WhiteLove
11th September 2015, 16:04
Here is a very simple technique of mine when I experience things that bother me.
Instead of getting stuck thinking about the pain of the event, I ask myself this question: "What's my plan?" Then I come up with a plan, just implement that and exlude/put everything else out of scope. This has several good things.
.It relaxes my brain from having to deal with the thinking patterns associated with the complications involved.
.What is causing the pain is counter attacked by not only a single reaction, but by a whole series of actions, so it is more powerful.
.Since it is up to me to use my creativity to come up with a plan, it becomes interesting - will the plan work or not.
.Since I use my creativity to deal with the issue, then I build unique resolution skills and solve things in my own way rather than letting anybody else dictate what I should do about having faced an issue I had to live rather than them, so I build trust/self esteem.
.When there are additional complications, then the scenario of having multiple plans deployed not yet fully executed can turn into interesting life experiences.
.Since I instantly focus on the plan rather than the issue and the pains of it, all issues whatever they are, get resolved, the existence of the plan and the execution of it is the resolution.
.Skipping the "can I resolve this" thinking pattern saves me time energy emotion and money. Therefore I also resolve more issues than I otherwise would have.
So less pain, more thinking, more actions, more follow up and more fun until the resolution has been deployed and the issue has been put to rest.
So my response to an issue - the output of the issue - is therefore not negative emotion, frustration, anxiety, negative thought patterns, negative painful conclusions, paralyzis and all of that stuff that makes life not fun to live, it is a triggered plan. And that makes a huge difference...
I like things that are so scalable that they scale to basically anything in life and this would take me from a life on the street to a home very quickly. Instead of getting paralyzed and treating that paralyzis with drugs, I do find this is a better modus operandi.
Instead of getting stuck thinking about the pain of the event, I ask myself this question: "What's my plan?" Then I come up with a plan, just implement that and exlude/put everything else out of scope. This has several good things.
.It relaxes my brain from having to deal with the thinking patterns associated with the complications involved.
.What is causing the pain is counter attacked by not only a single reaction, but by a whole series of actions, so it is more powerful.
.Since it is up to me to use my creativity to come up with a plan, it becomes interesting - will the plan work or not.
.Since I use my creativity to deal with the issue, then I build unique resolution skills and solve things in my own way rather than letting anybody else dictate what I should do about having faced an issue I had to live rather than them, so I build trust/self esteem.
.When there are additional complications, then the scenario of having multiple plans deployed not yet fully executed can turn into interesting life experiences.
.Since I instantly focus on the plan rather than the issue and the pains of it, all issues whatever they are, get resolved, the existence of the plan and the execution of it is the resolution.
.Skipping the "can I resolve this" thinking pattern saves me time energy emotion and money. Therefore I also resolve more issues than I otherwise would have.
So less pain, more thinking, more actions, more follow up and more fun until the resolution has been deployed and the issue has been put to rest.
So my response to an issue - the output of the issue - is therefore not negative emotion, frustration, anxiety, negative thought patterns, negative painful conclusions, paralyzis and all of that stuff that makes life not fun to live, it is a triggered plan. And that makes a huge difference...
I like things that are so scalable that they scale to basically anything in life and this would take me from a life on the street to a home very quickly. Instead of getting paralyzed and treating that paralyzis with drugs, I do find this is a better modus operandi.