A Documentary Shows The Devastating Power Of Sexual Bullying

[Natalia]

I've just seen this article and although it might seem a little bit "shallow" on the surface, the issues are deep and important, I feel. It's just a matter of kindness, no matter what sexual preferences one has (as long as they are not hurting anyone).

It's just another aspect of bullying, and even though women do tend to be more bullied in this particular way than men, men are bullied just as much in other ways (including sexually).


The UnSl*t Project's 'Sl*t: A Documentary' Shows The Devastating Power Of Sexual Bullying

The Huffington Post | By Nina Bahadur

Posted: 02/25/2015 12:23 pm EST

Twelve million people have read one woman's diaries -- and her entries show how much power the word "****" has.

Emily Lindin was branded the school "****" from ages 11 to 14, and was ****-shamed by male and female classmates who thought her developed body was grounds for creating and spreading sexual rumors. So, when she heard stories of teen girls who took their own lives after being sexually assaulted and ****-shamed by their peers, she knew she had to do something.

Lindin started The Un**** Project in 2013, where she posts entries from her own teenage diaries online, in hopes that her writing could "provide some perspective to girls who currently feel trapped and ashamed."

“To be **** shamed, one doesn’t have to be actually engaging in any kind of sexual behavior," Lindin said. "Just wearing a shirt that inspires a sexual thought in another person for whatever reason is enough to be ****-shamed.”

After she began posting her diary entries online, Lindin was overwhelmed by messages from other women wanting to share their stories. The Un**** Project became a collaborative space where people could share their experiences with ****-shaming and bullying, and remind teens going through the same thing that life gets better.

Now Lindin wants to reach even more people with her message, through "****: A Documentary."

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In August 2013, Lindin and director Jessica Caimi successfully crowdfunded a film about the seriousness of ****-shaming and sexual bullying.

"I thought it was just going to be talking to some experts about what ****-shaming was and coming up with some ideas about how we can change our own feelings and assumptions," Lindin told The Huffington Post. "It turned out that some of the women who had reached out to me wanted to be on film, speaking about their own experiences."

One woman who asked to participate in the documentary is Samantha Gailey Geimer, the minor involved in the 1977 Roman Polanski case.

"She wanted to talk about being 13 years old and having strange adults in the media call you a ****," Lindin told HuffPost.

The documentary, currently in post-production, also features the stories of young girls driven to suicide by ****-shaming and a deeper exploration of what the word "****" means in our society. The team flew to Nova Scotia to interview the family of Rehtaeh Parsons, who took her life after photographs of her being allegedly sexually assaulted were passed around.

Lindin believes it's important for young people of all genders to understand just how damaging the label "****" can be -- and that no one is immune from sexual bullying.

"We know that at any point, anyone could just decide you're a ****," she said.

Learn more about the documentary here (http://www.seedandspark.com/studio/****-documentary-film).

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/25/un****-project-documentary-emily-lindin_n_6745616.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000046

http://www.un****project.com/

[Natalia]

This is a really good talk on this (and so sad).

Sexual Bullying/sl*t Shaming - Live Expert Panel Discussion for the UnSl*t Project

"Recorded online panel discussion at Creative Sexuality Education about sexual bullying and sl*t shaming from five leading sexuality experts. Learn more about the extent of this issue in our schools, communities, media, and culture--and explore the steps we can all take to work toward change right here in the United States and Canada.

This webcast panel discussion was held to help promote the (ultimately successful) Kickstarter campaign for "The UnSl*t Project." This documentary film will feature the stories of girls driven to suicide by sexual bullying, interviews with women who have experienced the effects of sl*t shaming in their own lives, and the opinions of media figures, sexologists, psychologists, and other experts.

Recorded on the online campus of Creative Sexuality Education, creativesexuality.org"

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[Snoweagle]

This movie has my support. In this male dominated world, the disparaging vitual leveled at women is demeaning and designed to be hurtful to the psyche of the feminine and it is long overdue that this type of culture be highlighted to enforce change.

