A useful knowledge on triggering within group discussions and what triggering is really all about

[Limor Wolf]

Hi all ~

I thought about this subject and my own definition to triggering is - A provokation of emotions, reactions, certain behaviours and deeds that at times may inflect self-harm or maladaptive thoughts or emotional behaviours with the individual.

The awarness to triggering can be very usefull in that it may help to avoid situations, or more accurately recognize it and with time learn to react differently to it. Or, to avoid inflicting it on others when it is done in an obvious way. BTW, the thought that this has to do only with people who are pre-conditioned to have a response towards it, is not entirely true as the level of programming and conditioning on planet earth do not leave many who are devoid of some influence or another. The amount of sensitivity, however, changes from each one and varies to levels of more heavy conditioning or lighter ones.

Sometime a person may even trigger another without any knowledge of it, very few are deliberately sent on-line and know excactly what they are doing. In any case, any type of blame is counterproductive and awareness on the other hand (as always is :)) is a good tool for peace of mind and heart.

So, this next article may be of interest to either anyone who is healing from mind control or anyone else who would like to understand this subject a little better

In today's climate with both government and 'foreign affairs', this 'joyous situation' may leave us people quite exposed to such psychological methods both in our privet and social life

As of now, this article is directed towards Propaganda & Mind Control survivors


The following article was written by the editor of S.M.A.R.T

After seeing a variety of articles and letters on and off the web that I believed either knowingly or unknowingly used propaganda and/or mind control techniques, I thought it would be a good idea to print an article about this, so that people would be able to recognize these techniques and protect themselves against them or avoid them.

Please note: I haven’t listed all techniques below. Please refer to the articles listed following the article for additional techniques.

Name Calling

This can include being called negative names (used inappropriately) like liar, psychotic, paranoid, crazy, communist, etc. The purpose, intentional or unintentional, of the usage of these names is to discredit the person they are being used on, without discussing the facts of the debate or topic. Sometimes names are used to shock the listener, which may put the listener into a more susceptible mind state and not critically think about the topic but simply accept the negative name or opinion subliminally.

Glittering Generalities

Democracy, capitalism or other ideas are often discussed in these terms. These terms may be described positively without a critical analysis of all sides of the issue. The important thing is to look at the ideas behind the terms and analyze them critically. A group may also only discuss the positives of the organization, ignoring any negative (or vice versa) criticism about the group. The important thing is to check out any group or organization as completely as possible before joining. But I believe it is also important to trust people when they are safe, so that we can recover by sharing and connecting.

Exaggeration

A user of propaganda may use terms like “many,” “a lot,” “numerous,” or “a few” without backing up these numbers or statistics. The usage of these words may make a person or organization look better or worse without data or substantial proof.

Emotional Manipulation

Sometimes it is important to look at the argument(s) with as little emotion as possible, and try to see the facts only.

From an old site no longer on the web: http://carmen.artsci.washington.edu/propaganda/fear.htm, “…there are four elements to a successful fear appeal: 1) a threat, 2) a specific recommendation about how the audience should behave, 3) audience perception that the recommendation will be effective in addressing the threat, and 4) audience perception that they are capable of performing the recommended behavior.” Groups may also use these techniques on their members. They may say, “If you don’t do this, then the world will end, we will close our doors, etc.” For members that are very needy or attached to the organization or person making the statement, this threat may be very difficult to ignore.

In E-mail, this may be caused by the use of numerous brackets in bold or the use of capital letters. The writer may say things like, “apples are always red,” and then, “apples are always blue,” to cause confusion in the reader and make them more susceptible to the ideas in the Email. While the mind is trying to figure out which statement is true, the reader’s mind may become more susceptible to the suggestion or idea.

Sutphen in his article talks about “Shock and Confusion,” how people go into a meditative state when scared and are more likely to be compliant to the second suggestion. If people are made to feel guilty that they were given something, they are more likely to follow the next command, like give money, etc.

For people who are conditioned, I think the important thing is to realize when these techniques are being used on us. To fight the second suggestion and not follow it blindly. This may entail leaving the area immediately and going to a safe spot. Online this may mean reading certain E-mails with other people present. And to avoid those that may use these suggestions on us whenever possible. Learning how to develop safe
support systems and safe resources can help with this. I believe it is dangerous to believe that we can’t be MC’ed (Mind controlled).

Guilt may also be used as a technique, especially on people who are conditioned. Making people feel like they haven’t done enough for a particular group or organization, asking people to do things without considering all sides of the issue or their own needs.

Neediness can also be used. Survivors may be looking for approval, acceptance and a place to discuss their feelings. So they may not be able to critically decide what support systems may be the safest for them. Groups will first be very nice or overly nice to them (love bombing), but this will often disappear later and emotional manipulation and threats or guilt may be used to try to cause the desired behavior. Abusers will often apologize after their behavior, but I believe a sincere apology would be to try and change the behavior.

Subliminal Commands

The techniques used to create subliminal commands can vary. I believe they usually create a meditative state in the individual. I have heard that TV can cause these states. “Glassy eyed stares” or “being spaced out” are often used to describe this state. Shock or fear or other extreme emotional states may also be used to create meditative states. These commands may help the writer bypass the reader’s conscious mind.

Specific triggers may be used on people who are specifically conditioned. These can include calling a person paranoid, psychotic or crazy (see “name calling”) and allude to the fact that a person’s paranoia is connected to a psychotic disorder, which, I believe, usually isn’t the case. This can be used to try and get the reader to doubt their own reality and the reality of their understandings.

more 'professionally', subliminal triggers may also be used intentionally or unintentionally to remind a person who is conditioned of a specific past program. Repeated use (or the one time use) of the terms, “ass*ss*n*tion” or “c*t thr*at” in terms of describing another’s actions may qualify as triggers. The writer may be using these terms to
scare or trigger the reader

A colleague of mine wrote me and told me that she uses three criterion to determine online if a person may be a perpetrator of MC.

1) If the person uses guilt.
2) If the person tells them to “f_ off.” (Could be considered a technique to shock the reader.)
3) Using lots of triggers to control their actions.

I think the one thing that all 3 above have in common is they entail some sort of emotional manipulation and/or trigger.

