Confusion...

[myriaddimension]

Has anyone felt like they are not good at anything? Most of the time I feel like I don't have redeeming professional or personal qualities.

Some of us were destined to be doctors, engineers, health professionals, diplomats, scientist etc. We had a vision of the professional career we wanted to pursue, and we worked very hard to hone those skills.

Yet, to this day, I feel like I am not good at anything. Most often than not, I have failed at everything I have pursued. I have changed multiple careers in different countries, and I have not fit-in anywhere!! I have always felt extremely unworthy and useless. I have never felt confident about myself, both professionally or personally.

I am really struggling to find what I am good at, and I am in my late 20s. I am not sure if it is a case of low self-esteem, or maybe some of us are really not good at anything?

I am a decent writer, but I have never pursued that path, mainly because I fear I will fail at it too. Or, is it just a misconception that all of us have to be good at something.

I am really struggling at the other end of the world!

[dim]

wait to see how that feels at 50's

[LivioRazlo]

myriaddimension, I too sometimes feel the way you do. I have found myself being jealous of my friends because they have children and a warm family, careers and the like and I know that in due time, I shall have all that I seek. I know it can be overbearing at times, but I've found that sometimes the answers I have been seeking to issues plaguing my life are right in front of me - I have just chosen not to examine and understand them. I just turned 30 a few months ago and was feeling down because of where I am at in life - and yet, I couldn't help but think that maybe this is right where I need to be - that I must learn or gain some sort of insightful knowledge about myself before I can transcend to the next part of my life. Everyday I struggle with the fact that I've made many mistakes and could be better off than where I am now, and then I remember a quote by Thomas Edison which states "I have not failed. I just found 10,000 ways that did not work". Finding the good in life and not dwelling on the bad, I feel, is tantamount to fulfillment. I also struggle with the fact that I am fascinated, as well as deeply interested in a myriad of subjects, hobbies and the like - and at times I feel chaotic - longing for inner peace. To expand upon your statement about "is it just a misconception that all of us have to be good at something?" - I think it is a misconception. I know a lot of people wish they could exit their current career choice and pursue something else - but at the moment it puts food on the table and pays the bills, so they keep on with what they're doing. In a way, I'm very lucky - I have no kids, going to college for Computer Information Sciences - all paid for by tax dollars, a menial job which is somewhat paying the bills, unmarried, a roof over my head, food in my belly and clothing on my back. When I look at it that way, I'm pretty darn lucky. Just count your blessings and the rest is sure to follow.

[sandy]

Stand still, be quiet, quick chasing your tail, accept what is, and then introspectivley observe what is and you will see the potentials and adventures waiting for you.

By the way, some people are specialists and others are generalists. Sounds to me like you are the latter and thus need to know many things to assist your understanding of what is versus a myriad of details in one or two specific areas.

Different strokes for different folks! That is what makes the world interesting and go round and round and round......... LOL

[Becky]

I think low self esteem and low confidence really do hold people back. You have to really accept and know that you have a special gift/quality or even just a task which you may have already completed or are yet to do. Just enjoy and develop your gifts and see where this takes you. Fear of failing and negative thinking will only hold you back. try to find your passion, and take life a bit less seriously. By the way, I should listen to these words of wisdom too lol!
All the best :o

[jackovesk]

Has anyone felt like they are not good at anything? Most of the time I feel like I don't have redeeming professional or personal qualities.

Some of us were destined to be doctors, engineers, health professionals, diplomats, scientist etc. We had a vision of the professional career we wanted to pursue, and we worked very hard to hone those skills.

Yet, to this day, I feel like I am not good at anything. Most often than not, I have failed at everything I have pursued. I have changed multiple careers in different countries, and I have not fit-in anywhere!! I have always felt extremely unworthy and useless. I have never felt confident about myself, both professionally or personally.

I am really struggling to find what I am good at, and I am in my late 20s. I am not sure if it is a case of low self-esteem, or maybe some of us are really not good at anything?

I am a decent writer, but I have never pursued that path, mainly because I fear I will fail at it too. Or, is it just a misconception that all of us have to be good at something.

I am really struggling at the other end of the world!

Well Done myriaddimension,

Part 1 (Acknowledgement) Done...:yes4:

Part 2 (Next Step)

Now what are ((YOU)) going to about the rest of it...:wizard:

You have only 2 Choices ahead of you now...

1. Stay the same and be miserable for the (REST) of your life...

Or...

2. Map out a personal Plan of Attack including Daily, Monthly & Yearly Goals and start working towards the Life you've always dreamt of...:yes4:

Ya see, when someone posts something like this, they are generally looking for support & confirmation from people who are in the same boat or have experienced what its like living in a Deep-Hole of Depression & Anxiety...

