So why the name change?

[Chester]

Hi friends... I have been asked this of late and so I figured I better come clean.

A month or so back I finally admitted the truth to myself. I am a lesbian trapped in a male body.

"justoneman" was dishonest so I dropped the 'man' part.

[Shezbeth]

I knew it! Not the specific reason mind you, but I was inclined to jibe "You're not a man anymore?" and it seems I was thinking correctly. ^_~

[mosquito]

I am a lesbian trapped in a male body.


I realised that about myself many years ago !

[MargueriteBee]

brave of you, thanks for being you!

[ghostrider]

that's another reason I love Avalon , people can be themselves in comfort among friends ... the most open minded folks on planet earth reside here on starship Avalon ...

[AriG]

I could never presume to understand the journey that you walk. To do so, would be disingenuous. So please forgive my empathetic ignorance as I process this post and attempt to understand...

You were 'JustOneMan'. You have now dropped the "man".

You say that you are a lesbian trapped in a man's body.

A lesbian is is defined as a female with sexual attraction to females.

You suggest that you are a female but that you have male body parts. Could you possibly be a transexual? (please remember these are just labels)....
Definition:
a person who emotionally and psychologically feels that they belong to the opposite sex.
synonyms: hermaphrodite, androgyne, epicene, intersex, transgendered person;

Sexuality is so complex. There are times when I have felt more like a man with my husband than a woman and have wanted to possess him as a man would and he has admitted that he would like to have lesbian sex with me. That said, I am a "girly girl" on the surface and embrace feminine trappings and would not want to be male. My husband is also incredibly "masculine". It is funny though. Once sexually satiated, we tend to return to more of a stasis, and are beloved companions. The stuff that really matters...

The reality is this: gender is determined at conception. There are however, a multitude of hormonal and external influences that can alter that assignment in vitro, let alone all of the societal pressures that shape our identity after birth.

We incarnate into lifetimes as males and as females. Our spirit knows no difference and it truly is that little "y" chromosome that makes the difference in manifestation. A clitoris is but a penis without the proper hormonal/chromosomal balance and vice versa. Our bodies are just vessels for our spirits.

Could you take comfort in the knowledge that you are eternal consciousness having a human experience, sometimes as a physical female and sometimes as a physical male, yet with the understanding that these "roles" mean nothing other than the manufactured responsibilities that accompany either assignment?

What you are, in this vortex, in this moment in time, is perfection. Be at peace with that. You are a loved and valued being and you do not need to fret over your hardware. You are you and you are, in all of your glory and frailty, unique. Just be you. Love who you will, do as you wish as long as you harm no other and please do not stress over your "role". It is all a facade. When the game is over and we all convene, we will glory in the insanity of this hologram. In the interim, remember that you are neither male or female. You simply are. How glorious!

[Craig]

Great reply AriG, I find the whole situ complex and at times confusing and am not a great lover of what hormones can do to a normally functioning body.

[Ciaran]

Hi friends... I have been asked this of late and so I figured I better come clean.

A month or so back I finally admitted the truth to myself. I am a lesbian trapped in a male body.

"justoneman" was dishonest so I dropped the 'man' part.


Forgive me if I'm wrong, but i thought the statement "I am a lesbian trapped in a male body" was a tongue and cheek way of saying that a man is heterosexual? well back in Ireland it does anyway...

[Ahnung-quay]

This is how I understand it. There is gender and then, there is polarity. We all have gender. We all also have two polarities within us, masculine and feminine. Sometimes our polarities are balanced within ourselves. Often they become out of whack and we have to do spiritual work in order to re-balance them. This work can take a lifetime.

Sometimes our polarities don't or won't balance no matter what is done. In that case we end up with men that are strongly male and women that are strongly female and that becomes that person's individual balance. When a male is polarized to the female or a female is polarized to a male polarity and the polarities won't balance, the male is strongly female and the female is strongly male. Many of these people have tried and failed to balance their polarities leading to a lifetime of misery in trying to fit into a mold within society as we know it.

The Native Americans called these people two spirits. They were considered to be an honored and accepted part of the circle. I was shown that today there are many two spirits walking the earth, an increase from previous times. Their souls are here to show the rest of us a new way that free of judgment. Our internal polarities are not connected to our genders. Thanks justone!

[thunder24]

Hi friends... I have been asked this of late and so I figured I better come clean.

A month or so back I finally admitted the truth to myself. I am a lesbian trapped in a male body.

"justoneman" was dishonest so I dropped the 'man' part.


Forgive me if I'm wrong, but i thought the statement "I am a lesbian trapped in a male body" was a tongue and cheek way of saying that a man is heterosexual? well back in Ireland it does anyway...

:tea: you are correct.....

[sirdipswitch]

And then there are those, who get off, on complicatin the bee-jee-bees outta everthing. Even that written in jest. chuckle chuckle.

[rgray222]

I have never understood why sexual preference matters to anyone except the person who owns that sexuality.

These labels are the product of politicians who want to divide us into groups to make us choose sides, they are essentially saying to us, if you belong to this group you should side with me and vote for me.

The media labels us to sell their products, the more outrageous and the more labels they can attach to a story the more we read, watch or click!

I think using labels is a disservice to ourselves and society in general. Try going without them for month, it is not that hard.

[Flash]

LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL ROLF

Don't ever change, we love you as you are...... whatever it may be lolllllllll


Hi friends... I have been asked this of late and so I figured I better come clean.

A month or so back I finally admitted the truth to myself. I am a lesbian trapped in a male body.

"justoneman" was dishonest so I dropped the 'man' part.