Changing the Topic

Rather than deal with the specific topic, a group or person may try to change the topic, or discredit the other side, rather than deal with the criticisms or arguments in the debate. A variety of propaganda techniques may be used to try and do this. This technique has occasionally been used by politicians and others.

Repetition

One way of remembering something is to constantly repeat it. This is one way we learn to remember new words and songs. Rather than debating the points of the debate, a debater may simply continue calling a person a liar or crazy or a traitor, etc. (see “name calling”) without backing up their statements. How often is an idea in an argument presented without a source or logical backing. This is one place in a debate or argument where a debater may show their “true colors.”
Are they interested in debating the points of the argument or are they using propaganda and mind control techniques?

Testimonials

Individuals that are not qualified to discuss the particulars (the specific facts) of a debate or product may join the debate or ad campaign and make statements that may have little or no logical backing or factual basis. Organizations and companies may use a variety of techniques to encourage such participation.

Band Wagon

The user of propaganda may encourage people to join the cause without asking them to think about the facts and other side of the argument. This may include a kind of hero worship, including fancy clothes, high expenditures, claims of a large following, etc. I think the most important thing is to follow your instincts and recovery, not someone else. Other people may have valid and helpful things to say, but I believe our recovery has to be our own

Logical Fallacies

These will be intentionally used by the user of propaganda to manipulate opinion.

Example: John likes apples.
Hitler liked apples.
John likes Hitler.

This can be used in politics. Equating communism to fascism because one or several communist governments may have been fascist is an example of this. A person may agree with someone on one topic and disagree with the same person on another topic. The user of propaganda may try to lump the two people or a group of people together that disagree with them, suggesting a conspiracy, when it may only be people agreeing on a certain topic.

You might hear that we can’t trust anyone if certain people aren’t safe. This is a logical fallacy and isn’t true. It may take time for people to trust again, but I think we need to keep trying to trust safe people, so we can heal

Unwarranted Extrapolation

This is another logical fallacy. A person receiving a criticism may claim that a critique of themselves or their group may cause divisiveness in society or their movement. (“Love it or leave” is an example of this.) The repetition of this idea may reinforce the idea in the reader’s mind. An alternative way of looking at this is that the same critique could also make the movement stronger, by encouraging people to think about their choices and use caution before making those choices. It may encourage all those in the movement to become healthier, making the movement even stronger.

In all logical fallacies, and in terms of propaganda in general, try to see the other possible conclusions of the argument, not simply those presented by the user of propaganda

How to Avoid Blindly Accepting Propaganda and Being Mind Controlled

(Please note: these are only suggestions. You may want to analyze each of them to see if they have any value to you and if necessary, add some of your own.)

From FactNet (about Coercive Persuasion listed under sources): “The subjects easiest to influence are usually young, trusting, gullible, and noncritical people from protective backgrounds or people who may be particularly vulnerable because of some recent unsettled transition (my note: survivors may
also fit in this category)…the rejects are likely to be individuals who have easy access to accurate, critical, or counterbalancing information. Insolent,
selfcentered, streetwise, highly critical or recalcitrant individuals are generally culled out…” Though everyone is susceptible to some degree.

1) Try to find out both sides of the story.

2)Learn about propaganda and mind control techniques and learn how to recognize them. If necessary, learn to avoid those using these techniques (this may be online or offline.) The media and advertisements may be a good place to start either learning about these techniques or avoiding them. At times, advertisements don’t even discuss the product or its attributes at all.

3) When in a potential situation where you can be MC’ed or propagandized, learn how to recognize the feelings of going into a meditative state and learn some of the techniques for getting out of these states. (Details are at “Conference trigger management and safety” http://ritualabuse.us/smart-conference/conf1999/trigger-management-and-conference-safety-presentation/) I believe that avoidance of these situations is usually the best way to keep from being MC’ed or propagandized

4) The user of propaganda or mind control techniques may exhibit a “lack of morals,” lying and/or disregarding the rules of the debate, list, group or society. This is similar to the “us vs them” or may be justified by “the ends justify the means” arguments organizations may use

5) Try to use your gut feelings. If something doesn’t feel right, step back or remove yourself from the situation. I believe that a legitimate group or organization will give an individual the time and room to make their own choices (see “Emotional Manipulation” above).

I believe the following statement also applies to being MC’ed and/or fooled by propaganda. From FactNet, “No one “joins a cult.” People recruited into destructive groups think they are doing something else, something beneficial and worthwhile. Anyone can be recruited given the right sales pitch and the right conditions in one’s life. We are all potential victims.” While I believe it is necessary to learn from our mistakes, I think that feeling too much guilt doesn’t help. It may be necessary to make an amends when safe. This may be simply by getting healthy and possibly educating others.

As always, please use your own judgement and try to research everything as fully as possible. Don’t accept anything anyone says simply because they say it or claim to be an expert or whatever. Try to check it out for yourself. I am not an expert, and I am continually learning new things about myself and the above topics



All the best ~

Limor

[Mark]

Good stuff, Limor.

Elements of these strategies are to be found in our daily lives as well. As we navigate the world, hopefully, direct experience allows us to understand the contextual aspect of these types of interactions. Online, of course, it often is much more apparent as the loss of meaning in text-based communications makes more direct methods preferable to more subtle ones.

Posts like these are always useful in querying our own experiences and perceptions. While the danger of mistakenly ascribing intent is always at issue, in cases where some sort of control can be expected, you gotta call it like you see it. Thank you!

[RunningDeer]

Sometimes a person may even trigger another without any knowledge of it, very few are deliberately sent on-line and know exactly what they are doing. In any case, any type of blame is counterproductive and awareness on the other hand (as always is :)) is a good tool for peace of mind and heart.

Hi Limor,

Not the depth as the great article above but... the family dynamic makes for a complex playground.

I use to think it was blatantly obvious when family members manipulated and others bought into it. The part that got me was how transparent it was but they believed otherwise. When I’d call BS, they ratchet up the volume; a conditioned response to grab back control and mask insecurity.

This morning, I had an ah-ha moment when I read your post. I gave them too much credit for what I believed to be calculated effort to grab power. Rather, it’s more about others giving their power over to them. As for the power mongers it’s a combo of coping skills and habits. Sure some of the antics are conscious, but most are unconscious goo.

