GreenGuy
26th January 2014, 20:26
I thought this essay was too good not to share. (http://talk2momz.com/2014/01/24/honoring-the-spirit-is-possible/) How does the way we deal with our own inner child affect the way we raise children?
Instead of setting a direction for them and looking at performance, focus on virtues. Reward them for speaking from their heart, keeping their word, practicing kindness, listening to their inner knowing of right and wrong, being charitable, having the courage to face new things… and being able to withstand a change of circumstances.
For the most part, every parent does the best that they can. Those of us with grown children can look back on what we did and how we behaved, and we may see times when we did disappointing things… parenthood isn’t easy. Maybe we thought we knew – and alas, it was our ego doing its thing, or fear, or our old conditioning still in charge.
Thankfully, with love and honesty and ego in the back seat, there is still a bridge. We can talk with our grown sons and daughters, allowing things to be expressed and not taking offense. In this case we will be the exception… consciously helping to repair across a generation. If the inner child of our sons and daughters is loved and accepted by us, that’s a beautiful and healing thing – humbling for us maybe, but liberating for all.
Instead of setting a direction for them and looking at performance, focus on virtues. Reward them for speaking from their heart, keeping their word, practicing kindness, listening to their inner knowing of right and wrong, being charitable, having the courage to face new things… and being able to withstand a change of circumstances.
For the most part, every parent does the best that they can. Those of us with grown children can look back on what we did and how we behaved, and we may see times when we did disappointing things… parenthood isn’t easy. Maybe we thought we knew – and alas, it was our ego doing its thing, or fear, or our old conditioning still in charge.
Thankfully, with love and honesty and ego in the back seat, there is still a bridge. We can talk with our grown sons and daughters, allowing things to be expressed and not taking offense. In this case we will be the exception… consciously helping to repair across a generation. If the inner child of our sons and daughters is loved and accepted by us, that’s a beautiful and healing thing – humbling for us maybe, but liberating for all.