There is always generally only (1) Key issue which you can't or WON'T move on from. So you have to decide which (Fork in the Road) your going to take...

http://triumphwellness.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/forkintheroad.jpg

The time to (CHANGE) your mindset is ((Right-Now)), not tomorrow, the next day or next week...:nono:

PS - You say your not Good at anything...:confused:

Half the Successful people I know could of said the same thing (Not Good at Anything), however they chose not to feel sorry for themselves and simply wouldn't accept their lack of natural talent and (Decided) to (WORK HARD) on both themselves and their chosen profession and Voila life started getting Better Day by Day, Week by Week, Month by Month & Year by Year...:)

Attack your problems (Head-on) and start looking forward to the (New You) & (Better Future)

PSS - Some may say jackovesk, that's easier said than done..!

I say Effing :bs:

Its also FKing (Hard Work) being (Insecure & Depressed), it literally (Drains the Effing-Life Out of You) with absolutely no benefits whatsoever..!

How do I know, because every single Human on the planet (has been there) and its only the ones that rise above their insecurities and continually work towards bettering themselves or their situation thus giving them the strength to achieve & better their Goals...

Put it Simply...

Feeling Sorry for Yourself for Lengthy Periods = (Insecurity & Depression), no 2 ways about it...:wizard:

[Matt P]

We live in a society that creates these kinds of feelings. So many think they must have and get and be something "special."
There is nothing wrong with just being. Maybe you worked the skin off your bones in past lives and you choose to come just BE in this world, without expectation. You are very young. Maybe your moment has just not arrived.
I would suggest finding things to be thankful for and take the pressure off yourself. Ask the universe for guidance and then pay attention. And I like Jackovesk's suggestion to plan the reality you want. I'm not sure I would "attack" it but I found long ago that I was able to create the reality I wanted. I asked myself, "What would be a perfect day for me, a day that I could live every day and be the happiest person I could be?" I wrote those things down. I am a carpenter and I love to make things with my hands so I said each day I would like to make something with my hands. I love my family so I said I would like to spend meaningful time with my wife and kids every day. I love to coach so I said I would like to teach soccer to kids. I like to read and study so I said I would like a little bit of that every day. I also like to be my own boss and have flexibility to do everything I want or nothing, depending on the day. Before I knew it, I noticed that my days are filled with exactly what I choose them to be filled with and I love and live every day of my life with just the things that make me happy. It is not always the same or perfect but I let go and I am never without, even when it looks as though I might be close. I am rich but not in money (money being the root of much evil, I chose to not be a slave to it). I live a simple life (because I chose to have a small footprint upon this earth). There are many ways to cross the river and no one right one. Decide who you would like to be and then just go live it. Or choose to simply be the person exploring this beautiful world still looking for a place to stay a while.
Matt

[vje2]

Dear miryaddimension

I once learnt a quote that goes by:

"I am not afraid of falling but instead I am afraid of not trying".

This rings true to me for a couple of reasons. Ultimately even though that we are seeing everything within the limits of our microcosmos/micro life, I can assure you that your being here on Mother Earth is part of a BIGGER plan that we yet cannot see.
The Universe, God etc...has a way of re-arranging itself in such a way that when you look back, you will say:

My goodness, I went through All that and NOW I understand the purpose of it all!

Therefore, do not beat yourself for not knowing who you are at this present time, when is time you will know.


"The teacher always appear, when the student is ready"

[Lifebringer]

I knew someone who felt like you. They were very down on themselves for not being able to get through a system stacked against them and though they lived a life of a brick wall revolution. LOL

Cheer up, i'm gonna give you something to start at, that will calm your insecurities, give you peace of mind while enjoying the fresh air and sun's vitamin A that will help you out of your winter malaise we all are trying to come out of. Yes you're effected by that too, on top of low self esteem.
So the first thing to do, is firm up your "self" support/esteem, by tapping into the Creator with quiet days of purging the stuff that makes you feel that way. If you do what I've seen happen to so many others, then you'll hopefully gain more esteem as you go from here.

It's gardening....something as simple as tending to bean plants, green plants or tomatoes and cucumbers, and nurturing a good return that's healthy for mind, body and soul. Plants need watering in spring and fall every 3-4 days, and extremely hot days of summer, water at night after sunset, and or early in the morning with a plastic lined and mulch bottom, the roots will stay healthy and produce beautiful veggies that will aid in nutrients to get you out of your depression or low self esteem without the petrochemicals of shelf foods in big agriculture. All the fast food restaurants use these chem veggies and if you're like my almost 30 year olds with stressful life of work work work at a job you don't like, and never move up, then gardening is the thing that brings you back to nature, to recharge your earthly batteries. I put in garden boxes of wood, and lined them with plastic, then mulch, then compost(natural scraps of veggies during cooking, egg shells, coffee grounds, banana peels, any soil you have and put lime in it to remove toxic bacteria from the root areas or ant eggs that will eat your plants. I just take a shovel and move them to another area in the alley, but they will trample over your veggies and plant their larvae for the fall and winter months as they store food, so move them, or fight nature. LOL You can always avoid this with a trip to lowes, and a couple of 40 lb bags of soil for 1.99-2.50 a sack and put lime in it a month before planting the plants but still watering the soil every week to move the chemicals from store bought soil to the bottom to be buried away from your veggies. Not your fault they use it, but you can still treat the soil naturally, and have lovely organics that are healthy for you and ease the "dis-ease" of insecurity.

