Prayers and Love for my children's mother

[donk]

My ex needs help...I don’t know how, I don’t know why, but she is desperate enough to ask me to get her parents to help her.

I’d love any positivity myself, for me and my family. I’m fairly certain her mother is a bona-fide psychopath, and had worked extremely hard at creating effective boundaries for me and my family, and now I am necessarily inviting a vampire back into our lives.

It is insane how many issues those I love are having right now…and just when I think I’m handling it all well, thriving even—at helping those close to me out, I get the call I dread.

I know all is well, I know I can handle it on my own, and I don’t know what help you can provide…but I’m calling out to the universe, and specifically at the moment Avalon—please send peace and assistance toward calming this storm.

Thank you

[778 neighbour of some guy]

Peace it is.

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[AutumnW]

Hi Donk, My prayers and best wishes go out to you and your wife and all of those around you afflicted by those who seem to crawl out of the cracks in sidewalks. I suppose one could say those who are afflicting you need our prayers too, bit sometimes I really wonder if they are salvageable. You have to want to receive spirit to get spirit.

Things have pretty much settled out in my life but I still have to deal with a severely personality disordered relative and will until the last vestiges of my late parent's estate are cleared up. I plan to completely and thoroughly delete her from my life, after that, for my sanity's sake.

Fortunately a couple of other deeply disturbed individuals exited my life, voluntarily, in the last few years. Another I had to eject.

If you have any theories about why these people show up in our lives in clusters and seem to almost act in a coordinated fashion to cause as much suffering as possible, I would love to hear it!

[donk]

Hi Donk, My prayers and best wishes go out to you and your wife and all of those around you afflicted by those who seem to crawl out of the cracks in sidewalks. I suppose one could say those who are afflicting you need our prayers too, bit sometimes I really wonder if they are salvageable. You have to want to receive spirit to get spirit.

Things have pretty much settled out in my life but I still have to deal with a severely personality disordered relative and will until the last vestiges of my late parent's estate are cleared up. I plan to completely and thoroughly delete her from my life, after that, for my sanity's sake.

Fortunately a couple of other deeply disturbed individuals exited my life, voluntarily, in the last few years. Another I had to eject.

If you have any theories about why these people show up in our lives in clusters and seem to almost act in a coordinated fashion to cause as much suffering as possible, I would love to hear it!

my theory has always been that I am magnet for crazy/chaos.

So I examined myself thoroughly, and continue to do so, to try change anything about me that I can think of that may be helpful.

I am not certain what it is about that attracts this energy, I am definitely acting on the belief it is contracts I made without being mindful at the time...so I try not to do that anymore, while doing my best to fulfill the contracts I feel responsibile for.


I plan to completely and thoroughly delete her from my life, after that, for my sanity's sake.


Gosh what a delightful thought, I will focus on this for you...thanks so much for the love...good luck, stay positive!

[donk]

HA! Yeah, Ed, I wish...if it were that easy, I'd change my name to Buffy and finally know what I wanted to be when I grow up :o Thanks for the love

[778 neighbour of some guy]

HA! Yeah, Ed, I wish...if it were that easy, I'd change my name to Buffy and finally know what I wanted to be when I grow up :o Thanks for the love

You will be fine, your Most High Supreme Donkness will prevail over all circumstances big and small, btw, its not your mess this time, your help was requested so apparently you are part of a solution, don't let it drain your reserves, they need you, so you dictate the terms, energy work is a matter of management/economics, don't spend what you don't have, and what's in it for you when you mediate in this particular swamp, do you at least get the boat when its all over??.

[sheme]

Look at this video -know it works and start here, it worked for me -it works for you and yours -hear me. http://youtu.be/x6pYAiRqhio?t=1s

[Lifebringer]

if she's a negative Nellie, and you don't want her in your space, ask the Creator to open a door to help her be on her own. If she's invalid and a negative Nellie, then hire someone to take her crap. People who don't get paid for it, won't do the job of taking care of the person. Have her go to "Family counciling for the Adjustment of the move into your space. Hopefully a bona fide psychiatrist will see the trouble she brings and recommend a "garage apt be built on the first floor, and away from your space. You can purchase a couple of sheds, and create a place for her "troubling manner."

Just tell her it's for privacy at your age and you wouldn't be comfortable "strumming your spouses guitar, with an audience before the finish. LOL

[Daughter of Time]

Love and peace to you and your loved ones, Donk.

Break your contract with the unwanted visitor. Do it on your own, from your soul to hers. Dissolve whatever bonds you have with her at the spiritual level. And follow other advice given by others as well, of course.