Recently, I had an ah-ha flash from this passage. It really cracked it for me:

“In a world that has taught that to feel any pain is somehow not “normal” this creates a society that seeks to detach from the symptoms felt and find “instant” relief. This works to push the emotions deeper into the human vehicle and results in many disease patterns that can be seen very clearly within families. Indeed how families respond to each others emotions sets these behavior patterns from a very early age.”

I saw myself step out of the family dynamics. They turned into a cartoonish Flat Stanley societal meme. It’s one thing to read it but it’s quiet another ‘thang' to experience the freedom of release. I understood they live in a mental and emotional lock-down. Makes me want to take a deep breath for them.

I say let’s change the world with more laughter. And give ourselves permission to color outside the lines.

Great article. A keeper. Filed under Limor Wolf.:hug:

Note to self: at next family gathering, bring Flat Stanleys and an extra large boxes of assorted Crayola crayons.


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Paula <3

[Limor Wolf]

A great informative related article written by Eve Lorgen (http://evelorgen.com/wp/) from her Website. Eve is an experiencer, a researcher and hypnotherapist who works with Anomalous trauma, often with Abductees,Milabs and experiencers on the subjects of paranormal/ interdimensional interferences. I find her articles, research, interviews and recommendations to be of a great value especially where there are only few who dare to go in such depth and research of the innermost layers that surrounds our reality


Interdimensional Interference and Emotional Triggering

By Eve Lorgen

Introduction

Alien Interference and interdimensional interference patterns are experiences like “the alien love bite” and Dark Side of Cupid love relationships.(http://evelorgen.com/wp/books/ )The latter is when one partner is linked to some inter dimensional being like a reptilian and acts as an organic portal enabling psychic vampirism. Other times it is not so defined, where there is a third party entity interfering with the couple, increasing the sexual energy, emotional highs and lows, excessive drama and triggering. The alien love bite is more of the situation where known alien handlers who have visited one or both partners throughout life, is responsible for orchestrating the relationship, via several bonding stages, often from childhood or many months leading up to meeting that partner. Once the connection is made, an emotional roller coaster tends to follow, with an increase in alien visitations for one or both partners during the drama, as if these alien beings are “feeding” off the emotional and sexual energy. (http://evelorgen.com/wp/articles/alien-love-bite-related/alien-orchestrated-human-bonding-dramas/)

Interdimensional interference can take place in other kinds of situations and when the interference is present, it may feel as if a highly charged agitating energy is seeking an opening for “chaos” to erupt into dramas that may be out of proportion for the reality that is unfolding. It has a “feel” to it. Edgy, sometimes anxiety and fear producing or a prodromal sense that “something bad is about to happen”. Oftentimes alien abductees get a prodromal sense before their “alien handlers” came to get them later that night.

It’s window of ability to “get into your field” is any unhealed emotional wounds or even physical weakness. This can also happen if your energy field is wide open or has cracks from unresolved traumas. Alien implants, or other entities already attached can leave a person open for more ID’s as well. (ID is Interdimensional being)

The interference happens in such a way that if others are involved in the “interference cluster of attack” it will seek to destroy relationships that are mutually supportive, loving or those that create awareness that enhances life and wholeness. The “interference factor” is usually discovered later to be some type of inter dimensional being who is linked in to one or more persons, depending on their connection and “agreements” or contracts on a more subtle level of reality. It may be unconscious on the experiencer’s part, but if they do deep self inquiry or quantum clearing modalities like Holographic Kinetics,(http://www.holographickinetics.com) or even hypnotherapy, their own Spirit will reveal the original cause and condition of this “agreement” to enter the “game” of this particular inter dimensional being. Or the experiencer of interference somehow “enters the game” of an “infected individual or group”, and thereafter is under vulnerability to being interfered with. Until they “break that contract” and origin of this agreement

The Emotional Triggering Factor

In order to fully identify and understand when interdimensional interference is happening, one needs to understand what emotional triggering is, how and why it happens. This is key, because emotional reactivity is the “fuel” which feeds and enables the unseen interference to continue.

Unhealed and “trapped” traumas of old emotional wounds, can create unconscious patterns of “triggering behaviors and reactions”. This is essentially the “glue” which keeps interdimensional beings, entities and running “programs” to lock into your body and energy field. Other factors which lock them in are contracts, agreements and even rituals, vows etc., to specific beings and/or groups.

Triggering old wounds and “sensitive issues” can cause a person to unleash exaggerated reactions to events, which wouldn’t cause such triggering in a person who has healed their emotional wounds.(Or does not have this “issue”) If I wanted to give an example of triggering, it could be a highly reactive response of anger, blame, jealousy, rage, fear, etc. to something that would not ordinarily cause such a reaction in someone who didn’t have this “deep wound” bleeding away inside of them. Let’s say you get an email or call from someone who is very needy and has severe abandonment issues. If you don’t respond back within 24 hours they go into a blaming rage or make numerous accusations of your character based on the deep sense of hurt or abandonment they feel “all over again” that reminds them of an earlier incident or series of experiences related to abandonment. This often happens in Borderline Personality Disorder,(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder) where any triggering of the least amount of emotional pain can cause them to react in unnaturally reactive ways, usually blaming the other person they perceived to have “hurt” them. The more deeply hurt and unresolved the trauma,( ie. narcissistic wounding, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_rage_and_narcissistic_injury) the more triggering is likely to happen when they encounter the least “reminder” of similarity of that feeling around anyone.
And the more they “defend” against their true core feelings and issues, the more likely they will twist reality to a false perception of others and the world around them. But they don’t even know they are doing this, because their defense and avoidance of their feelings is so great, they literally twist reality to an entirely different perception. This serves to sabotage any real healing, integration and wholeness and is often part of a running program. Oftentimes they are such expert manipulators they can cause you to question your own sense of “reality”. Usually after encountering such a person, you are left feeling shocked, insulted and violated unfairly, and may even start to doubt yourself, unless you are very grounded in your own core well being.

Our unhealed wounds and traumas cause us to have “blind spots” which usually take forms of habitual behaviors, beliefs or exaggerated “triggering” reactions. Blind spots of unawareness can cause us to be vulnerable to bad relationships, or be more likely to attract a psychopathic or “hosted” love bite partner,( ie a “narcississtic reptilian types”) so it’s essential for ones own safety to clear out as many unhealed wounds and traumas as one can.

