Honesty must be a part of your life to be awakened and those who choose to stay asleep and want to continue in this 3-D world they tell off on themselves with their actions.


All that is so simple and it is but so many people make their life complicated by lying and that's a crying shame.

I like say it's doing the right thing when no one is looking ... personal integrity can't be bought , and only you can master it ... the old teachings say - be slow to speak and quick to listen ... the poor lady didn't even listen to what she herself was saying ... as it is said Actions speak louder than words ...

[shadowstalker]

Haha having only two twenties is Broke son! perhaps thts all she has set aside for food? Im mean do u know these things? Find all perspectives before u assume someone is lying, may explain things a bit more
This is so true, what did she have left for the week to truly get by without wondering where to get gas money or pay tolls or parking meters, there many personal perspective on a great many things. Maybe being left with 40 bucks can set you for the rest of the week and not worry till your next pay check...

[shadowstalker]

I was seeing this person and she was talking about being broke and didn't have any money blah,blah,blah yet as we sit and talked she pull out her change pulse looking for a card and there was 2 20 dollar bills for she had forgot she told me she was broke.


Did you ever ask her, "How broke are you?"

If I look at it pragmatically, for things to be revealed fully, they have to either reveal themselves or you have to make an effort to reveal them. being broke one thing that revealed its shelf another thing was she wanted to be in a relationship with me yet ask me to go to a gay bar.Now if a person is gay I'm fine with that it's their choice but I'm not gay and she ask me to go with her to one then why ask for a relationship?

Maybe she wants some form of support or just wants to show you off to other friends that go, maybe she just wants to share her experiences with you, who knows

Seems to me that your the one that's still in the dark
Seems to me that some things are being revealed in your darkness..

Also would omition of certain tellings in certain events Be considered be a lie, even if it has nothing to do with any relationship or would change anything in the future.. To some perhaps, to others who cares it means nothing.

P.S. Bow ties and gay bars are kewl.

[truth4me]

I was seeing this person and she was talking about being broke and didn't have any money blah,blah,blah yet as we sit and talked she pull out her change pulse looking for a card and there was 2 20 dollar bills for she had forgot she told me she was broke.


Did you ever ask her, "How broke are you?"

If I look at it pragmatically, for things to be revealed fully, they have to either reveal themselves or you have to make an effort to reveal them. being broke one thing that revealed its shelf another thing was she wanted to be in a relationship with me yet ask me to go to a gay bar.Now if a person is gay I'm fine with that it's their choice but I'm not gay and she ask me to go with her to one then why ask for a relationship?

Maybe she wants some form of support or just wants to show you off to other friends that go, maybe she just wants to share her experiences with you, who knows

Seems to me that your the one that's still in the dark
Seems to me that some things are being revealed in your darkness..

Also would omition of certain tellings in certain events Be considered be a lie, even if it has nothing to do with any relationship or would change anything in the future.. To some perhaps, to others who cares it means nothing.

P.S. Bow ties and gay bars are kewl. Now I'm not going to a gay bar to be a "women's" prettyboy.If a person is gay that's fine that's just not me and as being in the dark I believe your wrong.I can't save a crackhead only they can save themselves....

[donk]

That statement to me is what I'm seeing more of in my everyday life.I've dated 3 different women recently and all talk of doing the right thing yet they tell on themselves by their actions.I do my best not to lie and nor do I steal and try to be as honest in my dealings as possible.I'm not judging people BUT their actions is what I judge and when I catch a person lying to me I back away from that person.Example: I was seeing this person and she was talking about being broke and didn't have any money blah,blah,blah yet as we sit and talked she pull out her change pulse looking for a card and there was 2 20 dollar bills for she had forgot she told me she was broke.


I'm not cheap nor am I the "lie police" but trying to do the right thing all the time has helped me raise my vibrations and get a better understanding on what's really going on.Plus I ask my spirit guides/higher self for guidance and its been working.Everyday life we deal with stuff that's simple but we make it complicated by our actions.Honesty must be a part of your life to be awakened and those who choose to stay asleep and want to continue in this 3-D world they tell off on themselves with their actions.


All that is so simple and it is but so many people make their life complicated by lying and that's a crying shame.

I like say it's doing the right thing when no one is looking ... personal integrity can't be bought , and only you can master it ... the old teachings say - be slow to speak and quick to listen ... the poor lady didn't even listen to what she herself was saying ... as it is said Actions speak louder than words ...

Right on gr!! This is something I do my best to push on people around me as much as possible "you don't even listen to YOURSELF"....I love this quote dianna brought up elsewhere:

http://inspirably.com/uploads/user/3825-i-lie-to-myself-all-the-time-but-i-never-believe-me.png

You have to be VERY careful when worrying about others' lies...it seems to be difficult for everyone to even be honest with themselves...

[shadowstalker]

I was seeing this person and she was talking about being broke and didn't have any money blah,blah,blah yet as we sit and talked she pull out her change pulse looking for a card and there was 2 20 dollar bills for she had forgot she told me she was broke.


Did you ever ask her, "How broke are you?"

If I look at it pragmatically, for things to be revealed fully, they have to either reveal themselves or you have to make an effort to reveal them. being broke one thing that revealed its shelf another thing was she wanted to be in a relationship with me yet ask me to go to a gay bar.Now if a person is gay I'm fine with that it's their choice but I'm not gay and she ask me to go with her to one then why ask for a relationship?

Maybe she wants some form of support or just wants to show you off to other friends that go, maybe she just wants to share her experiences with you, who knows

Seems to me that your the one that's still in the dark
Seems to me that some things are being revealed in your darkness..

Also would omition of certain tellings in certain events Be considered be a lie, even if it has nothing to do with any relationship or would change anything in the future.. To some perhaps, to others who cares it means nothing.

P.S. Bow ties and gay bars are kewl. Now I'm not going to a gay bar to be a "women's" prettyboy.If a person is gay that's fine that's just not me and as being in the dark I believe your wrong.I can't save a crackhead only they can save themselves....

All I am going to say is that you need to truly clear and clean your spiritual house