For the time being, be strong and don't lose your mind in a sea of negativity.

Love and blessings!

[donk]

heh...she has a 2000+ page personality profile compiled at the University of Penn, probably got a half dozen or so people their psych theses/doctorates...

She actually has something that so many lack...self awareness. Mercifully, she's removed Herself from our lives for her kids’ sake. For her to call me is….something. I’d not be surprised if I’ll be able to a post a link to whatever the story ends up being, that’s how not-normal it is for her to ask me to get her parents to get her…she hasn’t spoken to them in a decade I think and NEVER asked for help the few years we were together and she communicated with them…she’d rather die (I thought…and apparently she thought a lot about, too—on the edge of the roof a building, for a couple of hours)

I’ve been preparing for her to re-enter my life, she’s my kids’ mom, they love her, they deserve some kind of closure of discussion from her of what is going on. Hopefully that will happen, sometime well in the future, when she’s on an upswing…but the 2-3 times I thought she was getting close, within a couple weeks I’d get a call. But not like this one…she was hysterical.

And hopefully I’m wrong about her mother. I definitely need for her to understand me a little better regardless, I am not going to be able to delete her easily—and not without revealing my intent. So I am hopeful that this will turn out good everyone, that her mom learns empathy and that she gets a safe place to work on herself…so that my children (and family) will get some sort of understanding of why things are the way are, other than just from my perspective.

[betoobig]

i am also with you and anyone with you.... it may sound crazy but this is what i do, not from too long ago, is visualize... at any situation or conflict i fell uncounfortable... a bullet coming towards me (just like in the matrix movie) then i say "NO" and the uncomfortable thought (the bullit) stops...in the air...
Anyway.... love from Spain

[betoobig]

power to your imagination

[RunningDeer]

Changed post after reading your most recent response, Donk. The tone didn't match what I posted. So, sending love to you and your family.


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[ElfeMya]

Lots of love and peace to you and your loved ones. Have you considered a technique like the ho'oponopono to release the ' magnet for bad energies ' aspect of this situation ? Or maybe the Inelia benz processing exercise could help release that kind of energy as week ?
Plenty of angelic help and tenderness to you !

[spiritguide]

It is so! Prayers and positive energies on the way.

Peace!

[778 neighbour of some guy]

Well, you have a very clear picture of what is about to come and what to do with your future relationship with your ex, but nothing to support you in the process of what's coming your way regarding your ex's mom, and if I have read your story correctly you don't know the lady and I cant tell if you have ever met before, in case you haven't, here's a party trick for you, something someone taught me was playing tricks with my own mind to make bad things seem a little less bad, so if your mother in law flies a broomstick, a little mind game with yourself could help.

A few years ago I stumbled into a New Age exhibition and there was a lady who could introduce one to ones spirit guide, since I had some questions, I thought, well, why the hell not, 20 minutes later and 25 bucks lighter I was on my way with a drawing, a name and a personal message, on the drawing, a bearded dude named Claudius in a toga with a hand up in the air gesturing me to chill, no hurry dude, a dove hovering over his head and the message was, "you are not alone, I am always around, in case of crap, say my name and I'll see what I can do, just stfu and pay attention to your thoughts and I'll see if I can get through to you with a message of hope and inspiration, blahdiblah), well now, this Claudius chap happened to have a decent sense of humor.

So there I was, thinking of what to do with my life and what the f should I do with this half baked relationship I was in at that time, I am not known for my subtlety or for having a nice even temper but I hate arguments in relationships and I wanted A healthy solution or at least someone who would offer me an idea of how to do that, here's where Claudius came in and it was funny as all hell.

I asked for advice in my dreams ( I lay still and don't have all these nagging questions when I sleep and cant get in an argument and keep my mouth shut), so the question was, "healthy solution for blahdiblah etc",

Here is what happened, I dreamt of my ex drowning in orange juice, a blender fell out of the kitchen cabinet and hit her on the head which made her stfu for an hour, a cross eyed ginger midget with dreadlocks and two pink ping pong paddles following her around slapping her @ss 24/7, she floated downstream in a huge hollow banana, etc etc.

So, that's what happened, and every time I saw my soon to be future ex, I had all these silly images in my mind and I couldn't stop grinning inside and that was a source of HUGE strength to me and made things a lot easier for me, if you cant avoid it, you can at least play your own game with it, that's what it taught me.

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.Everything in red was a complete and utter lie just to make you feel better, but it is however what I do now in difficult situations, if I cant avoid it, make it fun and approach it on my own terms, I did get the name of my guide and I get inspiration from him, like the above lie to support you creatively, srsly, give it a try, if its all you have why not enjoy it for a bit, a Daffy Duck band aid for the soul. But remember, "healthy funny solutions only".