We cannot help “hurting others” when triggering occurs, if we have not learned how to tend to our own emotional needs, or have done our healing work.

Some popular healing modality groups refer to “zero point” awareness, where a non attached emotional zone is reached, and one can maintain a non reactive stance even in the face of “interdimensional attack”. I caution many who jump to assumptions that they are at “zero point” when in fact they just repress their own emotions and shadow self. This “false zero point” stance will actually cause the person to lose their heart centered empathy and compassion and tend toward nihilistic approaches to life and reality. These people may eventually become corrupted and end up with some sort of inter dimensional running them. Who—by the way—can give them psychic abilities. But that is a subject for another article!

When emotional triggering happens, the first reaction is to blame someone else for their own “faults”, and believe that you are the only one who is right.”. But this position of self righteousness, judgement and blaming is the doorway for the “inter dimensional interference” to continue in your own life. Having to be “right” all the time, avoiding your own unresolved emotional pain, and not being willing to see your part in this, is the doorway for this to continue in your life. Even if the interference is due to someone else’s “interdimensional” like a draco, reptilian, winged serpent, etc., there is always some reason it entered your field, even if it’s something seemingly inconsequential, like feeling sorry for the person, or sleeping in their house, or getting “drunk” in their presence.

Interdimensional interference is personal and can be collective, like in a family system. Or it can be something linked to a group you are part of. There are many types of inter-dimensional beings and there are also extra-dimensional beings, ET’s, human spirits, animal spirits, etc. Some “internal running programs” may have the feel of “entities” inside someone or even a group but these are actually fueled “mind patterns, beliefs and programs” that take on a sort of life of their own.

Inter dimensional interference can move through a person, group or collective almost like a virus. Someone can be a carrier, or “host” for an ID, while others can be sleepers that are only “activated” at a certain time, after making a certain connection with a person or group. If something is happening to you, there is always some reason, and it’s best not to “blame others” until you have done your own self inquiry, established your own healing process, and made a connection with your Spirit.

Oftentimes the “trigger” for an inter-dimensional to become active in your life is through a “love bite” kind of relationship, where its interference “effects” linger in your life long after the relationship ended. Usually we find there was some kind of karmic connection or cause for the ID, but it may not be what you think it is. Even before the “love bite drama” where perhaps the kundalini got activated with concomitant psychic abilities and new awareness, we find out later (via Holographic Kinetics and communication with Spirit of the person) that the person already had some sort of hidden trauma or inter dimensional being like a reptilian in their field that prepped and engineered this connection with a “hosted partner”. Once involved, this connection activated more types of interference or existing inline and outline implants and “astral” energy siphoning operation. I have had a number of reports of a “dark Cupid/ love bite relationship where several months or a few years before they met, they had a sudden “kundalini activation”. One wonders if the heightened kundalini energy can serve as an invisible “beacon” of highly charged energy, wherein a “reptilian hosted person” and inter dimensional parasitic beings zoom in to feed on the kundalini activated person– like moths to a flame. Kind of like an enzyme-substrate complex that works together in a system of inter dimensional engineering. So in some people, the “love bite partner” who is hosted i.e., possessed by a reptilian for example, acted as a part of a multi-phase process of something that was “set up” in the first place through a variety of causes. Trauma, trapped IDs in their energy body, alien abduction and other possible karmic or ancestral origins and so on.

It’s very common for people who have had narcissistic parents or siblings to have a “dark Cupid/love bite” relationship(s) later in life or a series that shows a pattern has been set up. It’s not as simple as we think, however. These inter dimensional beings can hide in many dimensions and layers, so that if we want to be free of them we must be willing to clear ourselves on all levels and dimensions. This means other lifetimes, timelines, and clearing out ancestral causes as well. Sometimes interdimensionals only become active in your life after a deeper connection to someone was made or “astral tagging” and implanting after joining a particular group or guru’s circle. Interdimensional beings can be linked to hierarchies and clusters of beings linking hundreds, thousands, or millions of people. Like Octopus Head clusters feeding on thousands of people.(http://evelorgen.com/wp/news/big-head-octopus-like-negative-energy-beings-and-manipulation-tactics/)

Every time we connect deeply to another person, like in some form of sexual relationship, or even astral connections,( i.e.., astral sex) this alone can link you in with “all of their interdimensionals” even if you just did your healing work or clearings. So you have to be mindful who you connect with, how, and also develop your own energetic and spiritual immune system. This can be a lonely path, but the more we educate each other of this reality, the more we can be supportive of how we all can help heal one another.

The Cure: Taking Personal Responsibility

Releasing the emotions associated with a trauma/experience are necessary, feeling them fully in the moment of therapeutic release. This can be done in modalities like hypnotic regression, trauma resolution, EMDR, Rapid Release Trauma therapy, Inner Child work, and good old fashioned grieving. Quantum healing methods like Holograhpic Kinetics can also be useful for trapped trauma release work.

If we still have “triggering” that is exaggerated and causes unnecessary hurt and rejection of others, then we have not done enough healing and recovery.

Compassionate communication skills and inner reflective empathy are a good foundational place to start in ones healing process. A necessary step to healing is taking responsibility for communicating in a mature way so that your own reactions to someones “perceived faults” do not become weapons of relationship destruction. As we become more aware of what we are feeling inside, we will know what our personal triggers are, so as to circumvent problems down the road. Our awareness in feeling is our strategy of protection. Oh, by the way, this is also a big part of what emotional intelligence is.

We all hold some blind spots, or unconscious behaviors we may do that are part of our own upbringing, culture, personal beliefs and unhealed emotional wounding. So working alone in ones healing process is not always beneficial for long periods of time. It’s ideal to have a group of supportive friends or people in ones “therapy group” to check in with. A buddy, check and balance system so that we help others be aware of their own blind spots and vice versa. This is true also for “light workers, healers, therapists, teachers etc, so that their own ego and self righteous, know-it-all superiority programs don’t get the best of them.

[Limor Wolf]

Practices and Healing Modalities

Practices like vippassana meditation (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vipassanā), shamatha (http://www.sbinstitute.com/Shamatha_Project) and calming the mind help one to become more aware and sensitive to the energy body as well as the spiritual realm. Body-Mind cultivation techniques like Chi Gong, Tai Chi and Yoga are also good. Intention to heal and be clear helps along with practices like this. Breath coordinated with movement in the proper ways can help reduce the overactive stress response and help manage PTSD for example.