As the Western culture spread around the world it constantly came across socieities where the women were held in high regard. Whilst men would still provide the central core of guidance of the community this was tempred by the feminine around the home, the family, the nest.

Furthermore, the inter relationships of couples have presented a plethora of problems and most prevelant is that of intimacy, whether encounters are successful or otherwise, self esteem can be both a herald of joy or the trumpet of disdain.

In a similar vain, and I do not want to distract from the very important message this movie portrays but the act of intimacy in loving relationships can also sour for a profound number of reasons which delightfully has been presented in a most enjoyable movie highlighting the despair and frustration couples might encounter during their relationships.

The movie "The Little Death (2014)" has the happiest ending I have ever come across in any movie I had ever seen. Profound statement, maybe:-)
The ending certainly hit the right spots for me, should you have the opportunity to watch, then enjoy, I do recommend it.

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The Little Death (2014) Director: Josh Lawson

[Flash]

That is a very over present topic and situation in most high schools, either treating girls/gays are s l u tss, or as a revulsive asexual object, but nothing that is human base most of the time. What i have seen is some girls losing self esteem almost entirely and picking up any boy to prove the Worth someting if they are the revulsive ones, or losing self esteem as well and picking up the king prick to show they are good if they are the positive s l u tts ones, and more, being completely destroyed if they are the public s l u t t s.

And i have not seen one school where this did not exist.

It is soooooo damaging, that even yeaaarrs later, one still have the fright of being misjudge or plainly judged in regards to her sex life.

As a grown up woman, I was still checking to make sure there is no misjudgment when I date, dressing just enough to be sexy, not too much not to look like a ****, just enough make up...... name it, because the "sl ut s" and "ok" and "sexy" judgments change from men to men, so you always hit wrong lol. And believe me, all those préjudices are still very much present even in fifty and sixty years old men. This is sooooo discouraging.

Few years ago, being a single mom, I had a friend who was a single mom too and we both decided to take our daughters to a vacation trip in Mexico (instead of going alone and not having anybody to share with, for our daughters as well as for us). I had a room with my daughter, my friend took a room with her daughter. Yet, would you believe that the hotel staff were reacting to us as if we were gay, giggling etc.!! Gosh, we could not flirt males, our reputation was already made. Older women, alone with girl friend, they are gay. Older woman without a man, she is a dominatrix gay. I have seen all of these.

The readily accessible hard core porno for 8 years old boys and above does not help either. It is the antithesis of love in love making.

[lucidity]

I don't think anyone still uses this 'sl*t' word anymore.
That was the previous generation... or maybe the one before that.
I guess this a memory lane issue for women over ... a certain age.

I think the porn-infested internet changed everything.

[Sierra]

Good thread Amethyst.


I don't think anyone still uses this 'sl*t' word anymore.
That was the previous generation... or maybe the one before that.
I guess this a memory lane issue for women over ... a certain age.

I think the porn-invested internet changed everything.

The internet is where the bullying is taking place. It is so public, so unremovable, I can see why young junior high and high school age girls take their own lives. We have HS football players gleefully posting their rapes of "****s" videos on the internet, and I really have to wonder, where is this sense of entitlement coming from?

Nothing will change until we learn to treat each other with respect. This includes family dynamics that are so dreadful, young girls run away, at the age of fourteen, to take up the ultimate **** shaming profession, prostitution, because it is all they CAN do at such a young age, to put food on their table.

I hear rumblings from the legal system, that the prevailing attitude towards prostitution is something it is time to change. These girls (and boys) are not criminals, they are victims for the most part. A better role for the justice system would be to emancipate the children, to give the support, and necessary education for independence, so shamefully lacking in their "homes". This would be more cost effective than what goes on now. Not to mention more humanitarian...

[Natalia]

Just seen this video where she talks about sexual healing (and removing blockages due to shame about sex, religious or otherwise).

I felt that it related to the subject in this thread


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=znTt2IjcLQc

[Cidersomerset]

Its in many cultures I posted this on another thread...

Its not all equality in Israel even among Jews....