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[Tony]

Prayers never go unnoticed.
Tony

[BIG CAT]

positive energy express delivery en-route to you my friend, your in our thoughts and prayers brother.
BIG CAT.

[donk]

That's funny Ed, really wanted to remember my dreams last night. Know mama well, I should have recognized her psychopathy (a word I try not to use lightly), but what happened is in correcting her psychopathic behavior, I gave her ammunition--valuable knowledge, for her to try achieve her goal of raising my son (just one, she proved she could care less about the other one, the straw that decided me she truly is without empathy).

Well is there was any doubt, her first words to daughter in probably ten years weren't even "hello?" Like a normal person answers the phone...it was "I don't wanna listen to you blubber". It didn't go much better from there.

All J wanted was her security needs met, a couch to lay on. She totally have up on life, is truly sick (I had doubts at one point, thought it was part of her victim game, was wrong I think). Being told "there's no place for you here, we won't pick you up at the bus station"...well, I expected it, she didn't

She didn't have hope left before that. I am at a loss, I'd like to give her some, if for no other reason than she doesn't seem able to end her life (she's "tried" many times), now she tells me she's in a place she's never been before. Doesn't care about anything, can't bring herself to rebuild (start a new cycle).

It's tragic, but my life got slightly simpler last night. I never have speak to her "parents" again. I refuse to allow a psychopath's reality overlap mine, if I can ever help it. These "people" are on other side of country. One huge "firing", deletion from my life...now I ask the universe to find a space for J to hold for the immediate future

[Calz]

Hey donk

I offer whatever I can from my soul.


If we are not one ... then what is it exactly we have become???


Cal

[donk]

Yeah cal, that's all I could think of when trying not to choke up while she asks "why are people so mean?" And blaming herself for everything wrong in her life

I believe mental illness, particularly bipolar disorder, is the manifestation of a good human soul not quite able to cope with the psychopathy that is infused within the reality we find ourselves.

It's heartbreaking. I've never been lost , never been "without some sort of anchor"...I thought I was pretty fearless, I thought death would be toughest fear to get over. But I can't imagine what it must be like to have nowhere, no one, to have that last ditch "I hate myself for sucking it up and asking but I need you mom" to be met with "you have no place here". Ugh

[Calz]

donk ... you are beautiful.

You are a loving and amazing soul who is doing your best (as we all are) to navigate the challenges we came here to face.

Hey ... anything need be added???


Cal

[Krist]

Something for you to witness here Donk.You may be more capable to handle this than you think.Hang in there brother seeing much support your way.

[778 neighbour of some guy]

You know what Donk, the more you tell the more you seem to shine and the harder it gets to place oneself in your shoes, it sounds like you are already doing more and have done more then anybody else could ever wish for and that is something you clearly realize, taking care of someone who feels like he/she has landed on the wrong planet under the wrong circumstances but somehow ended up with a lot of responsibilities that are now blocking a free exit is one of the hardest jobs ever, let alone being that person herself, are your kids old enough to make sense of this if their mother would decide to take the ultimate breather if she would decide to take that step and do you have it in you to ever start over with someone else and would the kids understand why if you choose to do so?

You don't have to answer of course, I am trying to get a somewhat clear image of the situation.

( I know 9 people who took that ultimate time out, and its been really hard on me, call it survivors guilt if you will, but it was much harder on them to make that decision, and I have been close more then once too)

I do want to tell you, there will be no punishment for them on the other side, creation isn't that cruel, life in 3d can be punishment enough in all cases.

[donk]

Yeah, that’s tricky, her wrists were still bloody from what I think was her first serious attempt when I met her…and I went through one serious one. Our kids are 10 & 12, the last time they talked to her was 2 years ago, last time they saw her was 4 years now. I been telling them truth whole time, the entirety of what I can call “truth”:

she is extremely not well, and one of her illnesses involves making horrible decisions that bring dangerous people into our live and made the best decision for all of us by removing herself from our lives. She loves us and misses us very much, and I am doing everything I can to help her get well enough to come back in to it. So far, each time she started getting close, she slipped. She’s trying again, if she makes progress I will let you know but don’t want to get your hopes up.

…..so now, she has no hope. She can’t rebuild again, she’s done with the cycle, at least told me that last night. I haven’t heard from her yet, she was going to try to figure where to go, promising it would be nowhere close, she will not show up on my doorstep, not do anything to damage the boys.

