Are You Shy?

[apokalypse]

i wonder how many of you being shy person in here? especially comes to pick up girls or male counter part? i don't know why when i'm next to girls who i want to pick up or talk to, fear kicked in or my mind went blank...i can preach about being shy and that but i only talk to talk. some people when you first meet you talked alot or able to talk to them easily while others seems quite opposite...it seems something to do with energy.

This same goes for guys or any type of person, if i'm connect with that person we talk for hours but others might not even one word...i have alot of family relative who i never talked to and they said i'm quite person while others i'm talkative.

Is confidence that you can teach or to be? it's easy to talk about it but i find it hard to do,the fear will kicked in especially blank mind when you next to that person...i only go with the people who i'm connected with or the energy that matches.

i know this girl who i like since high school...now and then i think of her have Deja vu and just found out how i can see her but i don't have that confidence. last year i meet one girl who work as a nurse at hospital and my mind got blank nothing to say or how to say...my family pushing me but i got blank mind. saw her few time as still the same. i'm not shy or anything and even talked to myself over like say hi talk to her but nothing on my mind.

it seems i'm only connected with certain energy or same soul group...

[Isserley]

I have a similar problem. I can only connect to people with whom i match energeticaly witch might not be such a problem when you think about it..
It just means that we are able to recognize "the right person for us" and it is less likely for us to end up with the wrong person?

[Michael Moewes]

Sorry to tell you straight forward. You're not shy. It's complete lack of self confidence. If this girls is interested to talk with you -
That's already a sign that she's interested and likes you. Your job now is not to mess it up. Ask her about herself and don't talk about yourself. listen what she say's and respond to what she may ask. put her in front of everything. put your mobile offline and focus only on her.
ANd that's it
live healthy and vegan

[Omni]

I am a very shy person when offline. I have always been a quiet observer when in public, never the center of attention...

[apokalypse]

I have a similar problem. I can only connect to people with whom i match energeticaly witch might not be such a problem when you think about it..
It just means that we are able to recognize "the right person for us" and it is less likely for us to end up with the wrong person?

yep...i'm with you on that and it really occur with me.

[ghostrider]

I am a very shy person when offline. I have always been a quiet observer when in public, never the center of attention...

same my bro , I don't like attention at all ... I'm very good at blending in ... one reason I chose my online screen name , a ghost riding through the web ...

[WhiteLove]

Is confidence that you can teach or to be? it's easy to talk about it but i find it hard to do,the fear will kicked in especially blank mind when you next to that person...i only go with the people who i'm connected with or the energy that matches.


In the Bible Paul said "I do what I don't want to do, but what I want to do, that I don't do". There is a lot of vital life energy present in dealing with this, because when you meet people you spontaneously feel different things and when those feelings are very good, then the most natural response would be to make contact as soon as possible. In the interaction between people - and this is totally mutual and very common today - people wish to make contact, but instead of making contact and showing that they want contact, that is precisely what they don't do. Sometimes I find myself in these situations and it's really a fight against the ego. When I discovered this "resistance", just like Paul said, I once decided to challenge myself and just act out precisely the way I naturally felt, without any thoughts in between. I don't lie when I say it literally felt like the heavens opened up and I was in the midst of an angelic battle. I will never forget that feeling, it was like stepping into heaven for a short while. At that point I truly discovered what love is. In a way it's kind of like an ego sacrifice out of unconditional love for someone else, and doing that to the greatest extent possible is truly a moment when you feel the true beauty and depth of life. Being that way in every step you take I think is very rare but is I think a very good way of "becoming alive in life". Being in the state that Paul describes is kind of like walking around in a fake zombie state. So in the context of "human awakening", I find this topic to be an incredibly important one.

[turiya]

For the most part 'shyness' / 'openness' comes by way of what has been experience during childhood. Just about all patterns are set up during this time period... patterns that determine who you are attracted to or repelled by. For example, it you had a very kind uncle that treated you well, then memories of this individual are stored. Later in life when you encounter people, if individuals remind you of this caring individual then you will be open to express yourself. It can be simply a certain facial feature - the shape of the nose, hair color, the eyes, ears, shape of the mouth, that will incite an attraction or repulsion reaction to social situations.

This attraction & repulsion mechanism can be triggered instantaneously upon the first encounter with an individual. One has to be quite aware to what one is being reactive to when one first meets someone. Its a mechanical mechanism, until one has witnessed oneself to see how this can occur.

If one has had an authoritarian upbringing, particularly with a overly disciplinarian father, then one can be instilled with the fear of being oneself - fear of expressing oneself. This has been known as the 'father being stuck in one's throat', which means one is afraid to express himself.

The problem can be resolved through self-observation, and reviewing one's childhood over time when one had encountered traumas at a young age. The more one reviews his younger life situations & continually faces & re-faces these traumas, the blockages will eventually dissolve over time.

When one has an overly strict maternal parent, this can cause the problem known as 'the mother getting stuck in one's navel', i.e. the source of the 'chord'. This can also develop into other health problems.

Clearing away the emotional garbage that in lodged within the body will bring on better physical, mental & social health.

[Wind]

Thanks turiya, what you said makes the perfect sense to me. Nearly all my life I've been a shy person who has had some traumas in fairly young age. As time has passed, I have slowly cleared away that emotional baggage more and more. Has it been easy? No, but I'm work in progress like many others.