Love and happiness myriaddimension.
Purge the hurts, failures or what I call false starts or trials, and build from the bottom to the top of yourself. We've been programmed to forget about that very important aspect of our journey through life. It's not just about the material self to survive here. It's about how you survive, with love and not trample, harm, or damage your soul/self or life on the planet. And to do this, you must accept that we are all the same in our needs to live on the planet, and respect how others do so, as long as they too harm no one else in pursuit of their happiness, as they too are on the journey of life, with their own choices/forks in the road" to prosperity/survival. Remember be in the world, but not "of" the world. For we all return to spirit, and if we all do our best for ourselves and others with the thought, "if it's not good for the all, then it's not all good" this journey would not be such a struggle of confused lies and deceit to prosper with money as the only God they respect.

Yes, the 'Rabid Hole" is that deep. Creator is sending energy our way, so meditate on it. Get quiet sometimes w/out tv on, the pc will go into rest anyway and shut off. Listen to the multiple meditation music on youtube pick something out. I listen to the Native American meditation music. I like Yeha Noha and Voices of the wind. But there are lots of flute music and remember the ancestor music. Oh, Oh, "Wen De Ya Ho" I start my Sabbath with every Friday evening at sunset. There is Tibetan, Celtic, Indian, Asian and other tribal meditation music. We are a tribe of seekers, and the meditation helps us to relax and listen to our inner thoughts and connect to Creator's All.

Worry not, it's already been planned. Some like me are very anxious to get this show on the road, but there are new people that just aren't ready to focus for the pieces of the whole picture or consequences of the issues facing us today, YET. Slow the mind, when it's whirling around like a OZ tornado, and get in touch with your higher connected self. It's very important at this time, as that will be how we are protected. You must be able to hear it, to know when to speak, move, or stop or go soon. Meditation is urgent to pick up the vibrations of mother earth at this time. WE know the bad simply will not continue forever, so since all texts, scripts, and murals point to this important time and knew it, and Christ's response was time, plus time, plus time and a half. Science and Faith will merge to bring the all and not dual worlds of conflict and unknown confusion of the teachings. This is the time of "revealing" and never in any time has so much been able to be revealed to ALL in so short a time frame to demand action and gain solutions of understanding and compassion.

Big plate, but we've had all you can eat before. LOL.

[panpravda]

myriaddimension: First of all, thank you for sharing your highly personal thoughts and fears, it is a brave and positive act to do such a thing. As jackovest has said, by posting what you have, you've already taken the first step to a better place in terms of your current confusion, and I am sure the Avalonian community will respond with respect and encouragement. In fact, there is already evidence of that in the other responses to your OP, where important thoughts for you to consider are presented. The challenge, of course, is for you to figure out from these and other thoughts, which of them apply to your own circumstance.

It is my opinion that lifetimes spent here on Earth can be likened to our attendance at a spiritual training camp. I believe it is up to each of us, totally, as individuals, to make the best of things, and from our experiences develop our actual, much greater spiritual selves. This training camp is not a breeze, it can be very hard indeed; it can often seem intolerable to our limited senses and emotions, that is, given our current, limited understanding of the big picture.

You're still young. Patience really is a virtue, and it is also a good personal development launchpad, so perhaps there is a challenge for you there? Could it be that you would benefit from finding ways by which you can relax more to take some of the edge off things you currently have going on in your life, and here I mean the apparent urgency and importance you may attach to all kinds of "stuff"? Should you think about what drives those whom till now you have allowed to gather as friends and acquaintances; maybe you have decisions to make there? Should you develop methods through which you can look with greater focus for the good in life and perhaps try to see the world and its events through the eyes of others for whom you have respect?