She was the only frame of reference I had for “suicidal”, before a few months ago. A close friend that went down Opiate Road, who actually caused tens of thousands of dollars in a contract owed to her parents was the second. He left having put me deeply indebted to them, though I know now I have given them enough of my energy—and the contract was fraudulent, responsibility that was not mine to take, I’ve paid back 75% of what they felt entitled to…but it’s been more than 10,000% of what I ever should have…any cash will go toward their responsibility: the daughter they raised.

Anyways, I bring him up cuz he was ready to go. I watched him hustle around years, I provided peace, a couple mins of refuge. He took advantage, destroyed me and everyone around him in ways beyond we could have imagined. Luckily I learned the trust lesson and forgave him in my mind, but I held out hope he might come to me asking for it...I guess I got a little of the guilt there, after all...god this sh't sucks...like she says "WHY ARE PEOPLE SO MEAN??"

So it’s a blessing—being able to get a vampire off my family’s back, and would be neat and tidy, but for the questions: what do I do now? (from the ex), and why can’t I stay with gramma on the ranch, and why did you block her on my Facebook? (from my oldest)…I can’t even begin to think of the cursory effects to everyone else, myself and youngest included

Hoping the first question gets asked (or maybe not—I dunno, I wouldn’t feel the guilt on this one, as horrible it is to say—that outcome seems as desirable as any other—never been in shot this deep), and the second is relatively resolved…we shall see.

I wish I had that energetic sensitivity to KNOW…I feel she didn’t do it, but am not 100% confident. I have the TMBG lyric on a loop in my mind, it’s the closest to I can get to what she must be feeling: Now it’s over I’m dead and I haven’t done anything that I want, or I’m still alive, and there’s nothing I want to do…

[778 neighbour of some guy]

Now I am crying and I bet I am not the only one right now, crap.

[Sidney]

Donk, emotions are running high with reading this. My heart really aches for you, your children and their mother. I am visualizing guided protection to all of you. Sometimes, the answers find us, instead of the other way around. Many hugs coming your way.
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[Wind]

Donk, you and your family are in my thoughts, sending some good vibes your way.

[donk]

She texted me a little bit ago: Help. Please. Im at a loss here...I haven't been able to get ahold of her though

Her mom emailed me, highlight: please don’t give her directions to the ranch. Also, please try to not have your emotions manipulated by her tricks. She’s a mess. And she needs to figure out her life-or not. Seems likely that she won’t. Another vacant and loss human walking around. The entire thing makes me sad. And there is nothing more that I can do for her. She needs to do for herself, if she chooses.

…….aw, makes her sad, this entire thing. I wonder what “sad” means in psychopathese?


NOTE: it took her 20 hours to let me know that “she finally got ahold of her”, that’s when I heard her daughter’s side. This psycho is scared…I thought sending her daughter to her doorstep (make her take responsibility for the person she gave birth to that needs help) would be the worst thing I could do to her, but J did one better: took away the grandkid she has some sort of “Mother” Bates type obsession with…I been looking for an excuse anyway when I only SUSPECTED she was true psycho, now that it’s confirmed, there’s no question deletion from all my family’s life is the only option.

[donk]

Thanks everyone for the positive vibes!! The situation has swung like an extremely bipolar person's mood swing (imagine that!).

The universe saw fit that it prove to me the ex's mom is truly toxic to my family and needed to be removed my life, gave the ability to cut the cording. The ex is on a upswing now, as the final push from me was the challenge to her that she prove she is NOT her mother, I asked that she take the non-psychopath view of the situation for her, and instead look at it from a perspective of what I needed: closure and clarity to our children of the situation, I asked her try to approach the problem from that pov, instead of worrying about her survival needs, focus on boys' emotional needs

Everything seemed to fall into place for her within an hour. The person I admired came out, and she presented a goal, some hope, and first step toward solution. So it is not over, but challenges have been met and solutions in sight.

All of this coinciding with 2 friends with huge issues with their baby's mamas, and other highly charged issues going on...I was expecting the astological perspective of what's going on right now, feels like tumultuous energy to this inexperienced seeker...can this libra expect a minute of peace in the near future?;)

[donk]

Need protection today, for anyone so inclined to provide some I'd greatly appreciate it. Severing the connection today--full intent on deleting the psychopath from my life. I get through this smoothely, than it's on to dealing with momma issues...never thought I'd prefer that to anything, man that was before I learned about true psychopathy

http://alchemicalengagement.blogspot.com/2012/08/no-contact-ever-again.html

...wish me luck, sheild my boys and give them clarity...clarity and support for momma as well, she could use some love. Thanks everyone!!