'Modesty Signs': Women complain of violence in ultra-Orthodox areas

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Published on 1 Mar 2015


Violence, threats and segregation - that's the way some women say they're
treated in Jerusalem's ultra-orthodox neighborhoods. One female activist
who had had enough, decided to go to court to force a change. RT's Paula Slier met her.

[Natalia]

I just watched the video that you posted, Cidersomerset. I can understand why (some) of the women who live there and are effected by this are not happy about it. Women being attacked for what they wear is so wrong, and I hope that changes (change takes time, slowly slowly).

It reminds me of when I go to Cyprus (which is where my parents are from), it is very religious there (more than in the UK) and as women we cannot enter those sacred places where the Greek Orthodox monks are, we have to cover up to go in there. I am ok with this as it is just them having their own rules that harm no one and if anyone wants to enter into their space then they have to follow these rules. They can do their thing in their own space and I can do my own thing in my space...if it helps them to stick to their religious practices with more "purity of thought" then I can even feel like I am doing a good thing to cover up. Maybe it just helps to support them in their path.

I hope that (some) women don't take it too far with their striving for liberation to the point of being more disrespectful and/or destructive than is necessary or that will help to bring about positive change without too much chaos and too much need for reconciliation.

[Flash]

Just seen this video where she talks about sexual healing (and removing blockages due to shame about sex, religious or otherwise).

I felt that it related to the subject in this thread


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=znTt2IjcLQc

I saw another video of them where they tell how freeing oneself makes you rich, the proof being the vast estate they could acquire within 2 years.

He was being paid, previous to his marriage, to show women how to have a J spot orgasm - in my country, there is a name for this kind of work.... and now they are teaching it together. There is a name for that too.

He may be giving some services to some woman and some couples, but they are in it for the money. I wish they were stopping saying they are in it to serve humanity. If they believe themselves, they are quite in denial. They are in it for the money.

Anyhow, it has to do with consenting adults all around here, so no judgment, but no denial of the truth either.

[Natalia]

Ok, Flash, well I didn't know about their history and in a way they seemed to me to be not quite as sincere (about service to others) as a few other of the "Twin Flame guides" (it's not about the twin flames, for me, for years I have felt that mine is not here on Earth, but I feel that a lot of this stuff still comes up in romantic and/or soulmate relationships).

I did like that video, especially the lady sharing her experience, and they seem to be helping (some) people.

My fave "Twin Flame guides" are these ones, they seem and feel very genuine to me (and there is a down to Earth wisdom that not many of the other teachers seem to have quite so much)

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https://www.youtube.com/user/goldraytwinflames/videos

[Natalia]

I've just seen this powerful and touching talk on Facebook, and the personal story in it reminded me of this thread (though it's not just about sexual bullying but also about the effects of bullying in general).

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[Flash]

Lewinsky gave a very good speech really. She got nothing out of the lover she had, only wanted to suicide, and got tons of cyberbullying and is not talking about this and asking people to stop bullying on the internet.

Does she knows that her ex lover, who lost nothing out of his affair with her, is paying trolls to bully people talking against him, his party, his wife's politic? She surely knows, but cannot do much about that side of bullying.

[Natalia]

Lewinsky gave a very good speech really. She got nothing out of the lover she had, only wanted to suicide, and got tons of cyberbullying and is not talking about this and asking people to stop bullying on the internet.

Does she knows that her ex lover, who lost nothing out of his affair with her, is paying trolls to bully people talking against him, his party, his wife's politic? She surely knows, but cannot do much about that side of bullying.

Some people think that it is acceptable to blame and bully the woman and not the man - to me that is unacceptable (and same if it was the other way around), bullying people for mistakes is wrong...one can make a stand against sexual affairs without doing that and making a person's life hell.

As for what you say about Clinton and paying trolls, I did not know that...(it's not surprising that people can do that, when I think about it...)...

[Natalia]

Good for her, and for other women (and men) who do what they need to do for their own healing - that does not harm others (which can also help others with their healing). Not healing is more harmful, so go ahead and do what you need to do to heal, even if some people do not like, understand, or respect it.

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