I recognise of course that everyone is different, but many years ago I found this line of advice to be the genesis of a positive "way point" for the rest of my own life. I began limiting the power and relevance I had previously assigned, often selfishly, to things and events around me, and started instead to look inward to inspect my assumed understanding and outward to gather and appreciate more of life's simple philosophies, all of this in search of deeper meaning and opportunities to come to better terms with what this life is really about. As a result, I found myself appreciating more fully that which of actual importance and relevance I had already gathered and that which of a positive nature I had already done in my life; much of this clarity coming about as a result of paying greater attention to the needs, values and actions of others for whom I had developed great respect. The acts of sharing and genuinely assisting have a funny way of making one happy and clear-headed. And I have personally found it to be true that things work themselves out in cycles; one reaps what one sows, as they say, so one of the tricks seems to be ... learn how to sow good stuff ;)

Stay positive.

[universe]

My advice is to search out the Eckhart Tolle material, there is plenty on youtube. Keep listening until you get it, you will know when you get it, the feeling is unmistakable. I found that I revisit the material from time to time to remind myself of the simple truths.
Remember if you are depressed you are living in the past, if you are anxious you are living in the future and if you are calm you are living in the present.
Hope that helps.

[Lifebringer]

You sound like you are yearning for your "soul" mate to finish this journey with at 30. Yes, you're on the right path, just ask higher self to bring them in your life. Sometimes your soul mate is going through the same thing and doesn't want to relinquish that free part of themselves that make them them, yet yearn for the new love that they hope will complete them. Cautious about making the wrong decision, as time wasted, is important to you. Clock tickings or urgency to be happy with a family. Like I said, ask and it shall be given. Put it out there and it will be responded to. To me, it sound like you need an unconditional loving geek, but that's just me based upon what I've picked up. Information technology and creativity can make for a fulfilling life. If it's something you enjoy and that's the key. Finding that thing that you enjoy, and put on the back burner. Perhaps your soul mate resides there.

[skuzzy]

Any thought on hypnotic regression? From what i understand you may be able to learn from past life experiences. Perhaps a look at marcia shafer's site may interest you??
http://beyondzebra.com/bz/#.UzRx24WmVi4

Perhaps someone would like to expand on either of these things, I have no actual experience with either :\ lol and yet i recommend them...

[Snoweagle]

You live in a regulated world. Your perception lives in the matrix. You need a license. You are stock.
You want something different but you don't know what.
You seek and find more confusion. Your question unlocks more. You life always spirals back again.

What for?

You live your life in a global city now. You see everything catered for. You and others wait your turn at the grind. You obey the system as expected of you. Your life chosen for you.

The natural environment of woodland, forests with abundant flora and fauna with the myriad of natural wildlife is being separated from our psychic perception by the technical world we now find ourselves in. The virtual world is taking over to the demise of the natural world. It has been engineered that way.

Your environment has been programmed to keep everyone confused but it is only a program.

Your choice is whether to hack the program alone for yourself of join others together improving humanities prospects.

[Cardillac]

you just need to follow your heart and realize whatever interests you the most is the road upon you were destined to travel- it's that simple (contrary to longer response postings on this forum most probably confusing you even more- Avalonians truly mean well but many tend to get bogged-down in nitty-gritty details that you just simply don't need to deal with yet, if ever)-

please be well-

Larry

[vilcabamba]

I recommend Lavandar's assistance at Starseehotline.com. She works with the Plaeidians and she has been taught by the Pleaidians how to read birthdays.... as it is a code that has the answers on who you are and what you are here to do.

You haven't found the right thing to focus on yet. Plus, this whole planet is a prison and we were not meant to be slaves. Who needs a slave job anyway.
Your only job on this planet is to walk around and smile at that person you walk by on the street. You may save this person's life with your smile.

The star people don't need you to make a certain amount of money, they don't care if you have a life partner. The only thing that matters is if you spread love and happiness in the world. And that could mean that you go to the coffee shop and just smile at everyone who walks in while you drink your coffee. That is more success then the person who is a successful doctor who is injecting people with deadly vaccines. Our psycho society thinks the doctor is successful while the unemployed person who sits at Starbucks smiling at everyone that walks in a loser. But in the end, it's the person who smiles at everyone, whether he/she works at Kmart is the one who will be the winner in the end. Plus, my only goal is to make it to or back to the Pleiades. This planet is a **** hole and the people are rather crappy. Who needs this place anyway. I ducked out of this society several years ago and my only goal is to get a golden ticket to the Pleides. Where like minded folks exist. I'm out of here. And have no desire to fit into a psychopath society anymore.

[Rich]

I have always felt extremely unworthy and useless. Most often than not, I have failed at everything I have pursued.
If you think that your self worth is determined by your 'outer' success and you believe that you are unworthy you cannot be successful in your pursuits, the stronger belief wins out. Therefore your talents remain hidden to you.

Plus you will lose interest in becoming 'successful' as soon as you notice that it wont make you feel worthy.

[Fairy Friend]

People who are successful don't say they are unworthy and useless. People who are successful say they are the one. And then they don't sit there talking about it, they do it. What do you want to succeed at? money? relationships? career? long life?