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View Full Version : Cross posting a message from a redditor who is 24 and is terminal, quite inspirational.



Anchor
28th February 2015, 03:26
Soon I will be gone forever, but that's okay as long as someone reads this (http://np.reddit.com/r/GetMotivated/comments/2xc947/text_soon_i_will_be_gone_forever_but_thats_okay/)

I am only 24 years old, yet I have actually already chosen my last tie. It’s the one that I will wear on my funeral (http://i.imgur.com/Ln8Yyqf.jpg) a few months from now. It may not match my suit, but I think it’s perfect for the occasion.

The cancer diagnosis came too late to give me at least a tenuous hope for a long life, but I realized that the most important thing about death is to ensure that you leave this world a little better than it was before you existed with your contributions . The way I’ve lived my life so far, my existence or more precisely the loss of it, will not matter because I have lived without doing anything impactful.

Before, there were so many things that occupied my mind. When I learned how much time I had left, however, it became clear which things are really important. So, I am writing to you for a selfish reason. I want to give meaning to my life by sharing with you what I have realized:


Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy. It is obvious that you cannot succeed in something that you don’t like. Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.

It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions. Fear weakens and paralyzes you. If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you, but a shell of yourself. Listen to your inner voice and go with it. Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend.

Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you. Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life. Find a sport that makes you happy. Most of all, don’t procrastinate. Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.

Appreciate the people around you Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love. That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted.

It is difficult for me to fully express my feelings about the importance of these simple realizations, but I hope that you will listen to someone who has experienced how valuable time is.

I'm not upset because I understand that the last days of my life have become meaningful. I only regret that I will not be able to see a lot of cool stuff that should happen soon like the creation of AI, or Elon Musk’s next awesome project. I also hope that the war in Syria and Ukraine will end soon.

We care so much about the health and integrity of our body that until death, we don’t notice that the body is nothing more than a box - a parcel for delivering our personality, thoughts, beliefs and intentions to this world. If there is nothing in this box that can change the world, then it doesn’t matter if it disappears. I believe that we all have potential, but it also takes a lot of courage to realize it.

You can float through a life created by circumstances, missing day after day, hour after hour. Or, you can fight for what you believe in and write the great story of your life. I hope you will make the right choice.

Leave a mark in this world. Have a meaningful life, whatever definition it has for you. Go towards it. The place we are leaving is a beautiful playground, where everything is possible. Yet, we are not here forever. Our life is a short spark in this beautiful little planet that flies with incredible speed to the endless darkness of the unknown universe. So, enjoy your time here with passion. Make it interesting. Make it count!

Thank you!

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Then later on someone posted this


/u/mylasttie, Thank you for unselfishly sharing your thoughts and inspirational advice all while remaining in a positive mindset despite such unsettling circumstances. My heart goes out to you and your family. And for the record, your tie is absolutely perfect.

I wanted to share something with you and others here as well:

"You want a physicist to speak at your funeral." - by Aaron Freeman You may listen to him read aloud his essay at that link and here is a transcript:

AARON FREEMAN:

You want a physicist to speak at your funeral. You want the physicist to talk to your grieving family about the conservation of energy[3] , so they will understand that your energy has not died. You want the physicist to remind your sobbing mother about the first law of thermodynamics; that no energy gets created in the universe, and none is destroyed. You want your mother to know that all your energy, every vibration, every Btu of heat, every wave of every particle that was her beloved child remains with her in this world. You want the physicist to tell your weeping father that amid energies of the cosmos, you gave as good as you got.

And at one point you'd hope that the physicist would step down from the pulpit and walk to your brokenhearted spouse there in the pew and tell him that all the photons that ever bounced off your face, all the particles whose paths were interrupted by your smile, by the touch of your hair, hundreds of trillions of particles, have raced off like children, their ways forever changed by you. And as your widow rocks in the arms of a loving family, may the physicist let her know that all the photons that bounced from you were gathered in the particle detectors that are her eyes, that those photons created within her constellations of electromagnetically charged neurons whose energy will go on forever.

And the physicist will remind the congregation of how much of all our energy is given off as heat. There may be a few fanning themselves with their programs as he says it. And he will tell them that the warmth that flowed through you in life is still here, still part of all that we are, even as we who mourn continue the heat of our own lives.

And you'll want the physicist to explain to those who loved you that they need not have faith; indeed, they should not have faith. Let them know that they can measure, that scientists have measured precisely the conservation of energy and found it accurate, verifiable and consistent across space and time. You can hope your family will examine the evidence and satisfy themselves that the science is sound and that they'll be comforted to know your energy's still around. According to the law of the conservation of energy, not a bit of you is gone; you're just less orderly.

Amen.


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Final note from me. I am not advocating reddit! Though I use it a lot, it is often not suitable for children, nor is it safe for more a lot of the time. So please don't go to reddit without due care, that place seems like the best and the worst of the internet rolled into one. You have been warned.

Matt P
28th February 2015, 11:27
Without knowing what this young man is "dying" from, and wanting to still sound respectful, it sounds as if he has given up and is accepting what some doctors have told him about how long he will live. How many hundreds/thousands of times have we read of or personally experienced so-called doctors telling someone they have such and such amount of time to live only to see that person live much longer? Terminal cancers have and will continue to be cured, some in the most miraculous ways (thinking of you Anita Moorjani). I would tell this young man not to accept another person's opinion, no matter how authoritative. If you are ready to move on, that's fine if you want to make that choice. But if you don't want to or or not ready to leave, then make that choice, know you have the power to change and remove the dis-ease from your body and fight the good fight with love and light.

Matt

Anchor
28th February 2015, 22:57
Without knowing what this young man is "dying" from, and wanting to still sound respectful, it sounds as if he has given up and is accepting what some doctors have told him about how long he will live. How many hundreds/thousands of times have we read of or personally experienced so-called doctors telling someone they have such and such amount of time to live only to see that person live much longer? Terminal cancers have and will continue to be cured, some in the most miraculous ways (thinking of you Anita Moorjani). I would tell this young man not to accept another person's opinion, no matter how authoritative. If you are ready to move on, that's fine if you want to make that choice. But if you don't want to or or not ready to leave, then make that choice, know you have the power to change and remove the dis-ease from your body and fight the good fight with love and light.

Matt

Great points.

In my own contemplation I decided that he probably incarnated to go through the experience of knowing he was going to die at a young age, so even though cures are possible for all illnesses, it just isn't on his agenda for a reason.

BMJ
28th February 2015, 23:43
Soon I will be gone forever, but that's okay as long as someone reads this (http://np.reddit.com/r/GetMotivated/comments/2xc947/text_soon_i_will_be_gone_forever_but_thats_okay/)

I want to give meaning to my life by sharing with you what I have realized:

[LIST]
Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy. It is obvious that you cannot succeed in something that you don’t like. Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.

It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions. Fear weakens and paralyzes you. If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you, but a shell of yourself. Listen to your inner voice and go with it. Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend.

Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you. Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life. Find a sport that makes you happy. Most of all, don’t procrastinate. Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.

Appreciate the people around you Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love. That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted.[/I]

A very wise young man.

BlueMuffin
1st March 2015, 03:12
I'd reference him a book called "The Energy Cure" by William Bengston. I've never heard of someone who had such success with cancer and he documented it all in a very scientific manner, but had no idea what he was coming up against when he began to face opposition from all ends, including the University he was doing the studies at. As long as the person hadn't undergone Radiation treatment, he had success with many types of cancers, terminal or otherwise. A fascinating read.