Holographic Kinetics is a healing and comprehensive healing modality that is based on Aboriginal Dreamtime Healing and the Laws of Lore.(http://www.holographickinetics.com) Certain universal and spiritual metaphysical laws are understood in this system, that explain the “rules of the game”. This is helpful when trying to understand inter dimensional interference. Our own assumptions of the casualty of why things are happening and to whom may not be accurate in our belief systems which we may have assimilated from corrupted, incomplete yet well meaning sources. Or our own perceptions can be altered due to unhealed wounding, lack of integration and incomplete understanding of the “rules of the game”. How and why certain things happen. Limiting beliefs like “I am right” can create blind spots that prevent us from being clear of interferences.

Other Forms of Interferences

Some interferences seem to be happening in “waves”. Many sensitive healers and psychically perceptive individuals have stated something unusual is manifesting, as if darkness that is in people is being brought up to the surface. More reports of “possession” for example, especially in methamphetamine addicts. There is a question to be considered, “Is there an unnatural form of “dark matter” or dark energy forces being unleashed at this time in our dimensional reality, so that the shadow and “unhealed wounds and blind spots” in others becomes triggered to exaggeration, creating chaos and misunderstanding? Some have postulated that CERN is opening up pockets of “dark matter” in various locations and dimensional spaces, and in these spaces unusual demonic and dark energy manifestations are taking place. Other healers (private communications) have reported people being hit violently with psychic attacks by certain types of beings such as draconians, causing severe bodily reactions like purging, violent nausea and vomiting for hours on end. A new kind of virus? Who knows…

Our best weapon of defense against this darkness attacks, is to become lucid enough to know that at any moment something could happen to trigger your old and unhealed emotional wounds. It’s most likely to be done by a close friend, family or person you work with. So make your best efforts to not overreact, blame, judge or lash out at someone. Allow the situation to de-fuse by not engaging in the drama in a way where you are likely to react in a triggered fashion. Learn compassionate communication and stay in touch with your own Spirit and heart. Having a lifestyle of healing, clearing and healthy maintenance of body, mind and spirit is the best approach to defense against these types of “interferences”.

Sometimes it’s best to just lay low until the “dark cloud passes”. If you have difficulty with communication with others, and are likely to hurt someone, then just take a time out until you find the tools to deal with this the next time a wave of darkness passes into your circle and your life. Sometimes we need to quarantine ourselves until we discover the causes of these unusual types of inter dimensional interference attacks. Shield our own energy body and spiritual immune system from invasive people or groups.

Setting Boundaries and Mutuality in Relationships

Of course there are benefits of taking time to heal in solitude or meditation retreats in silence. If you can be aware of what your own energies are, then you are ahead of the game. Sometimes if we are living with one or more people for an extended period of time, we mistake their own energy or even their emotions as our own. Energetic boundaries help us to be able to discern what is ours and what is not.

Isolation can be a thorn on our side also if we use it excessively as a psychological defense so much so that we lose our social and interpersonal connection needs. When we have multiple unhealed emotional wounds, we tend to have intimacy problems of deep authentic heart connection with others and our own self.

A good way to self connect is through safe, reflective empathy in partnership with another person (s) who can “relate” by the same rules of heart centered communication and empathy. If you find yourself giving and not receiving back in a mutual way in your friendships and relationships, or vice versa, then it’s a sign that you need to find a way to express reflective empathy for others, or to set boundaries with those who take from you but cannot return the same kind of support and friendship.

Relationships are better if they are mutual, where all parties can be honest and play by the same rules of engagement with empathetic awareness and compassion. If they are not mutual, perhaps they are not true friendships and you are either being a parent for someone or taking the role of child in the relationship

Trauma and Addictions

Trauma and addictions tend to go together. Traumas can remain locked into the body and emotions stay stuck in time. When locked in, they still will be a source of hidden anxiety or any form of psychological defense, inter dimensional interference or stress related health issues. The addictions serve to self medicate and help numb the emotions associated with the trauma. Self medication and numbing create a false persona “defense”, that will not connect authentically to the heart of their own “feelings” or those of others while in a numbed out, defense mode. When we repress our authentic selves, we not only hurt ourselves, but we hurt others by our own neglect of the value of their presence in our lives. When we are numb and avoid true feelings that lay hidden within us, we can neglect and reject others when they are in need, and we don’t even know how we have hurt them. This happens alot in families of alcoholics and substance abusers, workaholics, etc.

So if someone claims to have done all their healing work but is still in an active addiction, the probability is that they have not gone deep enough into their feeling being to reach the hidden “issues” that are often buried through the self numbing that goes with the addictive personality. In order to even reach the trauma and really clear it, the person has to stop the addictions because addictions in and of themselves generally sabotage the healing process.

If a person is still in an active addiction and not willing to stop this,(or cannot on their own) a true therapeutic process of deeper healing cannot fully take place. This is because as long as the numbing is still going on, the person will not be able to access deeper feelings and insights that would ordinarily be available if they were not numbing all the time. So doing therapy with an active addict is often a waste of time. It is very common that alcoholics and substance abusers keep these aspects of their lives secret, even to their doctors and “therapists” if they have one. They often normalize these behaviors such as drinking, since socially it is so acceptable that they don’t even realize that daily drinking of alcohol has become a dependence or addiction, depending on how often they drink and why.

Our Responsibility to Each Other

The more we can mutually practice compassionate presence and space for each other, the more we all can heal and be authentically present from the heart. We can be at home in the true nature of our being, when we have the love and safety of compassionate reflective presence in our lives. Safety must come first, then compassion and openness of sharing in a therapeutic manner. This also means constructive criticism, as well as support. Then healing will occur, and exaggerated triggering will lesson over time. Then the “interference factors” which are very real—will not hold as much power over you.

It also must be mentioned that healers and therapists may have blind spots and needs of their own to tend to. No one is perfect. When healers do not share with other professionals in their field for check and balance clearings, then they can become limited by their own blind spots. This, in my view, is necessary when you work with many clients. Sometimes we need a professional opinion or check and balance system to keep our own skills up to date.