And many thanks and bowing for your undeterring love of the women gender

[scanner]

You sexuality is unimportant , it's who you are that is . The meat sack is just a vehicle for you to move around , so don't sweat it .

[Daughter of Time]

A dear friend of mine who passed away a few years ago always referred to himself as a lesbian trapped in a man's body. In his case, he really did feel trapped!

He was a remarkable man: intellectual, philosopher, poet, visual artist, humanitarian, feminist, and more than anything, a loving, caring, empathetic person.

He had memories of having a vagina (past lives) but also being frightened of interactions with a penis. He didn't hate his own penis, but strongly related to women who have been subjected to the penis being used as a weapon for rape, subjugation, abuse, misuse, etc., and sometimes felt ashamed that he was a man. I found all of this rather confusing since he was so highly intelligent and yet so very troubled. He died without ever figuring out why he felt as he did. For me, it was all causes of past life memories which have gone un-retrieved and unresolved.

Whatever your reasons for feeling as you do, I hope you do not feel "trapped". You have always sounded like a sexually liberated person so I think you feel quite well in your own body, at least, sexually speaking.

Anyhow, you've always had courage in revealing your experiences, thoughts, feelings, and this is good.

I hope your revelation about how you feel, gender wise, serves in making you feel freer than before.

With love,

DoT

[Gardener]

I'll second that Flash, mwaaa's and hugs.

I will also add, how much I greatly admire your quest for understanding justone.

I tried to explain a concept of gender balance to a friend but words often fail, and unfortunately for a few thousand years we seem to have been herded in a direction which, .... well one that foments dissent.

We all are both, two beautiful halves of a circle, awesome huh? Chemistry six weeks after conception dictates which half will physically manifest and which half will wait in the wings.

I can see that already I am struggling with the words but the androgyne found a way to manifest in this world of polarity and we seek in others our unmanifest part.

Jung got a good grasp with his Anima/Animus, still it does not have adequate words. Sadly in the patriarchial led world of control, the divine feminine struggles for recognition. And in saying this I am talking about both men and wo=men equally, the chalice and the blade, one is not whole without the other. The left and right brain in justone whole.

much love to you in your quest Justone, I wanted to say I think I get what you are saying.

[Carmen]

Hahaha, Love it. That was one of my ex's favourite lines!!

[truth4me]

I am a lesbian trapped in a male body.


I realised that about myself many years ago !
Me too......

[Menkaure]

Be true to yourself. If someone doesn't like it, they can just kiss it!

[Chester]

Reading these posts are like listening to/watching this song...

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=698825666830264&set=vb.298425626870272&type=2&theater

[GuyFox]

Another "Lesbian trapped in a Male body" ?

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You are therefore;
+ Very cool
+ Free from Political Correctness issues
+ Able to have preferred access to jobs, university spaces, and all sorts of govt services

I think all traditional males should consider this "transition"

[Finefeather]

I am a lesbian trapped in a male body.
So is every heterosexual male.

A lesbian is a female homosexual...a female attracted to other females...
You are in a male body...
You are attracted to females...

You are quite normal...:)

Maybe you should change your name to 'justgirls'

[Joanne Shepard]

Its the Trapped part that makes it even more complicated. Your not so trapped now though :)

I had a very important 10 yr relationship with a man who turned out to be gay, to my total surprise. It seems Im attracted to gay men? I Love Rupauls Drag race too :)

anyway, your a man who likes girls :) but you feel like a lesbian. and your not trapped anymore :)

[Shezbeth]

I am a lesbian trapped in a male body.
So is every heterosexual male.

A lesbian is a female homosexual...a female attracted to other females...
You are in a male body...
You are attracted to females...

You are quite normal...:)

If I were to speculate, I would say it is a bit more complicated than you suggest. By claiming to be a lesbian - a female who is sexually attracted to females - trapped in a male body, there is more implied than "He is physiologically male and attracted to females". Again I'm speculating, but I'll run with it.

The male will seek to interact (socially, intimately, sexually, etc.) with a female in a different manner than a female does. Additionally, when a female is interacting with a female, there is a commonality and identification; a seeing eye to eye that goes beyond compatibility and cohesive personalities. Have the males in the audience ever noticed how there are certain things that females will absolutely not discuss around males (with exception, though the exception tends to prove the rule)? I assume the females know exactly what I'm talking about,....

To be 'trapped' in a physiological sex is to not wholly - or in some cases not even marginally - identify with it. In case of Justone's example, I assume he is quite familiar with the physiological workings of his body and organs, and understands fully the chemical/hormonal drives that accompany it, but those are pure physiology. On a greater level I assume what he is suggesting is that he does not identify with the classic characteristics, drives, motivations, and general conceptions that surround what it is to be 'male'. He doesn't recognize his body as foreign, but neither does he recognize it as 'correct', assuming I am on the mark with this. If I were to continue I would suggest he probably identifies more with women in general and find women to be more approachable and attracting (as opposed to attractIVE) than males.

What I am getting at is that while there is want to claim that "Heterosexual Male = Lesbian in a Male Body", that is entirely not the case. Particularly, we are discussing/describing something that is not broken into two halves, as there are more than two initial factors to the equation. Perhaps I am getting too technical. The bottom line is that, for a male to realize and emerge thus does not make him the same as 'average' males, that there may be a wealth of difference between the two.

Good on your Justone, when you first wrote the OP I assumed you were being cheeky; I can see now that you are/were not, and I'll give you three guesses why I perceive that. ^_~

[Chester]

Hahaha, Love it. That was one of my ex's favourite lines!!

uhh oh... is that why he became an ex? He was always having to prove it?? haha