Part of our journey to wholeness is to be calm in moments of uncertainty and to increase our resiliency to stress and “triggering”. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. And it’s not always “your fault”. Know that there are still things we do not fully understand in our current human state of affairs. If we have loving kindness, hold compassionate space and communication for others, we can enjoy a way of being that is present and stronger in the face of adversity. If we don’t have love, we won’t have the power to overcome.

All in balance and in wisdom.

Grieving

If we could bring all wounds of trauma to their ultimate end in healing, we will come to the point of grieving losses of one sort or another. This is something that is largely marginalized in many popular and quick fix “spiritual healing modalities”. Grief is a natural process that actually leads to greater compassion for self and others, and allows the space for joy and love to live in our hearts. It connects you to your heart and spirit, and when all stages are complete, then acceptance comes with a greater spaciousness of compassion, joy, and humility is the result.

Grief has many stages, five of which are known and popularized by the work of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kübler-Ross_model). It may not go through each stage in the exact order, but move in two or more phases at the same time. Or go back and forth from one stage to another, one step forward, two steps backward, two steps forward, one step backward, until resolution and acceptance occurs. One can get stuck in grief or have “complicated grief” when it’s combined with PTSD. I discuss grieving at length in my Dark Side of Cupid book,(http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B008UHS9OO) because I believe it is very important and usually overlooked in many therapeutic circles, especially New Age “clearings” where they neglect the obvious fundamental work that really needs to be addressed. Grief is not a bad thing but people run from grief like the plague. Or they confuse it with depression and take an anti depressant when really all they may need is support in bereavement therapy. If you don’t do your grieving work, whether it’s the loss of a loved one, your own childhood or your illusions of love, you will never be free from unhappiness and constant setbacks in your life.

Foundational Healing Work

It is my experience that the greatest benefit to “advanced healing modalities” like Holographic Kinetics or even Dr. Corrado Malangas Liberation techniques (), is when the person has already engaged in foundational counseling therapies along the way. This actually needs to be done so that the person is open to change to allow a deeper internal connection to Heart and Spirit.(Or integrated mind, spirit soul, body etc) The most effective healing can come when the heart-spirit connection has initially been made. This kind of spiritual connection can only be made when the usual psychological defenses, ego, “programming” and inter dimensional entities are set aside long enough for the real work to be done. This means setting aside “false beliefs”, unhealed wounds, ego defenses and doing some grieving work, so that the quantum healing methods will “stick”. Otherwise what can happen and what does happen, is a return to alien and inter dimensional interference, or it can worsen where bigger demons come in. Why does this happen? It’s simple, you have to do the foundational healing and recovery work so that you can understand the true laws of how and why these forces enter your field. If you still hold an active addiction, or sustained psychological defenses against healing ones own pent up traumas, then you are a mine field for more interdimensional “infection”. Plain and simple.

What is Yours and What Isn’t

I’m telling you now you cannot escape your own “stuff”. But some people run from their issues and have a tendency to blame others. Others tend to take too much responsibility and try too hard to do it for others. The key is a humbleness to relax into your own Spirit and the Source of All That Is for the truth of a given situation, person etc. to arise. To let go enough of your own defenses of being right, to allow truth to emerge for positive change. The defenses are not just about “ego” and “being right” but oftentimes a subconscious avoidance of emotional pain, memories of our own repressed traumatic experience and ungrieved losses. Sometimes we need to be gently nudged by others to let us know what we are not wiling to see or change on our own. But it is best if these “nudges to self aware-ness” can be done by someone compassionate, and not someone wanting to punish you or take their frustrations out on you due to their own unhealed wounds and reactive triggering. Unfortunately the latter happens a lot, when we are not actively doing our healing work. If we have a therapist, counselor or friend to practice things like Inner Empathy (http://www.innerempathy.com) and Compassionate Communication (https://www.nwcompass.org/compassionate_communication.html), we leave the doorway open to positive change, integration and wholeness. If we do not take responsibility for our own healing work, we are likely to get hurt and get hurt bad, by others.

We have to have patience to not get triggered and at least understand what our own triggers are. This means we have to have an awareness of what our own wounds are, our vulnerabilities and blind spots, where we are stuck. This is taking personal responsibility.

When you have to constantly remind someone who continues to carry on with addictions, compulsive behaviors, defenses, excessive drama, being irresponsible to commitments etc., then we are taking too much responsibility for someone in our lives. And of course how we communicate this to someone is important. If we do this in a blaming, shaming or critical way, they are most likely not going to respond positively and even get defensive and avoid you. But if you do this in a compassionate way, maybe no more than three separate times, then you have done your work and the rest is up to the other person to take responsibility for. If you cannot handle how another person behaves in your presence, or they cause you excessive pain, then you must take responsibility to set appropriate boundaries for your own safety.

Sometimes it takes time to change a particular situation like a bad marriage. It takes planning and execution of the plan as best as you can do over time. During these times it’s good to have some kind of counseling support, and if you do rely on a friend(s) for this support, make sure that you can offer the same kind of support back at some point. Don’t be an emotional vampire!

If the pattern continues with others despite setting “boundaries” then you may want to question whether the issue is really what you think it is. Go to counseling, talk to someone, but do so with a professional who can be a neutral observer. Someone who can call you on your “stuff” in a way where it’s safe for you to receive their observations. But if you try to hide or present “only a good side” eventually you will be found out.

Many people complain that they cannot afford “therapy”. But more often than not, it is a defense that keeps them from dealing with things they really need to clear out of their lives. If you are willing to heal and ask your higher Spirit/Source of wisdom, things will open up for you in a way where this can happen. But you have to be willing to let go of your excuses, ego, false beliefs, addictions etc., and have faith that you CAN do this. You are the only one who can start the ball rolling when it comes to your own healing and personal growth journey. No one can do the work for you. People can help guide you, but ultimately it’s up to you to want to heal and change for the better. You have to WANT to do it. And the good news is, once you connect with the power of your Spirit your intentions can be executed and healing can be done on many levels in a shorter period of time you ever thought possible.

http://evelorgen.com/wp/news/interdimensional-interference-and-emotional-triggering/

Blessings ~

Limor

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Most therapies that help people are at least partially covered by medical insurance.
Be careful dealing with any "healer" on the internet who wants to charge you money or otherwise cause you to be indebted to them.

I had one of these "healers" on our own community offer me a fake job, then when I lost interest in the scam, was told that I was incompatible with their group due to "a pattern of maternal abuse".

Just when you think you know someone, and trust someone, they are ready to pull the carpet out from under you. Perhaps you know a different person who claims to work with holographic kinetics; that's probably not the same as the programming I saw going on.

Either way it's troubling when folks go out of their way to appeal to "addicts" and "abusers" then just string them along like fish in their scams.

Aside from that technique I agree that people are too easily triggered. But when that happens, perhaps stop blaming the recipient rather than the sender.

Just my two cents based on what happened yesterday.

:heart:

[Limor Wolf]

More from Eve Lorgen's website on the inner and outer work of healing and psychological defense to triggers


When Triggering Happens: Psychological Defenses


EL: Living consciously with positive intentions for wholeness, truth, and essential goodness requires mindfulness and practice. Learning how to communicate clearly, with compassion, assertiveness and finesse requires diligent practice, courage, and building a circle of safe relationships. It starts now, one person at a time.

The difficulties many anomalous trauma survivors have is the ability to respond calmly, rationally, or appropriately when we are triggered in a post-traumatic-stress, hyper-vigilant state. It is like being a deer caught in the headlights, frozen with fear, feeling endangered and powerless in that moment. Or any number of other reactions that may be over sensitive, hostile, passive or even programmed responses of denial. How many times have we replayed some incident over and over in our heads of all the “could have, should have, said or done this or that”, but didn’t, because we were so triggered! Then the self-doubt, shame or blaming projections we make after the fact, and yet when these incidents happen again, we seem to fall into the same patterns over and over again!

Recognizing this when it’s occurring is the first step. This may require we take a “time out” before reacting in a certain situation. Finding time to calm down, center, process this with a mentor, until learning how to respond differently the next time it happens. Because it will.

Much of the time however, we may react unconsciously with certain psychological defenses that may not be as intense as the PTSD triggered reactions, but are maladaptive in our adult years. And these things tend to work together, where our deeply engrained modes of behaving and “defenses” actually can re-create patterns and situations where the extreme triggering keeps happening.

We need to find time and permission to be still, reflect and assess the reality of the situation. Then set time aside to safely process and share experiences with a safe person or group. We rarely can do this alone successfully, because our conditioning and traumas themselves can create blind spots. Sometimes this self-reflection doesn’t happen until a crisis forces us to look at it. But if we wait or put off our own recovery process, we are likely to bring on more pain, problems and suffering not only for ourselves but for others who are close to us.

The most challenging part is rebuilding the foundation of new beliefs and healthy behaviors. Things like like assertiveness and compassionate communication skills, and practicing this in a safe circle of people over time.

Many of us want to feel safe and “good”, but do this to the point of avoidance behaviors (or addictions) so that we neglect practicing new skills which we really need. I’ve often heard victims who are stuck in learned helplessness mode, whose defense mechanism is yet another form of blaming projection. They may make statements like, “You’re not validating me!” or the incessant, “Yes, but…” whenever reflection of their own situation and how to start changing it, is brought up. At some point it must be realized that in recovery and healing mode, there will be some discomfort. Part of the personal growth, healing to wholeness process requires that we feel what is present inside, what and how this gets triggered– like shame, humiliation, sadness, rage, etc. in a structured, process-oriented environment.

Below I have gathered some excerpts from useful articles by therapists on relevant topics encountered on the healing and recovery path.

For example, when we have the complication of recovery from trauma and addictions, it’s important to address the both issues.

Demanding Comfort:

“Demanding Comfort in your recovery is not realistic. This is a common trap – “change should be easy and comfortable, or there is something terribly wrong.” First of all, it is important for you to remember that the patterns you want to change are probably not that comfortable either. Life while using and drinking was often very painful. Second, the truth is that change requires thought and practice to become a new habit. Third, change cannot come through automatic pilot, it comes by living consciously, manually, intentionally accepting yourself and others as becoming. Fourth, the more you allow yourself to feel good about small steps towards your goals, the deeper your changes become. New Program allows you to enjoy healthy steps forward and feel good about learning from steps backward.”

http://www.cairforyou.com/alchoholdrugs/alcoholdemanding.htm
Character Changes Caused by Addiction:

http://www.cairforyou.com/alchoholdrugs/alcoholcharacter.htm

This is an insightful article on how addiction caused the “two-year-old injured child” to run the show in addictions. It stresses the importance of doing the inner child work which is part of sobriety, so that a healthy response to ill feelings of shame are not repressed, and instead worked through with adult coping skills.

Perceptual Filters:

“Our perceptions are filtered through our beliefs and assumptions, our internal dialogue (thoughts) and images, our physiological and behavioral responses, and our emotions. All of these interact to form a filter through which we experience the world. In the process of growing up in an unsafe environment, we make many decisions about ourselves, and the world outside of us.”

http://www.cairforyou.com/alchoholdrugs/alcoholfilters.htm
Assuming Feelings are Fact:

This article is an eye opener showing how our own perceptual filters can create distorted emotional reactions to “reality”. This is often amplified when in an active addiction causes amplified or repressed emotional responses.

“Imagine what impact your alcohol and drug use has had on your perceptual filters. Alcohol is a depressant which impacts depending on dose. At mild levels, alcohol filters your experience as more relaxed and confident. At a higher level, alcohol can trigger a variety of strong emotional reactions: anger, resentment, maudlin, “best friends” sloppy drunk reactions, etc. The feelings that come up while you are drinking and using drugs are not an accurate reflection of your feelings, but rather perceptual filters created by chemicals. The old saying: “What you say when you are drunk is what you really feel” is an absolute lie!”

http://www.cairforyou.com/alchoholdrugs/alcoholfeelings.htm

Powerful Words:

“Notice the kinds of words you are using to describe yourself and others. Listen to the words used in describing the situation. Do you notice flashlight judgmental statements or grace-filled lantern statements that shine with respect and valuing at the entire scene, including you. Keep coming back to this filter as you grow, to deepen your appreciation of the power of words.
There is a profound (subtle) difference between saying “I should quit drinking and using drugs” and “I choose to make my life more manageable by embracing a sober lifestyle.” Over the years of coaching recovering clients, those who allowed themselves to see their identity as “becoming” in their sobriety were the ones who gained quality sobriety and recovery. Those who held to the belief that “I have to quit drinking” usually had to battle a lifetime of resentment and feeling deprived.”

http://www.cairforyou.com/alchoholdrugs/alcoholwords.htm
Developing Self-Esteem:

“When we grow up with distorted mirrors we learn to survive at any cost. We learn rules to help survive. These rules may includes such things as “be nice at all times”, “don’t cause problems”, “don’t get close”, “don’t get mad”, “the invisible”, “don’t outshine dad”, “always put others first”, etc. These rules are usually not stated directly, but we know better than to break them. It is not take tragic war stories to create deep wounds in our self-esteem and character. It is in additional burden on we feel that we have no right to be wounded because we cannot point to dramatic scenes in our families.”

http://www.cairforyou.com/alchoholdrugs/alcoholdevelopselfesteem.htm

Emotional Repression and Memory Loss

Oftentimes with those who have amnesia or poor memories of their childhood, they don’t really understand the full spectrum of their history. They may feel like they really haven’t had “that bad of a childhood”. It’s not about whether it’s good or bad , it’s the reality of repression, habitual defenses and taking on beliefs (or deliberate programming) which has affected self-esteem and healthy coping, affecting interpersonal relationships and many other parameters in their lives.

The aspect of learning to be present, self-connection in the heart and developing an integrated, rational mind requires a safety first. Building self-esteem also involves re-learning skills that many of us never learned as children or even adults. We must start first in a place of non judgement, and corrective supportive interaction.

Sometimes this process of “recovery” requires individual therapy, especially during trauma resolution, emotional processing and deep inner child work. At some point, it is necessary to interact in a group so that one can learn interpersonal interaction, communication skills and appropriate self expression. When in a group we can do this while operating within a structured reflective environment that is safe, and yet can provide “reality checks” of constructive criticism and confrontation, if necessary.

Defense Mechanisms that Affect Relationships

http://www.byregion.net/articles-healers/Defense_Mechanisms.html

“Repression is a defense mechanism first described by Sigmund Freud, as a way that people keep unpleasant memories out of their conscious mind. Repression is a compensatory style that deals with threat and stress by blocking unpleasant emotional experiences that might bring up anxiety, distress and vulnerability. Being split off from feelings is called alexithymia. Repressors have a chronic inaccessible filter that keeps them from experiencing the world through their emotions. They feel attacked and then distance and isolate from others when they are stressed. They avoid talking about and rehashing unpleasant experiences as this adds to their stress. They become inaccessible to others when they feel the problem has been solved by their solution of dismissing it. They are conflict avoidant and cannot tolerate working things out to the satisfaction of their partner. They often deny that there is a problem and have a lack of insight about how their distancing bothers others.”

Narcissism and grandiosity:

“People with severe narcissistic traits long for ideal love that will take care of their fragile sense of self and give them unconditional love. The yearning for getting unconditional love is a unresolved need left over from childhood. Most adults realize unconditional love would be nice. It rarely happens as people we love usually hold us accountable for our actions in some way. People with narcissistic traits distort their self image (again in fantasy to believe that they are superior to others). They think too well of themselves as a defense to cover up their sense of shame deep within. Grandiosity is a distortion which prevents them from blaming themselves and becoming depressed or disintegrated.”

Fantasy thinking:

“Fantasy is an attempt to process information, emotions and unresolved pain to make up for what they did not have in childhood. They place unrealistic demands on others to make them feel better. J. S. Bernstein defined this defense as a person’s “Learning to feel no way but good and to demand success when he did not feel good.” They cannot tolerate negative emotional distress and turn it on others (project) by saying they are bad. They insist on having things their own way which is an unreal attitude that sets others off against them. When they don’t get what they want, they feel devalued. Since they cannot tolerate the feelings of fear, hurt, anxiety, helplessness and despair, they defend against them. They deny and rationalize their own contribution to the problems to preserve their own internal fantasy of being all good and right.They also suffer from the Repressor and Projection defenses described above. Narcissistic people always are Repressors, but not all Repressors are Narcissistic.”

Antidote:
The antidote to narcissistic behavior is to understand how the defenses work, identify and correct the errors in thinking and learn to tolerate frustration, anxiety, sadness and shame. By learning to be straight first with the self, and then with others, these unhealthy defense can be lessened. Then the person can learn to live in the world of reality even though it hurts at times instead of turning to a fantasy which can never be gained.”
Assertiveness and Compassionate Communication Links:

http://stress.about.com/od/relationships/ht/howtoassert.htm

http://www.listeningway.com/cctutorial-1.html

http://www.listeningway.com/cctutorial-1.html#Steps


The article can be found here:

http://evelorgen.com/wp/articles/psychology-and-relationships/when-triggering-happens-psychological-defenses/

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Eve is an experiencer, a researcher and hypnotherapist who works with Anomalous trauma, often with Abductees,Milabs and experiencers on the subjects of paranormal/ interdimensional interferences. I find her articles, research, interviews and recommendations to be of a great value especially where there are only few who dare to go in such depth and research of the innermost layers that surrounds our reality

All the best,

Limor

[DNA]

I'm of the opinion that the only way to combat this parasitic relationship is to change your energy charge.


These beings feed off of judgement, vanity, jealousy, greed, self depreciation, impatience to name a few.


The only way to turn off these transformers of our energy into parasite food is to practice a detachment from our self.


This detachment from oneself starts with building up one's energy reserves and the best way to do this is to turn off one's internal dialogue.


The voice inside of our head is almost always the tool used to make us feel the above mentioned negative mindsets that cause our energy to decrease into parasite food.


You can't fight the voice as it begins to speak, but rather you should turn your attention to your breathing. This is what the Taoists recommended. The ability to "detach" yourself from your inner voice and ignore it is increased the more you practice.


Society's mindset in general is a parasite voice. The best way to deactivate the constant judging, fear of being judged, and all of that is try and adopt the mindset of a child. You can do it, we have all been children at once and the mindset is still there for us to find if we should so choose to do so. Operating out of a mindset of trust and innocence is rather unpalatable for the parasites.